I’ve never had an issue here. Only comment thats ever been removed straight up called for violence and I get that. If you’re running into issues the answer is probably introspection.
If you don’t find someone physically attractive, how do you settle down with them? Do you just accept getting into bed with someone you’re physically repulsed by every night?
I’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.
The vast majority of relationships will involve physical attraction and sex. It’s highly unusual for that to not be the case for allosexual people. That’s not a value judgement—if a minority of allo people find something else works for them, then that’s great. But if OP is asking if this is normal, then no it’s not. Even ‘less attractive’ people, as OP put it, find people they’re attracted to enough to enjoy a lifetime of intimacy and sex with.
Overcoming a lack of physical attraction is a pretty big barrier and I can’t see most people overcoming that barrier just to ‘settle down.’ Not being your physical ideal is one thing, most of us settle down with people who don’t look like models or actors, but finding someone physically unattractive is a tough sell in most cases.
I’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.
I don’t think this only applies to ace people. Sometimes you just realize you can’t have everything, settle with someone “below your standards” in respect to that, and even if you sleep in the same bed, you don’t do anything with each other in that way.
Thing is, sex is not a privilege. If you - as someone in such a situation as OP - can’t accept that, you are in danger of growing… hateful views. I don’t want to become such a person, and it’s clear that it’s not their fault that they are not attracted to me. Realizing this helped me accept it.
To be totally clear, yes, I’m not ace, I have the desire, but that’s just not how it works.
There are still other benefits of having a partner, like not being lonely and sharing the costs of living.
To also respond to OP, I don’t know if this is “the solution”. This is better for everyone involved than the alternative where you grow to be a hateful person. But maybe you should reevaluate if you are really in such a situation as you think. Possibly you are right, possibly not.
Thing is, sex is not a privilege. If you - as someone in such a situation as OP - can’t accept that, you are in danger of growing… hateful views.
No one is entitled to sex, I agree. But in a relationship, you are allowed to make clear what your needs are and move on if those needs aren’t being met. It’s not entitlement to know what you want. Having a ‘dead bedroom’ is why a lot of relationships end.
I don’t want to become such a person, and it’s clear that it’s not their fault that they are not attracted to me. Realizing this helped me accept it.
If I may ask, was there any physical attraction between you two when you met?
If I may ask, was there any physical attraction between you two when you met?
To be honest, there is no other person here. Not yet, at least. My case is a little different, because it’s not about how I look, not even the personality (but who knows actually? I know I have problems e.g. finding the right tone, and sometimes seeming harsh), but some other properties that are day to day pretty noticeable, and are often associated with being handicapped (not in the meeting of being silly) (even by myself when I notice it on others). I know that this is universally a thing (or rather things) that is hard to accept, and I seriously wouldn’t want to live with someone like that either.
The point I wanted to make is that it’s ok if no one wants to be with me.
I have not yet started searching for an “economical partnership”.
I don’t know you but my advice is that you talk to a therapist before you condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness. What you’re thinking about yourself is not always objective, even if you think it is. Being self-critical is not the same as being realistic
There is a lot of room between attraction and repulsion though. A not ideal looking person who is so good in bed, loves you and you get along with? Maybe they are neutral to you looks-wise but hot for reasons other than looks.
Someone whose looks repel you? No, that’s never going to work.
It must be amazing to live in your head. Everyone who disagrees with you has an agenda, so you never need to actually think about any of your stupid baseless opinions.
Nah, I just think you’re a scumbag who’d gladly exploit others for your own personal benefit. And since you never actually think about any of your stupid baseless opinions, you don’t realize why that makes you a scumbag.
Funny how the people are rioting in the streets and you’re pretending that everything is okay. Stupid fuck8ng first world socialists who never experienced the absokute scourge that is a socialist dictatorship talking down to the people who actually suffer from your high horses of privilege and misinformation.
I literally grew up in USSR, but go on tell me more about these socialist dictatorships. Meanwhile, don’t have to look further than burgerland to see people rioting on the streets being burtally put down by the regime’s security forces. The sheer imbecility on display is truly astounding.
You’re obviously lying. Every single person I have ever met who grew up in the USSR - and they number in the hundreds - absolutely hates communism and authoritarianism. It’s only rich, sheltered idiots who never worked a day in their life and live on mommy and daddy’s credit cards like you who defend communism.
Ah yes, me having grown up in USSR and not having dumb fuck views obviously means I must be lying. Figures that you’d be the sort of imbecile who doesn’t understand the concept of selection bias. The fact that you hang out with the same kinds of dipshits like yourself isn’t exactly a surprise. Here’s a dose of reality for you to seethe and cope over.
You’re the one seething because you can’t accept that Venezuelans have had enough of authoritarianism and death squads. You want everyone in the world to be like you so that maybe you’ll hate yourself less. It won’t work.
I have nothing to seethe about because people of Venezuela just elected a socialist government, and chuds like you now have to cope with that. That’s right, I want a dictatorship of the working class so scumbags like you can be put in their place.
If you really think Madiro was elected democratically, you’re delusional. The country is drowning in riots. Then again, I should have expected you to be delusional since you’re a communist. They go hand in hand.
The world IS changing. The USSR fell and dictatorships like the ones you worship are slowly coming to an end, one by one. Even though you hate freedom and oersonal accountability, both are becoming the norm and there’s nothing you can do to stop it. So go ahead and fantasize about sending me to the gulags while you beat your butler. I’ll be out here in the real world living my life withiut even remembering that you and your fake passport exist.
Since USSR fell, China has become the biggest and most important economy in the world, meanwhile burgerland and its vassals are crumbling. Something you’ll have to face one day. So go ahead and fantasize about your dictatorship of the capital while you can little buddy. Have your butler bring you some more copium. Welcome to the real world loser.
Yeah, how did China manage that without private enterprise? Oh wait, they didn’t. China is a Capitalist country in everything but name. There’s a stock market, social inequality, venture capital, competition, labor-as-capital policies, a strong private banking system. Shit, China is more Capitalist than my country! The only difference is you mysteriously disappear if you criticize the government. That’s the part that gets your tiny little dick hard though, isn’t it, you bootlicker?
LMFAO how to say you’re an utter ignoramus without saying it. The only question for you is why is it that China is developing differently from actual capitalist countries. Maybe take a moment away form sucking your own dick, and think about that.
The real (inflation-adjusted) incomes of the poorest half of the Chinese population increased by more than four hundred percent from 1978 to 2015, while real incomes of the poorest half of the US population actually declined during the same time period. www.nber.org/system/files/…/w23119.pdf
From 1978 to 2000, the number of people in China living on under $1/day fell by 300 million, reversing a global trend of rising poverty that had lasted half a century (i.e. if China were excluded, the world’s total poverty population would have risen) semanticscholar.org/…/c883fc7496aa1b920b05dc2546b…
From 2010 to 2019 (the most recent period for which uninterrupted data is available), the income of the poorest 20% in China increased even as a share of total income. data.worldbank.org/indicator/SI.DST.FRST.20?end=2…
By the end of 2020, extreme poverty, defined as living on under a threshold of around $2 per day, had been eliminated in China. According to the World Bank, the Chinese government had spent $700 billion on poverty alleviation since 2014. www.nytimes.com/…/china-poverty-xi-jinping.html
LOL how butthurt do you have to be to type all that and find all those links? Besides what do they have to do with anything? China has a Capitalist economy, as I already said. Now why don’t you look at Bokivia, Venezuela, Cuba, North Korea or any other actually Communist country? The story is quite different.
just documenting what an imbecile you are for the people reading this thread. Hilarious how you can’t understand what the links showing that people living in China see their country as democratic and their standard of living improving have anything to do with this thread. Thanks for once again highlighting that you’re using both of your brain cells here.
Meanwhile, if China was a capitalist economy, then it would be developing like actual capitalist economies like say India that started in the same place as China. China hasn’t been blockaded by the burger empire that you worship the way Bolivia, Venezuela, Cuba, and DPRK have been. The fact that you don’t get that further highlights what an utter dumb fuck you are.
However, if need to believe that China is capitalist, you should be very excited that China will be the model for the rest of the world going forward. Also, hilarious just how incoherent you are, since you’ve been busy shitting yourself over me supporting socialism, but seem to have no problem with China which I see as the model. I don’t say this lightly, you are truly one of the dumbest people I’ve interacted on this platform. I’m frankly amazed you have the brainpower to remember to breathe while typing out your inane comments.
You’re so mad it’s legitimately entertaining. Please continue to spout your half-digested and quarter-understood propaganda for my amusement. Just make sure not to mention a certain event that happened at ancertain square or you’ll be blacklisted from ever entering the glorious Communist utopia of China where everyone’s a millionaire who is free to have as many babies as they want and to freely express their opinions without fear of reprisal.
I love how you keep repeating that I’m mad as if that’s going to make it true. I think you’re utterly hilarious to be honest. You really think you’re the first troll I’ve run into on here or that you’re being original somehow? All you idiots just regurgitate the same script. Gonna be a lot of seething and coping in your future as Chinese model keeps spreading around the world and your imbecilic opinions start being censored. 😂
Imagine not understanding how sanctions work. If socialism was so horrible then burgerland wouldn’t to use sanctions would it. Really shows who the fucking idiot here is.
Yeah, boo hoo it’s not our unsustainable economical model that’s the problem, it’s the sanctions! Those evil people with a worse economical model that somehow have the power to bankrupt our better model by oreventing it from participating in a free international market (aka the bad model). Because that’s nit completely fucking retarded.
There’s just one problem with your dumb fuck logic there which that GDP growth restarted despite the sanctions in 2020. In a few years Venezuela will be completely independent of the US dollar and with a complete industry of its own. chart showing the collapse of GDP after sanctions, and the economy stabilizing after 2020
Bro, seriously. I oersonally know Venezuelans with a higher education - one lawyer and one engineer - who emigrated to Peru to work as a maid and as a bartender so that they could send money back to their families. GDP means nothing if the people don’t get to share in the wealth. In Venezuela, only the top government and army officials live above the poverty line. This isn’t your stupid little Marxist theory written by people who never actually read Marx. This is real people starving and being miserable because of Communism. How can you not understand that? Or maybe yku do and yku just don’t care. Fuck everyone else as long as you can play the part of revolutionary hero in your head, right?
I’d be insulted if a delusional commie like you did respect me. I know the people you respect: thieves, mass murderers, liars, warmongers. I don’t want to be bunched in with them.
There’s gonna be so much seething and coping in your future little fash. As burger empire influence over Latin America wanes, you’re going to miss people like Maduro soon.
Unlike you I actually know several of them and have some idea what I’m talking about. All you get fed is propaganda, I get it straight from the horse’s mouth.
Actually it won’t. And unlike you, I know that for a fact.
By the way, every neighborhood in Venezuela is a poor neighborhood thanks to Maduro. He realized the Communist dream of ending social inequality by making everybody miserable. Except for himself and his geberals, of course.
Buddy, you clearly don’t even know your own ass from your face, not there’s much difference. I love how you spent weeks to document just what an utter imbecile and a lair you are. People like you were the reason gulags were invented.
LOL a productive member of society? Dude, unlike you I actually have a job in an industry that actively improves quality of life for people. While you live on dividends from marketing or subletting or whatever the fuck workless income source allows you to be a communist, I bust my ass in the recycling industry. I’m saving the planet while you jerk iff to AI porn of Furry Stalin LOL
Why do some ICs have tri state, low, high, and high impedance? Isn’t high impedance the same thing as floating?
It means that it will resist being changed by inputs. Yes, like a pin that’s floating relative to the chip.
If it is high impedance that means it had to be connected to something, right? Some kind of big capacitor or inductor in the chip?
No, it’s probably a transistor (active component) that switches to a highly resistive state, leaving the output pin effectively floating - that is, not connected via the chip. Impedance relates to how quickly the charge in that lump responds to voltage (or how quickly matter responds to force in a mechanical system). Not responding is very high, responding quickly is low.
Capacitors and inductors effect impedance, but they aren’t the only things that can do so, and in fact impedance tends to very with which frequency you’re measuring it at, so you can’t really say it has a certain exact value without context.
That’s for a BJT or similar. There’s other kinds of transistors, and CMOS digital logic is based on MOSFETs. In MOSFETs, it’s gate, source and drain. If you apply the right voltage (negative for p-type, positive for n-type) to the gate of a MOSFET, the resistance between the source and drain skyrockets. It’s like pinching off a hose. Ideally when fully closed it’s like there’s no connection at all. (And the gate shouldn’t ever conduct - it just controls the channel between source and drain)
This is pretty much the whole principle behind CMOS, by the way. It’s a bunch of hoses pinching each other on and off in such a pattern that it preforms logic. It’s easy to manufacture on a chip for reasons I won’t go into unless you really want.
Thank you, I think I get it. I was only thinking in one type of transistor.
When the resistance goes high, why is that called high impedance, instead of something like high resistance?
And yes, please tell me about cmos manufacture stuff. Just watched a breaking taps video where he’s trying to make his own die 1nm across with lithography. Cool shit, would love to hear any insight you want to share.
When the resistance goes high, why is that called high impedance, instead of something like high resistance?
Disclaimer that I’m not actually an electrical engineer, but I’m pretty sure it’s just convention. Positive charge is also an absence of electrons, just because Ben Franklin guessed wrong, and conventional current goes the opposite direction to the actual current. I probably would have called it “floating”, “disconnected”, “stopped” or “open”, if it was up to me.
As for the manufacturing, making a MOSFET is as easy as taking a wafer of silicon, doping a couple of spots to be opposite to the bulk next to each other, and then oxidising a spot on top of the channel in between to form an insulating SiO2 gate barrier. This is good in terms of steps needed, chemical precision needed, and number of features required per transistor which translates to more transistors per area. CMOS allows an entire chip to be printed in place with barely any more steps, by using both N and P type MOSFETs in complement (Complementary Metal Oxide Semiconductor) to ensure that there’s always a path available for current. Then, the only thing left to do is start building up the interconnecting wires over top of the semiconductor with vapour deposition or similar.
There’s a video series where Sam Zeloof makes a MOSFET from scratch in his garage. Skip to the second video if you don’t care about the theory so much. Wikipedia also has a https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:CMOS_fabrication_process.svg of the process of printing CMOS in more detail.
Hope you're doing okay and face is healed up as much as you want it to be. Tbh, dogs freak me out too. Which is a shame, because I dig them in theory. But in actuality, I am not really here for two of the major pets of this world. Which is a shit situation to be in, and I can't even imagine how shit it must be now that everyone's out here taking their dogs around everywhere. I hope you've got some solid help =/!
Get that college money =)! It's big. You know, idk if you're family promoted it or anything but it really does seem to be the secret to stability. I mean, you might not be a Rockefeller. But it really does help expand your chances for a better life.
One of the best child plastic surgeons happened to be in town when I got attacked and he took my case. Can’t even tell anything happened. He did a GREAT job.
As for college and making money, I’m not family oriented per se (I don’t want kids and I’m single ATM), but I have pets (2 dogs, 2 cats, and 11 ducks) and I want to buy a horse eventually at the stables I volunteer at. The horse is a few years off because boarding is expensive, but it’s an obtainable goal lol. Just gotta get promoted, which I am working towards with the guidance of my boss and the owner/president of the company.
Yooo! You're treating your dog thing by HAVING DOGS! Hahahaha, I love it! I wish I could get behind either. Dogs kinda freak me out, because I have sensory issues with drool and I hate sudden noises. And cats, I'm just unfortunately allergic. But never really dug them, because one scratched up my face as a little ninja. Ducks though, that's something different. My friend from Ohio is the only other person I know who's had them. Two to be exact. But that's really something different.
Sounds like you've got land, which is a nice thing to have. And time, which is also good stuff. I don't know too much about horses, but my partner says there's a primal connection between horses and humans. Says there's nothing like riding a horse on this planet. Gotta be wonderful. Sounds like you're in a good space. Perhaps consider finding a mentee, so that you can share going both ways. There's a lot of wonderful individuals inside of organizations who might have the fixins for greater but get stuck because they can't seem to get a leg up. If you can think of anyone in that boat, consider reaching out and forming a relationship. This is going to sound absolutely awful, but I think being a mentor looks quite good as well. Because it requires a series of characteristics which are desirable in the world of business. But it also is a solid act, because you get to repay the favor that someone might have lent to you. Either way, I hope you enjoy your horse when you get them a couple of years down the road =)!
Your partner is totally right about horses. I had a mare growing up that knew my my depression was getting bad and did her best to cheer me up. There’s a horse I love at the stables I volunteer at who is similar. She knows when I’m down or frustrated or whatever and demands attention lol. Hopefully she stays that way once she has her foal and doesn’t become a hella protective mama lol
Is she who you plan on purchasing down the line? I'm not sure entirely how it works. Yeah, my gal loves horses. Loves skateboarding more. Maybe someday I'll get on one? Maybe not. Either way, it's cool. I think I might have missed my chance a hundred years ago and not even thought about it cause I knew someone who went to school for it. Instead I just hung with the horse folk, and we drank some of the most heinous alcohol known to man. Was chill though.
I would love to buy her tbh, but idek who actually owns her lol. Most of the horses I interact with don’t get the attention they deserve from their actual owners. Seems like most owners there don’t actually come around too often. It’s a full service stables, so you pay a monthly bill to have your horse fed, watered, and their stall mucked. You just have to worry about the mandatory vet visits and hiring a carrier for their hooves.
The horse people I grew up around also had the most heinous alcohol as well lmao.
Maybe to you halfblind darkness lovers. I live in a world of light where everything is apparent to any who want it to be. No faith needed to excuse the shadows that the light draws on the earth
The fact that there isn’t meaning is liberating. It means I am free to do whatever I like, because the universe doesn’t care. Even though, the universe is full of wonder and beauty, but it just is. It exists for no reason? I think that makes it even more wonderful
You’re conflating subjective and objective. Just because things subjectively matter to you (they also subjectively matter to most nihilists as well) doesn’t mean they objectively matter. That’s where the distinction lies.
Yes, I’m not sure if that is meant to be a placeholder or a substitute for native user links. What it actually does is generate markup that converts the username into a web link, which is fine for most circumstances, but not ideal. A plaintext username should automatically link to the user. This creates an inconsistent behavior between posts depending on where (and when) they were typed.
In other words, it’s a very helpful feature, but it is not recognizing and linking usernames.
yeah exactly. On mbin it works this way and lemmy inserting the link breaks that. But it does it for communities in the community description sometime as well, though I don't know if it is just a user "error" or a lemmy error
Actually that behaviour is very annoying to other platforms. Mbin for example can only link to the lemmy server this user is on and no longer the local profile of that user.
Example: @ user @ lemmy.instance gets converted to [@ user @ lemmy.instance](https:// lemmy.instance/u/user
so on mbin this does not open the profile of the user on the local server, but instead links the lemmy instance, so you leave your instance to view the profile.
(spaces included so this won't get converted to mentions, etc)
Yes they are, but you have my profile on your server and you do not need to leave the server to view my profile... @ user @ lemmy.instance should link to https:// mbin.instance/u/@[email protected] and not to https:// lemmy.instance/u/user
on firefox, if i type @gedal and click or press tab once it replaces the text with @[email protected]. the behavior is the same whether i hit tab, enter or click the text.
It’s not even just that. It seems that the extra @ acts as a separator, so you can’t even autocomplete e.g. @threelonmusketeers@sh as that’ll try to autocomplete @sh instead of taking the instance domain as part of the mention.
In doing this I learned that there are “correct” but also “preferred” ways to use markdown. A heading should have a space after the # even though it is correct either way.
I’m not sure #heading is valid markdown (see, eg, Daring Fireball’s “original” syntax page) … and I’ve never seen it. I’ve always understood that the space was necessary, which I think makes sense for a number of reasons TBH
Didn’t know it worked on reddit. Generally it seems necessary to require the space as it disambiguates headings from hashtags, and also makes the raw text more readable.
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