VoxofGod

PossiblyAutistic , 6 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic How much of a thing is "friendzoning" with neurodivergents?

VoxofGod , 6 months ago

@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

I think that as more people start to identify as neurodivergent something similar might start happening, but overcommunication often seems to be the issue with autistic people in the first place will probably manifest differently

I'm very used to hearing guys tease me about how women come on to me and I'm blind to it

When your mom hates you with a smile on her face, it's hard to see any affection is real

Women are almost always friendzoned for me and

VoxofGod , 6 months ago

@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic It's mostly because I don't know how to communicate realities in my life without either over sharing or annoying or disgusting someone, lol

I think that a lot of times with autistic people it's either only friend zone or easy bonding and sex because when the possibility presents itself quite obviously, it's rare enough that people will jump at the shot 🙂

Also, autistics can be quite experimental and spicy in bed

eo , 6 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic I have always struggled with anhedonia. Since I learned about "Autistic joy" and have seen what a pure experience of joy an autistic child can have, I'm wondering what is wrong with me again. Too many experiences seem essentially ruined, and I feel like I should be able to tell you why and how, but I can't. I am beginning to read "The Neuroscience of Happiness and Pleasure" (NIHMS257673) … does anyone relate?

VoxofGod , 6 months ago

@eo @actuallyautistic

Feels like happiness was stolen out of my life by my family

Because I was expected to look happy and not make waves even though I was in physical pain with diverticulosis

To this day it has never resolved and while I can manufacture happiness through techniques or with my dog, and it helps bring about real contentment there's always an asterix next to any description I have contentment

essie_is_okay , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

How did you make a more robust sense of self? How do you know when your sense of self is strong or weak? Interested to hear people's lived experiences.

Years of dissociation and masking makes it hard to feel what is me.

#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #Disability #mentalhealth #queer #trans #NonBinary #neurodiversity @actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@essie_is_okay @actuallyautistic

Being gas lit by my family even now about some really basic stuff, I'm 53, a sense of self has been hard for me my whole life ignoring pain ignoring fear ignoring hate from my family etc

Getting away from them helped

For me, Faith is very important. And my art and my dog

But recently as my voice has recuperated and developed, it has given me confidence to ignore my family's voices in my head

To sing, you got to be happy so it was a Fiat I had no choice

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@essie_is_okay @actuallyautistic

So, being happy as a singer is an essential so I have learned how to cultivate that regardless of many things

But another thing happened, Raymond had been traveling with me my RV to visit some family and it was comically horrible

I just slogged on through because that's what I've learned

But Ray reacted to my anxiety

Vet told me he was anxious

And that was like a mandate for me to stop being afraid because Ray was afraid because I was afraid

elonjet , 7 months ago to random

Landed in Austin, Texas, United States. Apx. flt. time 14 min.

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@elonjet fuk this guy

samid , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

"nine out of ten autistic women victims of sexual violence."
I do run into autistic men sometimes, that feel victimized. And there are many reasons for that, that we don't need to discuss. Just sometimes they start crying about girls having it easier. I know. you laugh, but it still happens. And there's also those neurodivergent men who suffer from not being able to be trad. men. Living up to toxic standards. And they get all bamboozled and start believing, women have an easier time. You laugh. But again. It happens. That's why I'm linking this paper, again. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35558435/
Some neurodivergent white males have never thought about intersectionality. I raised my kid in a poor neighborhood. The amount of misogyny that rains down on a female baby that acts out, screams, causes trouble, displays aggression, is ridiculous. There is a reason for female autistic masking. Which, together with gender data gap ( misogyny ) creates the four in one ratio in diagnoses of autism. The reason for masking is survival. And survival gets more difficult with each intersection you have in your life. I don't want to explain this time and again. Please, autistic males, get your colleagues up to speed.That's why I'm posting this.
#intersectionality #feminism
@actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@samid @actuallyautistic

Greetings from an autistic man that was sexually assaulted at age 12, for their first sexual experience

Then had their mother gaslight them about it to protect her gravy train...

Only now four decades later am I able to envision what life is like for people who don't have the truth daily conditioned out of them

JeremyMallin , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Are there any Autistics who do not have internalized #ableism about themselves? 🙋‍♂️

How do you overcome a lifetime of that?

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic personally I go on two tracks, I have my overarching identity which is riddled with pathology but I'm doing worthwhile stuff for my own self so I take the pathology for what it is

But on a more micro level from thing to thing and on a day-to-day basis I keep track of how self abusive I am being and the weirdness that is happening to me socially and how it's different or not I am more exacting about my social and mental health always trying to improve on the arc

tomkindlon , 7 months ago to disability

Somebody shared the following saying: "I found this video on tiktok and it explains m.e so well" and "I saw it and thought to myself I
relate so much"

Here's the TikTok link:
https://www.tiktok.com/@jeremyandrewdavis/video/7135061608316833070

@chronicillness
@spoonies
@disability
@mecfs
#MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #MEcfs #CFS #PwME @longcovid
#LongCovid #PwLC #postcovid #postcovid19 #LC #chronicillness #chroniclife #Spoonielife #hiddenillness
#invisibleillness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonies #Spoonie #ChronicallyIll

video/mp4

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@tomkindlon @chronicillness @spoonies @disability @mecfs @longcovid

This is happening more and more recently people are starting to decide people are not disabled, at least in my experience I've had people comment on the fact that I can't be disabled because I take the stairs

My reaction is FUCKYOU

I mean first off I push myself through pain in order to make sure that I can do it again

Cuz if I dont the voice goes away waiting to get better

Being a singer takes more than just taking stairs

autism101 , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Did you get labeled as a “picky eater” when you were growing up?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

VoxofGod , 7 months ago

@autism101 @actuallyautistic I have diverticulosis and had it as a boy

So...

Yes

Was one of the things that made my mom give up on me

elonjet , 8 months ago to random

Landed near San Juan, (unassigned), PR. Apx. flt. time 3 h 22 min.

VoxofGod , 8 months ago

@elonjet looks like they're stealing enough land down in Puerto Rico to make private unnamed air strips now?

independentpen , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic A lot of people on here talk about meltdowns as a regular, visible thing. I know we're all different, but this is so far from my experience I started feeling a little impostery. I have had melts before, ie I've completely lost control and either: fled to save myself and others from me, or sort of left my body like a blackout (while still walking/talking) ... 1/

VoxofGod , 8 months ago

@independentpen @actuallyautistic think that depending on how early meltdown start happening for you they become second nature

If you are able to put off meltdowns for a long time when it comes it's a biggie

MarjoleinRotsteeg , 8 months ago to poetry Dutch

anticipation
high expectations
what will Santa bring?

#MastopPrompt - #anticipation
#haiku
#senryu
#poetry
#poetrycommunity
#writing
#writingcommunity

@stevencudahy

@poetry

VoxofGod , 8 months ago

@MarjoleinRotsteeg @stevencudahy @poetry

Has it occurred to you that you could sing this with the same tune as Carly Simon's anticipation?

VoxofGod , 8 months ago

@MarjoleinRotsteeg @stevencudahy @poetry

Then my work is done

sebwhatever , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

I'm raging internally. Texting with one of my brothers and while i'm practically pleading for him to see the pain i've shouldered for ten years. He keeps making excuses and empty platitudes and victim-blaming.

VoxofGod , 8 months ago

@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic relax your abdominals, let your sternum rise

With each exhale don't let the sternum fall just let the exhale come from the gut so that it collapses while the sternum stays high

Also doing the cow/cat breathing exercise is good

On your hands and knees looking up with a flat back

Inhaling and letting the gut be heavy

Exhaling making a cat back and pushing the gut against the spine

It's just a process of letting the muscles de-knit from cockroach crouch survival