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Mux

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Alien robot from the future. I come to spread love and music.

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olena , to actuallyautistic
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Speaking of joking.
When I was young, pretty often when I wanted to make a joke, I was too embarrassed to do that personally, so instead of joking directly, I’d add “as one of my friends says…”, or “as I’ve read recently…”(obviously, there were no friend and no book, it was just some snarky comment I came up with and desperately wanted to drop). I didn’t do that with serious things, it was just a way to slip in a joke - because doing it openly felt too daring for some reason.
When I got older, I used to do it less and less often, and now (almost?) don’t do that (probably?), but I still don’t quite understand why I was: what it was actually for, why did I need, what it was supposed to solve.
Is this also some thing? Something related to RSD? Part of autistic masking? Or just my own weird thing?
@actuallyautistic

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@Autisticaurochs
I used to say "do you know this old joke about the..." before telling jokes too. Phrased as a question it felt much less intrusive.
@olena @actuallyautistic

olena , to actuallyautistic
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Everytime I stand in front of the door and frantically search for the keys in my bag, all that makes me panic, pushes me to the verge of tears - even though it is not such a big deal because I’m not in a hurry and if anything, the concierge has a spare pair.
So, naturally, my brain tries to compensate for a possible fail - and every time I walk home, I feel almost unbeatable urge to get my keys out of my bag to my hand when I am still like 200 meters from home.
I suppose, it’s the same overcompensation mechanism that makes me come to airport at least two hours before the departure and to a train station at least an hour before, buy spares of essentials each time a bottle starts feeling not full, or always have a stocked pantry(though there may be multiple of ones and none of others as I always forget to check what I have before going to the store)

Is this exaggerated(to the point of creating problems) ‘better safe than sorry’ something people are more prone to? Do you guys also do that?
@actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@olena
Yes. So much yes.
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dyani , to actuallyautistic
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Any other autistic kin struggle with speech and articulation when they were little?

I'm recording an instructional voice-over today and my mom just told me I used to have a lisp when I was little. That's news to me!

I definitely notice sludgy articulation around L and S sound as an adult. Outside of voice over recording, I could not care less about my articulation. But it is interesting!

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Mux ,
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@dyani
As someone who invested a lot of time in improving their enunciation when singing, I think that's a human universal, rather than an autistic thing.

I also have a lisp, and that's probably the 'tism, but proper singing enunciation is taught in every singing or vocal class and is usually only improved with lots of practice.
@benjamincox @dave @actuallyautistic

Uair , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

Does this resonate with anyone?

I'm distractable and indecisive and hardly ever get a damn thing done. However, if I decide something's important, I single focus on it and persevere far past the point a normal person would have given up.

Once I decide something's important, I'm infinitely brave. Even if my rational mind knows it's not worth dying over, I will risk my life over stupid shit simply because I never checked my head and changed course when it was appropriate.

Mux ,
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@Uair
I think most autists would resonate with that. It maybe just the AuDHDers. But yeah. Hyper-focus can be a trip.
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sebwhatever , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic tell me you are without telling me you are autistic.

Mux ,
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@DziadekMick
Also that's quite ambiguous and nonsensical. Can you be more explicit and straightforward?
@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic

sebwhatever , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic @askingautistics

Tell me how you really feel.

Mux ,
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@sebwhatever
I just woke up from a nap, so I'm a bit bleary-eyed. Well rested though.

You?
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NPR , to random
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Scientists restore brain cells impaired by a rare genetic disorder

A therapy that restores brain cells impaired by a rare genetic disorder may offer a strategy for treating conditions like autism, epilepsy, and schizophrenia.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2024/04/30/1247900797/timothy-syndrome-genetic-disorder-brain-cells-restored?utm_medium=JSONFeed&utm_campaign=news&utm_source=press.coop

Mux ,
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@Dremmwel
What are you trying to get rid of exactly? Is it some side-effect or co-morbidity of autism (say, the need to stim)? Sure. That helps and all autists should have access to such treatments.

If the thing you're trying to get rid of is autism, I don't think there's a way to do that without getting rid of autists, but even if there were, it would leave us different people. We would not exist.

@pa @NPR @PatternChaser @actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Dremmwel
Then you two are talking at cross purposes. Nobody was saying autists shouldn't have access to the best medicine available to help with their lives (true for all people, btw, NT too).

It did sound, for a moment, like you were saying we should treat autism itself. Treating a thing means making it go away.
@pa @PatternChaser @actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Dremmwel
I understand, but don't forget there's a lot of money, institutional power, and media invested in the narrative of "curing" and "treating" autism itself.

In order to not get mixed up in that eugenicist language, we usually don't talk about 'treating' neurodiversity, but instead on supporting disabled people no matter where their disability comes from.

There's plenty of ablist jerks out there. Best we don't use their language.
@pa @PatternChaser @actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Dremmwel
I think we're in agreement on the basics.

I was just trying to explain why your statements were misconstrued. The "treatment" language, in regards to autism, is too often a eugenicist dog whistle, so one should take special care using it.
@pa @PatternChaser @actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Dremmwel
I didn't say you misconstrued, Rather that you were misconstrued.

I'm just saying, in the future, a nice disambiguation note could save everyone some trouble.
@pa @PatternChaser @actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@PatternChaser
Just saying, if I could relieve the same stress without driving my wife mad, I'd take it.
@Dremmwel @pa @NPR @actuallyautistic

Mux , to actuallyautistic
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What if @actuallyautistic people just seem "quirky" because we don't see the point of half of society's rules and norms and so make our own.

dyani , to actuallyautistic
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How can you tell you are actually recovered from burnout? What are the signs? How does it feel different from recovery itself?

I'm trying to teach my mom that you can't just rest for a couple days and expect to be recovered from burnout. You have to reconfigure your life to be less taxing.

She's struggling with this concept and asked me how you know when your energy is actually back for good, and it's not just the pre-recovery small burst of energy which is a false alarm.

@actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@dyani
I don't think you really can. I was feeling finally over it a couple of weeks back, but then shit hit the fan and I'm struggling again.

I don't think there's a point in time where you're not struggling anymore. You just acquire more and more tools to handle the stress.
@actuallyautistic

hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

  • Comfortable with ambiguity
  • Strong people skills
  • Good culture fit
  • Multitasking
  • A fast-paced dynamic environment
  • Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.


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Mux ,
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@hosford42
The most obviously ablist one is on-site work requirements.
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Mux , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
I often hear about temperature dysregulation, but I don't think I experience that myself. Rather, I experience sensory sensitivity to heat.

I was wondering how this manifests in the community. Are you sensitive to cold? To heat? To dryness? Humidity? Or are you generally dysregulated? And what does that mean for you?

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@Dr_Obvious
That jives with my experience.
@actuallyautistic

Mux OP ,
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@undefined_variable
I've left the Middle East for Germany, not least because of the heat... 😁
@actuallyautistic

Uair , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

I've noticed my fellow autists seem to have a well developed sense of style. Everyone has colored hair, for example.

I consciously dress as plainly but practically as possible. I won't advertise for you unless you at least give me the shirt, so i sport no labels or logos. I like plain color tees and sweatshirts. I wear old fashioned, non elastic jeans or cargo pants.Being eds and superstretchy, i buy as baggy as possible.

I dress for forgettability.Anyone else?

Mux ,
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@Uair
I used to do that, dressing for forgettability. And then I went through burn out, and started therapy. I started questioning many things on my life, and realized that I really like to dress up, but do not do that because of autistic trauma.

So I've started dressing up, and I'm loving it. Let them look. I'm not scared of them anymore.

@actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Uair
For me it's not about my public image idgaf what other people think. It's about my freedom to wear what I think is pretty. Because I want to feel pretty. I want to be creative and colorful and playful.

I was stifling these other out of fear, and it's time for me to stop.

But that's just me 🤷
@actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@Uair
I accept it. We're different. That, in itself, is a thing of beauty.
@actuallyautistic

Mux , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
Please make it stop 😭😭😭😭

Mux OP ,
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@nddev
I tried to report from fedilab and suffered a crash as well.

CC @apps

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aevole , to actuallyautistic
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I feel the need to be fully autistic. I just don't know what to do to really be myself 😅🤷🏻‍♀️
If you have any tips, please share 🥰
@actuallyautistic

Mux ,
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@kasuga768star
It's a slow process, separating your own preferences from those society has imprinted into you over years and decades. But it's a worthwhile process.

Whenever you find yourself struggling with drumming up excitement to do any thing, all yourself - is it something I want to do, or something I was taught I should want?
@actuallyautistic @aevole

Jobob , to actuallyautistic
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So, a question for undiagnosed late realised @actuallyautistic folks.
Your work makes a change and it saves them money but plays actual havoc with all of your traits that you're still learning to recognise as autistic. You tell them about the impact it has on you and they completely dismiss your complaint, saying its fine for most people.
If there was a diagnosis it'd basically be indirect discrimination. But there isn't, and no prospect of one any time soon.
What do you do?

Mux ,
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@Jobob
Bite my lips and carry on, gradually becoming more and more alienated, until a breaking point is reached, I hit burnout, I go on psych sick leave and they find an excuse to fire me.

But that's just me.
@actuallyautistic

autism101 , to actuallyautistic
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Anxiety is common amongst autistic people. It can build up over time and lead to a meltdown or shutdown.

Do you deal with anxiety? Share any helpful tips that work for you.

image: @Autism1o1

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Mux ,
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@autism101
Currently at 4 😪
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