This happened to me in the USA. I told the doctor I want to be sterilized and neither my husband nor I wanted kids.
He told me it would be unethical. My husband might die and then my new husband would want children. I told him I would not change my mind, and such a man would be incompatible for marriage with me. He told me I’d change my mind. So basically, yes some hypothetical future man would want to use me for a baby factory, that’s why I can’t be sterilized.
I was 30. I’m older now, still don’t want them. I’m too ashamed to ask again for sterilization. My husband has a vasectomy scheduled soon (weird how a doctor had no problem doing that for him. Wonder what the difference is???)
I think the doctor thinks of your husband as a baby factory manager and as he wants the baby factory out of operation it is his choice. Now if he died a new manager could start up the factory again. I know this is extremely fucked up and there is no reason you should not be able to get sterilised but it is a fucked up world we live in.
Easier said than done, anyway. I was just shocked he said that. I’m sure if I wanted his statement in writing he would have written something like “I don’t recommend this for women who have not yet had children because there are plenty of other effective treatments like [etc]” and nobody would care.
Someone at my work was told something similar by a different doctor (in a different state!) that he wouldn’t sterilize her because she wasn’t married. She had 3 children already in her mid twenties.
Pushing back on this stuff is a battle that shouldn’t have to take place on the personal level. We’re going backwards in women’s healthcare in America, too.
My mom knows that I absolutely do not want kids. Like, the idea of being a parent makes me feel physically ill. She is still hoping that she’ll get grandchildren. Last time she told me she’s still hopeful that I’ll change my mind, I got rude and told her to fuck off with that shit. I told her that she needs to keep that kind of thing to herself and that telling me that repeatedly feels very disrespectful.
That was about 6 months ago. She hasn’t brought it up since. This branch of the family tree ends with me and that’s totally fine imo. Everything has to end eventually. My mom’s in total denial about that fact.
When I got sterilized, the doctor asked me if I was in a committed relationship. Told him I was. Then he said that I need to treat this as permanent. Told him it wasn’t a problem. He pushed a little more but inevitable told him that if things changed and I ended up with a woman who wanted children, adoption was an option. That ended it for me, and I was able to get the procedure done. I don’t know if this is typical for men, but that was my experience.
I got a vasectomy when I was 31 and have never looked back. Would highly recommend it if you’re committed to being child free. Was a simple discussion with my (male) GP and after a few questions to make sure I understood the implications and that I had thought it through he gave me the referral.
I really feel bad for women - they have so much more stigma and a harder time with this in general, even in progressive countries.
“It is really unusual to have detentions of three networks [allegedly] engaged in some sort of espionage for Russia and China coming almost at the same time,” said Noura Chalati, a research fellow at the Leibniz Centre for the Modern Orient.
Andrei Soldatov, an expert on the Russian security services, believes the case of the Russian-German pair could reflect a desire by the Kremlin escalate attacks on aid to Ukraine.
Meanwhile, Roderich Kiesewetter, a former German Army officer who is now an opposition MP, alleged China was seeking to gain access to advanced research that could be useful for military or other purposes.
A particular low point was the leaking in March by Russian sources of a phone call between top generals discussing supplying long-range Taurus missiles to Ukraine.
Months earlier a high-ranking official in Germany’s BND foreign intelligence service called Carsten L went on trial, accused of leaking classified information to the Russians in exchange for payments of some €400,000 (£343,000).
Some in the intelligence services see the recent high-profile arrests as a way of highlighting the extent of hostile foreign infiltration in Germany - and as a chance of boosting their argument for more powers.
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Figures. Now that Germany pretty much runs the EU, mostly because Spain don’t give af and the French - well, they’re the French - it makes sense that both Russia and China want a leg up on future policy and military movements. I’m pretty sure the CIA is hiding somewhere there in the fold as well…
Please don’t tell me some German duke or something will get assassinated, because I’ve seen this episode before…
A spokesman for Mr Harris said the taoiseach had asked Ms McEntee “to bring proposals to cabinet next week to amend existing law regarding the designation of safe ‘third countries’ and allowing the return of inadmissible international protection applicants to the UK”, Irish broadcaster RTÉ reported on Saturday.
That’s why I’ll have emergency legislation at cabinet this week to make sure that we can effectively return people to the UK and that’s why I’ll be meeting with the home secretary [James Cleverly] to raise these issues on Monday."
A spokesman for the Irish Department of Justice told BBC News NI that “the issue of irregular movement within the CTA” - the Common Travel Area between Britain and Ireland - would be discussed at the ministers’ meeting.
On Sky News on Sunday, Prime Minister Rishi Sunak was asked whether Mr Martin’s comments showed the UK was “exporting the problem”.
It comes as Home Office figures showed some 500 migrants had crossed the English Channel over two days - with 141 people arriving on Friday and 359 on Saturday, in a total of 10 small boats.
Mr Sunak told Sky News that illegal migration was a “global problem” and said many countries were looking to replicate “third-country partnerships” similar to the agreement struck between the UK and Rwanda.
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I don’t really see how this represents any proof that these asylum seekers are illegal economic migrants. Rwanda isn’t a safe country for asylum seekers, so it seems reasonable that people would try and avoid being sent there. If Ireland now appears safer, then travelling there from the UK makes sense surely? The position for “illegal economic migrants” hasn’t changed substantially, as the likelihood of being sent to Rwanda is low. But if you are trying to reach safety, the threat of death or torture hanging over you might be enough to make you consider Ireland
They aren’t refugees because they ain’t white. There does that answer your question? Every single time you hear someone get a deportation boner just remember this and it will explain their “reasoning”.
If white = welcome
If non-white = deport the rape-fugee.
Nothing up the sleeves, no complex logic you can’t follow, no study you haven’t read, just racism as it appears to be.
FYI. The quantity of bees in a hive has more to do with their ability to find good food sources nearby, and the suitability of the place they’ve made their home, and nothing to do with their temperament. That size hive would not be considered particularly remarkable in an apiary. A “swarm” of bees is actually just a bunch of bees that split off from a successful hive and are looking for a new home and are typically very docile. Since this colony had a home (these people’s house), it was technical not a “swarm.”
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