Just caught myself realising this is true for me. Is this an ADHD type thing? Maybe a coping strategy? If you can call making yourself stressed “coping”!! 🤪
I have an online call shortly, and I’m annoyed with myself for not being more stressed about it to make sure I’m preparing and on time for it.
Now my uni work is done, a lot of background stress has dropped away, and these things are becoming clearer.
ADHD assessment later this month! But still not sure if I’d meet the criteria.
Ok so what are some signals and reasons for signals that’s your partner wants you to do something?
Perhaps it’s the way they hold their coffee or change thier tone or give you looks to let them know what you want or what they are trying to signal to your brain to essentials observe and understand what’s going to happen next
It can be anything I’m curious if any couples made any cognitive life hacks 😵💫😒
Is it something with the weather? Is it the pollen? I'm having a mare of a week for concentration. I can't focus on anything, flitting from one thing to another, forgetting things I should be doing. Coffee is not helping like it usually does. It doesn't help that I can't sit for a long time without stiffening up (still post op hip rep, but getting there). Also, the maddening tongue on tooth rubbing stim is back. Open to suggestions @actuallyadhd#ActuallyADHD#ADHD#neurodivergent
Getting any kind of ongoing practical support feels nigh impossible for those of us who have mostly low (but variable) support needs, yet are articulate enough to be able to say that
It’s hard to admit that openly 😔
Every so often I gather the spoons to be able to go and beg someone else for help, but it hasn’t worked yet
Hi friends! I have another article to write. The topic is ADHD-ers sharing our experience of what it is like existing as an ADHD-er. Need to send questions to about five folks about their stories.
For people that are not @actuallyadhd the common medication feels different that for those who are #actuallyADHD - non ADHDers feel like on Coke, very energetic and highly vibrant, similar to using Speed, while ADHDers tend to get calm and focused, able to concentrate at all.
Question [I haven't googled yet]: What is it with antidepressants - if people without a depression take those, do they feel LOTS happier than ever or something different?
I can recommend episode 18 " Autistic Unmasking: Redefining ldentity and Authentic Self-Discovery of the podcast "Divergent
Conversations". The topics are nicely developed and the insight is good. I liked the fact they said to do what we are comfortable with. The examples are speaking too. You can find it on mostly every platform even YouTube.
I haven't posted in awhile. I'm feeling so sad these days. My brother died, my last original family member. My parents died when I was in my 20s. I feel a strange aloneness.
I look at my life... what have I accomplished? And why does that matter?
I have no friends offline. I'm so disillusioned.
Empty. I want to find peace. I've not felt consistently a feeling of peace ever in my life.
No one would ever guess how hard it has been.
I haven't even understood how hard it has been for me.
Always struggling for emotional regulation, but outwardly seeming calm and in control (usually). Inwardly I'm always struggling. Always. What a paradox.
I'm tired of trying to understand why my life has gone as it has... why I was so misunderstood by mt family, why it has been such a struggle.
I'm weary of it all. I want to rest.
Why does this song speak for me so much? I want to sail "into the west"... off to a distant shore. I want to find some comfort somewhere... just some peace.
Into the West - from Lord of the Rings
Lay down
Your sweet and weary head
The night is falling
You have come to journey's end
Sleep now
And dream of the ones who came before
They are calling
From across the distant shore
Why do you weep?
What are these tears upon your face?
Soon you will see
All of your fears will pass away
Safe in my arms
You're only sleeping
What can you see
On the horizon?
Why do the white gulls call?
Across the sea
A pale moon rises
The ships have come to carry you home
And all will turn
To silver glass
A light on the water
All Souls pass
Hope fades
Into the world of night
Through shadows falling
Out of memory and time
Don't say
We have come now to the end
White shores are calling
You and I will meet again
And you'll be here in my arms
@actuallyadhd I've mentioned before my dissatisfaction with apps created for #ADHD, and I realised why today:
Most ADHD tools are trying to increase something or another - never trying to help you manage from the current position. If there were a tool that could help me take account of what I must do, what I want to do, and how much attention & energy I have available on a given day, that'd be perfect.
I want to start with #ADHDAcceptance - then, maybe, work up from a solid baseline
@neurodivergents Is it the same story with tools for other ND things? That they focus more on 'improving' than on working with what you've already got?
Sometimes I experience imposter syndrome, then I realise that most of my clothes are on my bed, and all the nicknacks from all my drawers on the floor, and I'm reorganising everything...
Because I need to hoover / vacuum.
Trust me, it makes sense... somehow 😅
It's odd how the imposter syndrome is almost always followed by something like this that's really illustrates it for me 🤣
Hey neurodivergent friends - we've got a lot of good places to discuss across fedi and I've been thinking that we don't always have a place the share with each other across groups for specific conditions. Maybe there is and I just haven't found it yet 😅
At any rate, I made a group for us: @neurodivergents
I like that they have basic moderation, which can help conversations. I'm not trying to impose my own will on anyone, and I envision it as a self-governing community group
I've posted my opinion about the new hashtags, in the following article. I've prevented commenting directly on that article, because unfortunately the ActivityPub plugin makes a mess of it, when you have replies to replies.
(Actually... I'm not sure whether the plugin will prevent people from commenting in the fediverse... oh well.)