What being #AuDHD is like.
I decided to make miso-glazed eggplants for dinner. I usually make them with some sesame seeds. This time when I was almost done, I couldn’t find the sesame. I know I have at least two different packs somewhere. I found none on my seeds shelf, I wasn’t able to find any from the first try in my a bit too well-stocked pantry cabinets. So I got upset, finished making them as is, and don’t want them for dinner anymore, and am now cooking eggplants with za’atar
@olena@actuallyautistic yeah, days like that are no fun. Both of mine do the same thing in occasion, so I know the feeling very well. My last one was over simple rice that I had rushed to make for fried rice, only to discover while cooking the fried rice that it was sightly more wet than it should be. My whole belief in my cooking ability crumbled to dust for the day, and I ended up tossing the rice. Meltdown days are no fun, and i am sorry to hear about your bad day
@olena@actuallyautistic oddly, I actually ended up turning that experience into a teaching experience for myself. My mom never washed rice, so the concept of doing so baffled me for a long time. To prevent a repeat of soggy rice, I spent a week making sure I could make rice perfectly
I also have arthritis learned recently that pain tolerance can lower while in burnout. Doesn’t that make arthritis a cycle of burnout? Or I mean cyclical.
Which flavor of #neurodivergent is inability to feel belonging to any group? I think, I finally got why I don’t get that #gender thing. Basically, a gender is just another cohort, with some assumed properties. A group one feels belonging to. And I have never felt as a part of any group. I never fit in. Each cohort is supposed to have certain properties, and I just never have all. I just feel like impostor in any, including any gender/sexuality groups, including #agender#queer#nd#AuDHD
@btaroli@actuallyautistic@olena I just had a flash of an image of being able to interact with everyone primarily with ZERO sexual-orientation baggage and just as individuals and then seeing how that soul connection does or doesn’t develop on its own before even getting to the intimate options…and that image felt wonderful ❤️
@GinevraCat@btaroli@actuallyautistic actually, yes! When I got to the parts with them, I was like ‘why is it even supposed to be funny? They are the ones reasonable here’
How do my #actuallyautistic and #AUDHD folks figure out how to task switch to something even approximating relaxation from work or is this just not possible? Any strategies anyone uses?
@dr_rug_pull I agree that I tend to use music to detox after meetings, at least when working from home. Sometimes I use minor tasks that I find interesting to detox as well. Or podcasts. #ActuallyAutistic#AuDHD@actuallyautistic
@CynAq@hmm_cook@actuallyautistic ahaha People issues aside? Accessibility Coach. I wanna yell at people/corps for not making appropriate/legally-mandated/completely normal and low effort accommodations for people with disabilities of all kinds. Autism being just one of many things that are normative to the point that someone should write guide to it. “seeeeeeeee i promise it’s not that hard to be nice to people who have different needs than you.” 🤣
@notagander@CynAq@actuallyautistic Yes! I hope you do this and can help lots of companies which can help lots and lots and lots of other people! You’re right, it’s not that hard. It does take letting go of some assumptions though.