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btaroli , to actuallyautistic
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Today. Was. Just. Too. Much.

Endless work meetings. Slack. Interruptions. HOA Committee Texts. School meetings. School district meetings. Music lesson.

At some point at about 3pm I just had enough. And when this happens I tend to leave chats. Cancel or ignore messages or meetings.

I have to for my sanity. I have learned that if I push on I truly burn out and am not useful for anyone.

Why does our society encourage this???

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Richard_Littler , to actuallyautistic
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If you've ever wondered what it's like being autistic with ADHD, it's a bit like this for me. (I always assumed everybody thought like this).


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hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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This could be the connection between Ehlers-Danlos and neurodivergence. (People with EDS, like me, are 7 times as likely to be autistic and 5 times as likely to have ADHD -- also like me.)

Cartilage-Like Structures Key to Brain Plasticity - Neuroscience News
https://neurosciencenews.com/brain-plasticity-memory-cs6-26042/








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KitMuse , to actuallyautistic
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I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.

I feel like we really need more research on all of this.

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Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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Reading… so good. Sciency, but historical too which is my thing. @actuallyautistic

edross , to actuallyadhd
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"Neurodiversity and the Myth of Normal" by Kyler Shumway, Daniel Wendler, The Great Courses on Audible. https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B0CVBK3QVB?source_code=ASSOR150021921000R

Really nice introduction to Neurodiversity. Shame it is locked into Amazon/Audible as it would be great to share

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btaroli , to actuallyautistic
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My current world order, where my morning and overnight schedule has largely shifted to accommodate a crazy early start to get kiddo ready for alternate school pickup, has resulted in my not being up as late at night as I used to be.

What I’ve realized is this seriously impacts my productivity. I’m way more productive at quiet times in mg day, and now my working time is constrained to when others are around. This sucks.

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servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Popular ADHD Medications Like Adderall May Increase Young Adults’ Risk of Heart Damage @actuallyautistic

https://scitechdaily.com/popular-adhd-medications-like-adderall-may-increase-young-adults-risk-of-heart-damage/

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mighty_orbot , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Does anybody else here find that when they’re in a new place—a store, someone’s house, wherever—that they have an urge to walk all throughout the place and see where everything is?

I never thought about it before, but today I wondered if it’s because I unconsciously want to see all the distractions and novelties so they don’t, you know, distract me from what I’m supposed to be doing the rest of the time that I’m there. Just a little self-management.

aaronesilvers , to actuallyautistic
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TFW alone time flexes and compresses between feeling like eternity until there's not enough of it. @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

ketmorco ,
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@aaronesilvers @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity has entered the chat... but can't remember why 🥲

Havoc_online , to actuallyadhd
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Is it something with the weather? Is it the pollen? I'm having a mare of a week for concentration. I can't focus on anything, flitting from one thing to another, forgetting things I should be doing. Coffee is not helping like it usually does. It doesn't help that I can't sit for a long time without stiffening up (still post op hip rep, but getting there). Also, the maddening tongue on tooth rubbing stim is back. Open to suggestions @actuallyadhd

Havoc_online OP ,
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Well, I do seem to have achieved something this week, albeit lots of little things that seem to have catered to my current mood!
https://mastodon.art/@cognissart/112383145056807105
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Richard_Littler , to actuallyadhd
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It has taken me two years to change my bio from "Neurodivergent, apparently" to just "Neurodivergent". Despite being open about my and , the 'apparently' must have been a subconscious way of distancing myself from the diagnosis somehow.


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olena , to actuallyautistic
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What some people don’t seem to be able to understand is that for the ones with executive disfunction number of steps matters a lot.

I just put away all my dried laundry aside of duvet cover.

Why? Because for all the other things it’s easy one-step task: grab all the knickers and shove them into the drawer, get the home clothes and put it into home clothes cube box(that cubed Ikea shelf is such a helper for people like me, I just have a cube for every thing).

But the linen shelf is at the top of the bathroom closet, and it’s almost full. So I need a stepladder to be able to put the duvet cover there(I can try to shove it there without, I kinda reach the shelf itself, but in its current state the cover is likely to fall from there, and probably with some other things, so that would upset me which I am not ready to deal with now).

But the stepladder is now occupied by my winter shoes which were drying there before I put them away for summer.
But to put them away I need to get two big boxes from under my bed, empty one by putting everything that is there into the other one, put all the shoes there, put the boxes back under the bad, ensure all the boxes there are arranged in a way that is allowing my cat to play in that labyrinth, and probably clean up after that as I suppose there’s going to be a few dust bunnies.

Gosh, I got tired by just typing all that.

Going through all those steps may bot take too much time(if I don’t get distracted by something, including the urge to sort everything perfectly), but the very thought of going through all those steps just discourages me so much that I can’t find energy to start. “It’s just one duvet cover!” - they say. “It’s a shitton of steps!” - I answer.

Well, the cover is drying in a way that obscures a view from my bed which irritates me enough to maybe develop enough anger to put it away in the weekend.





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f1337 , to actuallyautistic
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Where did I learn these things?

I did the residential trauma recovery program at Sierra Tucson:
https://www.sierratucson.com/programs/trauma-recovery/

No place is perfect. But I’ve yet to meet a higher concentration of truly caring & superbly talented folks. Staff and residents alike.

PS. For my peeps: They have therapists who are , , & . They made intake changes based on my feedback re: “the intake process for someone with sensory sensitivities”.

f1337 , to actuallyautistic
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Things I learned at “ camp”:

  • is a wound to the body, mind, & spirit.
  • Trauma, while caused by past events, actually lives in the body, in the present.
  • Healing from trauma does not require re-experiencing the event. We can heal from trauma that we don’t remember.
  • A multimodal approach to trauma recovery is ideal. Not every mode works for every person.
  • The behavioral model for mental health is fundamentally broken pseudoscience.

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f1337 OP ,
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@actuallyautistic

Where did I learn these things?

I did the residential trauma recovery program at Sierra Tucson:
https://www.sierratucson.com/programs/trauma-recovery/

No place is perfect. But I’ve yet to meet a higher concentration of truly caring & superbly talented folks. Staff and residents alike.

PS. For my peeps: They have therapists who are , , & . They made intake changes based on my feedback re: “the intake process for someone with sensory sensitivities”.

theaardvark , to actuallyadhd
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How does everyone know how, when and how much they're masking?
As a late-diagnosed , I struggle to differentiate between "me but masking" and "me but in a diff situation".
Now that I know I'm autistic, I even miss the person I used to be in some situations before I knew.
I used to call myself a "social chameleon" - I just changed automatically to suit the circumstances.
But who actually am I and what is just a mask?
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artemis , to actuallyadhd
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I'll be honest, sometimes I have a hard time telling how much actually similarity between and there is and how much of it is simply that we share similar traumas (people imputing motives to us, being unable to discern neurotypical social rules that you're supposed to just "know", being forced to adopt a "normal" persona, etc).

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artemis OP ,
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I mean, it's just hard in general for me to distinguish what is ADHD and what is trauma from being punished for having .

Ilovechai , to actuallyadhd
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So, I am trying to accept I cannot keep up w/ posting on multiple platforms. It's so
mntally annoying. 😑 Somedays I post here, other days on IG. I don't think I can really add Threads to it and FB only gets the things IG sends it. I'm going to go back to my reading 📚. I love all the beautiful shares here, but today's spoons are spent for social media.
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lifewithtrees , to actuallyadhd
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Learned a new word for a thing I do.

What do you think of it @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd ?

AGNOSTHESIA

n. the state of not knowing how you really feel about something, which forces you to sift through clues hidden in your own behavior, as if you were some other person — noticing a twist of acid in your voice, an obscene amount of effort you put into something trifling, or an inexplicable weight on your shoulders that makes it difficult to get out of bed.

BernieDoesIt , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I'm in the process of switching one of my meds to another one because my inattention was starting to get bad. I was really apprehensive because it's switching from one selective reuptake inhibitor to another, and withdrawal symptoms for that can be pretty intense. But within a few hours of the first dose I could pay attention to things again and my thoughts started to seem more related to each other. No withdrawal symptoms yet (knock on wood). I'm just so happy about it!

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