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olena , 30 days ago to actuallyautistic

About AuDHD social interactions and inability to stop

A colleague of mine complained that it’s impossible to find sour cream here. I said no, it’s everywhere, it’s just called differently here, check this and that supermarkets, look near the butter.
In the evening, I send them links to the online shop pages of all the varieties of sour cream in every local supermarket chain, and for those which don’t have the online shop, I google images of the varieties sold there and send them also.
Next day, when doing my daily shopping, I see sour cream, and I buy it, and then bring it to the colleague.
Only after seeing the confused expression on their face after giving them the thing, I realize that maybe I may be doing something wrong, and keep the two other varieties in the bag not telling them that I actually brought more.
And I have to tell you that I am actually kinda proud of myself that THIS TIME I was able to notice the expression and actually stop.
Usually I realize I have done something wrong only after they run away and start avoiding me

#AuDHD
#autistic
#neurodivergent
#ADHD
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irotsoma , 1 month ago to actuallyautistic

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jda , 1 month ago to bookstodon

Just what I need - nearly 175 #books to add to my nearly endless Want to Read pile. Only a little bit of crossover and I've probably read less than 10% of them.

Sigh.

100 Best Books of the 21st Century:
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2024/books/best-books-21st-century.html?unlocked_article_code=1.6k0.40sZ.jbh48iEMRMCX&smid=url-share

75 Best Science Fiction Books of All Time:
https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/books/g39358054/best-sci-fi-books/

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beexcessivelydiverting , 3 months ago to bookstodon

Colin Firth's #PrideandPrejudice shirt on show

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cjllznz08p9o

#AmReading #AmWriting @bookstodon #books #Bookstodon #WritingCommunity #ReadingCommunity #Regency #Georgian #JaneAusten

franciscawrites , 3 months ago to bookstodon

Can you name a film that was adapted not from a novel, but from a short story?
Here's one:

The Illusionist (2006)

#writingcommunity @bookstodon #moviesandbooks #film #AdaptedFromaBook

Jennifer , 3 months ago to bookstodon

I need some new science fiction to read, who has some suggestions? I don't like military sci-fi. For reference, my favorite series is the Expanse, I also enjoyed Scalzi's Collapsing Empire, I love Robert Charles Wilson's books. I mostly enjoy space operas and unique stories about technology, for example I really liked the recent book Mountain in the Sea about AI and intelligent octopus. Suggestions from the awesome Bookstodon community? @bookstodon #Bookstodon #Scifi #ScienceFiction

ronsboy67 , 4 months ago to bookstodon

#AmReading
#10Authors5BooksEach
@bookstodon

Martin Edwards
Madhulika Liddle
David Crystal
Terry Pratchett
P. G. Wodehouse
Margery Aliingham
Cecilia Peartree
C. J. Cherryh
Iona Whishaw
Francis Vivian

Gaysis , 4 months ago to actuallyautistic German

@actuallyautistic

For my local autism group movie nights, I am looking for recommendations of sensory-friendly movies.

Criteria include calm soundtrack, slower-paced action, quieter narrative, and no rapid cuts, fast camera movements, loud or uncomfortable sound effects or flashing lights.

Internet research only gave me results for sensory-friendly cinema events, which is not what we are looking for.

Letterboxd also has no such lists, but I will attempt to create one.

nddev , 6 months ago to actuallyautistic

We had dinner with some friends this evening -- five of us in total. After discussing it with Helen earlier in the week, I came out to them as autistic.

I got an interesting set of reactions. Angela (a former headteacher, who I thought knew more about autism) said: "but you're so social." So I said a few words about masking and learning to spend time in company. Lesley replied: "you should have known him when he was young. He was really quite odd." (No, it's fine, we have that kind of relationship.)

I told Angela I thought she'd known for years, and she said she'd suspected it, but only because of my unusual walk. So, if you really want to pass as NT, you need not only to avoid ticcing and stimming, and make eye contact, and say the right things at the right speed, and pull the right faces, but also to get your walk right. Who knew teachers specialised in gait analysis?

So that's it. I'm committed. I'm #ActuallyAutistic now. 🙂

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kimlockhartga , 7 months ago to bookstodon

@bookstodon Do you ever see a new book, and can't help associating it with another book you've read, because of the cover similarity?

MANHUNT, by Gretchen Felker-Martin. Cover has a dark background, and features a red mesh sack, tied up at the top, containing two plum-sized balls, one of which has a bite taken out of it.

dilmandila , 7 months ago to bookstodon

Oh my God! Oh fck! I wake up to this big news and all I can say is fck! I went to bed having read something about Philip K Dick Awards (I can't even remember what I read about it!) and I wake up to learn that my book, Where Rivers Go To Die, has been nominated for this and its a big deal to me and all I can day is f*ck! What a way to start the year!

https://www.norwescon.org/2024/01/09/2024-philip-k-dick-award-nominees-announced/

@bookstodon #books #sff #book #writing #writingcommunity

ninsiana0 , 8 months ago to bookstodon

What books are you ending your year on?

I'm currently reading NIGHT SIDE OF THE RIVER by Jeanette Winterson.

@bookstodon #bookstodon #readersofmastodon #readersonmastodon

sunflower , 8 months ago to bookstodon

recommend me a book! i like fantasy, paranormal romance, sci-fi, queer fiction. i need 12 recommendations from other people for a 2024 reading challenge :blobcatblep:

#reading #books #bookstodon @bookstodon

autism101 , 9 months ago to actuallyautistic

Why do you need a label?

"Because there is comfort in knowing you are a normal zebra, not a strange horse. Because you can't find community with other zebras if you don't know you belong. And because it is impossible for a zebra to be happy or healthy spending its life feeling like a failed horse.”

q: @omgimautisticaf

Learning the “why” didn’t change me, but finding a community of others like me who I can share things with and learn from has been helpful.

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

Zjaan , 9 months ago to boeken Dutch

Nieuw! #watleesjenu Iedere eerste maandag van de maand ga ik jullie vragen: Wat lees je nu en wat vind je ervan? #watleesjenu cc @boeken

szilviavirag , 10 months ago to bookstodon

Who's your favourite Nobel Prize winning writer?
#bookstodon #books @bookstodon

apodoxus , 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic

If you could improve one concrete thing about your mental health or social skills, what would it be? What practical goal would you set if it were attainable?

#ActuallyAutistic

lunalein , 10 months ago to bookstodon

i read Ministry for the Future and i’m more depressed about the world than ever, AMA #books @bookstodon