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dramypsyd

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Psychologist, writer, author, speaker. I’m licensed in a few states and living in South Dakota. Or 12 pigeons in a trench coat. I hope you like memes and cat pictures. #ActuallyAutistic, #ActuallyADHD. She/her
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dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Have any of my people ever done an EEG? I'm reading about how those can be used for diagnostic purposes and though I'm already diagnosed, I'm intrigued and kind of want to see what it says about my brain.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd OP ,
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@everythingalsocan @actuallyautistic Oh that sounds so un helpful I’m sorry!

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Dating while autistic problems 🤣

@actuallyautistic

olena , to actuallyautistic
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Just was ‘diagnosed’ with anxiety today after talking to a psychiatrist for five minutes (I’m using quotes because it seems a bit too preliminary to me to diagnose whoever with whatever after about 5 minutes of general talk).
Came asking for and evaluation. Was totally ignored on that regard) Of course, didn’t have courage to ask again.

Was it so obvious? Was I just a walking stereotype: middle-aged woman from a war-thorn country living alone who voluntarily came to a psychiatrist(doesn’t matter what else she has, she can’t NOT be anxious)?
Or is it just a general experience of most of female-passing folks: to be seen as anxious, to have most of their symptoms attributed to (not like I was asked about any symptoms, but maybe have demonstrated some?)?

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@olena @actuallyautistic ugh I’m sorry, it’s not ok to dismiss someone like that. Idk your location but way too many countries’ medical systems are so broken like this 💜

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Hello @actuallyautistic friends! Thank you everyone who contributed to my meltdown article. My next article is about autistic shutdowns: what they look like, how we manage them, and affirming ways our loved ones can support us. You can comment and please include how I should refer to you in the article. You can also drop them on my contact form (resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/) if you want to share but prefer not to post it on the internet connected to your account.

darrellpf , to actuallyautistic
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Is there a term in the autistic world for "outing" someone? In the gay world we have often very accurate "gaydar".

I was watching a mom and son on a television show. On one hand I want to talk about them and their interaction, but on the other hand I don't feel right about "diagnosing" them, particularly in a public way.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@darrellpf @felyashono @actuallyautistic Id say disclosing neurotype without consent isn’t ok. People may not feel safe sharing, or might not yet realize they’re autistic. I keep my speculation to fictional characters

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Hello @actuallyautistic friends! My next article is about managing autistic meltdowns: how autistic people can manage our meltdowns safely, and affirming ways our loved ones can support us.) If you're comfortable, please drop quotes here, and indicate how I should refer to you in the piece if I use your quote. You can also drop them on my contact form (resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/) if you want to share but prefer not to post it on the internet connected to your account.

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

I am collaborating with Autistic Collaboration, an org that works to center autistic voices in autistic research. They asked me to share these surveys about autistic people's perception of safety:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FeelingSafeGrowingUp
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/IntersectionalSafety

Boosts appreciated!

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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JRC is trying to be allowed to shock autistic kids again, please sign if you are able

(Edited because I forgot hashtags)
@actuallyautistic
https://autisticadvocacy.org/2024/03/take-action-to-stoptheshock/

dramypsyd OP ,
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@GreenRoc @actuallyautistic Absolutely take care of yourself! 💜

Dr_Obvious , to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
I think I read once that can also show in an aversion of accepting gifts or favors. Do you know any ressource on that?

It came to my mind that I often don't like being invited. Like recently a colleague wanted outof nothing to pay for my coffee. And instead of saying thanks I make it complicated.

dramypsyd ,
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@CatHat @Fizzfizzpopop @SnepperStepper @Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic I want to apply to the DSM committee so I can burn the ODD chapter

dramypsyd ,
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@Fizzfizzpopop @CatHat @SnepperStepper @Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic Some providers do use them interchangeably, those providers are wrong but it happens

ashleyspencer , to actuallyautistic
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One of my unfortunate autistic traits is that I'm so damn naive.

I instinctively trust everyone until they lie about something pointless.

It makes me so easy to manipulate and get screwed over. It doesn't occur to me that people will lie to me. I just take everyone literally.

I didn't know what a lie was until I was 10 years old, so I forget lying exists until it's too late.

sigh

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic I have this problem too 💜

olena , to actuallyautistic
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I hate working in openspaces with no option to go to a quiet place. Right now there are two phone calls and three conversations around me in a mix of four languages(I know all, and my brain choses randomly on which sounds to focus), and the task documentation I’m writing right now has to have very careful and precise wording, and I keep re-reading the same paragraph over and over again and don’t even get what I’m saying.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@squipo @olena @actuallyautistic I have some kind of like this except they loop my ear instead of around my head so no skull pressure! I can’t do noise cancelling because they hurt my ears and I love these

BenjaminFaliere , to random
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Does anybody have some content related to symptoms evolution after or reveal?
Not for a friend ;)

dramypsyd ,
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@axnxcamr @BenjaminFaliere @actuallyautistic Yes! Unmasking leads to more obvious traits for many

dramypsyd ,
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@BenjaminFaliere @axnxcamr @actuallyautistic Ugh I'm sorry. I unmasked to my husband and he's been awesome about it, but I know that is not everyone's experience. (We are confident he's not autistic or ADHD, as I made him do all the screeners, and he's been my Guinea pig in my training, but he's like the best NT I've ever known)

dramypsyd ,
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@BenjaminFaliere @axnxcamr @actuallyautistic God that's relatable!! We get punished so much for our autistic behaviors, unmasking is scary even when we really trust the person 💜

dramypsyd , to actuallyadhd
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Hi friends! I have another article to write. The topic is ADHD-ers sharing our experience of what it is like existing as an ADHD-er. Need to send questions to about five folks about their stories.

You can reply here or submit a contact form: https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/ and I'll send questions.

I would need responses by 2/15. Any takers?

@actuallyadhd

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Research priorities according to autistic adults on Scotland (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/epub/10.1177/13623613231222656):

  1. Our mental health
  2. More accurate diagnosing
  3. Better (or ANY!) support services
  4. Public knowledge and attitude towards autistic people
  5. Issues impacting autistic women

I wonder what a US survey would show? These seem like solid priorities to me! @actuallyautistic

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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I've been asked to create a training on mental health care for autistic adults in burnout.

If you're comfortable, I'd love to share quotes from adults and their experience with burnout, and what support actually helped you.

If you want to give a quote, please comment below or submit here: https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/

Please include how I should cite you in the presentation.

@actuallyautistic
💜

dramypsyd OP ,
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@Susan60 @actuallyautistic 💜💜💜

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Good morning! I've been asked to write an article on what things I keep in my "sensory bag" that help me as an autistic therapist. What do you use? @actuallyautistic

dramypsyd OP ,
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@flywheel @actuallyautistic No worries! It's basically the tools/items you carry with you to meet your sensory needs (is my understanding but if someone else has a different definition please correct me!)

dramypsyd OP ,
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@flywheel @actuallyautistic Yes exactly! So like I'll bring a fidget cube to my office to give my fingers something to do if I have to sit in a long meeting.

18+ KitMuse , to actuallyautistic
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Something I've love to dive deeper into is how many AFAB or genderqueer individuals have been dx'd with Borderline Personality Disorder rather than Autism due to their past trauma?

Yes, I know they overlap. I've done the research including getting out my "Abnormal Psych" textbook.

But I also have some personal theories and I'm curious to hear from other self dx'd autistics misdiagnosed by mental healthcare. TY

@actuallyautistic

18+ dramypsyd ,
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@KitMuse @actuallyautistic This happens so much! I was never dx’ed with a PD but as a psychologist who does autism evals I encounter a lot of this misdiagnosis

18+ dramypsyd ,
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@KitMuse @actuallyautistic I insist on continuing to have hope because otherwise the despair would burn me out but damn the let-downs are exhausting 💜

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Any books on autism by autistic authors with higher support needs? Or blogs? We tend to center lower support needs voices and I want to make a point of using my position to elevate those who don’t get heard as much as I do 💜

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd OP ,
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@mepurfield @actuallyautistic Yes thank you!

alexisbushnell , to actuallyautistic
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Looking for ideas for basically anything that will pay me (employed or freelance) that doesn't require me to deal with people, I can do from home and that I can do in my own time (i.e. don't need me to be working specific hours).

I'm getting deeper and deeper into burnout (and debt) just trying to survive.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic I don't know your sensory needs, but when in a similar situation I used to do transcribing for Rev. I didn't need to talk to anyone directly and could work when I felt like it. The pay was not fantastic, and it can be a bad fit for those with auditory processing issues. But maybe an option? 💜

dramypsyd ,
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@alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic Ah shoot! I hope you are able to find something that's a better fit.

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

ISO neurodiversity-affirming resources on autism based in New Zealand - can anyone help?

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

Time sensitive ask for an article! Need to submit Monday. Feel free to share here or through my contact form https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/

  1. Name/pronouns I should use for you?
  2. What’s your experience dating as an autistic person?
  3. If an allistic person is dating an autistic person, what should they know and how can they support their partner?

Thank you!

dramypsyd OP ,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic This is very helpful thank you!

dramypsyd OP ,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic Sorry just confirming, is it ok to refer to your wife as Helen in the piece?

dramypsyd OP ,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic That’s ok! I got enough responses for what I need. I appreciate it!

dramypsyd OP ,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic I love this 💜

PurpleStephyr , to actuallyautistic
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6 hour ASD assessment tomorrow (with a 1 hour break for lunch). Hoping it goes well, feeling kind of nervous.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@PurpleStephyr @beatrice @actuallyautistic That is intense!! Mine are shorter typically but I don’t do cognitive testing unless it’s requested which saves a lot of time. I hope it goes smoothly for you! 💜

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Autistic me:

Loves books but does not have the mental stamina to sit and read a book from start to finish for hours on end. So instead consumes short-form content online for hours and hours.

Yeah because this makes sense...

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd ,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Same reason I can't watch a movie but I can stream episodes of a television show for eight hours straight!

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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As I’ve learned to unmask and be my authentic self, some people like me less, but I like me more. I think it was a worthwhile trade off.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd OP ,
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@Julie @actuallyautistic I’m still figuring it out two years in

Dr_Obvious , to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
I had an appointment today with my psychologist and we talked about some of my points that lead me to the believe I might be autistic. She sees strong indications for that too, but is not qualified to diagnose it.

She gave me the hint though that the local autism ambulance is more on the gatekeeper side of diagnosis. Because of my kid I will have contact with them anyway, but I am already worried that they might neglect my diagnosis and trigger my imposter feelings.

Bummer...

dramypsyd ,
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@Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic My first evaluator said I’m not autistic because I’m employed and married - many who do these assessments are horrifyingly unqualified to speak about our community. Autistic brain has a need for certainty and accuracy, so it’s hard to be content with self identification even though it’s valid 💜

dramypsyd ,
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@Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic This is exactly the issue with the system!! We're slowly inching in a better direction but it's nowhere near fast enough for me

dramypsyd ,
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@Cassandra @Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic I love this idea!

26pglt , (edited ) to actuallyadhd
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What would a checklist assessment for autism look like if it was based on how autistic people experience ourselves? This research team did a study to find out.

Interesting reading for all my & pals. @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/full/10.1089/aut.2021.0099?utm_campaign=AUT+FP+October+17%2C+2023&utm_content=Article3-OA&utm_term=&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Adestra

dramypsyd ,
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@26pglt @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd omg!! I need this

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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Idea for my @actuallyautistic peers, what if we all got together and filed a class action lawsuit against the law firms who keep trying to sue Tylenol for "creating" us and forcing us upon the world. I think we have a valid claim for emotional distress.

dramypsyd OP ,
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@CatHat @daedalousilios @actuallyautistic Of course because in these people's minds, the worst thing that can happen is to have an autistic child.

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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As many of you here, and as all of you who have met or worked with me, know, I am an Israeli.

I’m also a life long peace activist for Israel-Palestine.

Unfortunately, MANY of you have taken the last few days to attack me, call me a murderer, lecture me about the world I grew up and lived in for 35+ years of my life, dare to speak down to me and over me, erase my history and lifelong dedication for Palestinian rights, and even wished me to die.

Others of you have taken the opportunity to call me an antisemite, a race traitor, a horrible person, a hypocrite, a terrorist, and erase my history and lifelong dedication to Jewish life and making Israel a better place to live.

Yet, VERY FEW of you have asked how I am. How is my family? How are my friends? How are YOU?

Well, no. I have my family & friends in deep crisis. Many have lost their own other family and friends, parents, siblings, kids and lovers - some by bullets, others by fire, others by kidnapping. A comrade of mine lost his parents. An other had their 16 year old son taken into Gaza. Too many people I know or am connected to have been murdered or taken. And I use the word murder, not killed, because sleeping civilians in their home or at a party are not military combattants. Babies aren’t targets.

I also have Palestinian friends who have lost families in Gaza from the bombs currently falling from IDF planes. My heart aches for them too as theirs does for me.

But many of you only care about death when one side fits your own narrative and unformed and ignorant beliefs.

So no, I’m not OK. I’m not OK at all.

Keep reading in the next post

@actuallyautistic @mazeldon

dramypsyd ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @mazeldon Idk anything I can say that would be at all helpful but you don’t deserve any of the hate you’re getting. 💜

dramypsyd , to actuallyautistic
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@vee @actuallyautistic No it’s about autistic masking now. It’s an autistic song. We have acquired it and the neurotypicals can’t have it back

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