Physical aging happens ridiculously fast. Faster than you imagine. The years just tick away like minutes.
Mental aging goes much slower (barring dementia or other malidies, of course).
The crazy thing is that even once older (I’ll turn 60 this year) your view of yourself quite often feels like you’re still much younger.
I internally feel perpetually 30-35. Until I try to (say) run or sprint, or jump off something, then… oh my. I really am 60. Another example: my brain knows how to throw a fast ball (ingrained from when I was a teenager). If I actually try… uhh… no go. My arm revolts.
I’ve even asked my 83 year old mom how her internal self feels. She says the same - still feels like she did in her 30s on the inside. On the outside she has to intentionally walk very carefully so as not to fall and break something.
Moral of the story? Enjoy that young body while you have it. Seriously. It won’t last.
I’m 38 and right around 34-35 is when you start to notice it IMO. I have minor scoliosis in two places and I threw out my back getting out of bed one morning when I was like 34.
43 here. Still feel strong thanks to the gym. I’ve been lifting since I was 17. Longest I’ve ever stopped was about 2 years. I still lift heavy and don’t have any of that “older folks” back pain, and “it’s really hard to get up in the morning” and all that. I’m thankful for that. It’s never too late (if you don’t have a condition that prevents you) to become a gym goer.
I’m 57 and I bike 25 or 50 miles four days out of every five, and I work out at the gym every day. I had stretches when I was a decade or two younger where I did nothing but eat and smoke pot and I weighed forty to fifty pounds more than I do now; during those stretches I felt like I was 80 and hurt all over all the time. Sometimes older folks have severe injuries that prevent them from doing anything physical and the decay just adds up, but for a lot of people being sedentary creates the illusion that aging is unstoppable. Of course it is unstoppable ultimately, but you can sure as fuck do a lot to slow it down.
Good for you and thank you for sharing. My dad always told me “I’d rather die walking”. Dude is right. He’s in his mid 70s and is still pulling like he’s 20 years younger. I want to be that guy. Not guaranteed of course, but it’s my goal.
I’m 43 and the thinning hair the only real indication so far. I stretch, and lift weights so that I can stay fit enough to surf, and I ride my Ebike everywhere that I can. As long as you stay active, you don’t really feel it till your 70s or 80s. Eat your veggies kids. You can’t outrun your diet.
My hair-thinning had gotten really bad, plus a wealth of other health issues. It was only when I realized that I had been taking high-dosed tranquilizers every day, starting in the morning, that I could admit to myself that I had a stress problem. On top of my objectively ridiculous workload, I started interviewing, and it took a long, very painful year to find a new job that was better in every way. And wouldn’t you know, within a year, my hair grew back so thick that I could hardly run a comb through it even when it was short and wet. It took a few more years for most of my other, stress-related issues to abate, though.
And to counteract some of the negativity in this thread, some people positively don’t seem to age, especially those regularly working out. I’ve known men and women that looked exactly the same over 20, even 30 years.
TLDR: Work out for fun, and don’t ever get salaried.
Salary is fine. Just don’t ever work more hours than they pay you for. Lack of manpower is your manager’s problem, not your golden opportunity to subsidize the company payroll budget at the cost of your health and sanity.
I’m only in my 30s, but it was quite a wake up call, when I noticed my body simply started “failing” in small ways. Knee injury wasn’t just a week of “taking it slow”, but months, and it’s still not really good. If you go to the doctor, you’ll suddenly get diagnoses like “yeah, that’s how it’ll stay now”.
The really disturbing thing though is seeing your friends age. That dude who got all the girls in school now has more trenches on his face than Verdun, the super good looking girl now is a woman and becomes a pudgier each year, hair gets gray, skin gets loose. You don’t notice that on yourself so much.
And on a social note: the world is shrinking. Those kitchen parties with 30 people you barely know, but met a bunch of new friends are gone. Most of the people you knew in school or university are gone. You try to keep in touch, but that’s hard after years of separation. Those who are still close have barely any time left and just hanging out for no reason this evening is no more.
Having a full time job, family and friends simply doesn’t work. And that sucks.
You don’t really have to do anything special to make the most of life. Different people like different things; and whatever you choose to do is likely to be valuable to you. Just be mindful that that you don’t sleep-walk through it all. Make the most of it by being conscious of it.
I was trying to explain this to my kids - about the mental aging part. Mentally, I don’t feel any different than I did 25 years ago. I don’t even know what mentally aging would feel like, other than dementia or something like you mentioned.
The older you get, the harder it becomes to find time with your friends. Go out and do active things with them, go camping, spend all night driving around or playing pool and talking about life. That stuff will fade way before your physical fitness.
I was blessed with a strong body. Even as I age my reflexes are still there. My whole body coordination still exists. I am still strong, physically adaptable, and can lose weight easily. Any physical activity is not yet out of reach I’ve found. However…
My metabolism has slowed.
Injuries heal slower.
I have some pains I didn’t have before.
I do get tired more easily.
It catches us all in different ways. I’ve been luckier than most in some aspects, feel it I still do and it’ll only get worse.
not to shit on you or anything, but I think this is also probably a result of modern sedentary lifestyle. (I am currently in my mid thirties and feel physically broken). just a PSA to everyone—continue to just do physical activity so you can physically perform activities.
Mid-thirties here, 6 months ago I started taking my diet seriously and 3 months ago I started with regular exercise and weight lifting. I’ve lost over 30kg, back to a healthy weight, and starting to see muscle definition. More importantly than the visual changes, I feel a lot better, better than I did at pretty much any age. I wish I started sooner with this but I’m confident if I keep it up it will have a major, major impact on my quality of life as I grow older.
No. What is Putin-esque is churlishly claiming that your cruelty and violence are actually the consequences of other people’s decisions and actions. It’s chilling and everyone sees right through it, but neither you nor Putin really care about that, because neither of you are engaging in good faith.
Specialisation of labour is literally the basis of our entire civilisation. Everybody does it for almost everything. Comparing that to Putin is definitely some next level stupid.
I understand it. And I understand that it is bullshit. It is an attempt to emotionally distance oneself from the consequences of one’s own choices. If one chooses for an animal to be killed, one is responsible for its death, and playing little semantic games cannot change that fundamental reality. But these games do prevent one from fully processing an idea that threatens them. It’s how you brainwash yourself. Groom yourself to be able to commit cruelty and violence, and not feel bad about it.
To even engage in such sophistry is to confess one’s guilt.
My dad does this, and I made a few bucks thanks to WordPress. Really, more thanks to Elementor because you can make a pretty snazzy website for cheap and the layman has no it took 2 hours to put together with templates. Lol
I think part of the cognitive disconnect of when you see an actor age is that so much of their life is recorded and so much of our mental concept of them is locked in to the video that we have seen of them.
Then suddenly when you encounter them having aged normally it looks really weird.
And then you have people like Brad Pitt, Jennifer Aniston, and Kate Beckinsale who look like they haven’t aged a day in decades. It’s hard to believe that Brad is like 61 and still looks about 35.
I follow Kate on Instagram (highly recommended) and she’s over 50 (IIRC) and still looks like she’s in her late 20s. I’m convinced that she’s actually a vampire and Underworld was an autobiography.
If you have a job that pays you a vast fortune and it’s primary requirement is that you look super hot you’d probably invest a little of that money into eating and exercising well too.
Not only that but there are billions of dollars spent every year in enhancing our youthful appearances. There are all matter of artificial peptides and hormones and substrate injections and buccal fat pad revisions and microneedling and threading and Botox available if remaining youthful looking is that important to you.
All of this works in addition to healthy eating and healthy exercising and some of the most miraculous powers of makeup and instantly generated artificial intelligence overlays to help ensure that people remain as youthful looking as it is financially profitable and personally possible for them to do so.
And then you have people like Brad Pitt, Jennifer Aniston, and Kate Beckinsale who look like they haven’t aged a day in decades. It’s hard to believe that Brad is like 61 and still looks about 35.
Flashback to an early episode of Last Week Tonight where a thoroughly embarrassed John Oliver points out that he’s 5 years YOUNGER than Rock “The Dwayne” Johnson 😄
I’m 38, so I know what 35 looks like haha People age at different rates than others. I’ve seen 35 year olds that look like their 65 and 65 year olds that look like their 35.
You notice how everybody has that one famous person that people tell them they look like? Lately I’ve been getting Michael Douglas. Michael Douglas is almost 80. I’m in my 40’s. People just picture Michael Douglas in his 40’s because that was the height of his career.
I’ve had this layout for a few weeks now, I agree it’s absolutely garbage. The amount of times that I’ve accidentally modified my Queue or cleared my queue attempting to read the comment section is ridiculous. As is the Queue feature is absolutely atrocious and buggy as hell but like don’t make it worse please
To each their own, motivations for veganism vary vastly. My dad was hardcore vegan for over 25 years and never ever did he care about animals or the environment. He was vegan out of (for a lack of a better term) health beliefs. Nowadays he eats mussels and raw cheese and egg yolks.
No one forces you to update. People simply choose to run an OS where automatic updates are the default.
And that OS also lets you permanently disable automatic updates. It just doesn’t give you a straight-forward GUI option for it.
Critically wrong in this case. Crowdstrike updates push outside of, and regardless of, os settings. This wasn’t, and never was, an os issue, it’s a crowdstrike issue. Good try though.
Believe it or not, CrowdStrike’s model forces updates and people pay a lot of money for it to “handle things” for them. I had to deploy it at a previous employer about 8 years ago. It was stupid.
Problem is, an individual computer user often isn’t the victim of that computer’s lack of updates.
Any time a site you like has been DDOSed, it’s often from thousands of zombie computers infected by some malware that their owners aren’t aware of. Those infections are generally made possible by unclosed security holes. So, you know…not updating.
I’m fine being part of a botnet if that’s the trade off for not using windows 11. Just got it installed on my testing PC at work and I hate it so much.
You really don’t understand how many millions of hours of human effort force updates have destroyed.
Yes, there should always be, ESPECIALLY IN CORPORATE ENVIRONMENTS, a point where the client can vet and approve the update.
This recent Crowdstrike problem is proof of it. You LITERALLY witnessed proof as 1/4 of the world basically shut down for the day. This would have been avoided in many cases if the update was vetted by the local IT teams.
So CrowdStrike shouldn’t allow real time threat protection? That’s what caused the issue. It needs to update its threat library to do deal with any day 1 attacks. It’s one of the main reasons it’s used
Ice is a mineral. So molten ice, i.e. water, is lava. Humans are mostly made of water, much more than they are made of DNA. So you are more molten rock than you are genetic material. And people are some sort of water golem.
Static, low-js, HTML tags used-as-intended, some basic CSS for formatting, responsivity and dark/light. Modern-looking accessible webpage from scratch done in half a day.
If we assume “half a day” is 4 hours, and 500 pounds. That’s 125 pounds per hour. Which isn’t the worst rate. Assuming it’s actually capped at 4 hours and we all know that if it’s your dad’s friend, this is not going to be a set and forget kind of thing. So that 4 hours quickly becomes 10. And suddenly you’re down to 50 pounds per hour. And then if it’s actually static and simple and good, you still have high odds of getting insane feedback demanding changes to make it worse. A motherfucking website would actually be the best option, but wouldn’t get you paid. At that point youre just doing it for the lols.
But ultimately, this isn’t even about the rate or how much time this will take. this whole scenario depends heavily on the son here. Is the son unemployed and living in dad’s basement for free? Then yeah. Sorry, he should probably take any work he can get for any rate he can get. His dad gets a lot more say in how things work financially if the son is relying on him financially. But if the son is already working a full time job and living in his own house? Then no, I don’t care what the rate is. Don’t commandeer other people’s time. Don’t make deals that people haven’t agreed to. Come to me with opportunities, not demands.
You’re not wrong, but a lot of time those webpages aren’t overengineered because the developer wanted it to be, but because the client kept making more and more demands.
The irony of some dude trying to prove a point that a website doesn’t need to be bloated and burdened with all the design and fancy scripts, just for other people to incrementally built on top of that idea, one-upping each other in the process, mimicking the exact evolution of the modern bloated website as we know it.
Honestly I hate the fact that browsers’ default CSS exists. The person doing the frontend should have to specify their “default” CSS before the website even loads. I say this as both a user and a programmer, the same website shouldn’t look different or break on different browsers unintentionally due to the browser’s CSS, and I as a developer shouldn’t have to rely on reset sheets to try to patch that.
Everything would be better if it were swapped around, instead of picking out a reset sheet for a site you pick out a default style…
The world would also be better if browsers rendered pugjs/slim and scss/sass and those were the default rather than html and css but I digress…
Hey! I made this content and was made aware of Lemmy by a friend two days ago. I decided to join and wanted to enter with a bang by sharing some of my OC.
Yep, those awful vegans pushing their agenda for their own gains. Make ME aware of MY CHOICE to pay for animal abuse and torture?! Blatant manipulation!
Exactly! My ancestors didnt pay for slavery, they just wanted cotton. Everyone need cotton, right? I mean they wouldve harvested the cotton themselves, but it was way cheaper from neighboring farmers for whatever reason. That didnt concern them though, they had enough prpblems!
Please dont twist my words. I didnt compare anything. And if I did, I would have compared animal cruelty with slavery (both as unethical acts), not animals with slaves (the recipients of cruelty).
Good point, but I never said they were the same, nor did I compare them. I just made an argument about passive involvement in unethical doings which some regard as normal.
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