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vger , 2 days ago to actuallyadhd

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A week ago, I've got my official Autism/ADHD/AuDHD diagnosis. during this week, I've been thinking of one of my problems that has the biggest impact on my wellbeing: hobbies.

For this example I will focus on my hobby of computer gaming, but it happens with pretty much anything. My brain works the following way: I see a new game which I immediately want to try out. I buy that game, play it, have lots of fun with it, but after about 10-20 in-game hours, I lose interest. I happen to watch gamers on YouTube or Twitch, so my brain sees the next game it wants to try. I buy it, 10-20 hours later its uninteresting. This behaviour of seeing new shiny games continues to happen, but heres the actual problem: I've now accumulated several hundreds of games, with a few dozen favorites.

My brain now wants to play a particular game I already own and then starts an internal discussion, why it wants to play that game, and not another one. My ADHD argues, that it would take many hours to continue that game and I would not have enough time to play other exciting games (no matter if I already own them or not). But my Autism wants to fully focus on that game and also on any other game I find exciting. This internal fight causes a lot of stress and I pretty much just burn-out by not playing any games, but just debating which one I should play.

Like I've said, this affects any other hobby as well. So it's not just the internal debate on what game to play, but also what to do besides gaming. I see new interesting stuff: I want to try it out. And when I want to try it out, it's always "all-or-nothing" for me. I want to fully engulf myself in that new hobbie and try out every aspect of it. But the sheer thought of going through it and not having time for other exciting stuff burns be out and there are weeks where I end up not doing any hobby. And when I do that, I get depressed because I didn't spend time with my hobbies.

I'm not sure what I'm asking here. This feels like a really big problem to just take some advise and find a solution. After all, I've had this for the past 10+ years. But after my diagnose it feels like the first time in my life that I have an explanation for this behaviour. My current strategy is finding out which type of games I really enjoy and then just have one or two games per genre that I can play when I have an itch for the genre. But hey, guess what my brain does instead: it starts an argument about why I want to play this genre and not that genre.

Do any of you have similar problems?

autism101 , 20 days ago to actuallyautistic

Do you have any clothing routines? I own eight gray plain t-shirts with no tags which I love. I often will just wear them over and over again.

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

dyani , 1 month ago to actuallyautistic

Any other autistic kin struggle with speech and articulation when they were little?

I'm recording an instructional voice-over today and my mom just told me I used to have a lisp when I was little. That's news to me!

I definitely notice sludgy articulation around L and S sound as an adult. Outside of voice over recording, I could not care less about my articulation. But it is interesting!

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CultureDesk , 2 months ago to histodons

There are more than 180,000 historical markers throughout America, and many of them tell only partial truths. Over the past year, NPR has analyzed crowdsourced data to uncover some of those errors. Many were strange, funny or silly — like a sign that marks the home of a world-famous Santa Claus school in Albion, New York, and a marker in Arizona that pays tribute to a donkey that drank beer. But many paint a fractured version of history: 70% of markers that mention plantations do not mention slavery, and there are 500 markers that describe the Confederacy in glowing terms. Here's more.

https://flip.it/UG5.qn

#History @histodons #USHistory #Culture #America

JeremyMallin , 2 months ago to actuallyautistic

I'm curious—how do we feel about any/all of the following labels? Are we ok with them? Offended by them? Have attitudes changed at all recently? I've noticed we don't all use the same vocabulary here.

• on the spectrum
• ASD
• has autism
• with autism
• is autistic
• Autistic
• Autist

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Tim_McTuffty , 2 months ago to actuallyautistic

Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 162 , Monday 08/04/2024

TL:DR My mother warned me there’d be days like this ! (Not really she never knew I was autistic .)

Up at 5:45am, not by choice I might add!

Breakfast, being abused by the mogs & then chores started the day.

It’s really weird what triggers me.
So our new neighbours across the street from us (who I have met 1 half of (Bev) once ) asked us to be key holders while they are away for 2 weeks . Which is fine.

Me being me started doing the job properly & popping over of a morning & of an evening just to check it was all locked up.

Just went over (circa 10am) & did my checks & it turns out they have a Ring doorbell.
I’m walking away & this voice shouts out ‘Hello?’
Long story short, it turns out it’s Ian , Bev’s hubby (who I have yet to meet) wondering why I’m wandering around the property. I explain & it’s all good.
Only it isn’t … I feel like I’ve been caught burgling the place , anxiety levels are thru the roof & I’m close to closing down as I write this.
It has destroyed the whole morning - I KNOW this is illogical, I KNOW I’m catastrophising but I cannot shake the feeling I have done something wrong !
I don’t want to feel this way again so I will be giving the place a once over from our front door for the duration.

So spent the afternoon on ESO hiding away form the world !

Final Thoughts.

I always thought the catastrophising was a function of my depression , now I’m not so sure. I do know that social interaction with anyone I don’t know freaks me out.
Humaning is hard - am Squirrel !

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic
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mraharrison , 2 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic Hi all #ActuallyAutistic adults over 40, who were late diagnosed like me to share experiences. What's the best thing you did once you knew?

Averixus , 3 months ago to actuallyautistic

I've never related to the analogy of having no filter. It only works if communication is like a torrent of innermost thoughts that are constantly being stopped lest they spurt out.

I don't have to work to not communicate, I have to work to communicate. everything i ever say is painstakingly assembled and forced out, the idea of being able to do that so easily that I could actually say something by accident is completely alien.

Is it just me?

#actuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

petersuber , 5 months ago to academicchatter

"Following the controlled demolition of Al-Israa University, Israeli army footage of which was widely shared on social media, every single higher education institution in #Gaza is believed to have either been destroyed or severely damaged since the invasion began."
https://www.timeshighereducation.com/news/academia-gaza-has-been-destroyed-israeli-educide
(#paywalled)

#Academia #Universities
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spika , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

My dude told me he had a meltdown in McDonalds this morning. The store was understaffed and didn't have a person working register, and they were only taking kiosk orders inside.

He gets told this after waiting at the counter for twenty minutes. No offer to help, just told to use the kiosk.

Except, there's a problem with this.... He doesn't know how to use the kiosks. He finds them overwhelming, panic inducing and he's extremely afraid something will go wrong in the process of using one. So, he doesn't ever use them and finds the mere suggestion upsetting.

So, he started to have a meltdown about being required to use the kiosk, got very short with the employee who told him he had to use it, and went to leave without buying anything because he didn't want to be having a meltdown in public, when another employee intervened offering to help.

He didn't really want the help at that point because he was melting down and having trouble talking and just wanted to leave, but he did want food so he let her help and they got through the transaction the old fashioned way in person at the counter.

But not without him feeling deeply ashamed and embarrassed because he isn't able to use a McDonalds kiosk on his own or ask for help without being visibly upset about being asked to use the kiosk in the first place.

It's a story I share because I feel like it's the sort of thing that's an underrepresented experience within online conversations about autism and the autistic experience because I feel like the more common sentiment I see is how the kiosk ordering is great because you don't have to talk to a person.

I think an area of accessibility where many of us have a huge ableist blindspot around is how difficult an allegedly "easy" form of technology can be for some autistic people who don't have a lot of familiarity or comfort around tech.

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic #autistic

hosford42 , 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

I'm #autistic. The sound of the train blowing its horn as it passes my house makes me cover my ears in pain. But the throbbing bass of the engine that causes a deep pressure in my chest from the vibration makes me feel happy.

When I was a kid, I used to crank up the bass of my parents' stereo and sit directly against the woofer to feel that pressure. They would always yell at me to turn it down. I've always loved that feeling.

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