VoxofGod

sebwhatever , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic #askingautistics

I'm feeling a little low today. What are some things that you #actuallyautistic folx do to help yourselves out of a funk?

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic

I have a list of things I do in order to maintain myself in contentment

Sunlight, singing, artificially putting a spring in my step, lots of sleep

Those are a few things... I should do a list

As an opportunity that is slightly depressed, I have a bag of mitigations for less than content moods, because you can't sing if you're not happy

alexisbushnell , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

I feel like the current internalised ableism and trauma I'm working through is accepting I have higher support needs than I'd previously accepted.

My mother has always held both these attitudes towards me:

1. You'll never be independent, "you're a lifer."

2. Everyone else can do this stuff, you can do it you're just lazy/don't want to/selfish/etc,

Recognising and accepting my support needs is an ongoing challenge at the moment.

@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic I really have needed daily care my whole life.

But when the family has to keep up appearances, and certainly all the money my grandfather was sending to the family wasn't enough to keep my mom in clothes, My Care went by the wayside

Anytime I tried to take care of myself, I was gas-lit and or humiliated into behaving more normally

At the same time being told that I would never be normal or likable because I was so weird very catch 22

olena , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

I’ve heard today that #autistic people don’t form habits, they create routines.
I thought of my ‘useful habits’ - and yeah, right, they are routines.
But then I thought: well, what’s the difference then? What is a habit if NOT a routine?
Can anyone help me with examples of what may be a habit, but not a routine?

@actuallyautistic
#AuDHD
#neurodivergent

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@olena @actuallyautistic smoking

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@olena @actuallyautistic Well smoking can be a routine as well, but it certainly becomes a habit.

I might be wrong about this but I think addiction can form as a result of habit combined with some other things

I feel like addiction is habit to the extreme?

You can be addicted to crack as a child, But never having done it, because your mom did it while you were in the womb

So, I think we have some overlap in all directions here but I don't know

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@olena @actuallyautistic

Maybe habits and routines form as a result of addiction, or how to manage it?

ScruffyDux , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic A huge deal for me since diagnosis has been the progressive realisation that so many things I thought were psychological were actually physiological the entire time.

It's been one thing after another after another, to the point where I now understand psychology has always been a very minor component of the issues I deal with.

Anyone relate?

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic

I've had diverticulosis since I was a boy

Everyone just always rolling their eyes when I was around and avoiding me and saying I was so difficult behind my back

All my family

Certainly no friends

Even had to fight with the doctors who didn't want to give me the colo that confirmed

It has made me so violently against gaslighting and manipulation that it tends to run my life

vger , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

I think I'm done with watching real competitive team sports. I've always had problems with excitement when watching my favorite team play. I've watched yesterdays super bowl, my team being the 49ers. My heart was racing the whole game and it was impossible for me to control my temper in any way, I was stimming like crazy the whole time. Regardless of my team losing, I did not get anything positive out of that experience. I just felt miserable the whole game.

@actuallyautistic
#actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@vger @actuallyautistic I think that I can surf the wave of vibes and fun and camaraderie that happen in professional sports and that can be fun on occasion but it's pretty vacuous.

This level of competitive sports was developed by the British as of bread and circus

US turns it into a lifelong zombie making machine

But it can be fun to step into the demographic circle jerk on occasion

I've never found it real though

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@vger @actuallyautistic The thing is, in the same way that cis heterosexual men get so much and are given so much because that hyper focused passionate joy is infectious and very attractive, that crowd build up of emotion is thrilling and never leaves you.

I think that's what the Bible is referring to when they say mankind have no greater thing under the Sun than to eat drink and be merry.

To be able to live like that is great

The only thing greater is to multiply the people who are able to

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@vger @actuallyautistic and the autistic person's life is for the most part totally different than that there's a hyper focus and that's almost never popular, and problem with noises and crowds make it less fun, and on the flip side we feel left out because we're not too easily going to fit in that group

autism101 , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

It’s ridiculous that SSI in the U.S. isn’t enough to even cover basic housing anywhere.

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

https://www.disabilityscoop.com/2024/02/05/ssi-recipients-cant-afford-housing-anywhere-in-the-us/30731/

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@BeamsAndBows @autism101 @actuallyautistic @mybarkingdogs

It's a lot less secure, but in other ways it is more secure and yes I'm talking about putting it under your mattress 🙂
Finding a way to hide cash so that you don't get burned

Heard a rumor that they were talking about removing it but that would not make sense This is there to make it more difficult to be sick by the means testing Nazis in government

autism101 , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

Watching the same show over-and-over again is one way I regulate the autistic side of my brain. But the ADHD side sure gets bored sometimes.

Do you watch any shows on repeat?

#AskingAutistics #AskADHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

image: @NoNonsenseND

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@autism101 @actuallyautistic

Being a big fan of Teresa of Avila my evening white noise is to play Teresa de Jesus mini-series starring concha velasco on in the background while I sleep

I get to practice my Spanish a little bit get to learn about Teresa of Avila because it's a dense 8 hours

Another one is pride and prejudice

I've been watching the recruit as well, recently three times now, social dynamic shows help me understand social issues and reactions more effectively

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@autism101 @actuallyautistic

But being very noise sensitive in New York City next to a subway that comes out of ground in an apartment building, it's a challenge unless I mitigate all the time so I tend to have television on all the time

I'm getting better at this though

It's an excellent white noise especially if I know what TV I am watching

Whatever noise is happening outside my rooms can be ignored because a softer noise happens inside and my brain can latch on and ignore the rest

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@autism101 @actuallyautistic This technique has scared away five roommates each of them were worse than the last

ajsadauskas , 5 months ago (edited 5 months ago) to technology

My real worry with Google's voyage into enshittification (thanks to Cory Doctorow @pluralistic the term) is YouTube.

Through YT, for the past 15 years, the world has basically entrusted Google to be the custodian of pretty much our entire global video archive.

There's countless hours of archived footage — news reports, political speeches, historical events, documentaries, indie films, academic lectures, conference presentations, rare recordings, concert footage, obscure music — where the best or only copy is now held by Google through YouTube.

So what happens if maintaining that archival footage becomes unprofitable?

#tech #technology #Google #enshittification #youtube #video @technology #capitalism #film #television #cinema #art #arts #SocialMedia #business #economics

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@ajsadauskas @pluralistic @technology

Curious if you are aware of anyway of downloading one's content off YouTube for this all but inevitable moment?

autism101 , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do you ever find yourself oversharing with complete strangers in social settings?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

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VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@autism101 @actuallyautistic

Yup

All the time

I use it as a way of deciding who I will spend energy getting to know... Seeing the reaction

I also have an off button when need be