Why his his bank account logged into her phone? Are joint bank accounts really a thing, or are the wife and I the weird ones for keeping our finances separate?
Except we both send money to an account that’s in my name offsetting the mortgage on the house that’s in my name too. My wife wants access to this account because she’s worried if I die the bank will make it hard to get at the cash since it’s offset and joint savings all in one.
Not to mention we don’t have wills and she’s been pushing for that for a few years.
The more I think about it, she might be planning on killing me haha
All our accounts are totally joint and wife and I carry basically the same credit cards. No reason to be separate IMO. Only need one check book that way and I can pay all the bills for all the cards in one place.
What if one one of you wants to make an expensive purchase? The wife and I avoid a lot of arguments when we can’t tell each other how to spend our own money. If I want to build a new PC? No problem! She wants to spend $500 on skincare products? Go for it.
After my last gf it took me 4 years to find someone. I was going through grief on the prospect of being single for a long time. Then when the acceptance hit I rode it like it was the last step on grief. I just do me, meaning I watch movies by myself, eat out by myself, do stuff by myself. Most of my friends are couples so it’s easy to escape a crowd. I had my best vacation by booking 4 days earlier than the group and stay at a hostel and join randoms in their adventure. Sometimes it’s awkward but I didn’t try too hard so when one experience sucks I went to the next one. TLDR: I drown myself with hobbies and things I like to do and didn’t actively look for someone. But when it feels like going for someone then I date.
I sympathize, sorry that you're feeling this way. It sucks to not have someone to be with. I don't know if it'll help much, but I thought I'd share my story too.
I'm 2 years out of an 8 year relationship. I think I'm damaged to say the least, but I was damaged even before then. I struggle to connect with people, and breaking the physical barrier is also really difficult for me. I wish I was better at it, but I'm just kind of an awkward dude. I can be a bit uncomfortable in my own skin sometimes.
I met a girl recently and I thought things were going really well. We had lots of common interests, and the raport between us was really great. I was genuinely excited to get to know her as a person, and to be spending time with someone again. I was hopeful, and happy. It was nice to think that I might have someone I could actually share with again. I don't want to wallow in self-pity or anything, but I'm in my 30's and I'd be lying if I said the general disconnect I usually feel hasn't affected me on some deep level.
We were hanging out one day and things were going well up until I attempted to kiss her. It's such a dumb thing to blunder, but my bad timing, awkward word choices, and even my incorrect physical positioning caused me to rush things and not really give the moment a chance to unfold organically. I don't know why I get like this, it's very ammature and probably the quality I dislike the most about myself. I think maybe I'm just scared to fully allow myself to be vulnerable to people. I don't really think I'm a bad kisser in general, I'm actually great at other physical/intimate things, but I just kind of messed this one up a bit. I allowed myself to be overly nervous/anxious, and I just wasn't at my best. Mistakes happen sometimes. That was all it took though. She went from being pretty engaged with me to generally disinterested just like that. It sucks because It made me feel like her entire decision was based on this one failed interaction. I don't want to sound stuck up or something, but I think I deserve better than that.
I found out there were other factors too though. She was already interested in someone else at the time she was hanging out with me. It feels kind of pathetic to admit it, but I think I just got outcompeted. I know that I should give myself some allowance for the fact that there was nothing that I could do about that aspect, she's entitled to her choices, but she wasn't very forthright with me either. She led me on, and stood me up on plans to hang out. That was really selfish behavior on her part.
I know that girls do this sometimes for fear of hurting guy's feelings, but just don't. Be honest, and transparent with us, it's easier for everyone in the long run. I think I deserved a better chance than what she gave me, and if she was that superficial already then she probably wasn't right for me anyway. It sucks, but that's where I'm at with it right now. I'm not hateful towards her or anything like that, just disappointed really.
I don't know really where I'm going with all this, but just suffice it to say that understanding and learning from relationships is difficult sometimes. I think I'd just say to try not to give up if you can help it, but if you feel like you need to go into self-preservation mode then that's ok too.
Do not expect anything factual from llms. This is the wrong use case. You can role play with them if you guide them sufficiently and they can help with sone tasks like programming if you already know what you want but want to save time writing it, but anything factual is out of their scope.
If you already know what you want but want to save time writing it
IME, going to ChatGPT for code usually meant losing time, cause I’d go back and forth trying to get a usable snippet and it would just keep refactoring the same slop that didn’t work in its first attempt
They're pretty reasonable for consensus-based programming prompts as well like "Compare and contrast popular libraries for {use case} in {language}" or "I want to achieve {goal/feature} in {summary of project technologies}, what are some ways I could structure this?"
Of course you still shouldn't treat any of the output as factual without verifying it. But at least in the former case, I've found it more useful than traditional search engines to generate leads to look into, even if I discard some or all of the specific information it asserts
Edit: Which is largely due to traditional search engines getting worse and worse in recent years, sadly
Feddit.de was big but I don’t see it much anymore. Communities got big in the reddit exodus last year, but you have to keep nurturing them for them to catch on. I’d suggest trying to revive them by posting. Over time they’ll start to grow again
The owner vanished and the other Admins miss the ssh keys to be able to migrate it. Also feddit.de had a partially fried database after a disk ran out of space
It wasn’t like that. The owner went on a long vacation during which the server’s disk ran full, the database was corrupted as a result, and the backup was overwritten with a corrupted state, before the owner returned.
feddit.org was created as a community effort to keep that from happening again.
Absolutely. I don’t know much about the situation but it seems like the owner had some personal issues and just went radio silent on everyone up until someone made the new instance. The whole situation was definitely mishandled
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