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JeremyMallin

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Recently identified late Dx Autistic he/him. Artist, designer, engineer.

Avatar: Full color selfie photo of me, a 51 year-old white man in a blue and white striped button down dress shirt, wearing eyeglasses

Background: A 3D rendering of a rainbow colored arrangement of rows of Crayola crayons created by me in Lightwave with textures I created in Illustrator

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I was curious about an actor in a show I like, so I attempted to find out if she is autistic. When asked in interviews, she skirts the question, but she wrote a whole story about an autistic heroine where she plays the staring role herself. Despite trying not to jump to conclusions, I find myself making assumptions.

What do you all think? Is that bad? Should I try to resist doing that? Is that my brain trying to categorize everything in neat boxes?

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I'm sitting in the dark, with the window blinds closed, because I feel like I just need it that way right now for no discernable reason. This is probably what my therapist means by nervous system regulation and emotional regulation. 🤔

I really like sensory deprivation—sometimes even more than others.

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JeremyMallin OP ,
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@DziadekMick @actuallyautistic Nope. Not yet.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Does anyone ever consider learning sign language not because they can't speak, but just because sometimes they don't want to? Or don't feel up to it?
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JeremyMallin OP ,
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@UnCoveredMyths @actuallyautistic 💔

JeremyMallin , to random
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I kind of miss sometimes how in the old place, random celebrities would sometimes pop up in my mentions (even some of the ones I didn't know were celebrities and had to look up) 🤪

JeremyMallin OP ,
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I often have a very different idea of who is a celebrity than most people have.

Examples: that physicist whose books I've read, the managing editor of that scientific journal I've heard of, that one (more than one actually) stand-up comedian that no one has ever heard of, that obscure author whose books I love, et al.

I wonder if that's an autism thing?

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I finished season one of A Kind Of Spark. Thank you everyone for recommending it. It is excellent and extremely relatable.

Also. It's based on a book by Elle McNicoll if anyone is interested.

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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What do frequently cracking joints have to do with Autism and how do I make it stop? 😭

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I believe that autistic burnout is something that other people do to us rather than something we do to ourselves.

It's not simply that we mask too much or work too hard; society requires us to do those things. The choice is not ours.

Those are not the only things that cause burnout. Bigotry and abuse from others also causes burnout. Constant sensory Hell also causes burnout. Anything that keeps us out of equilibrium causes burnout.


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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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What are the most autistic-friendly places (cities, countries, etc.) in the world to live?

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JeremyMallin OP ,
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@Tyr @actuallyautistic Thanks for that. I'm surprised that England sounds like it was the best of the three. I've never been there though.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I originally thought the hashtag ActuallyAutistic was specifically that in part because many of us (as I do) overuse the word "actually".—I learned a long time ago its true origin and meaning though.

I was curious (and still am) what other words we tend to overuse. For me I've come up with these so far:

• actually
• indeed
• fascinating
• interesting

Are there any other common ones?
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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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How come noticing minute facial asymmetries in people is considered an autism thing? And if it is, what causes it? Do NTs really not notice these things?

For the record, I very often do recognize asymmetries others don't.

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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic
LOL. You just described me perfectly.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Do neurotypical people not have to mask at all? Are they just themselves? How does that work?

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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It seems that I'm better at dealing with major life or death emergencies that every day struggles. Why is that? Is that autistic thing?

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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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As someone who is actually autistic, should I use the ActuallyAutistic hashtag every time I talk about autism, or only sometimes, for more serious philosophical posts about autism? Or maybe only for my own personal experiences as someone who is autistic?

What do you do?

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@melindrea @actuallyautistic
I can relate to both of those cases. That sounds very much like what my gut instinct was too.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Re: CAT-Q—Is this bad?
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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I realized that the overwhelming majority of my sense humor is just taking things hyperliterally even before I realized I was autistic. 😆

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eonity , to actuallyautistic
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Am I the only one here who has an irrational fear of being seen as a shoplifter when out shopping? Or is it just me and a small minority of people?

Tagging my fellow @actuallyautistic crowd here, is it especially true for you folks?

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@eonity @actuallyautistic
I don't know if autism has something to do with it, but I do too. Maybe it's because we're used to being misunderstood and falsely accused?

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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In the movie, Crocodile Dundee, when he is surprised by 7 million people all wanting to live together, and everyone laughed, is it an autistic thing to completely understand his level of disbelief and think that it's funny but also not? 🙋‍♂️


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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I'm curious—how do we feel about any/all of the following labels? Are we ok with them? Offended by them? Have attitudes changed at all recently? I've noticed we don't all use the same vocabulary here.

• on the spectrum
• ASD
• has autism
• with autism
• is autistic
• Autistic
• Autist


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mraharrison , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Hi all adults over 40, who were late diagnosed like me to share experiences. What's the best thing you did once you knew?

JeremyMallin ,
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@mraharrison @actuallyautistic

• sought out other Autistics online
• found an autistic psychotherapist
• researched the heck out of autism

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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If you know, you know.

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@dyani @actuallyautistic
I never knew that. Thank you!

I always thought it had to be disassembled and physically disconnected. I never knew that program that in.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Where are all my fellow autistic Jews?

Were you too forced to have a Bar Mitzvah (or Bat Mitzvah) party and had to invite a bunch of kids you barely knew so that you could fill out a "friends" table?

And then you had to take turns dancing with half of them too even though you were socially awkward and physically clumsy as Hell?

🙋‍♂️


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@rolandelli @actuallyautistic
Ooh. I can't stand perfume. I never understood why anyone likes that.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Watching people on television wear winter clothes including turtle neck sweaters, parkas, and knit hats when it's warm here makes me almost as physically uncomfortable as if I were wearing those things myself.
😵😵‍💫😭




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Uair , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

64 bytes of RAM:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microvision

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@Uair @actuallyautistic
I had one of these as a kid. I loved it. I also recently recreated it in Blender.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I think there are autistic coded characters that fly under the radar because they're on shows with other characters that are more obviously autistic coded (or more stereotypically autistic coded).


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@Aerliss @actuallyautistic
🤔💯👍

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Apparently, rewatching television shows and movies a million times is an autism thing.

That's me. 🙋‍♂️

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@Uair @actuallyautistic
Yeah. Sort of.

Like Community after the graduation episode when the show switched platforms/networks and did this hokey things where instead of students, everyone was part of some weird committee. I try to pretend seasons 5 and 6 don't exist.

Or Scrubs after it switched networks.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Is it internalized ableism that I intentionally chose the selfie that I thought looked the most autisticy for my profile pic on this account?

Is it ableism that I even have any notion of what autism looks like?

🤔


@actuallyautistic


JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Does ambiguous wording really not bother neurotypical people??


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@Aerliss @fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistic
That can be exasperating when they do that.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@pthane @actuallyautistic
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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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It's amazing how many things I always thought were just a me thing were actually very common autistic things.

The discovery and subsequent realization made me feel a lot less weird 👍 but also a lot less special. 💔😢

I'm still sorting after more than a couple years.



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JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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I hate getting messy foods on my hands. Is that an everyone who is autistic thing or a just some people who are autistic thing?


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@actuallyautistic
Thanks everyone for all the great responses.
I'm seeing two general categories of discomfort related to getting mess on hands: the sensory issue itself and germophobia.

I'm greatly affected by both of these. I was originally mainly thinking about the sensory issues.

I especially hate getting anything oily or sticky on my hands because it is very uncomfortable and also because it doesn't wash off easily. I absolutely hate ointments.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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"Children who are autistic may toe walk when they're young…"

Um. I still do that. Children of ALL ages? 🤔😆

Also… why the heck doesn't everyone? It's better that way.


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"Um"—Nathan Fillion in Firefly, gesturing GIF

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@mepurfield @actuallyautistic
I'm my case, my wife seems to be the only one who ever noticed—certainly the only one who ever said anything about it.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@masukomi @actuallyautistic
So far, I've never had any problems, but I'll keep an eye on it.

kimlockhartga , to bookstodon
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@bookstodon Do you own any autographed books? If so, did you personally meet the author at a signing?

JeremyMallin ,
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@kimlockhartga @bookstodon I do, but they were gifted to me. I did not personally get them signed myself. In fact, in each case, they were actually regifts that were originally given to other people.

dyani , to actuallyautistic
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An interesting question for my @actuallyautistic neurokin.

What was your first special interest?

The very first one you can remember as a kid.

Mine is/was cats, starting at like age 3 I think. Absolutely enamored with them (and still am) and wanted to know everything about them (and still do). 😻

JeremyMallin ,
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@dyani @actuallyautistic
Difficult to remember for sure. Either or .

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Does it seem like 90% of all Internet memes are some serious neurotypical nonsense that makes absolutely no sense? 🤔 Does it only make sense to them or something? Does it EVEN make sense to them?

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