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Ghostalmedia , to showerthoughts in Lemmy resembles the old reddit experience so well that they even emulate the old reddit server performance
@Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world avatar

The big user experience problem is everyone is getting funneled into Lemmy.world and Lemmy.ml, and they can’t scare fast enough.

But Lemmy is federated. So signup for a smaller instance. You’ll still be able to subscribe and post to communities on other instances.

xintrik ,

Unless it defederates like beehaw keeps doing.

Jane2187 ,
@Jane2187@lemmy.world avatar

What’s going on with beehaw? I’m a bit out of the loop.

HobbitFoot ,

Beehaw defederated from other instances as users were getting around bans by creating new accounts on those instances. The admins in question are talking about how to address this.

Dohnakun ,

Federating bans?

HobbitFoot ,

Lemmy isn’t really set up for that. Its current structure is such doesn’t allow for that, and developers are still trying to do more for new user verification.

This is something that larger websites spend a ton of money and developer time to fight, which is something Lemmy currently doesn’t have.

jarfil ,

Right now there is not even a notification to the original instance that an user has been banned on some other one’s community. That means people can follow the rules on their home instance, like by not participating, while freely breaking them on federated ones, without their home instance admins ever knowing… until some other instance’s admin either contacts them directly, or defederates the whole instance.

cucumberbob ,

Post by beehaw admins

Basically, due to the size and open registrations on some large instances, Beehaw admins decided to defederate because they didn’t have the manpower or systems in place to deal with the large volume of content.

pelespirit ,
@pelespirit@sh.itjust.works avatar

I think I read that they have 4 people running everything and 2 aren’t techy.

hyperhopper ,

They are overly sensitive special snowflakes that pipi their pampers if anybody that doesn’t have 100% the same opinions as them is allowed to use the internet

xintrik ,

Motives aside, the point is one account won’t always get you everywhere. Doing a little research before picking a home instance can’t hurt.

lunarshot ,
@lunarshot@lemmy.world avatar

Beehaw is a community that wants to create a specific type of experience for its users, it wants to create a safer space and has stricter rules.

I think it’s personally a non-issue that people get riled up about. They’ve temporarily defederated from lemmy.world because of the large spikes in new users and wanting to have the moderation tools necessary to handle that while keeping their community the way they want it.

There is a subset of new Lemmy users who think this experience needs to be Reddit 2.0, that it needs to be perfect and totally smooth for new users, or else it will fail?

Personally, I don’t agree. I don’t want Lemmy to be Reddit at all. In the last month, I’ve found that I didn’t realize just how bad my Reddit experience had become. I’m okay with the experience being a little rough around the edges here and adjusting together. It has become obvious based on how good my interactions were here. How solid and interesting the content was. I’m not fiending for my specific subreddits, I’m good to move on and find new areas to focus on the internet.

I have a separate account for Beehaw, all the iOS apps already have way way better functionality than the Reddit official app, I can seamlessly switch between accounts. It’s been absolutely amazing to see how much this site and experience has evolved in one month. I’m super excited for the future here.

LachlanUnchained ,

I like the rough around the edges. Little tricks and nuances I’ve picked up. Makes it fun.

GregorGizeh ,

One thing I don’t miss is the “culture”… I hope this shift into the fediverse frees comment sections of the endless same dumb low effort puns, and even worse puns in the replies. Or fucking award speeches in comment edits, the same shitty jokes that nobody likes but somehow still perpetuate…

I really look forward to something new

Mereo ,

I’m late to the conversation. Yeah, that’s what I hated about Reddit. I’ve been using it since 2009, and I noticed that it got progressively worse the moment they introduced karma.

Ghostalmedia ,
@Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world avatar

All in all, they have some of the biggest communities for gay folks, Trans folks, and other minority groups. Lots of trolls from large open instances were shit posting lots of hateful crap in those communities.

The Lemmy’s mod tools are still kind of janky and they couldn’t keep pace with the toxic trolling, so they made the call to defederate from instances like Lemmy.world temporarily, until some new mod tools get built.

All the admins from the defederated instances get it and they all appear to be on the same page.

That said, users got pissed because beehaw has one of the best tech communities. So now people on Lemmy.world don’t have their posts / comments show up in those communities.

Basically, they had two shitty options, and they went with protecting the vulnerable minority.

It’s temporary.

kobra ,

Ha, I applied to two smaller instances and have heard nothing but radio silence. The smaller instances are of no help if they don’t let anyone in.

Ghostalmedia ,
@Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world avatar

Fair point. Tye small one’s Re being hugged to death and aren’t letting any more people in, so people are gravitating towards the juggernauts, and the juggernauts are collapsing under their weight. 

Next couple weeks should be interesting

myxi ,
@myxi@feddit.nl avatar

try mine.

LemmyKnowsBest ,

Good for you. I’d been trying that for months with no success. Finally .world let me in last week.

OtakuAltair ,
@OtakuAltair@vlemmy.net avatar

Use and recommend lemm.ee, lemmy.one, and vlemmy.net to others

Seriously, stop recommending large servers when lemmy hasn’t been optimized for that yet. The point of decentralization is spreading out and still being connected; let’s not waste that advantage.

hemmes ,
@hemmes@vlemmy.net avatar

Where my VLemmy peeps at?!? 🙌

ThatSandwichGuy ,

Aussie.zone

bdonvr ,

I run thelemmy.club - people are always welcome here :)

NoRodent ,
@NoRodent@lemmy.world avatar

Ok, but what if the instance I choose just ends suddenly? Do I understand it correctly that on each one I have to create a new account and re-subscribe to all the communities etc,?

Coelacanth ,
@Coelacanth@lemmy.world avatar

That’s correct though account migration is planned for some point in the future, or at least noted as a desirable feature by the Devs. Maybe even linking accounts across instances?

Having to resubscribe to all your communities is annoying but I imagine third party apps could streamline that process when they get released/refined.

OtakuAltair ,
@OtakuAltair@vlemmy.net avatar

Aside from what Coelacanth said, those instances are no more likely to shut down than lemmy.world (I can’t recall a Lemmy instance that’s not for personal use ever shutting down); they’ve functioned just fine for years and have even been upgraded for the surge of users too

HuntressHimbo ,

Lemmy.fmhy.ml shutdown and hasnt come back yet. My understanding is that it won’t be back, but that was the instance I signed up for initially to spread the server load

Chickerino ,

well this just happened with vlemmy.net, i was affected by this and had to manually resubscribe to 50 communities and recreate one, because of this someone made a tool to download your data off of lemmy and upload it to another instance github.com/CMahaff/lasim

favrion ,
@favrion@lemmy.world avatar

But isn’t this the main website? Why can’t I use it?

OtakuAltair ,
@OtakuAltair@vlemmy.net avatar

There is no ‘main’ website. It’s all connected. People just started joining that because it’s big and overloaded it, and now it’s having federation and stability issues.

favrion ,
@favrion@lemmy.world avatar

I am new here so sorry for asking this, but am I expected to join the same communities on 75 different Lemmy clones?

WhiteHotaru ,

Federation means you can search for your community on your instance and it will fetch all the information if you want to subscribe. I am writing this comment with my account on feddit.de. I just switched to the „all“ feed, which shows all content from all servers feddit federated with. If I am looking up a new community to join like [email protected] feddit will copy the posts for mento be able to interact with them. My reactions will be synched back.

favrion ,
@favrion@lemmy.world avatar

I just created two communities: Sudoku, and Nonograms, in Lemmy World. Can you see them?

greenteadrinker ,

When I applied, I never got a notification that it got approved, but I could post and comment on that instance. So you might have been in a similar situation as me or the admins are still dealing with a large influx of people

kobra ,

Oh wow you’re totally right. I was just able to log into one that I had never heard from! Thank you, good call!

HootinNHollerin , (edited )
@HootinNHollerin@sh.itjust.works avatar

Sh.itjust.works just worked for me

Undearius ,
@Undearius@lemmy.ca avatar

When I first joined, I never got a confirmation that my account had been accepted. After a few minutes, I just typed the username and password I used during registration and I was able to log in.

Ullallulloo ,
@Ullallulloo@civilloquy.com avatar

My instance (civilloquy.com) has open sign-ups. ;)

tatterdemalion ,
@tatterdemalion@programming.dev avatar

I started on lemmy.ml but it was unusable for the past few days. Today I managed to get into programming.dev pretty quickly and it has been smooth sailing.

someguy3 ,

So signup for a smaller instance

Unless you want to create a community on that instance. You can only create communities in the instance you sign up.

ShittyKopper ,

…so create your community on that instance. Others will still be able to access it just like you’re accessing communities elsewhere.

Some instances disallow community creation. That’s the only part where this argument has any merit. Otherwise which instance a community is on doesn’t really matter.

someguy3 ,

Technically it doesn’t matter, but I expect communities will take off better in instances better suited to it. I doubt a gaming community on lemmy.ca will become the massive gaming community. I doubt c/Toronto will take off in a UK instance. Etc.

mykl ,
@mykl@lemmy.world avatar

That’s where join-lemmy really missed out. They should have introduced a set of rules like join-mastodon where instances must have at least two admins, a clear code of conduct, and clear rules as to how they manage closedown. That way users would be reasonably safe in picking an instance at random. But they didn’t so everyone should go to safe choices like lemmy.world.

Corkyskog ,

Everyone keeps saying to join the smaller instances, but the reason people aren’t is because they are harder to find and usually have application gates thrown up. Because you can’t apply through the app, and because I am on mobile, I don’t even know how many Instances I applied for and then forgot what the instance was even called by the time they may or may not have approved.

All of this needs to be laid out better from the get-go. Even simply listing a server strain metric or warning (even if it’s something admins set themselves) would be useful.

sadbehr ,
@sadbehr@lemmy.nz avatar

I was on world at first because I thought each instance was its own subreddit, so I went with the one with the most users! After a day and a half I somewhat understand instances now and have switched to a smaller one. Hopefully other reddit refugees will do it too.

Thanks for being so welcoming and patient with us. I’m really glad to be here.

kaba0 ,

The problem is that it uses WebSockets in a completely braindead way. There is absolutely zero reason to waste server resources on that for every single user. Of course it fails to scale…

ShittyKopper ,

Well you’re in luck because Lemmy 0.18 rips out all WebSocket code.

xigbar ,

What does it mean to say that Lemmy is federated?

Ghostalmedia ,
@Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world avatar

Basically there are many different Lemmy servers. lemmy.worldlemmy.mlshit.just.worksEtc etc

It doesn’t matter which one you sign up for. Most of them talk to one another. For example. Lemmy.ml people can subscribe to and read Lemmy.world communities.

Lemmy can also talk to other “fediverse” social media platforms like Kbin. You often see a lot of Kbin users in Lemmy comments.

danc4498 ,

The real magic is that you don’t even have to use Lemmy. You can use Kbin if you like that interface better.

matt , to nostupidquestions in So how long until the Fediverse is monetized?
@matt@lemmy.world avatar

The Fediverse as a whole cannot be monetised, censored, or taken over by hostile entities.

Individual instances can, but they are only part of the whole and not the whole thing, so instances of Elon Musk or Steve Huffman simply cannot happen on the same scale.

As a fun fact of the day, Wikipedia subsists entirely on charity, so it’s very possible to run things using this model if you provide enough value and transparency for people.

ricdeh ,
@ricdeh@lemmy.world avatar

Yep. I don’t get why it is so hard for people to understand that non-profits CAN sustain themselves from donations. There’s so much brainwashing and gaslighting by corporations going on that people start to question everything outside of the ultra-capitalist system, even the most basic and genuinely nice human interactions are doubted

matt ,
@matt@lemmy.world avatar

Yeah it’s weird, there’s plenty of examples of what people would consider “profitable” non-profits: For example Mozilla Thunderbird pulled US$6 million last year in donations alone, with the average donation being US$21, I think.

Mastodon, another non-profit, while not quite as lucrative, pulls in around £24,000 a month on Patreon donations alone, not counting any outside sponsors or Open Collective donations, and so on.

Build value, and people will happily support you.

Pyr_Pressure ,

However if reddit decided they want to plug the leak, if they offered $1 million to the admins of sh.it.just.works and lemmy.world and beehaw, if they accepted, reddit could then defederate the three largest instances from everywhere and Lemmy would basically have to start from the ground up again. A lot of users would probably not bother making an account elsewhere as they may feel it not worth it since it could happen again.

Toma ,

Lemmy wouldn’t have to start from the ground up. They would already have all the source code and instances, a potential userbase who was already convinced not to let these people control their social networks, who already have the frontend installed on their devices, is already used to the interface and features of the app. Even if Spez were to do this, other instances would be built and in the long run it would be a financial hole.

conditional_soup ,

Another possibility is that a big corporate will dedicate a dev team to make their own FOSS fork of the Lemmy codebase that, due to its rich feature set and support, becomes THE version of Lemmy to use. Kinda like Meta and React (though React was originally fully internal to Meta, you get the point). Of all the big companies to do this kind of thing, Meta would be the best, imo, given how they’ve been with their AI models and React, but I still don’t like the idea given what we’ve seen happen with Red Hat.

bigblarf ,

…except lemmy is GPLv3, so any fork has to be released with the entirety of it’s source code, which stops companies from doing shit like that.

renrenPDX ,

Brave of you thinking that I don’t have multiple Fediverse accounts. Buying those instances would be worthless, since users would just migrate to a different instance, even easier than moving from Reddit.

BleatingZombie , to science_memes in hahaha shit

This might just be a type of confirmation bias. The only PHDs from “then” that you know about are the ones worth recording in history books or have long-lasting impacts. Everyone else just gets forgotten

karmiclychee ,

Survivorship bias, I think

Kalkaline , to lemmyshitpost in Seal of Approval
@Kalkaline@leminal.space avatar

This was hilarious, but leave the wildlife alone, but especially seals. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seal_finger

Zozano ,
@Zozano@lemy.lol avatar

Or… You know… Contract Seal Finger and donate your amputated finger to science. Win/win

BackOnMyBS ,
@BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place avatar

Yeah, then we could maybe figure out what is the microbial cause of seal finger. But seriously, how do we not know what causes seal finger? Can’t they just culture it from a seal at an aquarium??

Promethiel ,
@Promethiel@lemmy.world avatar

In 1998, Baker, Ruoff, and Madoff that the organism is most likely a species of Mycoplasma called Mycoplasma phocacerebrale.[7] This Mycoplasma was isolated in an epidemic of seal disease occurring in the Baltic Sea.[8]

It’s not that we don’t know what causes it, and it can be cultured from seals and has been. It’s that in order to empirically and categorically say in any way that matters that the organism is definitely the cause of seal finger…

You would need to be culturing a person infected with the disease from whom treatment is being withheld. Either against their will or with their “consent” wouldn’t matter. As we know what the disease can lead to, the ethical course of treatment is clear: a bunch of culture ruining antibiotics injected into you. Right away, without delay.

Because asking or even taking advantage of someone declining treatment to assess and write the confirmation study that says “Mycoplasma phocacerebrale definite cause of seal finger” goes against a lot of ethical science limitations.

This is what makes the donating the affected limb of someone who never got care for science post-mortem also work as both a neat joke and ethical loophole. Researchers could accept that gift, ethically.

BackOnMyBS ,
@BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place avatar

Super interesting! Thanks for sharing 🙂

SilentObserver ,

Pffft. Ethics? What are those? Now quick! Help me strap this dude to that chair before he wakes up! Don’t mind the chainsaw.

Raiderkev ,

Holy fuck, I thought this was a joke comment. TIL seal finger is a thing.

Zozano ,
@Zozano@lemy.lol avatar

Seal finger is no joke. This poor guy has had it his whole life gettyimages-497775414_master-882849158

abfarid , to science_memes in Inconceivable Horror
@abfarid@startrek.website avatar

Their hat/house is literally trash though.

Imgonnatrythis ,

It is now! It was reuse, one of the best Rs in reduce, Reuse, Recycle!

thedirtyknapkin ,

damn… does this count? like generally we want to avoid plastic cups in the ocean, but would it be bad to take something like this from say, a hermit crab? if we take the cup where will it go? chances are it will just end up somewhere else it shouldn’t, but this time without being made use of by crabs. my knee jerk reaction was to say animals using plastics don’t count, but that’s clearly not true when we reuse garbage intentionally to create animal habitat like artificial reefs. can we really say that only humans have the capacity to reuse their own garbage effectively?

DrDominate ,
@DrDominate@lemmy.world avatar

Plastic cups are not good protection for animals that use shells. These divers dont forcefully take the cup shell either. They’ll happily give up their plastic cups for the new shells being offered as long as they like it. Then the plastic cup is thrown away.

There’s a difference from scientists trying to make artificial reefs (which even then like the tire reef fiasco turned out to be a terrible idea) and random trash being picked up and used by the local wildlife.

brbposting ,

Our trash is going to be an inferior product, I would imagine. Petroleum-based, breaks down into microplastic particles. Might not offer the same protection of the harder shell, either in hardness or camouflage from predators.

Obviously, this raises a new question. Is it a big deal to litter titanium shells? Properly anodized for camouflage, of course. :)

Crikeste ,

It’s thrifted be nice

Eheran , to lemmyshitpost in Night shift sucks

Management is supposed to be positive? Do I get that right?

Rakonat ,

As a night shifter, occasionally this is a perk. You can get simple questioned answered the same day, and if there is ever some kind of policy issue it can be brought to their attention relatively easily. To say nothing of an emergency situation where you need someone above shift supervisor, management may say call them in an emergency but they never answer their phone at 3am but god forbid you don’t pick up on the third ring at 2pm when you’ve been asleep since noon.

Eheran ,

Okay but that is a “their” problem? I always found nights to be quiet. If there is no emergency contact in place or can not be reached, that can be shitty, but at the end of the day not my problem.

Rakonat ,

Rule one of management is their problem is everyone below thems problem. Conflicting info/orders? You should know who is right. Bad info given? Why did you do something so dumb? Short staffed? Figure it out. Day side is short? Why arent you helping your team?

If you have any responsibilities on overnights save for run a machine to hit quotas there is always going to be some dumb mandate or oversight from management on the dayside that your team is going to take a hit for.

general_kitten ,

If you have a good one yes

dejected_warp_core ,

The kind of customer you interface with at 1AM is absolutely NOT going to take “we can’t solve this now; I’ll make sure a supervisor or manager contacts you during the day” as an answer. You typically get quite the earful for something 1st or 2nd shift never has to worry about. After this happens a few times, it more or less eradicates any perks of working this shift.

idiomaddict , to science_memes in Noise

Plants talk? As in rustle with movement or communicate through sound? Can plants hear? The world is amazing, I’ll be on Wikipedia for a few.

Hellstormy ,
@Hellstormy@lemmy.world avatar

There are high frequency sounds that they emit when they experience certain stimuli, for example when not having enough water or leaves being torn. As far as I know some other plants or insects might be evolutionarily tuned to recognize those sounds and react to them. So yes, in a way plants can talk.

HootinNHollerin ,
atzanteol , to linux in So I installed Arch Linux... Is this it?

Most distros are very similar - it’s mostly the same software just using a different package manager.

This is why “which distro should I use” is the most annoying question in this community.

lobut ,

It is definitely annoying but I think it’s understandable from people that are coming in from the outside.

ayaya ,
@ayaya@lemdro.id avatar

There is a pretty big difference in terms of usability between Arch and everything else because of the rolling release model and the AUR. Lots of things you would have to manually install from a git repo or track down a PPA for can be installed like a normal package.

atzanteol ,

So what you’re saying is that the package manager is very different?

My point stands - once things are installed your “Linux Experience” is pretty similar.

NOTE: I’ve used words like “most” and “similar” and “pretty”. Do not ignore these words. They have meaning.

folaht , (edited )

I would say it’s not very different, just one league above all the others that I’ve come across.

The three things that stand out in my opinion is how much their package manager can query packages, it’s rolling release and the number of packages they have in the AUR.

It makes Arch the most complete and up to date Linux distro,
with the exception of a user friendly forum,
that doesn’t look like the nazi soup kitchen from Seinfeld,
and an installer.

atzanteol ,

(BTW)

folaht , (edited )

I use Manjaro and little bit of Artix.
If I would recommend anything, it’s either EndeavourOS or Manjaro.
They’re Arch-based and friendlier.

I stopped using Arch because I got banned from their forum for changing my username.

Auli ,

What did you expect they are using the same programs.

atzanteol ,

Read the thread…

nickiam2 , to memes in Private Capital vs Central Planning

I live in a national park and the Govt just awarded a contract to a private company to build a fiber line to the villages for high speed internet, and the company building the thing will own the network while the govt is stuck paying the bill forever. So stupid imho. No private company should own a network that exists entirely on federal land, and everyone depends on .

boonhet ,

Wait, you live IN a national park?

God damn that sounds awesome. But yeah, the private fiber line sucks. Same happening in my country with most “last mile” connections belonging to exactly one private company. Whereas our neighbours to the south (Latvia) nationalized the entire network and everyone benefits from having competition (same company, Telia, has their prices like 80% lower there than here - claiming that Estonians don’t care about price)

uis ,

Whereas our neighbours to the south (Latvia) nationalized the entire network

Adding this to my wish list for Russia of the Future. Not Latvia, nationalization.

boonhet ,

I think Latvia is already on the wish list for Russia unfortunately, just not yours

mexicancartel ,

Its not stupid when its bribery

Kausta , to science_memes in Pandas

You havent seen anything until you need to put a 4.2gb gzipped csv into a pandas dataframe, which works without any issues I should note.

thisfro ,

I raise you thousands of gzipped files (total > 20GB) combined into one dataframe. Frankly, my work laptop did not like it all that much. But most basic operations still worked fine tho

QuizzaciousOtter ,

I really don’t think that’s a lot either. Nowadays we routinely process terabytes of data.

Kausta ,

Yeah, it was just a simple example. Although using just pandas (without something like dask) for loading terabytes of data at once into a single dataframe may not be the best idea, even with enough memory.

whotookkarl ,
@whotookkarl@lemmy.world avatar

It’s good to see the occult is still alive and well

magnetosphere , to asklemmy in people who deliver or install things to people 's houses. what kind of odd things have you seen?
@magnetosphere@fedia.io avatar

I used to do HVAC work. About twenty years ago, I had to fix something in an attic, and the only entrance to that attic was through a large, messy room that obviously belonged to a teenage boy. At first, it seemed normal. Eventually, though, I realized everything in that boy’s room was kinda outdated. The CDs and magazines lying around had all come out a few years before, for example.

After finishing the job, I asked my boss about it. He told me that the kid had died a few years before from autoerotic asphyxiation (he accidentally strangled himself to death while jerking off), and his mother had found his body. She insisted that his room remain just as it was. She maintained it as some kind of shrine, unmade bed, jeans on the floor and all.

I couldn’t even imagine the emotional toll that must have taken on the family. Every. Single. Day. She refused to let them heal and move on. I only met the mother briefly, before I knew the whole story. I never met the husband or sister. I’m glad. Even if I was bribed to go back in that house, you couldn’t pay me enough to go upstairs. That kid’s room was, without exaggeration, the creepiest thing I’ve ever seen.

tetris11 ,
@tetris11@lemmy.ml avatar

I’m not getting it. Creepy how?

magnetosphere ,
@magnetosphere@fedia.io avatar

Creepy in the sense that keeping the room intact was a monument to pain, and handling that pain in an incredibly unhealthy way. It’s just too sad.

If they just moved on and cleaned the room out, it would be fine. I’m not talking about ghosts or any crap like that.

tetris11 ,
@tetris11@lemmy.ml avatar

Ah okay, thanks for the extra context

magnetosphere ,
@magnetosphere@fedia.io avatar

Glad to help! It could be read as the setup for a cheesy horror story.

CanadaPlus ,

You know, I don’t really see the harm. How is this not just a scaled up version of keeping pictures?

Jimmycrackcrack ,

Scale is not unimportant

CanadaPlus ,

It’s not, but if a sudden change in acceptability happens do to a continuous change in scale, I feel very comfortable asking why.

NauticalNoodle ,

It’s an awkward situation for sure. I’m trying to imagine what could be done with the room if they cleaned it out. All I can think is that they could never convert it into a room that they would want to spend time in, and the only alternative seems to be storage which almost seems disrespectful to the memory.

CanadaPlus ,

Yeah. I mostly just thought this was a sweet memorial. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re in denial or anything, they just want to keep a piece of him there like most grieving people do.

RememberTheApollo_ ,

There’s a difference between some photos and keeping an entire grungy room as a shrine.

CanadaPlus ,

And besides scale, what is it?

RememberTheApollo_ ,

Don’t be stubborn. I think you can intellectually understand there’s a big difference between the two.

CanadaPlus ,

In this specific case, it actually seems fine to me. Like the other poster said, what are they supposed to do, turn their dead son’s room into a home theater? I’m sure that won’t put a damper on movie night. /s

As it is, it serves as a much more immersive version of a photograph. I don’t see the harm.

vardogor ,

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  • CanadaPlus ,

    Oh, well that’s fine then. Other posters were making it sound like it’s a more objective thing; using words like “unhealthy” and so on.

    Alice ,

    To me personally, it’s a difference in the function of a room versus photos. Photos were always intended to capture memories, whereas a room was meant to be used and lived in. The idea of keeping the room as it was, permanently, feels like stagnation to me. I worry once it stopped being a comforting space, I still couldn’t bring myself to do anything with it because it would reopen the wound, so I’d just ignore it and live around it, and the feeling of stagnation would grow heavier.

    But also everyone grieves differently, and I’ve never lost a child, so I can only guess how I’d grieve based on how I’ve grieved other relationships. It’s possible no one in that family feels the way I described. That’s just my best answer for why it sounds creepy to a bunch of us.

    CanadaPlus ,

    Thank you. I’ve never lost a child either, and I’m not a therapist. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard of this happening, though, so I was surprised at the reaction.

    POTOOOOOOOO OP ,

    Wow. That is really sad.

    magnetosphere , (edited )
    @magnetosphere@fedia.io avatar

    Yeah. So sad that I didn’t like writing about it, but HAD to get it right, ya know?

    The daughter’s room was way at the end of the hallway, so she had to walk past it every day. She was the younger of the two, but had become older than her brother was when he died. In fact, she was ready for college. I hope she got out of there and lived on campus.

    MajorHavoc , (edited ) to linux in Would being a Linux "power user" increase my chances of getting a job in IT/tech?

    Yes. Yes it does.

    Look for job listings that require command line Linux skill.

    The candidate pool who can get around on a Linux command prompt is growing, but it’s still pretty small. It gives you some advantage toward networking, Cybersecurity, systems administration, and cloud deployment.

    prototype_g2 , to asklemmy in My brother claims that Vanguard for League can do the same to gaming PCs that install it as CrowdStrike did to businesses who installed that, is this true? Does Vanguard have as much access/power?

    I’m far from an expert, but Vanguard is a kernel-level program. If a kernel-level program crashed, the whole system crashes. So yes, any kernel-level program could do the same thing CrowdStrike did, intentionally or not.

    Kernel-level programs can do whatever the hell they want.

    Mothra , to memes in nuts
    @Mothra@mander.xyz avatar

    I haven’t been keeping up with the news much, I know about Trump’s ear but… Is the top image for real, are people actually doing this in the US?

    Napain OP ,
    SlopppyEngineer ,

    It’s the stigmata of the anti-Christ

    CosmicTurtle0 ,

    You have to understand that these people are clinging to anything they can use to identify others who are in their in-group. MAGA hats, diapers, and now ear coverings.

    Cults do the same thing and for the same reason.

    orca ,
    @orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts avatar

    It’s the same virtue signaling they make fun of others for doing.

    Samsy ,

    There was a movie in 2008, “the Wave” (German: die Welle) about a teacher who wants to show his class how easily it is to start fascism by just let everyone wear white shirts for school.

    It’s the symbolic items from the same tier or color to identify a group, which makes it dangerous.

    bjoern_tantau , to showerthoughts in There is only one type of job: Doing something someone else doesn't want to do.
    @bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de avatar

    There’s also the job someone else is unable to do.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP , (edited )

    Ok, but I’m going to stretch some logic here. If they are unable to do it, wouldn’t that mean they are unwilling to learn or figure it out?

    bjoern_tantau ,
    @bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de avatar

    I am disabled. No amount of learning will enable me to cook my own meal. But I would sure like to do it.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    Still just messing around but would it actually be a job if someone else would do it for free?

    Rhynoplaz ,

    Just change your thought to can’t or won’t do, and you are good to go!

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    You make your own thought! =P

    Rhynoplaz ,

    I can’t. I’m not in the shower.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    What if you somehow relate the thought to showers.

    tjsauce ,

    Yes, paying someone makes it a job

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    Paying them because they don’t want to do it.

    lath ,

    Paying them because it’s time wasted they could otherwise use to feed themselves or pay their bills doing something else.

    Kedly ,

    How high are you?

    FireRetardant ,

    Let me just quit my day job and learn the electrical code to install that new breaker panel I need. Gotta brush up on the gas fitting code too cause my furnace needs work. Then ill drive myself to the hospital where i will be my own nurse and my own surgeon.

    The ability to learn is also linked with time, energy, and accessibility to resources.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    So… that’s the point. You don’t want to do all that…

    FireRetardant ,

    I would love to be able to become a master of all trades. I cant put food on my table consistently unless I stick to one.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    But you don’t really want to because that would be really hard.

    Lemming6969 ,

    There are so many things you want to do or know that you are incapable of knowing or doing because you are too stupid to learn it. No amount of trying will be enough. Your specific brain is incapable. Not everyone has the same abilities to do or learn, but may want to if they could.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP , (edited )

    Things, not jobs. Job’s are things people have and are capable of doing.

    You’re sitting over here telling me you don’t want to learn to be a plumber, a pipe fitter, a doctor or a lawyer. Then you’re saying you’re not capable. But it’s not just about you. Anyone can do the job, the job exists, just no one wants to do that specific task. UNLESS, they are paid for it.

    FireRetardant ,

    Not everyone is capable of doing every job. The tasks of a recptionist are far different than those of a roofer. Jobs like emergency services can be high stress positions, jobs like assembly work can be rather dull sometimes. Everyone and every job is different.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    You’re telling me a roofer could never learn to be a receptionist or receptionist could never learn to be a roofer.

    I’m telling you no one wants to work 40 hrs a week diving 200ft with an oxygen tank strapped to their back and a welding torch in their hand to make underwater repairs on an oil rig.

    Great, you want to weld. Great, you want scuba. You don’t want that fucking job, no one does.

    FireRetardant ,

    No, but someone with a fear of heights could become a receptionist while struggle to become a roofer

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    Ok, but why would they want to be a roofer then?

    Either way you’re not hearing me. Jobs are real things. No one wants to spend 40 hours a week climbing on roofs in the hot summer sun. They could want to know that stuff and they could want a baked in tan for all I care but they don’t want to exhaust their time and effort for nothing in return.

    someacnt_ ,

    What if it takes 100 years for you to train for the job? So if you tried and failed, does it count as “not wanting to do that”?

    thermal_shock ,

    wheelchair bound guy isn’t running power lines in your neighborhood. literally CANT.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    And all he dreams about is working 40 hours a week running powerlines.

    I’m realizing now there is something really wrong with everyone ITT. It’s like the only thing you imagine for yourself is having some sort of job.

    Don’t get me wrong. Work is good. Skills are good. Except no one should be fantasizing about back breaking labor until the day they die.

    thermal_shock ,

    well it doesn’t need to be back breaking I like networking and having an accomplished, finished task or job.

    but the title was literally “job”, and you set a challenge saying it’s for someone who doesn’t want to, of course you’re going to 1000 examples why you’re incorrect, it’s nothing personal.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    It’s not incorrect everyone is just playing semantics.

    You might like aspects of your job but explain to me why you wouldn’t do it for free.

    rockerface ,

    …so are you?

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    … that’s … why… I put it as a shower thought…

    tjsauce ,

    Because rent.

    thermal_shock ,

    I do it for free. I take old or unused but still good equipment, and help friends setup their home networks.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    That prob doesn’t qualify as a job.

    thermal_shock ,

    I’m saying I like what I do enough that I spend my free time helping those up their home network security.

    Clinicallydepressedpoochie OP ,

    Yeah, it’s dope. So why would you associate it with working? Working is inherently unpleasant.

    Daxter101 ,

    Just as a sanity check for you, I think you’re right about the people who choose to post on this thread.

    “Something someone can’t do”, is a subset of “job”, because a “job” literally is something you get money for, because other people don’t wanna do it for some reason.

    But the antiwork community is not here, and to be honest, your user of the word “type” in “only one type of job”, muddles the meaning of the sentence a bit.

    elephantium ,
    @elephantium@lemmy.world avatar

    Not everyone is capable of learning or figuring it out.

    Think about childhood dream jobs like rock star or astronaut.

    Rock star: You need musical talent and stage presence, enough to entertain lots of people with your music. Me, I can sing in the shower and play some simple tunes on an instrument, but I’d starve if I tried to make it as a simple busker.

    Astronaut: NASA requires a master’s degree in a STEM field, at least 1000 hours as a jet pilot, and that you pass a physical. Not everyone is capable of earning a master’s degree. Not everyone will be capable of learning to fly planes. And the physical – ever heard of a blind astronaut? Or how about conditions where your bones are brittle? Hop on the rocket - SNAP! Oops, broken legs. Etc.

    benni ,

    No, for all jobs there is only limited supply. If more people want the job than there are jobs available, some of the people who want the job must necessarily end up not getting the job.

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