Training lunch break & watching vids as a brain palate cleanser of sorts. I found this fascinating. Such parenting supports weren't available 20 yrs ago. It's wonderful to see #autism#parenting#pda communities offering validation, support & education. This video reminded me of a time I visited my sister when my niece was a baby. She couldn't stop playing w/a toy that was frustrating her, she cried every time she hit it but kept doing it. #cognitivepsychology https://youtu.be/1ozg_e2XHvI?si=c_CebRLvpPZMvjOr
@actuallyautistic
I think I read once that #PDA can also show in an aversion of accepting gifts or favors. Do you know any ressource on that?
It came to my mind that I often don't like being invited. Like recently a colleague wanted outof nothing to pay for my coffee. And instead of saying thanks I make it complicated.
My psycholgist mentioned Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) yesterday. They suggested I look it up and see if it resonated with me. After a quick search, I feel it may help understand some of my experiences but I'm not sure. Most resource I've found were written for parents and talked about what PDA looks like in children, from the perspective of the adults around them. The language used was very pathologizing and stigmatizing. To me, the collection of symptoms that characterize PDA seemed like possible trauma response for autistic people, and I dont know if it makes sense as a "sub-type" of autism.
I was wondering what are the thoughts of the actually autistic community about PDA. Does it make sense as a specific type of autism? What are the experiences of PDA like from the perspective of autistic people, including adults? Is the research that proposed and is produced around the concept of PDA any good? (as in actually wants to improve the live of autistic people as opposed to just classify and stigmatize all the ways we are "broken").
I also would appreciate recommendations for relevant resources (podcasts, articles, blog posts, books, etc) about PDA, in particular those produced by and for autistic people.
Etsy keeps bugging my with a $5 off coupon... I'm wondering does this ever work???
For me, it goes this way:
I'm currently shopping on Etsy. Yay! $5 off. I would have bough anyway, but I'll take the rebate. Since I would have bought anyway, this is a net loss for Etsy.
I'm not currently shopping on Etsy. Your $5 off does not make any difference. I'm not going to go there just to buy some gizmo I don't need. Not only that, but the time I spend searching there is an expense as far as I'm concerned.
So as far as I'm concerned, the $5 off is not an incentive towards anything.
Are there people in this world who are thinking that because they got $5 off, they must shop on Etsy? :catthinking:
I'm wondering how much of this is my #ActuallyAutistic mind at play.
@yourautisticlife@actuallyautistic I identify with the #PDA type of Autism, which I think is a big part of why advertising never works on me.
And, if I actually want to buy a thing, I've already impulsively researched the hell out of it, talked myself into needing it, and bought it before I ever saw the ad!
I've posted my opinion about the new hashtags, in the following article. I've prevented commenting directly on that article, because unfortunately the ActivityPub plugin makes a mess of it, when you have replies to replies.
(Actually... I'm not sure whether the plugin will prevent people from commenting in the fediverse... oh well.)
#introduction post? Hi, I'm Dan.
I don't generally do social media. And yet here I am. Trying out this Fedi thing,
excited to have a space where I can just be myself.
I'm recently self diagnosed #ActuallyAutistic, #PDA, #Aphantasia, #Anauralia & officially #ADHD (39yo, better late than never!)
It's been so enlightening to finally start learning and embracing who I really am.
Meeting other autistic people has been amazing and is helping me feel less alone.
#introduction post?
I'm Dan.
I don't generally do social media.
And yet here I am.
Trying out this Fedi thing,
excited to have a space where I can just be myself.