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artemis

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#horror and #ttrpg enthusiast.

I'm a bisexual anti-capitalist, and I strongly believe in (at bare minimum) punching Nazis. Reproductive rights and civil liberties for all! Trans rights are human rights. The Palestinian people have a right to self-determination, life, and freedom—just block me if you think otherwise.

#nobot #noindex and no goddamn scrapers.

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artemis , to actuallyadhd
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"People online are convincing themselves that they are autistic/ADHD. It's a fad."

Setting aside how I (ADHD) benefit from online communities, online autistic communities are the reason I can a) talk about & acknowledge my autistic partner's experiences freely without stigma or judgment and b) actually provide him with insight into those experiences based on the wealth of knowledge that autistic folks provide online.

Fuck anyone who has a problem with that.
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olena , to actuallyautistic
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“Don’t assume, ask” - is the approach I share. However, there are many people to whom asking seems like something rude and inappropriate. And those people would assume.
The thing is, I am one of those people that usually can’t be accurately assumed: if you’d think a person that does this and this would also do that, the one who likes this and this would hate that and so on - most probably, I’d not follow that pattern. For that very reason I’ve been called ‘eclectic’, or less politely - ‘messy’, ‘illogical’, and all sorts of weird - most of my life, and for that very reason some people are kinda afraid of me: they can’t predict because their assumptions aren’t correct.
In turn, for me it’s very frustrating/confusing to see that someone is offended by me asking directly instead of assuming because all I want is to avoid any misunderstanding and clarify things.
I feel like is quite an eclectic thing per se(due to some aspects looking from a certain point of view as opposite to those of ), so maybe that is the key to me being so, well, contradictory in eyes of other people.
I wonder, if that asking is just desire to have things clear and precise, or assuming/asking divide does not correspond to the NT/ND one

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artemis ,
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@olena @actuallyautistic
It's still hard making myself ask though because it does often turn out when I ask that I am (apparently) the only one who thought of alternative ways to do something or alternative meanings, so people are puzzled by my questions because they thought the thing they said could only mean one thing, but... That's why I ask.

artemis ,
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@olena @actuallyautistic
I'm not autistic just ADHD, but I've had to teach myself in recent years to have the courage to ask instead of wildly guessing what people mean/want.

Like you say, many people seem to find it rude to ask for clarification, but I've realized that it isn't worth worrying about the opinion of anyone who is going to get mad at someone for trying to understand and get something right.

artemis ,
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@olena @rebekka_m @actuallyautistic
This was me in college. A student would ask a question, and a professor would answer a similar question, but not the one the student was trying to ask and back and forth it would go.

dyani , to actuallyadhd
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How would you explain to someone who is neurotypical (a nice one who wants to understand) what body doubling is and why it's helpful and sometimes even necessary for overwhelming tasks?

I've had to describe this to my very lovely NT friend and my explanation sucked lol. Pls help.

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artemis ,
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@dyani @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
Body doubling often reduces the tediousness of something and provides additional stimulus to stave off mind-numbing boredom. I like to have conversations on the phone when I'm doing repetitive work or cleaning the house. The part of my brain that wants interesting activity gets to have a conversation, while the boring bits of me do the boring bit.

Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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Wondering whether some older undiagnosed autistics might’ve been mis-diagnosed with dementia due to poorer executive function as they age & cope less well with stress. @actuallyautistic

artemis ,
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@Tooden @Susan60 @actuallyautistic
They do kind of treat panic and anxiety as symptoms without a cause. They aren't treated as standalone issues (I don't think they usually are standalone, but...), because if they were, they would have to be taken seriously. But they also will just diagnose "anxiety" and call it a day without any effort to figure out a cause.

SaltiredPopcorn , to horror
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http://foritismansnumber.blogspot.com/2024/04/immaculate-2024.html

Yep, I finally got to the new @horror flick, Immaculate.

artemis ,
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@SaltiredPopcorn @horror
Ooh. I have been trying to decide whether I was interested in this. Sounds like it's worth a shot.

artemis , to actuallyadhd
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I'll be honest, sometimes I have a hard time telling how much actually similarity between and there is and how much of it is simply that we share similar traumas (people imputing motives to us, being unable to discern neurotypical social rules that you're supposed to just "know", being forced to adopt a "normal" persona, etc).

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artemis OP ,
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There are similarities, and it's not uncommon for someone to be both, but also...I think a large reason I've always found it easy to relate to autistic people (and a lot of autistic people seem to gravitate to me) is that it's great to connect with another person who doesn't decide for me what I mean, doesn't assume malice or carelessness when I didn't meet their expectations, and doesn't react with hostility or disdain to deviation from social norms.

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artemis OP ,
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@actuallyadhd
I mean, it's just hard in general for me to distinguish what is ADHD and what is trauma from being punished for having .

hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

  • Comfortable with ambiguity
  • Strong people skills
  • Good culture fit
  • Multitasking
  • A fast-paced dynamic environment
  • Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.


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artemis ,
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@caocancio @hosford42 @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence
"Comfortable with ambiguity" also seems to mean "willing to guess what you're supposed to be doing with incomplete information and just find out later on down the line whether your assumptions were correct rather than being annoying and asking for clarity about the task."

artemis ,
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@ScriptFanix @hosford42 @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence
I think a lot of people with other disabilities would say the same though: the world is exclusionary & puts barriers in people's way.

If you conceptualize disability in terms of the social model, it makes sense why something like autism or ADHD could be considered a disability. I consider my ADHD a disability—I'm not able to function in the world in the same way that neurotypicals do, which introduces lots of complication into my life.

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