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Self-realised August 2022. Taurean. Year of Horse.
So good at masking, I can even fool myself.
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Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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Wondering whether some older undiagnosed autistics might’ve been mis-diagnosed with dementia due to poorer executive function as they age & cope less well with stress. @actuallyautistic

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@Susan60 My Mum would've been. She was actually in a locked ward. I was put in a locked ward when I had a Panic Attack, long before I realised my Autism. I signed myself out, quick smart...Agency nurses are the pits. @actuallyautistic

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@Susan60 Not to uneducated ER staff. @actuallyautistic

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@Susan60 I can't even imagine what ED would be like since 2020. Thankfully, I haven't needed it since then. Haven't even been in a hospital since my colonoscopy 6 years ago.Hoping to keep it that way.🙂 @actuallyautistic

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@Susan60 Actually, I have a strong suspicion that many of the medical fraternity believe Panic and Anxiety are linked to Hysteria. Obviously we women need to be locked up for our own safety, and theirs. @actuallyautistic

chevalier26 , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Was anyone else ever made fun of/scolded as a kid because you "were not assertive enough"? I would often get in trouble for "not saying 'no'" or other 'grievous' things growing up, and I remember being very hurt by that.

Saying "no" has always been hard for me because I've always struggled with being confident/setting boundaries. Every time I have tried to set boundaries I was perceived as rude, so I decided at some point in my childhood to stop setting them.

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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl I see that response, in me, as part of my now discovered autism. I cannot/will not blame anyone for not understanding at the time. After all, Autism was not fully recognised in girls and women
(AFAB) until the oughties. Even ADHD was recognised in girls in the 90s.
@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl It's a natural response to a perceived threat to freeze. Dissociation is the trauma response. @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl That's the assumption. I have often read about people freezing, as animals will sometimes do (deer in the headlights), or their vocal chords shut down. So, this is the 3rd category. Playing possum. @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl I think it could be a learned behaviour, but extreme anxiety can cause a glottal block, and locking of joints. It also causes faints. @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

Nigel_Purchase , to random
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The truth about ADHD and autism: how many people have it, what causes it, and why are diagnoses soaring?

https://www.theguardian.com/society/article/2024/jun/01/the-truth-about-adhd-and-autism-how-many-people-have-it-what-causes-it-and-why-are-diagnoses-soaring

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@Nigel_Purchase @actuallyautistic

chevalier26 , to random
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@actuallyautistic Anyone ever tell you that you were being "too negative" or a "Debby downer" when stating facts about something? Just happened to me earlier with my family. In this case it was reasons why I prefer not to travel often (routine change haha). The whole time I was thinking, "but I'm not trying to be negative..."

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@chevalier26 I truly can't see a problem with planning for any possible contingency. I butted heads often with my Dad, because he was reactionary and I'm precautionary. @actuallyautistic

chevalier26 , to actuallyautistic
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What are your thoughts on self-diagnosis being belittled by many in the autistic community?

For clarity, I’m not asking to start a debate, just a genuine discussion. I currently don’t have the option to get a diagnosis, but feel fairly confident that the research I’ve done over the past year and a half has been legitimate and credible.

I don’t feel comfortable saying that I am definitively autistic, but I am ok with saying I’m “self-suspecting.” @actuallyautistic

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@chevalier26 As a very late realised , I want to add my reassurances about self-discovery vs formal diagnosis. A majority of Autists have their informal diagnosis confirmed if/when they go through the formal assessment.
I'm not sure what the gatekeepers expect to gain from their actions. @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder Now you've done it! @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

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@janetlogan 💜😊 @chevalier26 @pathfinder @actuallyautistic

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@chevalier26 Exactly. Have you explored Monotropism yet? @darrellpf @pathfinder @janetlogan @actuallyautistic

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@chevalier26 Here is a link to the subject which, I believe, also has the questionaire listed. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monotropism#
@darrellpf @pathfinder @janetlogan @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder 😊👍 @chevalier26 @darrellpf @janetlogan @actuallyautistic

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@chevalier26 Or not. But, it is still one view. My 'special interest' for the past 21 months, has been . It is ongoing. @darrellpf @pathfinder @janetlogan @actuallyautistic

darrellpf , to actuallyautistic
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Is there a term in the autistic world for "outing" someone? In the gay world we have often very accurate "gaydar".

I was watching a mom and son on a television show. On one hand I want to talk about them and their interaction, but on the other hand I don't feel right about "diagnosing" them, particularly in a public way.

@actuallyautistic

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@felyashono I is. A big no-no. @darrellpf @actuallyautistic

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@felyashono Althought I have heard the term 'outing myself' used. Things change. @darrellpf @actuallyautistic

LALegault , to random
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Okay, which enthusiast can explain to me (at length even!) how the American aid pier floated away? I am fascinated.

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@LALegault Yes, we do use but, in the context you have used it, it is not offensive. @gaveen @actuallyautistic

farah , to actuallyautistic
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I’ve been reading about “stimming in autism”, which up until now was very confusing to me mostly because that’s the one point kept being repeated in the community being a must for an autistic individual. And I can’t relate to that at all.

Then I came across something that describes the purpose of ‘stimming’ is to deal with extra energy. Then it kinda hit me, I’ve never had the need to stim because I’m a low energy person in general.

I get overwhelmed with activities when they involve raising heart rates (yes, THAT too). I like quiet things, dead of night etc. Once at a time in my life, I was pretty sure I could hear flow of electricity.

So my question to the community: do you think stimming is a must for autistic people? Do you relate to it? Anyone know of any low energy stimming that gets overlooked?

Thanks! Much love!! 💕 @actuallyautistic

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@farah Stimming is also a self-soothing activity...especially in stressful situations. If you don't need it, it doesn't make you less autistic, afaik. Mine are mostly unobtrusive, thus unnoticeable, now. I used to chew my nails. I used to smoke cigarettes. @actuallyautistic

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@darrellpf 😉😊 @farah @actuallyautistic

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@farah @arisummerland Torture when they are malfunctioning😬😖 @actuallyautistic

meganL , to disability
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I hate when media does inspiration porn stories in general, but particularly when:

  • They let a newly disabled person with tons of internalized ableism become "the voice of disabled people"

and

  • When that "success story" clearly came from access to therapeutic supports the average person doesn't have, yet now everyone who doesn't meet their standard of recovery "must not be trying hard enough". @disability
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@meganL Every damn time. Pressures are also brought to bear - to encourage, entreat, or exhort the injured to become self supporting; to become as whole as their injury will allow. Anything else is weak-minded and defeatist. Some ableist ponces decided that compaasion is leftist. @disability

stina_marie , to horror
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I love podcasts but this made me genuinely LOL

Happy Thursday!

@horror

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@stina_marie There was also a Scold's Bridle, which clamped the tongue. That would be poifick for mansplainers.😆 @horror

PixysJourney , to actuallyautistic
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Question to fellow folks... :confusedparrot:

For what sort of toots could I use hashtags like or the previous two I just used?

I Toot quite a bit about me and my quirky way life. But I never really know if I "should" add any ND hashtags as the "silly" things I Toot about are quite normal to me. If that makes sense 🤔...

I'm proud enough, these days, of who I am. But I wonder if and when it would be good to add some of these tags... Maybe it could help connect with other peeps like me 😇.

Fankoos 🫶🏻 for your help! 🌸

@actuallyautistic

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@PixysJourney Autists are the champs of Worry. Also Overcompensating, Overthinking, Undervaluing ourselves, and apologising for existing.
None of those tags are inappropriate, imv, and all will lead to a convo, I hope. @pathfinder @actuallyautistic

18+ EVDHmn , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
Ok going out on a limb here.
I know everyone process dealing and handling loss of a loved one is different and perhaps difficult to talk about.

This week my cousin died who was practically an uncle as far as age. I don’t know how many of you have traced your autistic own family tree. I’ve kind of made it a pet project.

My question is does anyone else find funeral homes so weird and 🤔 panic inducing both thinking of going and going.

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@EVDHmn I don't go to funerals, if I can help it. I just can't do the appropriate things. @actuallyautistic

LehtoriTuomo , to actuallyautistic

Mentioned to a coworker that I'm getting some books, for example on autism, and as they showed interest in the topic, proceeded to lightly info dump. Did give some space so that it was a true conversation. However, it reminded me of a thing I've been pondering.

As I present male, I've always been overly cautious of not mansplaining -- or at least ever since I learned about the term. Now that I know I'm autistic, I understand it's entangled with having learned that NTs don't like infodumping.

Whatever the cause, I have a tendency to stay silent even if I know about the topic at hand but aren't 100% certain that it's appropriate to talk about it. Sometimes it makes me sad.

@actuallyautistic

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@felyashono Spot on. Example of mansplaining: Telling the author about her own publication or research programme in a condescending manner. Reply guy is just butting in with a comment.
Perhaps we should say "this subject fascinates me" before infodumping?
[email protected] @actuallyautistic

Tim_McTuffty , to actuallyautistic
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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 198 , Monday 13/05/2024

Up early for some reason beyond this simple squirrels reasoning.
Tidied up after herself, did my chores & went for a walk in the warm early summer sunshine !

I cannot seem to find the impetus to get stuff done, I work best to a deadline & the only person pushing me at the moment is me, which would be fine but I have minimal motivation levels at the moment.

I’m wondering from day to day like a leaf blowing in the breeze, no direction, no purpose.
At least the days are warm now & a lot sunnier, saving energy is easier , my lone mission to drag our energy bills down is less onerous in the summer.

Final Thoughts.

I suspect that I am going through a depressive episode, I hope I come through to the other side soon.

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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@Tim_McTuffty ((((hugs)))) and positive thoughts @actuallyautistic

LehtoriTuomo , to actuallyautistic

Sitting in the bus after a day at work. Feeling tired. The meeting that ended the day dragged on and I stopped even trying to follow the discussion. I haven't listened to music in a bus in ages but now I find myself thinking that maybe I should buy a set of noise-canceling headphones.

The bus is hissing loudly, there are conversations that I can't hear which somehow makes them even more annoying. On top of all I'm sitting under a loudspeaker that plays the stop signal in a very loud tone. Shit, it rang again and startled me. Why does it have to be that loud?

Fortunately I'm not too far from home but still.

@actuallyautistic

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@LehtoriTuomo You do?? need to treat yourself to a pair of noise cancelling headphones. It is much harder to block irritants when you are tired. @actuallyautistic

pathfinder , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

Much to my shock I realised that I could be autistic when I was 53, roughly 7 years ago. And it was a shock, even though I suspect a very small, well hidden and very much ignored part of me, might have suspected. No one told me about it, or suggested that it might be the case. I did not see myself in relatives, the way so many of us do. I just happened to come across an autism test online and for no particular reason, took it.

It was that, that started me on my path to realising and finally accepting the truth that I was autistic. But, looking back, I sometimes find it hard to understand how I didn't know earlier. So much of my life now, just screams autism at me. But even ignoring the horribly ableist and medieval view I had of what autism was, the main reason why I didn't was probably because I could mask, both from myself and others, so well.

It was, I realise now, a life lived in denial. A denial of how much things bothered me, how much effort I had to put into things. Even a denial of the things I knew I couldn't do. Because this is the thing about appearing to mask so well, for so long. It is, in a sense, a lie. I couldn't mask well, if at all. Not all the time. Not in all situations or circumstances. There were things I just couldn't cope with, or even begin to deal with. But the trick was, that I either knew about them, or learnt the hard way about them and then I could manage my life to avoid them. Because they were things I could live without, without affecting how I appeared to be coping. Things that didn't affect the way I lived, even if they did affect my sense of worth. Because, how broken did you have to be, not to be able to go to crowded events, like a sports match, or a concert? Or to be able to deal with the socialising of a large gathering, or a family event, without having to hide in the kitchen, or forever outside, or break down in a toilet?

It was all part of how I masked myself from myself. The internal masking, as I like to call it. If I couldn't cope, then I was broken. If I couldn't stand something, then I was too picky, or sensitive, or I simply needed to learn to ignore it. And somehow I did learn. I learnt how to cope with noise and smell and visual overwhelm. I learnt to not let things bother me. To a point at least. There was always a step too far, when I couldn't, or didn't have the energy any more to maintain it. And this did take energy, a lot of it. Something I've only realising now that I don't have the energy to spare to even try it. Or the ability to, in many respects now that I know what I was trying so desperately to hide from.

Because when the truth is known, it's far harder to deny it. It's far harder to live the life where appearing to cope, is as good as coping. Where blaming yourself, is easier than seeing others faults. Where ignoring the pain, makes the pain go away. It's hard to see the mask as a benefit and always a good thing, rather than the shield and tool it always was.


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@pathfinder How well you tell the story of self-realisation, Kevin. I am still only capable of responding to certain experiences of others, as they relate them...perhaps because I am not quite 2 years into my own self-realisation. Thank you. @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder Too true. Already, pushback from those who reject 'political correctness', has thrown new barriers up. Disability of any description is bad. When governments actively create disability through neglect, then punish those who they've disabled, there doesn't seem much hope for us😕. It looks like we'll just have to keep muddling along, as we've learnt to do.😳 @Susan60 @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder Lawks, yes. Libertarians are allergic to any form of disability. They're afraid that it's contagious. They certainly seem to have made official diagnoses far too expensive, and convoluted. @Susan60 @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder With everything, that's their solution. We had a state government that simply 'erased' the waiting list for elective surgery - thus 'fixing' the problem🤦‍♀️ The same party is now attacking the present government for 'ramping' at hospital Emergency Departments,(caused by Covid, RSV, & reduced staff...see Covid, RSV, etc.) and the growing Waiting List.🙄 (what's hypocrisy?) @Susan60 @actuallyautistic

Tim_McTuffty , to actuallyautistic
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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 186 , Thursday 02/05/2024

So I’ve been feeling ruff as a bears bum for a few days now (again , you would think more regular exercise would take me the other way 🙄) so I planned to try and sleep thru to 8ish. I put in my ear plugs & set the alarm accordingly.

I was awake at 05:50 … a mix of my traitorous body responding to its Pavlovian training & the noise of herself romping round the house like baby elephant , in that considerate way she has.

So here I sit, my brain is moving at glacial speeds & my body feels like a train hit it.
At least she’s in the office today, so a day of peace & quiet!

I hate how little I am able to do at the moment , either thru illness or depression stealing my motivation.
Sometimes I wish I had a child , or a dog - they seem to be highly motivational from what I can see from the lives of others who have them.
I would be a terrible father or dog owner though , so probably best all round that I avoid both .

Oh while I’m on a roll I WISH my tinnitus would give me a break! It’s been screaming so loud in my ears for days now!

Where to go next on my ASD journey has been on my mind for a few days, the GPs completely negative reaction last time I went to see him has ripped me asunder. Where I had a set path now I flounder in indecision. I guess I have to decide if I need to be able to function better in society , or whether I just stick 2 fingers up at society & return to being a hermit.

Had a really epic FO4 session today after I finished my chores & then when Mrs S. got home we went & did our civic duty & voted - me being plagued by dizzy spells, nausea & exhaustion on the walk there and back & her being plagued by her dodgy knee ! We made a right pair, I think the thing that holds our marriage together at the moment is the need for mutual physical support , together we make a whole working person !

Caved & watched the first episode of Fallout - I’ve missed a couple of the games so I don’t know just how true it is to the earlier games, but I (& surprisingly Mrs S.) enjoyed it , so yeah, roll on ep 2 !

Final Thoughts.

Others write of monumental achievements , of beating challenges , or of coping with pain or personal circumstances that would reduce a normal person to jelly. I wish I were that strong.

I defo have EDFitis again , & it seems as though it’s gonna take its own sweet time to pass. Bummer !

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

Tooden ,
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@Tim_McTuffty Since I started to follow you, you have made fairly big strides in self-care, and positivity. Reading about fellow autist's journeys, helps me also. 😊❤ @pathfinder @everyday_human @PixysJourney @actuallyautistic

pathfinder , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

No matter how well I learnt to mask, no matter how well I learnt to get on with people, if not in any deep and meaningful way, at least superficially. There has always been one skill that I have never mastered and that is simply the ability to not upset people and especially without having the slightest idea how.

Or that I didn't for a long time, anyway. It was only when I realised that I was autistic and that the way I looked at the world was in some ways substantively different from the way many allistics looked at the world, that I began to understand something. Allistics tend to find validation externally, through feedback from the group or the part of society that they identify with, whereas autistics tend to find it within themselves, in their own reason and sense of worth and value.

Now I must stress that in many respects this is a generalisation and obviously there will be a lot of variation and degree in how true this is. But in its more extreme forms, it could very well explain many of the experiences and difficulties that I've had.

Because if someone's self-worth, the value they see in their life and actions, is almost entirely based on their interactions with the dynamics of the group they identify with, or the society they live within and not from their own judgement, then this could lead to certain choices and reactions that are quite frankly alien to someone like me and that I could easily end up in conflict with and all without really trying to.

For example, if the value of a child reflects back on its parents. Then in the extreme case the values and behaviour expected from that child, are not those of the child, but of the parents in terms of the group the child is meant to be representing them in and how well it is doing that. So any sense of divergence from that or criticism of that child, no matter how slight that might be, could easily be seen as an attack on the parents and reacted to accordingly, irrespective of how reasonable or just it was.

Equally, of course, worth, praise, or rewards, can also become divorced from any sense of reality. All that matters is that you, whether that's through your children or not, are being valued, not whether there is any justice to it. Because the truth or validity of it, is not based on how you see yourself, but only on how others see you. And in the extreme case, it doesn't even matter how they came to this view, as long as they have it. So worth can become something to be manipulated and played for and how you really are and how you actually feel about yourself becomes almost irrelevant to this process.

That people could even be this way, that everything could become how you're being perceived and anything that effects that negatively can be something to be attacked, is still something that I struggle to understand. It is so foreign to my nature. But, it certainly explains so many of the times that I've upset people, because I wasn't playing this game, or seeing the world the way I should and didn't even realise it.


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@pathfinder It's part of the trauma, that we have to deal with - that we didn't know why we acted and reacted as we did. That, in some cases, we can't mend fences, or reconstruct bridges. That, to some people, we will always be weird, or seem aloof. We are recently realised , and have to forgive ourselves for what we didn't know. @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder Very true. Finding peace in myself is a quiet, healing joy. ❤ :bear_hugs: @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

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@EVDHmn We're all on a learning curve. Our relationship with ourselves does frame our relationship with others. Trial and error, or work-in-progress, or rebirth.😊 @pathfinder @actuallyautistic

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@actuallyautistic

Would any of you be interested in doing a weekly audio conference? I have organizer stTus on meetup could do audio and discuss how everyone is doing checkins, talking science, or what it’s like for you personally in the world coping ?
Perhaps zoom audio, no judgements safe spaces etc over the internet ? Discords etc

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@olena So common, it must be something most autists have, like tinnitus. There are degrees, and distinctions, according to the blurb. I cannot distinguish individual voices in a crowd. I have trouble processing audial instruction, and bass beats interfere with my heart rate. @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

26pglt , to actuallyautistic
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This account of a teenager & his family is heartbreaking 💔.

Families raising kids who have violent meltdowns struggle to find support. Kids like this are acutely vulnerable to the influence of anyone who is kind to them & any group in which they find acceptance. For those of us who experience meltdowns, learning to understand & manage our overwhelm & the eruptions it leads to is a lifelong journey. For most of us it’s full of failure & shame. Where & how can we find acceptance & love? How can we learn to be gentle with ourselves?

I think many folk, especially those of us who grew up undiagnosed & unsupported then raised similarly undx, distressed, overwhelmed & volatile autistic kids while unable to find help, would shudder with recognition at elements of this tragic story.

My heart goes out to this family ❤️‍🩹 @actuallyautistic

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-29/parents-of-teenager-who-stabbed-bishop-give-first-interview/103767910?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other

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@moz :florshed: @janisf @26pglt @actuallyautistic

ashleyspencer , to actuallyautistic
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I googled “autism and traumatic brain injury” hoping to find something about living with both at the same time.

ALL the results were studies done to see if TBIs cause autism. 😒

Not one article, reddit post, quora post, was about living with both. Ugh.

@actuallyautistic

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@ScruffyDux Just look at Ashley's profile😊 @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

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@ashleyspencer People like her drove me off Facebook. Irrational, abusive stickybeaks. Can't mind their own business. Social Media has given the mean, nasty creatures a place to vent their unreasonable fury at everyone, without fear of physical repercussions. And Farcebook/Meta rewards the bullies. @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic

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@ScruffyDux Last year, someone created a furor on the actually autistic hashtag, saying that anyone over 30 something couldn't possibly be autistic, because autistics don't live that long. It was very distressing. They were formally dxed, as a child. If this is what ABA does to young Autists, it is evil. @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

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@ashleyspencer Yes. Brainwashing is inherently evil, and does irreparable harm.😣 @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic

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@pathfinder I think fear also drives 'gatekeeping'. You can't be this 'because', or that 'because', is probably internalised ableism, and the cliquiness of allistic behaviour. The I-won't-let-you-join-my-club kind of thing.
Also, there is no rule that Autists have to like each other, or agree 100% of the time. @ScruffyDux @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

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@BernieDoesIt Yes. I think it was accurate. They totally lost it. @ScruffyDux @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

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@NickSchwanck Same. The poor fools. @ashleyspencer @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic

alexisbushnell , to actuallyautistic
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Just watched the Autism From The Inside video about the SciShow episode.

Really great response video IMO. I've sent it as a reply to the We're Here email list too in the hopes it does make its way to the SciShow team and folks are listened to.

Video is here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bYPdc2cT-E

Edited to tag @actuallyautistic

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@alison As someone who was brought up Catholic, I heard 'the younger they are...' and was transported back to 'First day of school' horrors.😣 Talk about ABA-like lessons. @alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic

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