Thank you everyone who helped me with this (quoted post below), whether you replied, boosted or starred it, I love you for being part of this supportive community where I feel safe enough to share such a monumental event in my life (yet another one, omg, what a crazy week or two this has been!!)
Going to try to forget about having told my mum. It might not mean much to her, so maybe she’ll just not really be bothered about it. Or maybe she knows a little more than I realised, and that’s why she seemed so chilled about it. I just hope not much changes, to be honest.
I have my graduation celebration next weekend with photographer. I don’t want to invite a super stressful week in the run-up to that by telling my brother too quickly, without thought. Not sure I’ll even smile much for the photos that are meant to capture how utterly gobsmacked I am to have earned a degree!! I need to slow down, not rush. I do just want this “secret” off my plate, but it’s just one more week. I’ve known I’m autistic for a little over 3 years, ADHD for a few weeks. I can do this. (I hope!)
This might not sound related but it is… The thing is, only in the last few months (maybe ~6-8 months) I have started to really and truly accept my chronic illness, ME/CFS, and finally get proper medical attention. After 4 verbal diagnoses in the 14-15 years I’ve been unwell, FINALLY a doctor wrote the damn diagnosis down in my patient profile. And then I’ve had a series of 6 group sessions with other patients for the first time ever, being supported as we learn (or re-learn mostly in my case) how to manage this illness. So… only recently I’ve started to be more open to all family and friends about even having it because it’s felt more socially valid. I carried it like shame and self blame due to awful doctor comments in the past, but now I’ve been shedding that shame. My family have been learning a bit about it properly - even though I mentioned it in a low-key brief way several times in the past so it wasn’t a secret. They’ve already been on a bit of a “oh I see! You have a chronic illness, and it’s debilitating, stops you doing x and y, and there’s currently no end in sight…” journey. They’re already seeing me in a different light.
So I haven’t wanted to add yet more to this by saying, “Oh by the way, I’m also AuDHD”. Especially because it might create unpredictable domino effects like either questioning me and all my “new” diagnoses (obviously these are either 14-15 years old now or lifelong). My brother’s style might be to claim I’m using them as excuses not to work full-time, etc. OR it might go the other way and they realise how we’re a neurodiverse family (we are!)… not sure how they will process that realisation and if I’ll be harmed along the way while they’re learning. All I know is several family members have a history of “ATTACK FIRST, listen and learn later!” And it hurts. I love them, so don’t wish to cut ties. I’m trying to love them through it, and need to learn kind - and strong - boundary setting at the same time. Not easy for many of us, especially “later” (whatever that means) identified, ND with a history of being invalidated and attacked for our differences at every turn.
Anyway, thanks again for all the support. 💝
Any words of wisdom or support are still very much welcomed!! I’m still scared underneath about this whole situation, but doing my best to have faith in myself, come back to centre, find peace and just emanate calm kindness as best I can.
Ah, I see. Your point isn’t necessarily reliability but availability. It’s an interesting perspective to hear that the US appears to be so behind (at least from a European perspective of course) when it comes to messaging apps. As far as SMS reliablity goes, I have occasionally had messages not send, or have messages come in delayed considerably. Or stuff like 2-factor auth texts not coming in, requesting a new one and then suddenly receiving 3 at a time. Not deal-breaking or anything, just the occasional annoyance.
I don’t think WhatsApp allows you to send a message to someone who doesn’t have the app. So WhatsApp would just inform you. Although I don’t recall the last time someone did not have either WhatsApp or Signal installed. But again, that appears to be far more common in the US?
Do you ever miss the extra features that web messaging brings, like in-chat polls, voice messages, etc…? I’m not sure how much of that RCS supports (because almost nobody uses that here). To me it seems like the convenience of web messaging outweighs the “does person x have app y” question, but that’s probably because I never really have to ask myself that question.
I also just realised that you state that everyone has SMS messaging. There are phone plans available here that don’t offer SMS messaging anymore. You can still receive them, but sending them either doesn’t work or costs a high premium (obviously this disadvantage is offset by a lower price for the rest of the plan). I wouldn’t be entirely surprised if SMS eventually just gets phased out.
if you know there are exactly two additional characters
this is pretty much irrelevant, as the amount of passwords with n+1 random characters is going to be exponentially higher than ones with n random characters. Any decent password cracker is going to try the 30x smaller set before doing the bigger set
and you know they are at the end of the string
that knowledge is worth like 2 bits at most, unless the characters are in the middle of a word which is probably even harder to remember
if you know there are exactly two additional characters and you know they are at the end of the string, the first number is really slightly bigger (like 11 times)
even if you assume the random characters are chosen from a large set, say 256 characters, you’d still get the 4-word one as over 50 times more. Far more likely is that it’s a regular human following one of those “you must have x numbers and y special characters” rules which would reduce it to something like 1234567890!?<^>@$%&±() which is going to be less than 30 characters
and even if they end up roughly equal in quessing difficulty, it is still far easier to remember the 4 random words
I wonder if the reason that English was my least favorite subject in school despite getting As in it had something to do with autism. It always struck me as somewhat vague and subjective. Was not liking it for those reasons an autistic thing or just a me thing?
@independentpen this sounds likely. I remember in French class being told "these are the patterns, except for X,Y and Z", and asking "but why these exceptions?" The teacher got annoyed and snapped back "they just are, so memorise them and stop wasting time with questions".
But I can only memorise things that fit into patterns. I did very poorly at languages because the answer was always "just memorise it"
Companies are going all-in on artificial intelligence right now, investing millions or even billions into the area while slapping the AI initialism on their products, even when doing so seems strange and pointless....
That’s kind of abstract. Like, nobody pays purely for hardware. They pay for the ability to run software.
The real question is, would you pay $N to run software package X?
Like, go back to 2000. If I say “would you pay $N for a parallel matrix math processing card”, most people are going to say “no”. If I say “would you pay $N to play Quake 2 at resolution X and fps Y and with nice smooth textures,” then it’s another story.
I paid $1k for a fast GPU so that I could run Stable Diffusion quickly. If you asked me “would you pay $1k for an AI-processing card” and I had no idea what software would use it, I’d probably say “no” too.
It’s become clear to many that Red Hat’s recent missteps with CentOS and the availability of RHEL source code indicate that it’s fallen from its respected place as “the open organization.” SUSE seems to be poised to benefit from Red Hat’s errors. We connect the dots.
Mmm, maybe. “Joining the dots” also can be read as “taking a lot of bad feeling about X, and some good activity about Y and exaggerating both”
EL is pretty dominant still, although much of that seems to be Rocky/Alma rather than RHEL, but there’s no way to get real numbers.
What I have seen is a lot of uptick in Debian and Ubuntu servers. We are moving away from EL towards Debian now because of what we perceive as ongoing instability in the EL ecosystem caused by Redhat. Our business depends on a reliable Linux OS so we’re doing the maths.
And none of that means Russia is claiming Ukraine.
In fact, by recognizing Luhansk and Donetsk as independent countries, they were explicitly saying that Luhansk and Donetsk were not part of Russia.
It’s not the same situation as Taiwan or Palestine, where China and Israel respectively claim that those territories are theirs and include them on official maps.
Edit: Look at official maps of Russia from Russia. The annexed territories are shown as part of Russia, but the rest of Ukraine isn’t.
Edit 2: You guys, this isn’t a matter of opinion. You’re just misunderstanding the situation. “Territory X belongs to country Y” can depend on who you ask, but “Country Y claims territory X” is a simple fact that is either true or not.
In fact, by recognizing Luhansk and Donetsk as independent countries, they were explicitly saying that Luhansk and Donetsk were not part of Russia.
They passed actual law saying otherwise almost two years ago. You are just making this up.
It’s not the same situation as Taiwan or Palestine, where China and Israel respectively claim that those territories are theirs and include them on official maps.
What, because there's some of Ukraine left afterwards on the condition that it only does what Russia wants it to do?
The initial claim was that it was a land grab, which it absolutely is.
“Territory X belongs to country Y” can depend on who you ask, but “Country Y claims territory X” is a simple fact that is either true or not.
It's only a simple fact if you look at maps and literally nothing else. A vassal state is not really independent, is it?
Kind of intentionally obtuse since they used eₑ as a variable and eₑₑ as another variable, and used (e-e) as an exponent a few times, which is basically the equivalent of multiplying by 1 in a fancy way. The first and last term also perfectly cancel out.
Steam DB has a pretty decent search. It’s not SQL but the filters are a bit better.
I know how you feel tho - so few consumer orgs give us an advanced search worth it’s salt. I want to have (x AND y) OR z, or maybe x AND (y OR z)… Not whichever specific combination was preordained for me.
We’re so used to dealing with real numbers it’s easy to forget they’re terrible. These puppies are a particularly egregious example I like to point to - functions that preserve addition but literally black out the entire x-y plane when plotted. On rational numbers all additive functions are automatically linear, of the form mx+n. There’s no nice in-between on the reals, either; it’s the “curve” from hell or a line.
Hot take, but I really hope physics will turn out to work without them.
Jack Black has said he’s cancelled the rest of the Tenacious D world tour after his bandmate Kyle Gass sparked an outcry with a comment about the assassination attempt on Donald Trump....
Tbf, by this logic, we can never say “most X Y” without having the actual data to back it up, and neither of us do, so stalemate I guess. All either of us have is empirical.
I’m not arguing with your pacifism, I’m just arguing with the premise that most progressives aren’t literally saying “dammit why’d he miss” right now.
It’s crazy how often I see people doing this; they’re ardently against Trump’s efforts to turn the presidency into a dictatorship, while at the same time complaining that Biden didn’t do x y, or z when those aren’t things that fall under his purview.
What do they want?? Dictatorship is ok if it’s the neo-liberal I like?
Right but I am on your side about this. I want everyone to have housing that is awesome and within their price range. I just don’t agree that finding ways to punish immigrants and minorities is the best way to go about it. There is a difference between me saying “I want X and don’t think Y is the best way to get X” and me saying “fuck your family, I hate Y and lets do X to hurt them”. Me discussing how to solve a problem is not me denying the problem exists or should not be solved.
Also you and me are good. I am sorry for your loss. I imagine I would be very sensitive to this subject in your situation.
I’m going on my first overseas trip with my girlfriend since we started dating. I worked hard all last year to earn and save money for this trip. It will be our first international trip ever, and I want to make it perfect, memorable, and the best trip of our lives....
Do fewer things better. Don’t try to cram a million things into a day. Set a “if we do X and Y today then we will be satisfied “ goal to keep perspective. It is easy to get overwhelmed by all the things you could do, so try and be satisfied with what you did do.
The x axis is position. The y axis is energy. The blue box is a potential energy barrier. The red curve shows the wavefunction of a particle at a certain energy level coming in and tunneling through the wall. (the wavefunction actually live on a different y-scale from this plot and is only superimposed here for illustrative purpose, so don’t use the energy y-scale to read into the amplitude of the oscillatory part).
A BIPARTISAN SAMPLING of the world’s greatest perpetrators and enablers of political violence has rushed to condemn political violence following the shooting attempt on former President Donald Trump on Saturday....
How do you think quickly if you need to say everything in your mind? Is the voice very quick?
Pretty quick, yeah. It’s basically my voice, but also, I don’t need to breathe or move my mouth or anything. Ever heard the term “stream of consciousness”? Also, grammar and punctuation aren’t necessary, I can just talktalktalktalktalk and I understand myself because I always know what I’m saying.
I’m sure if you could listen to my thoughts it would sound like a fucking mess tho lol
But also, there’s a difference between when I’m just thinking about stuff to myself and when I’m busy doing something. If I’m in a flow state or “in the zone”, I don’t necessarily monologue everything I’m doing. I just do it, y’know? It’s only when I slow down to think that my thoughts actually become dialogue again.
It’s also unfathomable to me how people can think of what they need to do tomorrow and not see it.
I can’t imagine why you need to see it! I know I need to lay some mulch on my garden tomorrow, I don’t need to visualize that? I can just make a mental note of it and keep that thought stored away as part of a to-do list. What would I even use pictures for when I can just tell myself “I need to do X, Y, and Z”?
I just think we don’t understand our own internal processes very well. The conscious part may come long after we had the thought and if you say it or see it doesn’t matter.
Well yeah, consciousness is an illusion. I think they’ve demonstrated with active brain scans that our conscious thoughts come after we’ve already made subconscious decisions. We make up our minds before we know it, consciousness is more like a way we convince ourselves to do the things we’ve already decided we want to do.
That’s a fun paper, because they basically find no actual negative health effect, then just ignore that fact and continue as if they did.
First, the global focus on the obesity epidemic has largely overshadowed the persistence of underweight in some countries. Our results show the need to address the remaining underweight problem
Second, although adiposity has been consistently shown to be an independent risk factor for several NCDs in individual-level epidemiological studies, at the population level, the effect of rising BMI on the course of mortality reduction has so far been somewhat small in high-income countries
All the study shows is that as people get richer they can overcome being underweight, which is an incredibly good thing - it reduces health risks significantly. Then it goes back to the usual moral panic shit about how that’s actually a bad thing.
Essentially everything you ever heard about weight and fat is ideological, not scientific, in basis. Research consistently finds results that aren’t statistically significant, then just blathers about how that statistically significant result would exist if they could account for x y z. There’s no scientific basis to the claim.
The basics of it are that extremes on either end, of being underweight or very overweight, are health risks. The health risk of being “overweight” are massively overstated, because people like to judge and bully fat people.
At my previous job their was a role where you just called insurance companies and asked them incredibly basic questions about what they planned to do for a patient with diagnosis X and plan Y. This information should be searchable in a document with a single correct answer, but insurance companies are too scummy for that to be reliable.
In 2021 we started using a robot that sounded like a human to call instead. It could handle the ~80%+ of calls that don't use any critical thinking. At a guess, that's maybe 5-10% of our division's workforce that wasn't needed anymore.
With the amount of jobs like this that are 100% bullshit, I'm sure there are plenty of other cases where businesses can save money by buying an automated bullshit generator, instead of hiring a breathing bullshit generator.
Samsung going all in on Google Messages in US, stops pre-installing Samsung Messages on Galaxy phones (9to5google.com)
cross-posted from: lemmy.world/post/17792695...
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Survey shows most people wouldn't pay extra for AI-enhanced hardware | 84% of people said no (www.techspot.com)
Companies are going all-in on artificial intelligence right now, investing millions or even billions into the area while slapping the AI initialism on their products, even when doing so seems strange and pointless....
How SUSE Is Replacing Red Hat as the Linux and Open Source Enterprise Standard-Bearer (fossforce.com)
It’s become clear to many that Red Hat’s recent missteps with CentOS and the availability of RHEL source code indicate that it’s fallen from its respected place as “the open organization.” SUSE seems to be poised to benefit from Red Hat’s errors. We connect the dots.
Israel's Knesset passes bill rejecting Palestinian statehood (www.middleeasteye.net)
Israel’s Knesset passed a resolution rejecting the establishment of a Palestinian state on Thursday....
the data does not lie (m.ating.press)
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Valve runs its massive PC gaming ecosystem with only about 350 employees (arstechnica.com)
Microsoft to Copyright Pi, Found to Contain Entire Arial Font (sebastiancarlos.com)
Jack Black axes tour over bandmate's Trump comment (www.bbc.com)
Jack Black has said he’s cancelled the rest of the Tenacious D world tour after his bandmate Kyle Gass sparked an outcry with a comment about the assassination attempt on Donald Trump....
Biden to push for Supreme Court ethics reform, term limits and amendment to overturn immunity ruling, sources say (www.cnn.com)
Sniper took picture of Trump rally shooter, saw him use rangefinder before assassination attempt, source says (www.cbsnews.com)
Biden to call for 5% cap on annual rent increases, as he tries to show plans to tame inflation (apnews.com)
Sidebar Update: Civility
The News Community updated their civility rule, and based on recent reports here and in Politics, it seemed like a worthy addition to our rule-set....
First overseas trip with my girlfriend – Any tips to make It our best trip?
I’m going on my first overseas trip with my girlfriend since we started dating. I worked hard all last year to earn and save money for this trip. It will be our first international trip ever, and I want to make it perfect, memorable, and the best trip of our lives....
calculate the transmission coefficient
The Only Kind of “Political Violence” All U.S. Politicians Oppose (theintercept.com)
A BIPARTISAN SAMPLING of the world’s greatest perpetrators and enablers of political violence has rushed to condemn political violence following the shooting attempt on former President Donald Trump on Saturday....
People who are 1s and 2s on this scale, do you watch adult video?
The amount of sugar consumed by children from soft drinks in the UK halved within a year of the sugar tax being introduced, a study has found. (www.theguardian.com)
cross-posted from: sh.itjust.works/post/22143130
Goldman Sachs: AI Is Overhyped, Wildly Expensive, and Unreliable (www.404media.co)