Following diagnosis, you have a new vocabulary that you didn't have before, to explain feelings (etc) that you didn't recognise, or didn't know you had, before.
As a result, your outward behaviour can become more obviously autistic; perhaps it might seem "heightened".
I don't know of articles, though. Maybe someone else does?
It looks like for many people, understanding yourself better makes your traits more visible. But also sometime it makes you feel the world more violent with your difference.
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@dramypsyd this is exactly what I was talking about! It's quite hard on that exact point with my wife. She never knew me as I discovered myself since a few years. And that's why I don't stop masking, but I find it harder than before...
@BenjaminFaliere@axnxcamr@actuallyautistic Ugh I'm sorry. I unmasked to my husband and he's been awesome about it, but I know that is not everyone's experience. (We are confident he's not autistic or ADHD, as I made him do all the screeners, and he's been my Guinea pig in my training, but he's like the best NT I've ever known)
@BenjaminFaliere@axnxcamr@actuallyautistic God that's relatable!! We get punished so much for our autistic behaviors, unmasking is scary even when we really trust the person 💜
@dramypsyd to be honest, I think I don’t want to be a problem for her. And unmasking would mean become a problem… From my point of view. Even if she says the opposite.