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Gay man says he was assaulted by Shake Shack employees after kissing his boyfriend at D.C. location

Christian Dingus, 28, was with his partner when, he says, employees told the couple not to kiss inside, and the argument escalated outside.

A gay man accused a group of Washington, D.C., Shake Shack employees of beating him after he kissed his boyfriend inside the location while waiting for their order.

Christian Dingus, 28, was with his partner and a group of friends at a Dupont Circle location Saturday night when the incident occurred, he told NBC News. They had put in their order and were hanging around waiting for their food.

“And while we were back there — kind of briefly — we began to kiss,” Dingus said. “And at that point, a worker came out to us and said that, you know, you can’t be doing that here, can’t do that type of stuff here.”

The couple separated, Dingus said, but his partner got upset at the employee and insisted the men had done nothing wrong. Dingus’ partner was then allegedly escorted out of the restaurant, where a heated verbal argument occurred.

RizzRustbolt ,

Nothing good ever happens at Shake Shack.

PlantJam ,

You don’t like paying $15 for a tiny burger?

ganksy ,
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Glutton for punishment if you’re homophobic and working at the Shake Shack in Dupont Circle.

PyroNeurosis ,

Heh, he’s called Dingus.

Sorry, Dingus, people kinda blow sometimes.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but I would be very shocked if the PDA were as innocent as they imply it was for someone to walk out from behind the counter and calmly ask them to knock it off. There are always two sides to every altercation, and even his description, “kind of briefly - we began to kiss” sounds like downplaying the degree of the kissing going on. It sounds like there was a good chance that it was a pretty excessive makeout session. They really seem to want to make it a homophobia thing, and maybe it was… whether the employees’ line for excessive would have been the same for a straight couple as for this gay one, I don’t know. But I wouldn’t be shocked if the request was at least arguably reasonable for a business that doesn’t need people sucking face at the counter. Or maybe I’m wrong and the entire restaurant staff in left-leaning Washington DC are just a bunch of homophobes. Idk.

Valmond ,

You think a lot about that gay kissing don’t you now.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

Lol. Dude, I’m a full on socialist pro-choice pro-LGBT rights progressive. Feel free to check my post history. I couldnt give a fuck if two dudes are kissing. I’m not excusing the violence towards these guys. It’s not OK. There is a point, though, where macking on one another in public becomes a spectacle, gay, straight, pan or whatever. It is not homophobia for a business owner to ask you to cut it out if you are being excessive in front of other guests just because you are gay. I’ve seen straight couples make asses out of themselves in public too. It’s dumb. Asking that to stop in your restaurant is OK. What happened after is absolutely not. Is that clearer to you?

SphereofWreckening ,

And then one of the men, pretty forcefully, like, pushed me out of the way on my shoulder,” Dingus said. “And then, you know, next thing I know, that kind of just, I think, sparked the rest of them. … They all just kind of started attacking me at that point, dragging me back through the floor and continuously punching me in my head.”

They essentially gang assaulted Mr. Dingus, and you believe it’s only because of some PDA? I highly doubt it, and believe fully that this is a case of homophobia. And almost certainly a hate crime too.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

I assumed it happened because of the “heated verbal argument” he said his partner started. Words get exchange, tempers rise and fists come out. Again, I said I may be wrong. Maybe they were all homophobes that wanted to get a few licks in on some gay guys. Or maybe they were all assholes and turned a request into an argument into a fist fight. I don’t know. I just think his retelling of the story seems suggest there was more to it.

SphereofWreckening ,

Multiple employees beat up a gay man after he had some PDA with his partner. No matter how you look at it the optics are horrible. Short of Mr. Dingus having a weapon or shouting slurs or something like that: there’s no justification for the employees to beat and attack him.

I feel like you’re jumping through several hoops to put the blame back on the person who was beaten by multiple people.

GBU_28 , (edited )

Trying to understand codemonkey, I believe they agrees there’s no justification. What they mean is that once a verbal fight started, tempers could have flared, and violence was inevitable, but not acceptable.

That said, I agree the optics are very bad, and more importantly, society should start from the default position of first assessing if a hate crime happened.

First thing should be “were these folks targeted based on their orientation?”

After that is thoroughly vetted, only then can it be considered “did a bunch of folks get heated in a shake shack after the customers were firmly but non discriminatorily told to knock it off?”

Edit if a reader thinks I took a side other than “hate crime bad, determine hate crime FIRST” with this comment you really need to think again.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

I’ve said multiple times that the violence was not okay and there was no excuse for it. No matter how much pda happened. I have also said multiple times that they are absolutely not to blame for the violence assuming neither threw the first punch. I only suggested that he might have downplayed a single detail in his retelling about what caused the employee to talk to them in the first place.

EleventhHour ,
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I’ve said multiple times that the violence was not okay and there was no excuse for it.

yet you’re bending over backwards to make excuses for it

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

I really havent. Suggesting that the restaurant may have been justified I asking them to stop what they were doing is not excusing the violence even a little and it’s ridiculous for you to conflate the two things

EleventhHour ,
@EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

I really havent. Suggesting that the restaurant may have been justified I asking them to stop what they were doing is not excusing the violence

when you invent excuses for bigoted violence that’s what you’re doing, especially if you have to completely invent the accusation that the victims were liars and, therefore, deserved it.

THAT is what you keep doing, and your denials just make it more obvious how much trouble with the truth when you deny the things you’ve already said here for everyone to see.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

Except even if I’m 100 percent right, that still excuses nothing

EleventhHour ,
@EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

Except even if I’m 100 percent right

according to what evidence that you didn’t make up yourself?

that still excuses nothing

except you’re still here trying to excuse iit.

kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

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  • EleventhHour ,
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    how charming

    Samvega ,

    Third time Krypto’s post has been removed in this thread.

    Samvega ,

    've said multiple times that the violence was not okay and there was no excuse for it. No matter how much pda happened. I have also said multiple times that they are absolutely not to blame for the violence assuming neither threw the first punch.

    Good.

    I only suggested that he might have downplayed a single detail…

    You just can’t stop adding to absolute ‘never’ and ‘not’ with additional bullshit.

    Let’s go back to your first post, which started:

    There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but I would be very shocked if the PDA were as innocent as they imply it…

    You said the victims weren’t ‘as innocent’. You’re victim blaming. You can’t cover that up by starting with ‘not okay’, ‘no excuse’, and ‘not to blame’. You consistently follow on with words that EXPLICITLY MEAN “BUT they are not innocent and have some blame”.

    You talk like a politician. I can imagine you being on TV saying: “I respect childless women, however, they should vote like their father says”.

    Stop equivocating. If the violence was wrong, it was wrong. That’s it.

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    YOU are the only one suggesting there’s more to it, and you’re doing it so you can side with the bigots/attackers while indirectly calling the victims liars.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    I’m not. But whatever you say

    EleventhHour ,
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    “nuh-uh!” is rarely a successful debate tactic.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

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  • EleventhHour ,
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    you’re not some magnificent puzzle-- your intentions are clear, as you keep calling the victims liars and defending the attackers’ actions as justified.

    Samvega ,

    Second post Kryptonian’s had removed in this thread.

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    Hardly. He’s getting close to five or six.

    sneaky ,

    Welcome to Lemmy. I get where you’re coming from. I run a business and I have had to ask straight and gay couples to tone down their PDA. Sometimes they respond poorly and I have had them downplay what they were doing as if I wasn’t just watching it… Unfortunately letting that kind of thing slide negatively impacts how other customer view my business. I can’t have people groping each other when a family walks in.

    To the point of the people not comprehending the full scope of what you’re saying, obviously this situation got violent and that’s uncalled for. Straight or gay violence isn’t the answer.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Thank you for your experience and perspective.

    Samvega ,

    I’m not.

    There’s no point lying, your posts are visible. You said:

    There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but…

    You were talking in bad faith from the very first sentence. An absolute ‘never’ to modifying it into a conditional, based on you imagining that two gay people justified a Big Mad Moment because they kissed too hard.

    There is never a reason to beat up a couple as they wait for their fast food, no matter how hard they kiss. There is no but. That was a complete sentence. Them being gay doesn’t change that in the slightest.

    Lol. Dude, I’m a full on socialist pro-choice pro-LGBT rights progressive.

    Usually better to show that than say it.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Read my other reply to you regarding the misinterpretation of the word “but”. As for justifying the “big mad moment”, I said that calmly asking them to stop the PDA may have been justified. The employee did not get angry at them when asking them to stop by the own retelling of the victim here. I did not say that the anger and violence that followed were justified. I literally said the opposite. And you can think whatever of my progressivism. Living in a reality where sometimes people downplay their actions to come off better in a store is apparently antithetical to progressivism to you, but not to me. The guy still has rights, dignity and the freedom to express himself and love whomever he wants even if he was too embarrassed to admit he was sucking face a bit too intensely for a business to be happy with.

    finley ,

    you’re not excusing the violence towards this couple, but you’re sure going out of your way to excuse all of the bigotry and hate which led to it, even going so far as to assert that they’re liars overblowing the situation so you can claim the bigots/assaulters are blameless, or, at least , that this bigotry and hate was somehow reasonable.

    you can claim to be leftie or whatever, but your words here show how you really feel towards the LGBTQ+ community and about those who would discriminate against us.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Dude sometimes people exaggerate. No strike that. USUALLY people exaggerate. Especially to escape blame in their own story. They aren’t to blame for the violence. Period. Full stop. But that doesn’t mean that they weren’t to blame for drawing an employee out to ask them to stop what they were doing. I’m not even saying that they definitely are. I. Don’t. Know. I haven’t seen security footage or anything. But suggesting that they might have been a little more extra in their kissing than they suggested is not tantamount to hating LGBT people. My suggestion doesn’t even have a thing to do with them being gay. Believe it or not, there are times where people jump to the minority card to explain how others feel about them or act towards them when, sometimes, they have legitimate reasons to feel things about someone or act a certain way irrespective of their minority traits. Are we all antisemites for preferring Walz over Shapiro as VP or being against the Palaesrinian genocide? We were accused of it, so it must be true, right? Does suggesting that Jewish people might be wrong about me being an antisemitic also make me antisemitic? Because you’re suggesting I’m a homophobe for not taking this one guy’s belief that the entire restaurant was itching to beat gay people as gospel.

    finley ,

    My suggestion doesn’t even have a thing to do with them being gay.

    but they are, and you’re still doing all these mental gymnastics to rationalize the bigotry and hate that was unleashed towards them.

    Dude sometimes people exaggerate.

    apparently, only LGBTQ+ people when being attacked and not, perhaps, the Shake Shack employees who assaulted them.

    your automatic victim-blaming and vehement defense of the bigotry, even making up stories to rationalize it, shows who and what you really are.

    DragonTypeWyvern ,

    This is a fight you don’t need to take a side in. It very well could be the employees didn’t decide, as a group, to put a man in the hospital for being gay but the best case scenario is still a beating fueled by tribalism as they decided to all put a guy in the hospital for yelling at their friend.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    I wasn’t trying to take a side. I think the guy may have been underselling the amount of PDA he and his partner were doing and the they may have been justifiably asked to tone it down, but I’m still on their side. They didn’t deserve to be victims, to be attacked. Both of those things can be true at the same time. Reality is not always as clean as bad guys were all wrong and good guys were all right. They are still the good guys here even if they are embarrassed to say that they got carried away with themselves. That’s not a crime. I’ve been gross with a girl in public too. M

    finley ,

    You claim not to try to take a side, but you have Repeatedly accused the victims of lying, without any evidence, and have used that as justification for what happened to them.

    The people here aren’t idiots, and we can see what you’re doing.

    todd_bonzalez ,
    @todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee avatar

    Lol. Dude, I’m a full on socialist pro-choice pro-LGBT rights progressive.

    Then act like it.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Act like it… by disregarding the fact that gay people are flawed just like the rest of us and sometimes exaggerate or play down details in their stories to come off better? Fine, sure. Gay people are magic. They can’t lie. Feel better?

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    Don’t blame everyone else for your own poor behavior. calling the victims out as liars just so you can side with the bigots is pretty dispicable.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey , (edited )

    Being a victim doesn’t make you automatically incapable of lying. I’m not siding with the violent assholes either

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    yet, you’ll call these victims liars - over and over - to rationalize the bigotry and violence they received. and you keep doing it, like everyone can’t see what you’re doing.

    Samvega ,

    Being a victim doesn’t make you automatically incapable of lying.

    Maybe two gay men kissing can be seen as extreme sexual content through the eyes of bigots, because – hear me out…

    BIGOTRY IS NOT LOGICAL
    AND NEVER HAS BEEN

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    You could be right. Every step of the way I have suggested that my read on the guys words might be wrong, that they could all be bigots that were just waiting to be able to beat on some gays. I don’t know man. I even came to this article taking it at face value that an entire restaurant staff was a bunch of homophobes. It was reading the guys own account that made thar conclusion seem sketchier to me. That is why I brought it up. That doesn’t mean I’m right. And that doesn’t mean the violence was OK. It unequivocally was not. You all threw a fit because I questioned if a gay person may have slightly downplayed his PDA. But whatever, I’m tired of defending in this stupid backnand forth. Think what you want of me. Christ.

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    Every step of the way, you have accused the victims of lying (without evidence) and justifying the attack on them.

    Here you are doing it again.

    Samvega , (edited )

    It’s not OK. There is a point, though,

    “It’s not okay. Except…”

    It’s not okay to spread the idea that strangers store their own sexual secretions in jars. Except, in your case…

    Imagine that I finished that sentence by giving spurious reasons as to why I think it’s okay to spread a made up idea like that. Would you say ‘fair enough’ in response? Is it fair that I make you an exception, without evidence?

    Is it fair that you make this gay couple an exception, without evidence?

    Your suppositions are gross.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Please put more words in my mouth. Blatantly misquote me and misconstrue my basic English to mean whatever you want it to mean. Strawman me, daddy!

    Samvega ,

    That’s interesting. You get to claim that a gay person was lying about kissing their boyfriend, but when you feel that assumptions are being made about you, you flip out. Do you often find that you treat people in ways that you don’t accept for yourself to be treated?

    You said: “There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but…”

    To me, that reads as, “It’s not OK. Except…”

    Maybe you should have phrased it differently, e.g.:

    There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one.

    I think that, maybe, the kissing described was more heavy and sexual in nature than they described. This does not mean they deserved to be attacked.

    Actually, I’m going to edit my post, because me supposing they were kissing extra hard has no bearing on the violence done against them. I said the violence was wrong, so saying ‘but they might have been kissing offensively hard’ is stupid. It doesn’t matter. I said it didn’t matter, and then I said it like I did matter. I’m going to remove that part, because it’s stupid, and makes me look suspicious.

    I ask again:

    It’s not okay to spread the idea that strangers store their own sexual secretions in jars. Except, in your case…

    Imagine that I finished that sentence by giving spurious reasons as to why I think it’s okay to spread a made up idea like that. Would you say ‘fair enough’ in response? Is it fair that I make you an exception, without evidence?

    FlyingSquid ,
    @FlyingSquid@lemmy.world avatar

    There are always two sides to every altercation

    Yes, and in this case it was the side that violently beat a man for an event which started with their queerphobia and the other side that didn’t violently beat a man for any reason.

    todd_bonzalez ,
    @todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee avatar

    I don’t care if they were fucking the burgers and shakes, the employees can ask them to leave if they’re violating the business’ code of conduct, and after that they can call the police if they’re trespassing.

    The customer can sue the shit out of them after the fact if it was discriminatory, and in D.C. that would be a slam dunk if they were just kissing.

    Once the employees decided to resort to violence, they fucked up, regardless of what the customers were doing.

    Either way, you weren’t there, and homophobes blow up about pretty mundane things all the time, so maybe just take the gay men at their word instead of accusing them of inappropriate behavior and revealing yourself to be a homophobe yourself.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    I read his words. It was his words that made me doubt. He and his partner were the victims here, for sure. But that doesn’t mean that they are being honest about the preamble to the altercation. But if not fully believing a person about every single detail of their story, if not taking every single assumption that they made as gospel makes me homophobe because they happen to be gay, sure. Whatever.

    finley ,

    But that doesn’t mean that they are being honest about the preamble to the altercation.

    YOU, again, are the only one implying this, without evidence. And you’re clearly doing it to excuse the bigotry and violence they faced.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    I didn’t say I had evidence. I said I got a feeling from the way he phrased his story. I also said I might be wrong.

    finley ,

    yet, oddly, you keep asserting - without evidence - that the victims are liars and the bigotry and violence they received was justified.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

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  • EleventhHour ,
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    THE VIOLENCE WAS NOT JUSTIFIED.

    then why do you keep trying to justify it?

    Samvega ,

    KryptonianCodeMonkey’s top post:

    There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but…

    They modify a ‘never’ with a comma and a ‘but’. So, not ‘never’, clearly.

    It’s odd that they’re working so hard to pretend they’re not saying what they’re actually, visibly, verifiably saying.

    Thanks to everyone who questioned this so capably.

    Samvega ,

    I said I got a feeling from the way he phrased his story.

    “From the way you phrase your posts, I guess you might have disturbing images on your hard drive. I might be wrong.”

    Would you take offence if I said that? If yes, then think about what you’re doing.

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  • EleventhHour ,
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    No, you accused them of lying, and then you used that lie of your own to justify the bigotry and violence that they faced.

    Repeatedly

    And here you are, doing it again.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Weren’t you supposed to do something to yourself? Nobody is talking to you.

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    Lmao, don’t blame others for your own terrible behavior.

    Samvega ,

    Weren’t you supposed to do something to yourself?

    This is the most pathetic question I’ve come across for some time, and I’m a teacher, and being asked pathetic questions is a daily occurrence for me.

    Nobody is talking to you.

    No, because we’re typing to each other.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    The guy was reply bombing me with the same accusation about 8 time an hour ago. Every time I responded to his comment, he’d repeat the same thing. Again, context matters, dude.

    Samvega ,

    And that leads to you saying things that get removed by mods because…?

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Because apparently taking the lord’s name in vain is a removable offense for the Lemmy automod huge eyeroll

    EleventhHour ,
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    you realize that anyone can check out the mod log and see what you posted and why it was removed, right?

    kryptonianCodeMonkey , (edited )

    You’re right. I thought they removed the one where I just said “Christ”. That’s my bad. Even better, they removed the one were I called someone a wierd o. You’re right, how edgy. Strike it from the record! Too combative! I’ve definitely not been called worse by you and your other dudes brigading my comments a dozen times already.

    My others were removed for telling you to gfy, for using all caps out of frustration and saying ffs, and calling you a d**k. Oh the humanity.

    EleventhHour , (edited )
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    don’t blame others for your own bad behavior.

    I’ve definitely not been called worse by you and your other dudes brigading my comments a dozen times already.

    ah, so calling you out for using a lie to justify bigotry and violence is “brigading” now…

    EleventhHour ,
    @EleventhHour@lemmy.world avatar

    More lies to justify your behavior. You know everyone can see your comments.

    You kept using a lie you made up in order to justify the attack, and I keep calling you out when you lie.

    If you don’t like that, stop using lies to justify bad behavior.

    Samvega , (edited )

    I accused them of getting a little too into their makeout session.

    You also say that this does not warrant violence. So why even make that point?

    If one of my female friends is sexually harassed, and I say, “There’s no excuse for that. It doesn’t matter how you were dressed. However, I bet you were dressed provocatively,” am I being a despicable piece of shit?

    weirdo

    I accept I’m ‘weird’, because I’m heavily autistic. But at least I don’t come across like someone who says “Of course you’re not at fault, BUT…”

    Edit: checking your post history, you’ve never said anything interesting. Okay, bye.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    If you female friend wore a shirt so low cut and loose that she was flashing her tits to everyone and was asked to leave the restaurant because of it, so she started arguing and then the employee attacked her… no, her clothing did not excuse the attack. It does excuse her being asked to leave. It is pretty simple how both of those things can be true. It is pretty simple that the fact that she was attacked doesn’t make the employee asking her to leave unjustified. And if she recounted the story and said “he had a problem with my shirt that might have been a little low cut”, and failed to mention she was fully flashing people, she would be lying about the facts even if those facts, again, don’t justify the violence that followed. I don’t know why this is so complicated. Reality has nuance.

    finley ,

    Wow, now you’re using offensive tropes about women to justify your endorsement of this homophobic attack?

    Can you go no lower?

    Samvega ,

    I said “If one of my female friends is sexually harassed,” and you turned that into being ‘asked to leave’.

    Two gay people were assaulted, and you turned that into a discussion about them being asked to leave.

    Pretty weird.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    They weren’t even initially asked to leave. Read his account. They were asked to stop the PDA, then the partner started to argue and then was escorted out. That is the in the victim’s own account.

    catloaf ,

    It’s saddening to me that the take of “there’s probably more to the story here” is so objectionable. Judgment absolutely should be withheld pending investigation.

    EleventhHour ,
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    Making up stories just so someone can blame the victims is generally not well received here.

    coffeecoffeecoffee89 ,

    Dude, you are wrong. Give it up. No guy has ever had the shit beat out of him by a stores employees for straight PDA. This was homophobia, and your bullshit argument just invalidates the very real struggle gay people go through every day. You are clearly not gay. So learn when you don’t have the context to speak up, accept you are wrong, and sit the hell down.

    Samvega ,

    No guy has ever had the shit beat out of him by a stores employees for straight PDA.

    I’ve certainly not heard of a hetero couple being assaulted for kissing. Unless they were seen to be of different ethnic heritages or religions.

    How I’ve seen people deal with seeing kissing they don’t want to see: “Stop that and leave.”

    How I’ve seen people deal with their bigotry being triggered: escalating violence.

    Samvega ,

    There is never a reason for either party to escalate a verbal disagreement to a physical one, but…

    You modify a ‘never’ with a comma and a ‘but’. So, not ‘never’.

    PDA were as innocent as they imply it

    “They kissed in a non-innocent way and I had to assault them.”
    Hmm, that sounds like bullshit to me.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    First of all, the word “but” doesn’t negate the statement in the first half of the sentence. “I wanted ice cream, but I ate a donut instead” doesn’t mean I never wanted ice cream. The but, in this case was meant to indicate that, while I am on their side in regard to the violence that occurred becuase it was unjustifiable regardless of what started the interaction, I would not be surprised to find put that he downplayed that detail and the employee may have been justified in asking them to stop. Him downplaying that detail, and/or the employee being justified in asking them to stop does not, in an way shape for form, excuse, defend, or approve the violence that followed. That was the exact reason I prefaced that statement with the fact that the physical violence wasn’t acceptable here.

    Samvega ,

    The but, in this case was meant to indicate that, while I am on their side in regard to the violence that occurred becuase it was unjustifiable regardless of what started the interaction, I would not be surprised to find put that he downplayed that detail…

    It’s ‘unjustifiable’. So why link that to assuming the victim was obfuscating the truth? In the same sentence, you are absolving the victim of blame while also claiming that they lied.

    kryptonianCodeMonkey ,

    Because I was prefacing my statement in an attempt to ward off misunderstandings about whose side I was on. I underestimated the degree to which people lack a sense of nuance apparently, though

    Samvega ,

    What ‘nuance’ is there about speculating that two assaulted gay people were kissing harder than they described?

    As you yourself say, it does not have any bearing on the violence done to them being acceptable. So why link those two things together with a comma but?

    Jakeroxs ,

    That it’s possible it’s less to do with them being gay and more to do with them potentially making out heavily and making the workers uncomfortable, which is possible if they were a straight couple too instead.

    Not condoning the violence in the slightest

    Samvega ,

    potentially making out heavily

    You get attacked on your commute.

    I say: “It’s terrible you were dragged out of your car and hit, that’s not acceptable!”

    I then add: “You probably were driving badly, though, which pissed people off.”

    The second sentence modified the first, yes?

    finley ,

    That it’s possible it’s less to do with them being gay and more to do with them potentially making out heavily and making the workers uncomfortable

    this assumes the couple was lying in their account, for which there is no evidence. this is little more than victim-blaming, and using a falsehood to justify bigotry and violence.

    finley ,

    First of all, the word “but” doesn’t negate the statement in the first half of the sentence.

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    foggy ,

    Man that’s an unfortunate last name.

    poo ,
    @poo@lemmy.world avatar

    Some christian dingus is who I’d expect to be the homophobe lol

    Raiderkev ,

    Lol I was reading that bit and felt really bad for poor middle school Dingus.

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    ianhclark510 ,
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    Was the name changed for privacy? Imagine going through life being named Christian Dingus

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