It’s a safe space and the fediverse rapidly expanded tenfold. Beehaw has stated outright that they want to refederate with the big instances, but are delaying until mod tools improve enough to allow them to maintain their safe space for their gaggle of vulnerable folks in the wake of the severely increased workload.
Gotta love how spending time with like-minded people has now been framed as an “echo chamber.” I blame reddit, since that’s where I first encountered this nonsense.
I’m fine with my “echo chambers.” We are able to have really in-depth, adult discussions about things like LGBTQIA issues, mental health, and politics without having to constantly swat away a bunch of sea lions.
Yes, because everyone who joins beehaw has a doctorate or is a verified expert in their field lol. It ain’t that deed dude. The exclude people because they don’t want to be told their views are wrong regardless of the truth. That’s an echo chamber.
Nah, especially for stuff like LGBT issues, it’s likely the beehaw users are a lot more informed than the average lemmy user.
It’s actually impossible to have a normal conversation about LGBT issues or left of centre politics with people like you being obnoxious and shitting all over the chessboard.
Nope. That term is only used by sea lions and shitlords. It’s one of those terms like “virtue signaling” that immediately lets you know the person has less to offer society than a common housefly or roach.
I’ve been running into something adjacent, but doesn’t quite fit that description. Basically people use the tactics of Sealioning but the motivation seems to be just reframing the conversation to whatever they wanted to talk about, rather than necessarily pissing you off. It can be just as annoying though.
Yeah, that wouldn’t count because they’re just being a standard asshole who wants to control the conversation rather than trying to troll with bad faith questions.
Sealioning is an accusation that rests on assuming someone else’s intentions. You can’t ever know for sure if someone is a sealion, because people aren’t mind readers. I usually see sealioning accusations thrown by neurotypicals at autistic people, because they can’t read our emotions like they’re used to and that freaks them out and they assume hostile intent.
Yes, it could be mistaken for that if a person isn’t paying attention. But the difference between acting in good faith and not is usually pretty obvious as it goes on.
Well that’s a tremendous amount of faith in your ability to read other people’s minds. And given you make no distinction between reading the minds of neurotypicals and autistics, I’d bet good money that you’re frequently wrong when you try to read autistic minds. Which would make your actions towards autistic people frequently cruel.
Autistic mind here: Reading yours is giving me a headache. It’s like debugging a minecraft mod after patch day. Please reset aggression level to zero and run a malware scan.
Yeah, I’m neurodivergent in a lot of different ways, and every one of them reduces the efficacy of neurotypical empathy. That sensation you’re experiencing right now from talking to me is the same way neurotypical people feel when they talk to you. No wonder neurotypicals are so ableist to autistics, talking to us causes them pain. But it’s still not right for them to demand we think like them, and it’s still not right for you to demand I think like you. What we have to learn is how to coexist together.
And any coexistence we reach isn’t going to involve always assuming we can read minds effectively. It’s just an unrealistic standard.
Anyway, maybe it wouldn’t hurt so much if you weren’t trying to read my mind without consent. No means no, but you didn’t even ask. No wonder you’re in pain, you tried to delve inside my mind and I kicked you back out.
I argue with fascists, exclus, medicalists, and sexists all the time and I’ve never met a sealion. But I have met neurotypical people who expect their sense of cognitive empathy to work on neurodivergent people, and then project all sorts of BS onto them for having a different opinion. IME that term is a dogwhistle for ableism.
EDIT: Just looked up Beehaw’s guidelines and apparently it’s against the guidelines to accuse someone of sealioning so maybe Beehaw isn’t so bad
Well see, sealioning is feigning ignorance, and it’s a simple fact that bigots really are that ignorant. I’ve never met anyone who understood progressive issues and still disagreed, except for amoral people who chose to have little investment and wouldn’t bother to engage in sealioning. This idea you’re proposing that there are people who pretend to be ignorant doesn’t make any sense to me. If they are acting like foolish bigots, I choose to believe them.
That's nice and all, but "join our instance" and "we're defederated from the other two biggest instances" are in direct opposition to each other, doesn't matter what excuses you use.
I looked at the non Muslim Girl and real Muslim girl and it was a series of pictures featuring women with horses. These pictures were marked with a giant red x. The second half of that video was women in hijabs just staying still, marked with a green tick mark.
Is the message of that video supposed to be women shouldn’t be allowed ride horses?
Yes it is one of the many arbitrary things that that specific religion demonizes. Probably has its roots from way back in the day so that women couldnt effectively run away from the men and get very far. Same reason most Muslim women arent allowed to drive. To this day they still have to have permission to leave and go do things without a man. Edit: lol at the downvotes. Give it a google if you don’t believe me 🤷♂️
I haven’t watched the video. Just from the thumbnail I’m seeing a half-naked woman riding a horse. The message is Muslim women should be properly clothed and remain humble rather than seeking attention. If you’re wondering if this also applies to men, it does. “Give it a google if you don’t believe me 🤷♂️”
I gave a Google. It’s seen as a taboo thing in many Middle Eastern societies based on a verse from Muhammad which curses the private parts of women who touch saddles. Curiously, this line has been debunked and the Quran literally mentions nothing about women riding horses.
Wait, sorry, I’m trying to understand. It’s “based on a verse from Muhammad” but it’s not in the Quran? Where is the verse then? And why does not being in the Quran invalidate it if it’s by Muhammad?
Probably has its roots from way back in the day so that women couldnt effectively run away from the men and get very far.
Can't speak to Muslim culture, but European culture way back in the day didn't want women riding horses because of sex.
There are a lot of branches on that tree, but the biggest one is that since horseback was believed to be capable of rupturing the hymen (hymen science has progressed quite a bit since I last looked into it, so I don't know if that's actually a thing), it was the same thing as having sex for women. They believed that women got sexual pleasure from it (which, I guess, was a bad thing), that they'd start craving horses as lovers instead of humans, and all sorts of weird shit that only twisted, perpetually horny dudes would think of.
So the sidesaddle was invented. It allowed women to ride horses while, literally and figuratively, keeping their legs closed.
Unfortunately, riding sidesaddle is a massive pain in the ass, so that fad didn't last long. Maybe about fifty years or so of general popularity (because, obviously, you can still get a sidesaddle and learn to ride in it today, if you want, for whatever reason) over the course of all horse-domestication history.
Of course, like so many things from European history, this primarily applied to rich/noble people. The poor didn't have the luxury of giving a fuck about most of it.
I mark them as hate speech when I see them then block their poster. They are basically the mission version of “hegetsus” garbage. (Which I also mark as hate speech)
Yup. What YouTube doesn’t understand is that we’ve got ** other stuff to do.** I’ve got books to read, games to play, music to listen to. None of which requires YouTube.
I’ve found myself repatronizing half priced books lately. I’ve gone through five books since mid May.
I was a voracious reader before mobile devices existed.
I’d forgotten just how much more satisfying it is to let yourself go in a good story rather than bicker about minutiae with countless strangers all day every day.
(Sidenote: I’ve been looking up reviews for the books I’ve read and am surprised to find indignation at sexual scenes in novels. Like, if you’ve ever read a John Irving novel in your life, and you’re surprised and offended that the next one has sex in it, you should maybe reconsider your chosen career path)
surprised to find indignation at sexual scenes in novels
To quote Ryan Letourneau, “Gen Z is Puritanpilled.” Seriously, I’ve found post-millennial generations to be extremely prudish. I think part of it has to do with the fact that as the internet evolved and became mainstream (and more profitable by catering to general audiences), the edgy or adult content became more ghetoized and quarantined over time. Used to be you’d go to reddit and there’d be porn on the front page. There’s like a 0% change of finding something NSFW on the front page there now. As such, younger people who grew up with the modern incarnation of the internet have a very different perspective on sexual content than those of us who grew up with a more “wild west” style internet where porn was just something that lived alongside the more mundane content. The side-effect of this is also that content like the John Irving novels you’re talking about are treated as if they’re grotesque for presenting sex as just another part of people’s lives - something that you’re not supposed to be shy about or ashamed of. Which is, uh…concerning, for a number of reasons. Other theories are that the world in which we live has eroded platonic relationships among young people and that they want to only see platonic friendships among characters, as that’s the vicarious experience they most desire.
She is dedicated, resourceful, and persistent. We don’t know if she showed up at his place at 3am just to watch him sleep, so jury is out on the crazy.
I’ll take you back if you can get a minimum wage that is a living wage with yearly increases tied to inflation while also maintaining a sub 4% inflation year over year until the Sun swallows the Earth. If you can’t do that, you don’t deserve me because you will never make me happy.
yep! that’s how the trap works. a red flag is a red flag no matter how many other green flags there are. this one is clearly a boundary bulldozer. imagine everything the OP in the screenshot had to go thru to block Jessica. yet, she’s still finding a way to contact them. im having flashbacks from this. 😵💫
This business kind of sucks. If you make good quality products it will work too well so no one would ever recommend it so you get no exposure. If you make shitty quality ones all the ones that survive is going to bitch about it and lawsuits and blah blah blah.
Anyways if anyone has any ideas on how to turn this business around let me know.
If the plug was on a GFCI outlet, it would trip once neutral and hot are shorted.
If it wasn’t on a GFCI outlet, it would be an inefficient water heater. Current is inversely proportional to resistance, and the inch of tap water between both conductors has a significantly lower resistance than the human sitting at the other side of the tub. At American voltages of 110V, the worst thing that will probably happen is the wires heat up from the current passing through them. Now, if it only had the live wire exposed and you had a metal tub, that might be a different story…
You assume the neutral wire is present and connected to the neutral prong, as it is in typical appliances. If I were to make this ducky, I wouldn’t connect anything to the neutral or ground prongs in the plug. Indeed, I’d connect all three wires in the cord to the hot prong.
That is my first assumption, yeah. I did note at the end if they intentionally didn’t connect neutral and ground and it was a metal tub, that would work
But yeah, probably ok if the water isn’t too salty
If you’re going to be passing a current through your bath water, you would want the bath water to be as conductive as possible. You don’t want the salt water in your body to be the path of least resistance. You want the current to flow around you, not through you.
Just beat your meat to standard stuff or meet someone IRL, rather than developing some unhealthy attachment to someone on OF who’s exploiting your desperation.
I dunno, I guess if you just wanna pay for porn you like then it’s fine, but some people develop very unhealthy attachments/obsessions to supplement a real human connection.
It’s no different than subscribing to twitch/YouTube creators. The content is just different. There are plenty of people with unhealthy obsessions that aren’t related to porn.
You’re right, it’s the same as the lonely people being exploited by Twitch streamers or YT creators.
There’s a point it goes from “supporting a creator” to “throwing money at someone so they acknowledge your existence and you feel validated”.
Honestly part of the reason I stopped watching twitch, it’s just sad at a certain point as these people think they’re actually friends with the creator, rather than just enjoying the stream for what it is.
The whole donation/sub part of twitch culture is disgusting imo.
A better example would have been patreon. I’ve never given money to an online content producer of any kind (except my monthly donation to Wikipedia), but if there’s one thing the internet is good at, it’s crowdfunding. Gofundme, patreon, onlyfans, twitch, kickstarter… it’s all the same.
True, but I think the key difference is that one is an exchange of services, and the other is taking advantage of peoples desperation for a connection, whether that be a romantic connection or just friendship.
Satisfying physical urges with porn or supporting a twitch streamer you like is one thing, but these fake relationships between viewers and OF or twitch creators is wrong imo.
I think you’re really overthinking it. I’d say the vast majority of people paying simply came across something they wanted to see, and paying for it is faster and easier (and safer) than trying to search it out for free.
So what you’re saying is sex workers aren’t real workers and don’t deserve to be paid. If that becomes true and no one pays for porn, GUESS WHAT: no more porn. It has to be profitable for the people doing it. It’s not like art, the vast, vast majority aren’t doing it because they love it. They’re doing it for money.
Porn and OF are essentially two separate things though.
Sex workers do work and they should be paid for it, because it’s just work. OF creators often exploit desperate peoples’ emotions to take their money.
People watch porn to beat their meat and satisfy a physical urge, whereas a lot of people subscribe to OF for a fake connection that only worsens and warps their view of a healthy relationship.
If you wanna pay for Brazzers then go for it, if you’re simping for an OF creator who’s happy to just take your money then that’s sad.
Not to disagree with your main point - everyone deserves to be paid - but porn scales so well that we might already have enough free amateur production for everyone. It just doesn’t get to the top of SEO-optimized searches.
Nah, even if nobody paid for porn there would still be porn. In fact, there’s already enough porn already made out there that we have enough to last us for centuries. But even disregarding what’s already out there, people would still make porn for free because they want to show off and share their videos.
Could you imagine if porn stopped being produced in the ‘70’s and all we had to jerk off to was huge muffs (huge fan of muffs by the way (it’s mostly a texture thing))and blue eyeliner up to their eyebrows?
How is porn the same as being with a real live human being 🤨? Sure, I can understand (up to a point… I wouldn’t do it) paying for sex, but for porn 🤨… I mean, even if I did really liked something about this specific girl, nah, I wouldn’t pay. She’s basically selling something that hundreds of people will buy, not just me. And even if it was just me, that’s not an IRL experience. I MIGHT pay for a real world sexual experience (very unlikely though), but for a fake one? No way!
You can get a personal performance and it can be healthy. They ain’t mutually exclusive, especially around niches where content isn’t just reposted on every site.
I am definitely not like others, I have only paid like 3 times on OF and they were like $5 each. Sometimes you just really want to see what that person looks like. 99% of the time I don’t care and free is cool. Never got exploited, or had an unhealthy attachment.
Yeah, I was on Linux at the time, and I’m pretty sure the answer to how you’d go about flipping your display is “it depends how your graphical setup is set up. On KDE, you do XYZ in settings. In Gnome you do ABC in settings. In Cinnamon you do MNO in settings. If you’re using a more minimal WM on X11, you type xrandr *something something* in a terminal. If you’re using a Wayland compositor it depends which compositor. On Sway you’d do swaymsg *something something*.” Etc.
(Not that I couldn’t have done it for my specific setup without too much effort, but surely there’s a good portion of users out there who weren’t using phones or tablets and had setups where they didn’t know off the top of their heads how to rotate their screen in software.)
But instead of hours of football, a break for music and commercials, then more hours of football, it should be hours of Weird Al concert, a break to let some jocks throw a ball around for a few mins while he takes a break to grab a drink, pee, etc, and then return for a couple more hours of Weird Al concert.
Have the Weird Al Concert be in the middle while the football match is happening, have balls and players swarm around the podium while Weird al is singing some parody of a sports song.
I contend that you’re correct, except that he would put it on for the Puppy Bowl instead (and incorporating the usual kittens into the act, of course).
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