Do you live in the US? If so, what region? Wanna go to a movie sometime and then get pancakes & talk about said movie?
I wouldn’t say that I have zero friends, but I certainly don’t have the social circle I wish I had. That worries me for my own future. I’m gonna die someday, and I don’t want to slip into the abyss feeling totally alone.
And the fact that I don’t seem to be an outlier makes me worried for the future health and resiliency of entire communities.
Nope. I live in the pacific northwest of the US and there’s something here called the “Freeze” and some people refer to it as the “ice out” but it’s a term for how people in this region don’t really like making new friends. A lot of people here are very against talking to strangers.
It’s because as we’ve connected more and more people together the less the connections are meaningful or need to be meaningful. If I disagree with you I’ll just go find another person to talk with instead of trying to find a middle ground. This is why extremism is in the rise. It’s much easier to just join a cult like community where everyone agrees.
You can see the obvious GOP Republican Trumpers but there is also a lot of left wing extremism on lemmy, creating an echo chamber which is like the start of a cult.
So the Internet inadvertently is causing loneliness and extremism due to our connections not being meaningful.
The left wing extremism is part of why I don’t have a lot of in real life friends anymore where I live. I’ve had to either distance myself from people or just stop talking to them at all because they don’t think I’m good enough or something.
Like earlier this year I joined a meet up group in my area and I guess I made the mistake of asking about pride events because somehow that conversation turned into someone saying “you’re a fucking idiot if you don’t question your gender” and other fantastic concepts like “if you’re cis you’re dumb”
That sounds tough. I certainly have had times that I questioned my gender but I am comfortable being a CIS white male. I can’t change how I feel. Equally though, I recognize that people don’t feel comfortable with what they were born with. I also understand that the line between male and female, biologically, is more of a spectrum. We all started as female. Men have emotional periods every month. There is clearly not a binary state between male and female. It’s not cut and dry as that. So I fully support LGBTQIA+. In turn, I hope they fully support me being who I am.
That said, I have run into the exact same types of people. People who call me an asshole just because of who I am. I try to point out the hypocrisy and they do not care. That said, fuck’em. I still support LGBTQIA+ because of 2 reasons. 1) Very simply one person does not dictate the whole community. 2) I’m not a hypocrite. I want them to support my right to live how I feel is normal for me and I am going to do the damnest that they get the same.
Realistically though, those people are just angry and upset because CIS white males are the people who attack them the most. Our human instincts are that if some type of person keeps trying to kill you or threaten you, you generalize that all those types of people are bad. That I totally understand. It’s really not their fault even that they’ve generalized me as a threat to them. It’s their survival instincts and the shittiness of the world we live in. The best I can do is be a point for them to look at and say “Yeah, I guess not all of those types of people are trashy assholes.”
So I don’t think that’s really the same left-wing extremism that I was originally talking about. There are left-wing communities like Linux, Open Source Software, Unionization, and Communism. Whereas if you aren’t 100% you might as well be -100%. If you have a slight disagreement on how the system should be ideally then you are the absolute enemy. Zero middle ground.
Yeah, I mean, I went to pride anyway and I’m bisexual so of course I support LGBTQ+ because I’m part of the group.
But I don’t get treated like I’m part of the group. I just had a trans girl the other day who felt the need to explain to me, what a bisexual is. Like she’s fucking explaining my identity to me and talking down to me and you’re right, they don’t see the hypocrisy because you know if someone explained her identity to her, she’d filp out and other people would be outraged. But being bisexual is seen as “whatever” so its okay to condescend to that group.
So I don’t think that’s really the same left-wing extremism that I was originally talking about. There are left-wing communities like Linux, Open Source Software, Unionization, and Communism. Whereas if you aren’t 100% you might as well be -100%. If you have a slight disagreement on how the system should be ideally then you are the absolute enemy. Zero middle ground
I don’t understand how that is left wing? Like what does Linux have to do with left wing politics?
Open Source and Linux are very communism-focused. It’s very heavy on working together and sharing everything even if that means ruining your ability to make a product in the capitalistic society we actually live in currently. The GPL license essentially forces you to contribute back to the original source. If you disagree with doing that you are seen as Microsoft-incarnate.
Don’t trust what people say from their individual stories. You need statistics of hundreds of cars, not single anecdotes. There must be sites that evaluate cars reliability, average spending on repairs and so on, model by model. Find those.
If you really want a long lasting machine, listen to this person. So much nose in this thread. For example: Subarus, in fact, do not have reputation for being long lasting without major repairs. Most people do not keep a vehicle for 10+ years nor for 300k miles. I have a vehicle that is older than that with 30% more miles. As said above, an anecdote.
Somebody keeps track of the cost of ownership over time. Perhaps a company, maybe a government agency.
Spent 10k on a 2014 Subaru Outback with 120k miles, headgasket leak. First and only owner. Whats even worse is brake error light after spending that much. Carmaxed that junk. I will never ever buy a Subaru. Replaced it with a Honda.
I think people’s impression of things is skewed because overall cars are much more reliable than they used to be. When I was a kid a car over 10 years old was something you expected to have issues, and certainly wanted to avoid buying. That’s not the case these days, and the huge numbers of functional older cars on the roads make us not realize just how many old vehicles are out there because they’re normalized.
My car is 15 years old, my wife’s is 9. They’re both perfectly fine and they don’t feel old to us.
I agree entirely with what you are saying, but that doesn't change what I said about how long people keep the same car. I suspect we are in the midst of the length of ownership increasing, but not to 10-20 years on average.
This one is my favorite and was super helpful last time I was looking for a car. You can see trends year over year in the same generation, so like if the first 2 years of a 4 year run had some chronic issue that was fixed for the last 2, that sticks out.
Yup, the only real gripe I have is a small percentage of the complaints seem to be more user error than design flaw, but that’s to be expected from any review site.
But the answer to this question is extremely well known across the internet and every thread that comes up will eventually boil down to the same two responses: Toyota and Honda as 1 and 1a.
There isn’t some secret answer to find, those are just the answers. People will definitely come up with anecdotes supporting various other cars, but as these threads hit a certain mass of replies they invariably boil down to those two choices.
They are not the flashiest cars, nor the most feature rich, nor the most efficient or most powerful. But if you want to buy a car that will just keep on running after years of minimal maintenance, often even after being abused during that time, a Toyota or Honda is what you should buy.
No not perfect, certainly. And cars are definitely complex, and recalls are a normal and expected component of car ownership for most people. Watch for them, get them rectified.
To be clear though, recalls are sort of outside what we are talking about when we are talking about reliable and long lasting cars. A recall is a known issue that the company addresses. It doesn’t mean the car won’t last.
Toyota and Honda, while they have the normal minor issues any car might have, are absolutely head and shoulders over other makers when it comes to their cars simply lasting longer with less maintenance.
Consumer reports is good for identifying which older models or vehicle have stood the test of time. I’m not sure it’s as useful for newer vehicles since it’s very hard to assess longevity of new models before there is data.
A lot of the time, people hear about Burning Man in the context of which privileged asshole grifter attended it. Elizabeth Holmes, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, etc other billionaires or influencers… And it is described as “tech bros’ favorite party” in the media.
So, given that impression of it, I can see how the default reaction to it failing is unsympathetic.
So strange to me. I have never been but the people I have met who have gone multiple times and loved it have made me think it’s a force for good.
My first exposure was a wedding I DJ’d, most of the people there were friends of the bride and groom from burning man and they are burned (ha) in my memory as the type of people who go. Even the “pastor” who performed the ceremony. Bride is a travel writer, husband is a doctor. All of the bridal party. Extremely intelligent, kind, funny humble humans all. I played EDM music. Best wedding I ever did.
I think a lot of people who dislike burning man are envious of the glamour and money being flaunted there. Lots of beautiful people, nudity, drugs, money, and partying.
Which I can definitely understand. A lot of people would love to be able to just drop what they’re doing and go walk around a desert playing at steampunk dress-up.
Ha… I guess that is what people see. I’ve never seen any firsthand evidence that that’s what it’s like. And there are a lot of dumb frivolous events based around motorcycles, airplanes, firearms, super heroes. I think they are dumb but would never laugh if their event got ruined.
Jealousy isn’t the only reason to feel that way. I don’t trust most rich people, not because I grew up poor, but because I didn’t. And the last thing I want is to watch them cosplay as radical artists, because I know actual radical artists.
All these people making piles of assumptions that if Elon Musk went once, everyone there must be a rich piece of shit, just makes me want to go even more just to spite them.
I know there’s a lot I don’t know about it, but what I do know is that for most who go it’s about art and being free to express themselves. Really strange how much hate people have for something they likely haven’t the first goddamned clue about
That leads to a follow up question to people from different areas: Is swimming a regular part of school sports?
I grew up in Germany with pretty much no lakes, and we had blocks of sports classes in the swimming pool from first grade - didn’t make me a great swimmer, but I can go swim a bit in a lake without having to worry.
Now we’re in Finland (lots of lakes here), and also swimming classes take place from first grade.
Yeah, a small village. It would have been a half-hour bus ride to the town of ~5000, but they couldn't compel all students to get a passport, and the nearest pool in the US would have been about an hour and a half away, so it was never part of the curriculum. Some kids had their parents drive them to Canada after school for private (expensive?) swimming lessons, but it wasn't standard.
Also american here and I learned to swim before I started preschool. But I also live in the land of 10,000 lakes so it’s basically a requirement here. So this is another one of those things that is going to depend on which state you’re in.
It’s generally not taught by default in US schools, but some schools offer it as an elective and/or as a competitive sport. Maintaining a swimming pool is an expense that many schools, especially in poorer districts, cannot afford. Outside of schools, there are sometimes community swim classes at places like the YMCA, but those require the parents to be actively involved (like with many extracurricular activities) and usually are an additional expense.
Physical education is usually a mandatory part of US schools through high school (where students graduate at around age 18), and schools often offer students a selection of sports for PE - I did fencing one year and wrestling, gymnastics, and archery other years - but swimming requires more infrastructure than a basketball court and some padded mats.
Maintaining a swimming pool is an expense that many schools, especially in poorer districts can’t afford.
German here: the solution for most of the schools I went to and heard of (elementary) was to get a bus to drive to the next public swimming pool and they’d let us use it for a few hours. The government is funding that. And that solution worked for most of them, although I only managed to get do my swim test after swimming classes in school because I was anxious about it.
When I was a kid in Florida in elementary school, that’s what most elementary schools did, mine was next door to a swimming pool so we just walked. At the time I think it actually was mandated by the state - swimming pools in backyards are extremely common there and it was an upsettingly common occurrence for kids to drown in them, so they took a week to make sure we all knew how to tread water. I don’t know if Florida kids still learn how to tread water or if swimming lessons are now woke somehow.
NL here. It’s similar here. I remember the bus, our school would hire a coach to take group 3 (think six-year-olds) to swimming at the pool on the other side of town. And until you had at least one diploma, you were required to come along. By group five, everyone had at least a basic swimming diploma.
Platforms don’t die like biological things do. They age and change until their core user base is alienated and the platform is then tucked neatly in a corner to operate in the shadows for the next 30 years.
I still find Slashdot relevant! It doesn’t feel like it faded into irrelevance, only that it stopped growing (it reached its needed critical mass and that was it)
thought Livejournal got taken over by Russia around 2008ish?
I have a hilarious permanent account on LiveJournal cause I wanted to keep it as a time capsule. This was so long ago, I actually mailed a check to Livejournal to pay for my stupid account to be permanent! So of course it’s just sitting there.
Yes and no. The domain is still up, but it just a stupid Gawker-like blog. No user posted content. An ad company bought the domain uses it for blog spam.
What happens if user spends over 3 minutes to write the post after uploading image?
Would user create a post with broken image link? or would there be some kind of “call home” API call on create post page so image wouldn’t be removed? (which has risk that API call could be replicated by a bot)
That is a good point. Could potentially not upload the image until the post is created instead of at image choosing, which would also alleviate the issue. But I’m not sure how that would work across web and mobile clients.
I think that's the best solution. I can't see a reason any client couldn't upload the image when the post is submitted. Currently the uploader is some fancy javascript deal and it's unnecessary.
This could be handled by the client. Get the Ruleset for image uploads (max size, format, etc.), Validate the image within the client, only upload when the post is published.
Then the delay between post and image only depends on your internet connection and the user can still take 3 hours to write a post.
As in when you’d normally get automatically logged out? If so, I’m not sure that would work since Lemmy uses JWTs that don’t expire (or if they do, not for a very long time) it seems.
Or make it like 1hr and don’t let the user know the url of the uploaded image until they post it, that way it wouldn’t be able to be shared or reported.
It's difficult to display an image without the client knowing the URL, but it would be possible to use a temporary URL that only works for that signed-in user.
Or just mark the resource as private and only serve it to the user who created it until they associate a post with it.
You would probably need a separate server to stage images like this, as your main image server probably shouldn’t have a login wall, which probably slightly complicates things but not badly.
Or you set a flag that says something like “incomplete image” and then only once user completes whatever operation by hitting “submit” do you then set it to complete.
And maybe while an image is not yet complete, only the uploading user can view the image.
Male Marines would fuck any woman. Get stationed in Camp Hansen. After a few months, any vagina is appealing. When going out in groups, the Marine that hooks up with the least appealing girl of a group (typically overweight), is highly appreciated and their contribution is called “jumping on the grenade” for taking a hit so that the other Marines could get laid.
When I was 20, we went to Spain for a joint exercise. I hooked up with a ~45 y/o Spanish woman. Best head ever.
It fluctuates based on workload, but I find myself working anywhere from 4-5 hours a day to basically nonstop during my workday (9 hrs). I do think most people are really only capable of doing “good” work, meaning being at their most productive, for about 3 hours a day though. The rest of the time is spent slogging through and putting out mediocre work, just to get it done.
The same for me (but 8 hour workday). Honestly, I couldn’t do the job if the working non-stop days were the default. I am wasted after such a high-stress day, so I need it to fluctuate. I also don’t feel bad on days where I do less, because I know I do a 110% on the other days. A workday is simply too long to be productive the whole time and the workload usually varies.
Oh man, I love Super Mario Bros 2! It’s one of my favorite games of all time.
So, each character actually has very different stats.
Luigi and Princess have obvious special jumping abilities. I think Luigi can actually jump a little farther… But both of them have significantly shorter jumps and run more slowly when carrying a vegetable, and both pick up vegetables quite slowly (especially the princess). This can be extremely detrimental on sand stages that require a lot of fast digging to get away from enemies, or picking up a block to throw at a boss before he attacks.
Toad is the opposite. He can pick up vegetables and run with them blazingly fast, and can run and jump as high (higher?) while carrying them.
Mario is balanced all-around.
It’s all explained in the instruction manual with some cute drawings. Each character is really quite balanced in my opinion.
I know, but I’ve run Mint, ubuntu, and Fedora in my exploration this year. Honestly I don’t think there is much difference in terms of how many command line actions between them.
Try OpenSuse. Tumbleweed is a rolling release that is fairly stable and it has Yaast, which allows you to control everything with a GUI, even if it looks quite dated
what command line options are you needing for audio? i use kubuntu, and the only reason i hit the CLI is to provide a special output so i can implement multiroom audio, with Snapcast.
Otherwise, i think i could install most stuff without it. OO, maybe spotify needed to add an apt repo, however i think there maybe a seperate installer (snap?) which would negate that.
i feel like you were not going for a vanilla instance if the latest kubuntu/ubuntu needed work.
thanks. I actuially have Pamac installed, and it works really well. I haven’t tried using Yay though and pacman has done the job so far. Is there a good reason to deploy yay as well?
Used to work retail so I feel this. Crazy thing is that sometimes it only takes one or two customers (and their gremlin children) to cause this kind of chaos. I’d go into fitting rooms and shit would be thrown all over the floors. Every now and then there would be extra surprises…like food or drink containers, or used diapers, or urine in the wastebasket. Fun times.
I’m still in grocery retail and this is incredibly accurate. Corporate set expectations to be “Grand Opening Ready” throughout the entire day. Customers dig and dig through the produce department like there’s going to be a bag of salad that is magically better in the back of the case. If expiration dates went down to the second, they’d look for the furthest from expiry.
It’s super frustrating because we get 7 trucks a week for produce, so we have a very healthy turnover on our stuff.
This job has changed me (especially going through COVID in the South). People are animals.
I find the kind of behavior you’re describing as a sort of non-necessary survival mode behavior. They want to not just get the product they need, they want to get the best darn carton of strawberries in the entire batch. We’re not talking looking over a few cartons, we’re talking those people that will go through EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. That side of the spectrum. I feel like people who do this might be predisposed to hoarding tendencies or other obsessive disorders. Don’t get me wrong, fk those people, but I really want to believe there’s a reason behind the madness.
Well also, stores routinely push the items that expire the soonest to the front. I usually check the expiration dates on a few items and they can be quite different. Some items go bad and the store might still sell them up to the expiration date.
If they always kept the best quality in front, no one would dig. When they literally are trying to sell lower quality food, fuck em.
This is the most unfair part and it expands to many areas of life. You can have a whole bunch of decent and normal people and just a handful of douchebags make it bad for everyone.
I wonder if higher fines, maybe relative to the person’s income, would help or just lead to different problems…
Anecdotal, but it seemed like 80% of the time it was the poorer folks doing this shit. Have a sister with 4 kids, super close to welfare level and her and her kids do this shit (mostly her kids do this and she just lets them). Shes just tired and inattentive all the time. What I’ve noticed gets her attention is when a store clerk or other customer calls them out and shames them.
So public shaming may help the problem, but in today’s world some of these people may turn rabid Mama bear on you. Some stores make you count items on hangers going in and then going out. That actually might work. But I’d rather see societal behavior change instead.
Side note: My sister has worked years of retail before so no idea how tf she does this.
“Stranger Danger” is largely a myth as the most likely place for a child to be abused is in their own home and the most likely culprit is a trusted family member.
My daughter used to say “that’s not fair” all the time. I would tell her “Life isn’t fair. If you expect it to be, you will only set yourself up for failure and disappointment.”
The number of transgender people that have been credibly accused of molesting children is minuscule. There are nearly 10,000 Catholic priests and church employees that have been credibly accused of child molestation. Catholic priests and Catholic church employees are more likely to assault children than school teachers (more priests etc. have been credibly accused than school teachers, and there are fa, far more school teachers than priests et al.)
And that’s not even getting into the “youth pastor that rapes teen girls” trope.
Credit scores. It goes up when you have more debt and goes down when you pay your debt off, but it goes down if you ask for a loan and it goes down if you even try to check what it is.
It doesn’t usually go down when you pay debt off. In fact, paying off all your credit card debt every single month is a great strategy that will get you a good credit score. And is ideal, because that way you avoid the high interest rates that credit cards have.
It also doesn’t go down if you check it with sites like Credit Karma. I believe what you’re thinking of is hard checks, which loan issuers use and they can slightly ding your score as they represent you about to get a new line of credit. Though honestly that part is pretty sketchy, since it applies even if you don’t get a new loan.
I’ve got dings on my credit report for no debt lol. I get dings for not using enough of my credit limit and also for using too much. It’s a stupid system that exists to measure how easily banks can fleece you.
It’s not about paying it off, it’s about closing an account. When you pay a loan off the account closes, and that’s where you get dinged. Paying off a credit card isn’t a problem, because the account is still active.
Yes that’s not my experience. It’s a measure of how responsibly you utilize your debt. They like to see you use your debt. But they like to see you pay it off. They don’t like for you to sit at a high percentage of debt. And they like to see that you’ve used your debt responsibly for an extended period of time
They want you in debt so you’re forced to work, and so that they can grift interest money off you. According to their system it’s irresponsible to not have debt, and it’s also irresponsible to ask what their magic number is.
This person is passionately against something they have convinced themselves they fully understand without having any real idea wtf they are talking about. Reading his comments is reminiscent of my mother arguing to me that cost of living isn’t real, such pointless garbage and she gets upset unless you just nod your head and act enlightened somehow. Reading his comments, he’s convinced himself of how the credit rating system is bad, likely reinforced by misunderstood anecdotal evidence and other ignorant people sharing their anecdotal misunderstood experiences, or even made up hogwash. So much so that he digs his heels in and refuses to learn anything that would even allow him to form a valid critique against the credit rating system, preferring instead to be convinced he is infallible and enlightened while loudly spewing confidently incorrect bullshit.
It’s so stupid, in a state with a communist vanguard party a social credit system is unironically better since it marks a step towards a classless moneyless society that the American credit score system is antithetical towards.
Our credit system must work differently here in Australia, because the only thing I think brings it down is not paying, defaulting, bankruptcy, etc. I have an excellent credit rating and I’ve had debts for years.
Long answer is read Marx, understand how capitalism leads to monopoly, monopoly leads to price gouging and collusion to prevent competition, and poverty exists because wealthy people suck up all the capital from a society. Imagine a billion dollars. That’s a thousand million. Then hundreds of billions by 20 people.
We’re in late stage capitalism and the enshittification is accelerating.
I spent the last 10 mins reading all the comments and I think we shat on all the distros available.
That’s the Linux community I love, good job people <3
Haven’t seen Santoku or Kali or several other special use-case distros (E: or Hannah Montana Linux hahahaha). But, yes, this is exactly the community I love and that extreme hate/love for specific distros is the reason I tried Linux in the first place (and the reason I stayed) hahaha
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