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Crackhappy , to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?
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Is there some sort of overriding reason that your mom has chosen to obscure her address? If not, then no, there is no reason to accede to these ridiculous demands.

doingthestuff ,

The reason is her mom could kick her out.

Shard ,
coaxil , to asklemmy in what's your favorite thing to put on fries that isn't ketchup?

Chicken salt

youRFate , to asklemmy in who's making the best Sriracha right now?

I like flying goose brand. IIRC it’s actually made in the sriracha region in Thailand , and it’s the brand huy fong copied the bottle design from. Many supermarkets sell it here.

PixTupy , to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?

This seems like something you all should be discussing in family therapy.

TWeaK , (edited ) to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?

Edit: The below is true for (most states in) the US, which I have assumed OP is from based on the use of “mom” and “OWI”. The downvoters are ignorant.

If you’re an adult then legally you’re a tenant, and you have all the rights of a tenant living with a landlord. Given that you almost certainly don’t have a written contract, there aren’t really any additional terms she can impose that go beyond a standard tenancy agreement.

To be clear, most jurisdictions treat a tenant living with a landlord slightly different to a tenant living privately in a separate property. So if you want to look up your rights for where you live you need to make sure it’s for that kind of cohabiting situation.

However, your mom can’t just kick you out, legally. She has to formally evict you using the same process any other landlord would evict their tenant. If she did kick you out or change the locks, you would be within your rights to call the police and have them mediate to grant access to your home.

As a tenant, you are allowed to have guests over. Not just waiting outside or on the driveway to pick you up, but inside and maybe even occasional overnight stays. Although again this may be where living with the landlord makes it slightly different.

All of this is underscored by the non-legal parts - your relationship with your mother and your continued tenancy. She can evict you, and if you fall out then she may well do that. Just because the law is on your side doesn’t necessarily mean your mom will want or have to maintain a relationship with you. A balanced position might be to assert your rights while trying not to be a dick about it and offering a fair compromise with your mom. I would say meeting your boyfriend in your driveway is a reasonable compromise, however she might not see it that way.

doingthestuff ,

A lot of places don’t work like you’re describing.

TWeaK , (edited )

Sure, but absent any specifics from OP I’ve taken the fact that they said “mom” to point to them being in the US.

Obviously, the exact law depends on the jurisdiction, but saying “mom” at the very least rules out several places where this isn’t the case. OP also mentioned an “OWI”, which is an American legal term.

Shadow , to asklemmy in What's the most extravagant thing you've bought for your pet, and do you regret it?
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This dog bed: bigbarker.com

Got it with the waterproof protector and an extra cover so I can wash one at a time easily. Totally worth it, I could sleep on this thing its so comfy.

velox_vulnus , to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?

I read the post thrice, and I’m still not sure what the fuck I’ve read.

PriorityMotif ,
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Someone who is not a native English speaker who lives in an oppressive country and/or is controlled by a narcissistic mother who favors the sister.

Drusas ,

Sounds more like someone who is mentally disabled to me, but it's hard to tell.

JackbyDev ,

Someone who is young, still at home, and has an overly controlling parent is trying to go on a date. They’re asking if it’s legal. They’re concerned their siblings will rat them out.

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intensely_human , to asklemmy in what's your favorite thing to put ketchup on that isn't fries?

Hash browns

veganpizza69 , to programmerhumor in Popular Programming Book "Clean Code" is being rewritten
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Glad I didn’t read it.

TheBigBrother , (edited ) to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?

If it’s your house and you pay the bills you can make the rules, if isn’t your house and you pay no bills you will have to follow the rules, it doesn’t matter how much old you are actually.

KingJalopy ,

User name checks out here

turnerpike20 OP ,

What does that mean?

Wrufieotnak ,

The user name of the parent comment is “TheBigBrother”. Big Brother is also the name of the totalitarian regime in the dystopian book Nineteen Eighty-Four from George Orwell. The other commentator referenced the Big Brother in 1984 to the comment of the parent comment thereby implying, that the original comment with the “my house, my rules” is too totalitarian or strict.

turnerpike20 OP ,

I’ve become 25.

Blizzard ,

I think there is some context here you didn’t mention. If you’re 25, why is your sister taking care of you?

TheBigBrother ,

If isn’t your house, at least you pay the bills or a part of it? If you are there living WO paying anything you will not get any benefits IMO.

Edit: there is a big difference between living with your parents and living from your parents.

intensely_human , to asklemmy in Do you approve sex work? Why or why not?

Yes. I am a libertarian.

abekonge , to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?

Are you being held prisoner by your family? Why is your sister taking care of you? Why is she watching you with cameras?

There might be a lot of context that explains these things. But just reading your post it sounds like you need counsel or professional help. Take care.

turnerpike20 OP ,

The cameras are on the outside and will send a notification if movement is detected.

shneancy , to science_memes in 8 Minutes

unless you’re sleeping - 8 minutes and maybe 30 seconds to start seeing posts online, 10 minutes to start getting news about it

Duamerthrax ,

I don’t know about you, but if I start seeing headlines about the Sun vanishing, I’m assuming it’s a hoax and going back to bed.

Darkassassin07 ,
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Maybe if ony one or two places are reporting on it. If all the major ‘reputable’ news sources are reporting it; there’s a pretty good chance there’s something to it.

Duamerthrax ,

Yeah, but I’m not vetting the sources on that at 1am.

shneancy ,

dw other people will, and the sun vanishing would cause mass panic and with it all laws & morality would go to go to hell. So unless you live off the grid you’re not going to get any sleep that eternal night :)

from then you’d probably have a few days to say goodbye to your friends and family, the Earth would rapidly start cooling and humanity would be lucky to have 0.0001% of people survive the first year

Duamerthrax ,

Iceland would have the highest chance. You have to find places that have geothermal or nuclear power and access to pod farming equipment.

So unless you live off the grid you’re not going to get any sleep that eternal night :)

You underestimate my ability to turn off notifications on my phone.

shneancy ,

yea realistically nuclear power would be one of the few things to keep humanity going in that doomed world. There’s definitely a couple of bunkers set up to sustain life no matter the situation outside, but aside from the rich and a couple top scientists to think for them everyone else on the planet will die, honestly best course of action would be just commiting suicide with all your loved ones whilst there’s still some wood to burn for warmth.

I don’t mean the notifications on your phone I mean the screaming, shouting, and arson outside 😭

I suspect the first hour (though that might be generous) would be grave silent, then all hell would break loose. Nobody will have anything to lose

Duamerthrax ,

I don’t mean the notifications on your phone I mean the screaming, shouting, and arson outside

I don’t live that close to people. There’s an in between zone between being an urbanite and being offgrid.

Also, I don’t believe that people would turn blood thirsty within hours. That’s hollywood drivel and hollywood is run by sociopaths.

shneancy ,

there’s definitely going to be some bloodthirst within hours. There’s already people that say there’s nothing stopping them from murdering others aside from the threat of punishment. At the very least there’ll be a steep spike in murders as people go out to commit revenge killings, be they justified or not - they would happen for certain. The preppers would certainly use their arsenal to “defend” their stashes. To-be mass murderers would do their thing. Many people will opt to go out with a bang. Sociopaths will get their last hit of pleasure. Just chaos in general. All instincts unleashed. No need to think about consequences, instant gratification now for everybody.

Hollywood exaggerates things of course, but imagine all laws got abolished and consequences of your actions didn’t matter. It might be few that take that chance, but it’ll certainly be enough to raise hell

shneancy ,

then wait until the 10min mark then! Would be rather odd if all news sources in unison decided to pull a prank like that

Palacegalleryratio , to asklemmy in Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult?
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How old are you? You’re an adult, but your sister is taking care of you, and you’re worried about your mum finding out you’ve been on a date? What?

What is this? There is some information missing here to make it make sense. Are you part of a restrictive cult? Are you actually 15yo? There must be something else going on here!

turnerpike20 OP ,

My mom is on rehab after an owi so she’s out for a month. I don’t drive so I have no ability to go out my sister is basically here to make sure the house is okay and I have the things I need.

Wes4Humanity ,

Does your mom or sister have legal custody of you?

turnerpike20 OP ,

No not really.

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