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nddev , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic

An explanation for your friends and loved ones of why #ActuallyAutistic people can't find things and what they can do to help us:

https://www.thearticulateautistic.com/why-your-autistic-loved-one-cant-find-objects-right-in-front-of-them/

@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Aerliss @nddev @actuallyautistic

This isn't The same thing by a long shot but it's similar

In my sixth grade class we all took a portion of the number 6 as a puzzle piece ~ Yes, ironic ~ and then put it all together on our door.

When they got to my number - was 20- I was in another world for a long time

They kept on asking who 20 was and I kept on thinking who is 20? Would they please answer why don't we get this going?

Then I realized I was 20

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Aerliss @nddev @actuallyautistic

Whoever is number 20 is an absolute loser why won't they give Mrs Mac their piece!?

Someone like that, I tell you.

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Aerliss @nddev @actuallyautistic

I know that I tune out and I'm aware of everything around me but I'm very disassociated quite often it's having been born in a family with an image to maintain with early onset diverticulosis making me learn all of the facets on a memorable show, Just sadly the ones that are remembered because you're the butt of the joke

I flip that around these days

But two roommates have said that I check out and then come back and don't remember

ImmedicableME , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic

Does anyone else find that vagus nerve stimulation activities/exercises (chanting, humming, meditation, soothing music, cold water, etc.) is counterproductive and can dysregulate your nervous system? @actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@ImmedicableME @actuallyautistic

When theres something else going on sure, but especially for me my Vagus nerve exercise But I mostly use is focusing on a long off point and then a close point back and forth back and forth

JeremyMallin , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic

Apparently, rewatching television shows and movies a million times is an autism thing.

That's me. 🙋‍♂️
#ActuallyAutistic
@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Frances_Larina @JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic

I had a notebook that is gone at this point sadly with all of the verbatim speeches in 'the pallisers'

#Trollope knew a thing or two about a turn of phrase

Glencora has the gift of laughter which is belittled by simple minds and loved by the gods

Or something like that It's always so much more succinct than I remember which is why I have to write them down to get them really right

But I study old text as a facet of my awesome job

elonjet , 4 months ago to random

Landed near Teterboro, New Jersey, United States. Apx. flt. time 6 h 21 min.

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@elonjet go home!

GTFO of my town, u pos

elmyra , 4 months ago to random

#DisabilityJustice folks, can you point me at some reading on power dynamics in care/caring relationships please?
#disability #disabled #DisabilityRights #mecfs @mecfs

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@ahimsa_pdx @elmyra @disability

What service does your dog provide?!?!?

Well, it calms me enough that I don't want to pour Drano down that fucking throat of yours

aevole , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic

I feel the need to be fully autistic. I just don't know what to do to really be myself 😅🤷🏻‍♀️ #actuallyautistic
If you have any tips, please share 🥰
@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@aevole @actuallyautistic

Well You are autistic, so you are fully autistic! 🙂

But if you mean adopt behaviors that are less masky and more in tune with your own power and peace, That is I think an issue of self-awareness and it's a journey of examination and modification all to increase your sense of power peace and joy

Do the things you love to do Don't worry about people and their reactions

But creative queer autistic put a really nice list together that I have bookmarked, as well :-)

Sci_Fi_FanGirl , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic German

Need some sympathy from my fellow @actuallyautistic

In one of the most stressful weeks this year so far, after weeks of immense work load, my husband went on a vacation with friends.

Had been planned for a long time and I didn't want to ruin his time off. But I'm really struggling and close to shutdown. Sleep is bad atm.

He just called to say he's ill. He will be isolating at home, but I was really counting on him "taking over" when he's back.

Don't know how to pull through 😢

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic 💚💜💙

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic 😔🙏

aaronesilvers , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 4 months ago

@aaronesilvers @masukomi @actuallyautistic

General rule in the opera community is you have to give yourself 3 years between The event and return to the same city

sebwhatever , 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic #askingautistics

I'm feeling a little low today. What are some things that you #actuallyautistic folx do to help yourselves out of a funk?

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic another thing to consider is the smile

A frown is mostly just a ratcheting of resting bitch face

I know I've told this at least once But an old teacher of mine long gone who was a fifth avenue trust fund Maven had great stories

Someone called him because #MarlenaDietrich wanted to go to the Opera.

To get in the cab sits back her face goes slack and she says Tell me when we're 5 minutes away

Does so, and her face brightens up she has a smile on it ready..

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic They get into the show, sit in their box the lights go down shoot relaxes her face and says Tell me when it's 5 minutes from the end of the act

He does so

She brightens up and puts on a performance for the whole intermission

And so on

Gravity pulls our face down

Just to get to smile requires reaction to gravity & a paralyzed face, two reasons our smiles can be forced.

when it's in our best interest to be happy but we are being thwarted, it's permission..

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic In my opinion it's permission to defensively mask

And what I mean is also prophylactic defense

If you're all the way down into RBF, or actual frowning which is a ratcheting of RBF You have all of these different nuts to untie

So being mindful enough to keep them untied is what to do when the happiness isn't there

So you don't have to work through them

The opening of the mouth should easily be above the bottom of upper teeth

Nostrils maximum flare, jaw open..

VoxofGod , 5 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic If you look at yourself in the mirror with your teeth together, it's a very tense look

Lightly open is the way

A slight o with the lips everything relaxed so that gravity fills that area up with water instead of tension making it harsh lines that take time to undo

It's pure logistics for me because if I don't and I get cramped in an angry face, I can't sing sometimes for months