That guy isnāt a Dom. He is just a sexually aggressive partner.
Real Doms require consent and that guy did not consent to being spoken to like that. Once boundaries have been established then that kinda talk can be hot as fuck, but based purely on this video alone the interviewer could have been anyone.
Overtly aggressive talk like that right out of the gate is not sexy, itās just aggressive and can go very wrong if the person you are talking to is a sexual abuse victim (which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will).
So anyone who looks at this video and sees no issue with his behaviour, take a step back and look at yourself. You donāt know what other people have been through and itās incredibly important to make sure that people have a foundation of safety in any D/S communication, no matter how brief.
I can only hope that this wasnāt their first interaction and it was played up a bit for the camera. Otherwise this is simply unacceptable.
(which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will)
Itās what they know. If they were children when it happened, it shaped their view on sex for their entire life. There is no going back from that. You can surprese the feelings, but you really canāt experience sex in any other wayā¦ or, you can, but this happens very rarely (very few individuals). They even sometimes see love through that perspective.
Canāt blame themā¦ itās fucked up, but the best they can do is just move on and do whatever makes them happy, even if it is BDSM.
I agree there is definitely some element of that for many people. I am a Domme myself and a lot of that is liking the control in the bedroom. I would never dream of talking to someone like that as a first interaction, but I have said much worse without blinking an eye under the right circumstances.
The opposite is true as well. I have found many Subs that like to be submissive within strict boundaries. At the end of the day itās all about having control and that is defined on both sides, just in different ways.
Iām sure there are infinite more circumstances and thought processes as well.
Though I would like to highlight itās not everyone. People are all different and there are many members of the BDSM community that havenāt experienced sexual abuse or any other kind of abuse. Just normal people that like to get freaky.
I am a Domme myself and a lot of that is liking the control in the bedroom.
Yes, I do like control in the bedroom as well. I think I would be a domm if I was in D/S relationship, but itās too late for that now. I got a family, a kid, my wife is (mostly) mainstream regarding sex (toys, spanking, anal - very rarely though, but thatās about it).
But I do wonder from time to time what my life would have been like if I accepted a few indecent proposals Iāve had over the yearsā¦ broke up with my wife (we were still dating back then) and just went allong with that. I like having a family, no question there, but I would most definitely change my sex partner. One, not enough of it (sex), two, doesnāt really fulfill my desires, three, I have to masturbate a lot because I donāt get what I want in the bedroom.
But, things are what they are. I can only fanstaize now and speak about it with complete strangers, since this is not something that society thinks itās normal (at least not where I live).
I would never dream of talking to someone like that as a first interaction, but I have said much worse without blinking an eye under the right circumstances.
Of course, goes without saying. I am a very gentle lover of Iām with someone I donāt know, but once you figure out what that person likes or dislikes, yeah, things can get very heated with me as well.
But, yeah, to be honest, if the other person wants to just āmake loveā (like spread your legs, hump for 10 minutes and get it over with, or if she wants it gentle all the time) yeah, that is a downer for me).
Just normal people that like to get freaky.
Maybe Iām one of those, lol š. Havenāt really thought about classifying what kind of a kinky person I am š. I have a few, some are related to BDSM, some no.
I think itās incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.
Iām sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
Yes we should make being an on the ground reporter illegal they shouldnāt be allowed to ask people questions in public thatās crazy and he was forced to answer, he totally couldnāt just like ignore him and keep walking, what an invasion of privacy in public.
Iām sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
Itās not.
I think itās incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.
Asking a question about someoneās sexuality isnāt sexual harassment. Thatās a really weird thing to think.
Since you apparently stopped watching as soon as he asked āare you gay,ā the question he asked after that was āare you a top or a bottom?ā
If for some reason you think thatās a more appropriate question to ask a stranger with a camera in their face than ādo you use condoms?ā or āhave you ever tried BDSM?ā then that is also a self report.
I started writing an annoyed reply then realised that maybe you just have a radically different level of comfort than I do.
Iāll ask some of my friends who are not in the BDSM community for their opinion and I promise to have an honest re-evaluation of my thoughts on this, while taking your perspective to heart.
Please consider that the video does appear to be in a setting where people would be more likely to answer these questions happily. However I am basing that on a few assumptions, so maybe I am mistaken.
I would ask you to consider how your comments come across to others. Iām sure you are simply trying to establish reasonable boundaries for people of your comfort level, and I absolutely respect that, but your comments in response to me were very aggressive from the beginning.
And yes, I do see how my exact complaint with your comments may be related to your point about the video. I will take some time to give that consideration as well.
Iām sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
Your Comment was absolutely great until you had to make it about skin color.
I mean, yes? But also this is like that stupid iPhone setting that diverts your charging to off-peak hours or something. Itās such an incredibly small difference.
If itās worth doing at all, itās worth doing a little bit.
I believe youāre referring to iPhoneās clean energy charging feature. Hereās my question: if you can use clean energy, why wouldnāt you? It might make very little difference to the environment, but a little difference is still a difference.
Still, using ad-blockers is really not like that iPhone feature:
That feature relies on the grid itself, meaning itās useless for a lot of people that have basically no clean energy where they live, while ad-blockers can be useful to anyone using the internet.
It may be to the userās detriment, while ad-blockers improve user experience.
Itās device dependent, whereas ad-blockers are available to virtually everyone, not just iPhone users.
Ad-blockers can be combined with clean energy charging.
The impact ad-blockers can have on the environment is similar to iPhoneās clean energy charging in the same way a healthy diet is similar to eating a carrot. Yes, on the surface level they do just reduce your consumption of fossil fuel-generated energy, but ad-blockers reduce your energy consumption overall, not just trade it for green energy (that still requires tons of fossil fuels to be burned).
This is utter hogshit, but also seems relatively easy to work around. āI am legally forbidden from sharing my opinions on the quality of Marvel Rivals.ā is a pretty clear and succinct review that technically flies under their legal fuckery.
Considering most deaths in bed are probably somewhat drawn out and painful, ending it in a few seconds off a mountain isnāt awful - however, dying while young and for no other reason than climbing rocks isnāt the same as dying after a long life and all that.
Whatever. Itās what he wants to do, and as long as he doesnāt hurt anyone else itās fine. I donāt get the admiration, though.
Thatās between him and his family. While I agree with you and that it will cause damage to them, I meant it more in context of activities that cause harm to society in general. No different than any other legitimized extreme sport. Street racers taking out pedestrians, drunks drivers doing the same, etc. I realize the difference in legality, but nonetheless they are activities that cause external harm to society.
Children donāt decide for themselves. If youāre a father, you have responsibilities to your child. Risking your life in this way affects the child in a profound way, especially if you slip and die. Thatās not ok.
I recently saw a channel called ChatCat. This dude summarises these videos in like 15 seconds, it makes you wonder how this guy talks about said topic for this long
Itās actually impressive how much you can drag out a topic by saying āwoah thatās crazyā followed by uneducated waffling on a topic you donāt know shit about but have some feelings on how it should be. Joe rogan even made a living off it.
A billion years ago we figured out acquisition. Grab all the stuff.
A million years ago we figured out language.
Now we use language for acquisition. If we do that efficiently enough we can convert language to acquisition 100%. Which deletes all value from the language for us. But what a great business!
Because all of these YouTubers are just tryna feed the stupid fucking algorithm. All of these clickbait shitpost videos can be summarized in 10 fucking seconds. But they create clickbait headlines and drag the video out to generate more traffic for their channels. Youtube is fucking aids.
Have you ever tried to think that maybe there are people that enjoy watching long yap sessions? Clickbait def works but i doubt if penguinz gets unique viewers every single day.
I love their channel! Subbed at the first video. Iām more impressed when ChadCat shortens hours long videos int seconds of information. Itās impressive!
Looks interesting but woah those videos are a sensory overload. Could do without the music and vortex background and actually showing more than one thing on screen at a time. (is this what adhd people like? )
Around me I could hear concrete cracking. I started back to the car to get the dog, but was thrown before I could reach it. The car itself began to slide from side to side on the roadway. I decided the bridge was breaking up and my only hope was to get back to shore. On hands and knees most of the time, I crawled 500 yards [1,500 ft; 460 m] or more to the towers ā¦ My breath was coming in gasps; my knees were raw and bleeding, my hands bruised and swollen from gripping the concrete curb ā¦ Towards the last, I risked rising to my feet and running a few yards at a time ā¦ Safely back at the toll plaza, I saw the bridge in its final collapse and saw my car plunge into the Narrows.
-Leonard Coatsworth, the last person to drive on the bridge and the owner of the car featured in the video.
There was a dog in the car when the bridge collapsed.
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