nah, every little step is good and this ‘perfection or nothing’ attitude is very damaging to anything, including the personal and collective fight for rights and privacy.
oh, sorry this the shitpost community, no need for me yo lecture. good joke then, yes it can be taxing sometimes. that sponge is literally me.
It can be sad to realize that perfect privacy and security can’t be achieved, but on the other hand, what you can’t change are things such as Intel ME, proprietary blobs in android or the linux kernel. It still pisses me off, but unless the FBI specifically targets me, there’s no reason to worry about this, and so I don’t. I instead focus on minimizing data collection, and being in control of my software, which is doable.
The issue is that you want privacy on a network designed to connect everyone and everything in the world. Not saying it’s dumb or a futile effort but you have to acknowledge that being private and being connected to the Internet are diametrically opposed concepts.
Statute mile is based on 1000 paces, and came from Roman soldiers marking that distance on roads. The pace is related to height, and people used to be shorter on average.
Nautical mile is based in the circumference of the earth, with 1 nautical mile being 1 minute of one degree
flour products cause me joint & muscle inflammation & pain, And yes I’ve tested this with delicious comforting saltine crackers and the pain is unfortunately real 😓 fruit has this effect on me too 😭
No GOP wet dream is basically what North Korea does.
You stand in line to vote and are handed a card. There is one box for the “candidate”. You vote by putting your card in the box while everyone watches.
I know I might be a bit of a porn snob but since I have the means I will attempt to pay for my porn. It’s hard to know if any random porn video was made ethically and that the actors/actresses are being paid appropriately. That’s why I like onlyfans. This way I’m, mostly, assured the money is is going directly to the preformer(s).
Not to say onlyfans can’t be predatory. As long as I am being descerning in my purchases I am comfortable with it. If an onlyfans model started wildly blurring the line of service provider and customer, I would recommend not paying for services any more. This can be difficult too because I know some of the services invovle intense interpersonal sexual fantasy. I would just say be careful. Especially if you find yourself struggling financially.
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This isn’t to say all free porn is ethically/morally wrong. I do still browse pornhub etc. I just don’t have the where withal to investigate every single content creator. You never know, the actor/actresses could seem as though they are producing the content at their own volition but there could be a business partner that is taking advantage.
All this to say, we should be more careful when consuming porn.
You are correct… but I’ve seen all sort of free content from producers (couples or just a single girl) that just like to share that stuff for free. Why? It’s a kink they have… and I have to mention that that amateur content is THE BEST porn I’ve ever seen! No bullshit, just people enjoying in the moment! Love it!
Basically, if I do watch porn, I only watch amateur content, mosly free, but some might also be promotional videos.
sometimes there are cute little upsides to paying for porn. for example, at least one person i followed would let you “purchase” poloroids they took of themselves (usually more artsy shots) which would then be sent via mail to you. she wrote little notes on the back, cool poetry, etc.
personally, lewd art from a lewd artist is way more alluring/interesting to me and adds a lot to the “experience.”
Is it similar for straight women then? Do straight women get uncomfortable when they see other naked women, but it’s “ok” when watching porn?
I think the difference is the subject of the image/video. If it’s an image/video of just a naked guy with his dick hanging out, that’s the subject you’re supposed to be focused on. I’m like, “Ok, I don’t care about this, this does nothing for me.”
Watching a naked dude in porn get his dick sucked or have sex, the activity and the woman is the focus and you’re often meant to stand in for the guy. The guy becomes even more sexually objectified than the woman, he’s just this background thing doing repetitive motions so that I can see the woman physically react to it. The more generic and unassuming the guy looks, the better, I literally want nothing the guy does to call attention to himself.
That’s why older porn is so jarring sometimes because of the weird habit of cutting to the guy’s moaning face in the middle of everything. Like, what the fuck was the thinking behind that “technique”?
That’s why older porn is so jarring sometimes because of the weird habit of cutting to the guy’s moaning face in the middle of everything. Like, what the fuck was the thinking behind that “technique”?
So, I am pulling this out of my ass (no pun intended) but I got a theory here. I think the way porn is consumed and its intention have shifted along with our perception and experience of sex.
Older porn seems to be more like “a movie depicting people having sex”. So it shows the woman and the man having sex, touching, kissing, enjoying. Both are crucial parts of the act. It also appears like the main function is to get you horny, not to get you off. I remember overhearing older people talking about watching porn together before having sex. I know this can still be a thing, but I’d argue that most modern porn is neither made for that purpose nor directed/designed in a way that would work for this.
Modern porn, in its insane abundance, is to be consumed alone for the purpose to jerk off to, to activate some dopamine receptors or whatnot, and its notorious addictiveness that makes you want more and more intense stimuli. You don’t need people for that, you need bodies.
The other thing is that sex - maybe because of the oversexualization, social media, internet, being wired 24/7, or maybe because of hookups having become so common, anonymous and risk free - has become somewhat sterile. Almost like an out of body experience. I forgot who said it - something like “we fantasize about fucking our partner while we fuck our partner”. We’re not in touch with ourselves and don’t experience the sex we have while we have it, we are almost disconnecting from the experience. It’s absurd but common.
You find this “sterility” in modern porn too; perfect bodies with no hair, no shadows, no marks of any kind, almost no body contact except the genitals. Just because there is a cumshot somewhere doesn’t make it less sterile or more intimate. You paraphrased this when you described the guy standing in for the viewer, being objectified even more than the woman, being this background thing doing repetitive motions.
(Disclaimer: I’m talking about a modern “we” and and older “they” in very broad terms here. Obviously people 30 years ago had disconnected sexual experiences and anonymous hookups and people nowadays also experience concentrated, fulfilling sex in which they are very much in touch with themselves. Definitely porn was used to be wanked to in the 70s just like some couples enjoy watching porn together today. And within its insane abundance you can most definitely find modern porn that is not sterile.)
Lol his stuff is great. My favorite is his debate with Jordan Peterson where he didn’t even realize it was a debate and just basically gave a talk about something he wanted to talk about lol. I’m a big fan but I wish he was sometimes a bit better at communicating his ideas effectively.
As a straight woman, I don’t focus on the guy either and it’s weird when he gets the spotlight (although it’s very helpful when he is attractive). It’s more about putting myself in the woman’s shoes and having the activity done to “me”.
And it may be a cultural thing but I’m not uncomfortable seeing other women naked.
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