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servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Not sure that they are licensed anywhere, meaning you have no recourse if one does you harm @actuallyautistic

Utah Life Coaches Aren’t Licensed. Should They Be Regulated? — ProPublica

https://www.propublica.org/article/utah-therapists-life-coaches-regulation

chevalier26 , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Somehow got into an argument earlier about fractions with my parents, especially the fraction 15/16. I said that 7.5/8 is the same thing as 15/16, because they can be converted to each other by multiplying or dividing the numerator and denominator by 2.

My mom basically said, no, that's not right because it's not a "proper fraction" which doesn't make sense to me. The math checks out, and numerators can have decimal integers. Is there something I'm missing?

servelan ,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic It's the same, but it's not a 'proper' fraction in that we express fractions as most people know them in common parlance as whole number/whole number. If you talk about the ratio of one integer to another, it's also the same, but when I type in '7.5/8', what comes up via the google is 15/16. Your 7.5/8 is an expression of the ratio, 15/16 is the fractional equivalent.

servelan ,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic Math is more rules, I think, the only part of our language that does have rules, actually...

servelan ,
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@Uair @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic Every plural is a math word.

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Scientists Uncover Key Brain Development Differences in Boys and Girls @actuallyautistic

https://scitechdaily.com/scientists-uncover-key-brain-development-differences-in-autistic-boys-and-girls/

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic (blame it on Facebook; showed up in my feed while I was looking for lolcats) what do you think of this for managing anxiety? https://www.komusodesign.com

chevalier26 , to actuallyautistic
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What are your thoughts on self-diagnosis being belittled by many in the autistic community?

For clarity, I’m not asking to start a debate, just a genuine discussion. I currently don’t have the option to get a diagnosis, but feel fairly confident that the research I’ve done over the past year and a half has been legitimate and credible.

I don’t feel comfortable saying that I am definitively autistic, but I am ok with saying I’m “self-suspecting.” @actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic I don't think everybody needs a formal diagnosis to 'be' , but it can be empowering to know, like I know I have a legitimate reason to refuse jello, for example (sensory processing disorder; mostly textures and colors, but also volume/brightness).

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Americans with disabilities are at a breaking point. Are politicians listening? @actuallyautistic

https://thehill.com/opinion/finance/4684197-americans-with-disabilities-are-at-a-breaking-point-are-politicians-listening/

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Popular ADHD Medications Like Adderall May Increase Young Adults’ Risk of Heart Damage @actuallyautistic

https://scitechdaily.com/popular-adhd-medications-like-adderall-may-increase-young-adults-risk-of-heart-damage/

MikeFromLFE , to random
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We've been sent a huge questionnaire from our daughter's psychologist about her childhood and we are meeting with them in a few weeks time for an in depth interview.

There's some suggestion that she may be and this has played a major role in her troubles over recent years.

I'm suspending judgement because I don't know enough about the subject and Internet research on in adult females isn't particularly helpful. I'm leaving this one to the professionals

servelan ,
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@MikeFromLFE I am an adult female with - found out at age 60. Ask me anything.

Sci_Fi_FanGirl , to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic

Oh fuck. Throughout the last few weeks I had some time off and I used it to work on my blog, reflecting on a few things...

All this was good, but it also triggered painful memories and I started to vaguely recall some events in childhood. When they come up, I feel like crying, but I can't access all of the memory. Don't know if it's a trauma-response or if I'm overreacting.

Now I feel I have to address this stuff, but it's overwhelming and I'm afraid of dealing with it.

servelan ,
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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic Speaking from the perspective of someone with C-PTSD as well as plain ol' PTSD (on top of - such fun! /not)...sometimes you need to make a conscious choice to let the 'stuff' percolate to the surface in its own time so that you can process it incrementally and not all at once, because otherwise it can be re-traumatizing.

servelan ,
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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic Cannabis is legal in my state, so I'm good 😜

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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That 'repetitive behavior' is frequently an autistic person's attempt to self-calm, not something that needs to be medicated away...not sure I'm ok with this.

Groundbreaking Study Reveals Autism’s Genetic Triggers and Therapeutic Hope @actuallyautistic
https://scitechdaily.com/groundbreaking-study-reveals-autisms-genetic-triggers-and-therapeutic-hope/

servelan OP ,
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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic Yes, I did read that part. It's the philosophy behind it that is concerning.

ScruffyDux , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I just learned that stimulation of the body's proprioception systems in turn down regulates some aspects of the nervous system that are typically overactive for us.

I also learned proprioception stimulation is something Occupational Therapists prescribe for autistic clients.

Wondering if anyone can share any such exercises or methods an OT has prescribed for them?

Deep muscle & tissue stimulation is the general notion I've gathered so far.

servelan ,
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@ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic I think my background anxiety level (from having an 'overclocked' brain) 's normally higher than it would be for an NT person, so it sounds like the muscle/tissue stimulation would help with the 'armoring' that accompanies that. I know when I worked with a trainer, the stretching helped tremendously.

Maybe look up PTSD related stretching?

ScriptFanix , to actuallyautistic
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Check my girlfriend's gift for my birthday
@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@janisf @ScriptFanix @actuallyautistic I'm still gonna wear my 'I'm here to kick ass and chew bubblegum' shirt.

eonity , to actuallyautistic
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Am I the only one here who has an irrational fear of being seen as a shoplifter when out shopping? Or is it just me and a small minority of people?

Tagging my fellow @actuallyautistic crowd here, is it especially true for you folks?

servelan ,
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@eonity @actuallyautistic I can be pretty intense looking for craft supplies and once, a clerk followed me around the store because (being nearsighted) I picked up the occasional package to get a better look at the contents...and I know my mother's had at least one incident in a Rite-Aid because she didn't buy anything (and she could be autistic, but very mild affect, hard to diagnose).

br00t4c , to random
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Books are trash too: Remember to throw them away during spring cleaning

https://www.salon.com/2024/04/05/books-are-trash-too-remember-to-throw-them-away-during-spring-cleaning/

servelan ,
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@br00t4c Y'know, Marie Kondo had me enthralled until she started talking about getting rid of books... @actuallyautistic 😜

servelan ,
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@sordid @actuallyautistic @br00t4c Well, I suppose you could look at it that way. Me, I've got multiple anxiety issues: I'm , and I have , so when I encountered her book I was in need of 'establishing order in chaos'...I found that her philosophy had its merits.

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Scientists Identify Simple Test That Could Diagnose @actuallyautistic

https://scitechdaily.com/scientists-identify-simple-test-that-could-diagnose-autism/

ScruffyDux , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic What would an autism "club" look like to you? A place designed to be a haven for autistic people - safe, and with the option to possibly meet others like you?

Just thinking of what club culture means to many marginalised groups, and wondering what that would be if it were to be similarly meaningful for us.

Without overly restricting yourself to what's practically possible, what would you imagine this place to be?

servelan ,
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@ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic There are...other people? Hmmm... 🤔

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Raising a child with in Kenya: Facing stigma, finding glimmers of hope : Goats and Soda : NPR @actuallyautistic

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2024/02/26/1232791446/raising-a-child-with-autism-in-kenya-facing-stigma-finding-glimmers-of-hope

Jobob , to actuallyautistic
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Hey @actuallyautistic. I'm having a stressful time at work. It's currently unresolved and likely to be hanging over me for a bit. It's also mightily unfair, which means I'm low-level furious all the time.
Generally I'm good at the usual coping mechanisms - taking breaks, drinking and eating regularly, making time for hobbies and exercise, spending time with family. But this is hard and I'm finding none of that is making much of a dent.
Any suggestions? What helps you when you need to cope?

servelan ,
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@Jobob @actuallyautistic L-theanine is good for calming; it's the stuff in green tea w/0 trips to the can. I hear ashwagandha's good, too.

Weed's really good for anxiety, not so much stress (which it sounds like is causing you to be angry, not anxious). Booze doesn't work well for anxiety from my experience, and anger and booze isn't a good combo. Take one day (or hour) at a time; this, too, shall pass.

RavenLuni , to actuallyautistic
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Feeling pretty rattled after an interaction with a beggar but I guess even an NT would have trouble with this one:

  • walked by the first time

  • felt bad, so passed again and put what I had in my pocket in her cup (which happened to be £10)

  • saw her again later sheltering from the rain in a doorway and she called me over and thanked me which was fine but then she asked if I could give more and really started pleading.

Whats the moral here - are you not supposed to give people more than a certain amount?
@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@RavenLuni @actuallyautistic If that £10 was all you had to give, you have done what you can. If you had £100 in your pocket you were going to spend on something frivolous that you knew you really didn't need, you could give as much as you felt comfortable with. If you had no more you could spare, say so, gently.

fulanigirl , to blackmastodon
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@blackmastodon
Thanks all. I am still collecting responses and I will post a thread tomorrow (Wed)(EST) on the experiment. You can just look for the hashtag

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servelan ,
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@fulanigirl @blackmastodon Social change is happening faster than they can adjust.

fulanigirl , to blackmastodon
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@blackmastodon
Can you participate in a thought experiment with me? The posts warning about fascism are good, but I'm wondering what you think fascism actually looks like. Give a thought, and list what it looks like. Don't just say "the end of democracy." List what the concrete changes will be and make it local. "In my town/city/county/state the following will happen......" Think about it before replying. Not just for .

servelan ,
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@fulanigirl @blackmastodon I missed your original post on this so am tardy in my response. white chick here; I see fascism eroding the fabric of our society, tiny bit by tiny bit, like the man who started keeping track of creeping nazism by documenting where the swastika appeared, like on toothpaste. Every attempt to restrict speech, thought, and autonomy is a piece of fascism. Me with a disability seeing other groups attacked makes me worry about my rights... <cont'd.>

servelan ,
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@fulanigirl @blackmastodon I worry that my speech will be policed or restricted (not here, Facebook, e.g.) because I'm outspoken and opinionated (got booted from Xitter for agreeing with Pelosi, so precedent). I worry that my main source of income, my Social Security, will be attacked because 'socialism'. I know relatives who've bought into fascism, causing estrangement. I'm pissed and frustrated that there's little I can do to stop fascism...

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Theres an LaTimes think piece about how bosses are unhappy that the people they forced back into offices no longer have the office etiquette that they had pre-covid and are forcing employees to take “charm school” classes.

Cry harder, you fucking babies. You asked for this. Fuck your conversion therapy.

This comment hit the nail on the head:

servelan ,
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@twipped @actuallyautistic FYI

sebwhatever , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

What topics would you like to see future cover?

servelan ,
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@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic Not a fan of surveys, always wonder what ppl are doing with the results, wonder why somebody thinks they need to be done, and don't need the validation, so...how many ppl are excellent poker players; how many of us like chocolate ice cream vs. rocky road; how many of us are left-handed, how many collect things, and what things, and why; how many have pets and don't (and cats vs. dogs)...

EmilyMoranBarwick , to actuallyautistic
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To my fellow or otherwise folks…

I would appreciate any tips on how to use Mastodon without it causing overwhelm/getting lost in it.

🧠My blend of has a REAL hard time with this kind of platform (never got Twitter either), but I’m drawn to the community & connection here.

I’m like instantly a confounded 105-year-old when it comes to Mastodon/Twitter 🙃

Ps - I’ve seen @actuallyautistic but not clear how that even works

servelan ,
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@EmilyMoranBarwick @actuallyautistic Subscribe to hashtags for things you enjoy; I personally like and ...

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Are there any Autistics who do not have internalized about themselves? 🙋‍♂️

How do you overcome a lifetime of that?

@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic How does that manifest, typically? Not sure if I do or don't...

servelan ,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic Aha. Well, 20 years of abuse from the ex did all that, too, so I'd have a hard time sorting out which was which. And I was the oldest and my mother accepted me just as I am - I'm pretty sure autism runs in the family - so I might have less of that to begin with.

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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Half Of Workers Are Ready To Quit And Employers Should Be Worried—Here's Why | Essence @actuallyautistic

https://www.essence.com/news/money-career/neurodivergent-workers-lack-of-support/

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Good morning! I've been asked to write an article on what things I keep in my "sensory bag" that help me as an autistic therapist. What do you use? @actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@dramypsyd @actuallyautistic I'm new to being ; what's a sensory bag, and what is it for?

CultureDesk , to histodons
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The original Monopoly was created in 1935 by Charles B. Darrow, and based on real locations in Atlantic City, with prices mirroring the one-time values of real estate. Atlas Obscura's Adrienne Raphel looks at its cultural impact, whether it's a bad game, and the nadir of the Monopoly Cinematic Universe — 2019's Ms. Monopoly, which remarkably failed to upend the patriarchy.

https://flip.it/ILRVwI

@histodons

servelan ,
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@CultureDesk @histodons Incorrect (this just came across my feed in the last week or so). The earliest known version, known as The Landlord's Game, was designed by Elizabeth Magie

History of Monopoly - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_Monopoly

BigAngBlack , to blackmastodon
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Dec 29, 2023

Greens/Cabbage for Money
Cowpeas/Black-eyed Peas for luck
Cornbread for Gold
Pork/Fish for moving forward

You got traditions?


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servelan ,
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@BigAngBlack @blackmastodon @BlackMastodon Might have to get some new traditions...black-eyed peas are very tasty and I do have a good cornbread recipe

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Step right up folks but please bare in mind that she thinks food causes ADHD as well.

@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Yeah, I'm gonna run right out to Rite Aid and buy me something that "causes a fair number of side effects. Common side effects include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, headache, skin tingling, and weakness. Sore palms of the hands and soles of the feet, trouble seeing, fever, and abdominal pain may also occur. Severe side effects may include low blood pressure, decreased level of consciousness, kidney problems, and low blood cell levels." 😜

PurpleStephyr , to actuallyautistic
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Just had my results session for my ASD assessment, and I've officially been diagnosed with ASD now. I guess that's exciting? The psychologist kept asking if I needed time to process it, and stuff like that, and not really? Am I supposed to? I had kind of come to terms with it over the past couple months, so it wasn't really news to me. I guess more than anything it's affirming to hear it from a professional?

@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@PurpleStephyr @actuallyautistic Took me about 6 weeks at age 60 to process and integrate into my sense of self. YMMV.

janetlogan , to actuallyautistic
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December 12th is always an emotional day for me. It's my late wife Barbara's birthday, and the wells up and spills out.

Today was absolutely just such a day. And to top it off, my roommate went off on a rant about how my depth of feeling on that topic is wrong and unhealthy. Not her words. I cleaned it up.

I had a huge meltdown as a result. Now I'm exhausted, and in pain. I'm turning in for tonight. I hope.

@actuallyautistic @spoonies

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@janetlogan @actuallyautistic @spoonies 🫂 Sorry for your loss and a less-than-compassionate housemate.

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servelan ,
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@JustFrank @actuallyautistic This ^^^

housepanther , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Do other people with have difficulty this time of year? For me this is one of the loneliest times of the year. I struggle with my mental health during the holiday season.

servelan ,
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@housepanther @actuallyautistic I think there are numerous external societal pressures to be 'merry', which with a change in the amount of light you're getting (taking your vitamin D? it helps) combine to make it harder to be nominally cheerful. Poverty doesn't help, if that's your situation; neither does being alienated from family or not having much in the way of family to celebrate with. Common problem (me, too), and I don't think people are any less prone than allistic folks.

servelan ,
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@housepanther @actuallyautistic I'm alienated from my siblings because both are abusive. I do have my mom, my dog and my housemate, but I've been thinking that's not enough. Finding ways to connect at this time of year is hard.

servelan ,
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@housepanther @actuallyautistic As I am for you, House Panther. Nothing says we can't make our own celebration, though, and build community online. 🎁🎉🎶🕎🎄🧑‍🎄☃️❄️⛄

servelan , to actuallyautistic
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I craft. A lot. Who knew this might be a diagnostic tool? : )

Why Are Girls Diagnosed With Autism Later Than Boys? - Dame Magazine @actuallyautistic

https://www.damemagazine.com/2023/12/07/why-are-girls-diagnosed-with-autism-later-than-boys/

NeurodivergentBC , to actuallyautistic
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So does anyone else kinda not like ? Like, it’s a nice and easy way to begin a and it seems a lot of my friends also use it, the problem is instead of getting real people to do the voices they use text-to speech, which means you often do not get the correct . Like, often you get both a normal speed and a slow speed recordings of the pronunciation to pick from, and the two versions will often use completely different voices that not only have diffent quality, but also very different despite being the same words or sentences. It seems like the wrong way to learn a language. Also, what is up with the ? @actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@NeurodivergentBC @actuallyautistic I think they're real people, but it's snippets spliced together and sounds mechanical.

The owl is just the cutesy marketing thang.

StrassenKatze , to actuallyautistic
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I am feeling called out by the top half of this @actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@StrassenKatze @actuallyautistic Did you miss the bit about how that's misinterpreted, though? I wager the poster/meme creator was thinking of being judged by non-autistic ppl.

sahat , to actuallyautistic
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I once had a relationship with an AuDHD male. He had a certain trait. It's not very common, but I have heard from people that experience this.
It was scary and it ended the realtionship. He used to get into a form of meltdown where he would be uncontrollably agitated.. Rage, despair, IDK what to call it. It looked like anger. And then he would loose the memory about what had transpired. He did not recall what he had said or how he had behaved. It must be hard to live with this, cus I am sure, it wrecks relationships, period. Now I am curious, have any of you this trait, has anyone experienced this, either in my role or in his? I would be interested to hear more about this. I recently talked to him after many years of silence. It brought this all up. He didn't know about his neurodivergence at the time. And it scared the heck out of him to be hearing me describe, what took place, when he stopped having memory.
@actuallyautistic

servelan ,
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@aloopapu @n69n @spika @sahat @actuallyautistic I found out in my 60's and a lifetime of self-recrimination - gone. If I screw up now, I know it's usually an

servelan ,
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@nddev @littlescraps @spika @sahat @actuallyautistic I live for lists like that. Also, any article that starts with a number and then details the ways you can do something.

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