Meme? A meme has a joke in it, a meme is funny in one way or another, even a shitpost has some comedic value. This on the other hand is a fucking ai image, if it at least had a good caption or even a title making fun of something. If in your opinion a meme is just an ai image, maybe instead of sharing your ‘memes’ just keep them to yourself and keep creating more hilarious images for yourself.
think of the bird’s claw as a small torque wrench … similarly, when we unscrew the cap of a jar, we notice that our hands have a limited torque capacity.
Restic has been great for automating backups, and even letting me mount the encrypted storage to grab individual files. I like doing it this way since I don’t have to trust Backblaze isn’t reading my data - I know for sure that they can’t.
Performance of storage that is both remote and encrypted is about what you would expect, but I don’t need access to the data unless something bad happens.
To add some positivity to all those sad stories: For me the most dramatic life changing event was the birth of my first child. Suddenly (okay, we knew for a few months, but it still feld like “suddenly”) we weren’t just a couple, we were a family.
I have heard, although you know - not happening here as far as I know, that the birth of your first child is a wonderful event that sort of cements you into this larger web of the magic and mysteries of life. I've had two friends who recently had births, one who is doing quite well and the other who is struggling. But the both of them seem to be happier overall with their decisions. And the one who is struggling sort of has this struggle with or without the babe. So we always knew it was a possibility and the best thing that I can say is that the awareness and the love have truly helped them navigate the space they're in.
Hahaha! If I had em, two would be it. That'd be the number. Cause the first one can guide the second one, and the second one can guide the first one. But it's funny cause I've been watching Dr. Katz - and the thing is there's this guy who talks about having kids. He says the first one is life-changing. The second one, you're not sure if you can love them as much as the first and the truth is - you end up loving them almost as much and it's right there. Then the third one comes along...
Can we please avoid all the editorializing in AskLemmy. I came to the comments to see an answer to this question and it’s all comments about what people think about him instead of actually answering the question.
Relatedly, I know someone who seems highly compatible but who I’m not attracted to at all. How would I even manage that? There’s no way I could hide it, even if that was justifiable, so how do you say “you’re almost physically repulsive to me, but I want to date you anyway” without being a dick? (I’m reasonably good looking myself)
I really wasn’t attracted to my now husband at all when we met. I remember also really disliking his smell (not BO, just regular pheromones or whatever).
11 years later we are extremely happily married and he’s sexy as fuck. His appearance hasn’t changed (except that he’s actually a little overweight now and looks a decade older) but every day he’s just hotter and hotter. Not like a “I just love him so much on the inside.” Like I genuinely perceive him to be extremely physically attractive (and equally good to smell) and look back on early days with complete confusion.
n=1 so grain of salt and whatnot, but I’d say if you’re vibing enough to make this a question worth asking then it’s probably worth giving it a shot to see if attraction develops
Edit: Please don’t actually tell them you’re not attracted to them though. That’s weird and unnecessary. You don’t need to lie either, just don’t comment on their appearance until/unless you start to notice those little things that have grown on you.
Lol. I get it, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just don’t explain. They’ll just figure they need to figure out different ways to stimulate, which is true anyway.
If the movie is anything to go by, the secret will come out and there will be a fight but you’ll also fall in love and become attracted to them before the credits roll
I would say don’t. My ex was into me as a person but I was a skinny flat chested sort and his ideal was fat and curvy. I didn’t want to be like that but it’s dreadful to be loved “despite your looks”. Really bad for self esteem.
It worked out in the end, not with him but the lean body type survives life, pregnancy, etc. without as much change (small don’t fall!) and when I got older, more guys were into it because I’ve aged well, and I feel better looking now - not in an absolute sense but relative to others my age.
Basically - you don’t find them attractive, be a good friend not a lover. Just because you don’t like their looks doesn’t mean nobody will. They might be someone else’s type.
Yeah, the other respondent’s theory seems to be that she’ll figure it out, but won’t ever bring it up because she’s just so damn glad that someone more conventionally attractive likes her. I don’t think I can rely on that.
I’m certain she’s aware there’s people who have unconventional tastes, and part of the reason she seems like a good choice for me is that she wouldn’t beat around the bush if that’s what she wanted.
Honestly I never minded being “minority attractive” when I was, because the guys who thought me good looking really seemed to find me beautiful, and almost nobody is really universally physically attractive. She doesn’t need you specifically to be into her looks, let her find someone who is. Someone is, I cannot believe otherwise based on what I have seen. (Like my ex, into body types I find grotesque, or the guys I dated when I was underweight who just were so fat-phobic that I could have been a skeleton and they would have approved.)
Someone is into her specific physical being, never doubt it. Don’t mess with her head.
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