I trialled the self hosted NextCloud for a while, but the quality of apps is just meh. So instead I bought a Synology NAS. Turned out their apps are actually on par with Google. And you own everything.
Kind of, you can share individual albums so it is possible to share all but one. This may or may not be practical though depending on your album structure.
Two different psychs now told me I have "autistic traits" significant enough to have fucked my life.
I'm functional enough that I don't qualify for state help, and won't be able to afford private care for a while, so I have to DIY.
Could anyone recommend resources on how autistic adults can learn to deal with the condition, especially when it comes to socialization?
Thank you <3
@xarvh
You are welcome in the #ActuallyAutistic community here. We talk about all types of things, including our life experiences, which can be very validating.
it is a puzzle as old as time... you buy one breakfast burrito on hopes that it will suffice, when even as you do it, you know you should get yourself two.
We humans and how we love to manufacture our suffering
we need some struggle with our joy to add some depth to the distinction to happiness -- to accentuate our sensory experience of it. I think that's true of everyone, but maybe useful/profound to wrestle or grok that for the @actuallyautistic.
Pema Chodron, among other buddhists, teaches us that to be human is to suffer. But that doesn't mean it's all suffering. Just that it's definitely a piece of the puzzle.
That's why on an otherwise perfect morning, I pine for more breakfast burritos.
@actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic Anyone ever tell you that you were being "too negative" or a "Debby downer" when stating facts about something? Just happened to me earlier with my family. In this case it was reasons why I prefer not to travel often (routine change haha). The whole time I was thinking, "but I'm not trying to be negative..."
@melindrea@Sci_Fi_FanGirl@actuallyautistic Idk if you're familiar with the YouTuber Paige Layle, but she made an interesting observation about "shop dads"; dads who have a workshop they retreat to when stressed or overwhelmed, and how it could be an indicator of undiagnosed autism.
I thought...hmm...my dad has always had a shop. In fact, he owns his own business and is doing contracting work all the time.
@melindrea@Sci_Fi_FanGirl@actuallyautistic Also hilarious to me that 90% of the time, my family never needs to hire someone to do maintenance work because my dad just "knows" how to do it. He is insanely good at what he does.
He shows me the electrical diagrams he draws for welding equipment/breaker boxes sometimes and it's like...how can you do all of this so flawlessly 😂
@Rapist@EmmaFaber@Lyx@nimt@pernia Putrid cock in bio t.me/addlist/ubhpy2wjaqg5zje0
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:bag: å pushar på å smeker, :bag:
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:bag: å pushar på å smeker, :bag:
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@shiri@LALegault@fishidwardrobe no one is speaking for all autistic people. That includes both you and I. If you somehow manage to deduce the intention by the original post, congratulations. I didn't. Looking for clues, I saw her posts with jokes and sarcasm about a topic, which was later directed at autistic 'experts' to explain. Then I tried to explain the relevant hashtags. If that's insulting and needing to screw off, I don't need to engage further. More context: https://hachyderm.io/@gaveen/112507224443372355
@gaveen honestly the bulk of your responses were fine, you're biggest case of stepping in it was the phrase "asking for basic decency" as @LALegault put it implied they were not being decent.
Then @fishidwardrobe and hard escalated and you got roped in with that.
I apologize, I wouldn't have been as harsh if it had just been your responses especially as you ended on "use your own judgement" (honestly, probably wouldn't have said anything at all at that point), so it was unfair of me to position you as a problem there.
I have just watched the 1st episode of A Kind of Spark thanks to @PetitPas
It’s a Irish British American Canadian series. In Canada I’m watching it on CBC Gem, in the UK it seems to be on the CBBC channel, for the others countries I don’t know.
I like it because the 3 autistic sisters are played by autistic actors, use of the words autistic, masking, meltdown. etc. Shows sensory overload, etc., ignorance and bias.
@adelinej@actuallyautistic oh US, I used to be a kind of a bad consumer of less then licensed goods mostly movies and music books on demand until I had a run in w some malware, particularly nasty, I blame that so I swore off content pretty much unless I really want to watch it. I just was thinking of trying an episode just to try it out .
Here's another example of masking sensory preferences because they're considered "childish":
One of my comfort foods is PB or Nutella sandwiches. While in Italy, I found a loaf of sliced white bread that has no crust, and I was shocked at the difference in my experience between this and normal bread with crust. It's so much more enjoyable and less stressful to eat a sandwich without crust.
It made me recall, as a kid, forcing myself to eat the crust because I would be mocked and shamed for cutting it off.
Even now, writing this, I feel a little self conscious. Like someone is going to say, c'mon, is the crust really so bad? How can eating crust possibly be stressful? You're being a wimp/making a big deal out of nothing.
In reality, it's a small thing. Yes, I can force myself to eat it. I've been doing that for 30 years. But all of those little small instances of masking add up.
Now that I'm thinking about it, I actually have a very specific way of eating a sandwich to minimize the discomfort of eating the crust.
Well... lesson learned here: find bread without crust back home, or don't feel shamed for cutting off the crust.