Sounds like narcissistic tendencies, when you stop feeding them they come back.
Had an ex like this too, the moment I called her bluff and said I was going to grab boxes to move out she changed her tune since the power dynamic shifted. Then she wrapped the conversation around how we should try again and it wasn’t that big of a deal what I’d done, etc.
Most of them just don’t want to admit anything they’ve ever said was wrong so the perspective changes and gaslighting starts to creep in.
That whole power dynamic thing was insane. For nearly 3 years my ex would throw me out, call me back, sit up in the bed and say, “I just don’t love you anymore.” I’d go stay at my mom’s, cry myself to sleep, get a random message a few weeks later, “We can work it out. Come home. No sex or anything, we’ll just watch tv shows and spend time together.” Oh, seems to be going alright, BAM, “I don’t love you anymore. Leave.”
I told her one time, “you’re going to make me leave, I’m going to randomly bump into a woman who is going through the same shit I am, we’ll bond, and I won’t come home when you ask me to. You keep playing these games, eventually you’ll lose.”
Well, I met someone else. She lost her fucking mind. Instantly, all of the power she had over me jumped into my hands like a bolt of lightning. I didn’t want it. I just wanted the chaos to end. I wanted to move on with my life and try to rebuild it.
She nearly drove me insane. She did everything she could to run my girlfriend off. She texted her mother, told her all this crazy shit. She texted her friends, said I was an abusive monster and she was just concerned. She told me she’d kill herself if I didn’t come right away in the middle of the night. I was afraid she’d do it, she had already pulled so much of her hair out that she was nearly bald. She seriously lost her shit. The look on her face when she held that power, I had never seen it on her before. She knew she had it, and she used every ounce of it on a whim to see me squirm I think. The second she lost it she was reduced to an infant.
Humans are insane. That time in my life taught me lessons I wish I hadn’t learned, but I am glad I did. I believe I would handle it all better if it ever happened again.
I was working at a hospital and an email came out asking if anyone knew where the Entonox delivery went as it had been ‘mislaid’. This fucking thing was a divers scuba bottle welded onto a trolley so it could be wheeled around easily…
Damn right the whole flat had a hookah session with it - that would have lasted all weekend!
Bad trigger discipline! I’m glad he took the clip out, but this is how accidents happen. What if a round is chambered? The bullet could go from the basement he lives in, through the kitchen floor and into his mom’s ass.
I remember showing up for tenth grade, looking at the list of assigned classrooms in the first day of the school year. Instead of the usual the digit number, it said “C1”. My classmates showed up, and we’re just as confused as I was.
The C turned out to be short for “container”, which we found in a corner of the school grounds.
That said, being able to quickly go outside in every break was pretty neat. And the school actually did get a second building only a few years later.
I had an older relative that watched The 700 Club like it was the news. This honestly is just mid-level crazy for them. Rest in piss Pat Robertson, you absolute fuckhead.
Same. I’ve lived in all the basic types of housing: apartment, duplex, house, etc… If I liked being woken up at 3am by some drunk asshole stomping around in the apartment above me or some kid storming in because they don’t understand addresses yet, then I would be doing that already. Maybe other people enjoy that sort of thing? You can have your congested living conditions, but leave me and my single-family zone out of it
Zoning is irrelevant. Perfect zoning laws could mean 10x the houses - and the investors will buy them all up and supercharge property prices all over again.
Seriously though, zoning laws are a big reason why we have the current housing crisis. If given the opportunity, someone or some business will build high density housing. But you can’t with he current implementation of zoning laws. Without that barrier, you would see a lot more high density building projects
Still we do need zoning laws. I don’t think anyone wants a factory or a garbage dump in their back yard. Used correctly zoning also helps limit sprawl.
I think there’s a blind spot on the left for this one. Opening up zoning for higher density is effectively a giveaway to local developers, who are invariably shitbags. It’d be preferable if solutions like banning corporations from owning housing could be enacted.
That’s based on the theory that there are enough houses and flippers and hedge funds are just sitting on them in order to rake it in later as property values are driven up. If that were true, we’d expect to see large vacancy rates in cities. Problem is, we don’t. My city has <4% vacancy for rentals and <1% for home ownership. This seems to be similar to the numbers in many other major cities in North America. If we got rid of every corporation that was sitting on a house unused, the available housing would go up by 4% or so.
We need more housing stock. As it stands, the only way to do that is a giveaway to shitbag developers. They’re the ones that hold the capitol for building more housing.
This could be mitigated by city councils also encouraging/mandating those developers to have unionized staff.
If you can’t answer that question, then you can’t decide on the correct course of action.
Vacancy rates in cities suggest the answer is that the empty homes are someplace else. The correct course of action, therefore, is building more in cities.
If that were true, we also wouldn’t see a low vacancy rate. It does happen, but not at a high enough level to substantially effect prices. I’d still totally support a law limiting how corporations can buy and flip homes. There’s just not much evidence that it’s widespread.
I know this is quite a bit later, but this comment confused me. I do not see how loosening zoning laws that limit density and banning corporations from owning houses are mutually exclusive.These policies can and should work together as part of a bigger urbanist policy. I also don’t see how supporting local developers is that bad of a thing. I’d rather have the money stay in the community and go to a community member than some multinational corporation who owns thousands of homes across the country. Still it isn’t the best. Cooperative housing or need based housing who is better, but realistically those can’t fill up the excess of stock that we need. We will need input from private developers, as well as a big government housing initiative.
Yeah, I’m absolutely not saying deregulation is a good idea, just like goat-law. I can see how my comment read though, rewrote a bit to make the cynical undertone a bit more obvious.
I was only pointing out that the current, specific set of laws, is keeping this problem a reality. That it’s not a particularly natural situation to be in.
No. Every American should be able to have 40 acres and a mule.
What do you mean, that’s more than 5x the total acreage of the US? This is a minor problem, we’ll just make more land or steal some more from the Indians.
How would you know, North America is literally missing the opportunity to have new development of things other than single family houses or apartment big buildings, bet you there would be a lot of demand for midrises, row houses, mixed neighborhoods in general
Row houses maybe, but there’s an adversity to condo fees which usually come along with every other source of housing. A lot of people want to feel like they own their home outright, so that once their mortgage is done being paid off, all they need to worry about is the hydro, water, and property taxes. There’s a lot of stories about condo groups doubling condo fees that put others off those types of places.
I feel like every single family home has HOA dues, these days, so that comparison is kinda moot. Whether it’s condo fees, HOA dues, or the local cartel extorting you for protection, you’re gonna get nickel and dimed.
Developers in my city are building apartments like mad and filling every single one of them. The common council finally opened up zoning for row housing in the past year.
We are totally screwed because now they’re going to put these in cheap laptops and peddle them to the elderly and the non-technically inclined who don’t know any better. Then, us tech people have to deal with “why is my Windows 11 pentium 3 pc so goddamned slow”
There’s likely some deep rooted trauma there which would be beneficial to have some professional guidance to uncover and address through rational eyes. Our brains will create defence mechanisms to protect itself from perceived harm, but the mechanism may not be a healthy one. A professional can help sus out areas of concern for you and give you new tools for dealing with those emotions.
Her unhealthy choices concerning social behavior and eating habits are likely symptoms of a deeper issue.
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