dumptruckdan

dumptruckdan , 4 months ago

Megasota

dumptruckdan , 4 months ago

I do for certain local mom and pop places because then they remember me and give me extra fries/rice/extras and orders seem to go a little faster. With a chain, nah.

dumptruckdan , 6 months ago

Last Podcast on the Left

Pod Save the World

Crime in Sports

dumptruckdan , 7 months ago

Depending on who it is, I either ask them how they've been, apologize for who I was back then, or turn 360° and moonwalk out of there

dumptruckdan , 7 months ago

Sometimes it is, but that's part of why it's so valuable.

dumptruckdan , 7 months ago

Man I give up trying to comment here, everything I do on the fediverse ends up messed up somehow. Despite my family's insistence to the contrary I may actually be stupid.

dumptruckdan , 7 months ago

I post a picture using the embed picture feature and it doesn't work right. A while back I posted a comment breaking down some math about some kind of employment/cost of living/rent issue and my math was all wrong and I couldn't make my brain work enough to fix it. Etc. Just frustrating and embarrassing.

dumptruckdan , 7 months ago

Show me them marsh melons

dumptruckdan , 8 months ago

Face scrubber. I was given a small crocheted dish scrubber - sort of like these - made from very soft tulle. It's too soft to be effective on dishes, but it works perfectly on my face.

dumptruckdan , 9 months ago

They made a lot of lawn darts on the way there though

dumptruckdan , 9 months ago

Com Truise

dumptruckdan , 10 months ago (edited 10 months ago)

Unsurprising. $78k/yr comes out to $2194/mo take home pay per Smartasset's calculator. Average rent is well over $1k/mo with no signs of going down any time soon. Landlords frequently demand potential renters have an income of 3x the rent. Gotta live somewhere.

Apparently I'm stupid but I'm too tired to fix it rn so I will just leave my shame up here for all to see. My point is being alive is expensive and bad math or no I'm still not surprised to see this.

Edit again because I'm also too stupid to do a strikethrough correctly even with a formatting bar right there. FML and F this phone too, I'm going to bed

dumptruckdan , 10 months ago

Serious question for you OP and I ask it in a spirit of... possible solidarity? Anyway: I tend to word things clumsily, flub delicate social situations, and just generally put my foot in my mouth at the worst possible time. It's worse in high pressure situations. Are you like this too, and if so, do you worry a lot about unintentionally sabotaging your livelihood or relationships?

dumptruckdan , 10 months ago

If you're not home and the neighbor notices something suspicious happening at your house, they could call the cops/call you, or they could just pretend they didn't see it because FU. If your mailbox is on the other side of the street in someone else's lawn, they could weed whack carefully around it or they could """accidentally""" damage the post every time. They could pick up their dog's shit or they could send their dog over to use your yard. While all of those negative outcomes could be solved with security cameras and at worst a trip to small claims court, it's still a hassle. Just depends on what's worth more to you.

dumptruckdan , 10 months ago

The panther is like a leopard,
Except it hasn't been peppered.
Should you behold a panther crouch,
Prepare to say Ouch.
Better yet, if called by a panther,
Don't anther.

(Ogden Nash)

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

It made more sense when I started thinking of humans as animals. In that context it's like dogs sniffing butts or ants touching antennae when they meet. I eventually settled on a few generic responses that felt less fake than "fine" (idk why "fine" rankles me so much but "not too bad" doesn't, but eh) but didn't elicit further questions, and that made it slightly easier.

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

I agree with the other commenters that you should spend some time outside your comfort zone but pace yourself very carefully. The article mentioned a proximal zone that's outside but adjacent to the comfort zone. I think it's good to mostly shoot for that with occasional planned forays further out just to test yourself.

IMO nobody should be telling you when to go outside your comfort zone or how far, or whether you're doing it enough, unless it's someone close to you whose opinion you can trust and who you know will hear you out when you say you're overwhelmed. And even then you still have veto power because you're the one who has to deal with the fallout if you push yourself too far and melt down or burn out. I don't ever see any NT folks volunteering to help people clean up their life after that except maybe social workers and therapists.

The flip side of this is that since nobody can tell you how much is too much, you're responsible for monitoring that yourself and communicating or removing yourself before you get overwhelmed. That's a good use for the proximal zone - testing your boundaries and keeping an eye on your mood so you can learn to spot when you are approaching your limit. Easier said than done, but I've found it worth the effort. And it gets easier with time.

The other thing to recognize is that some days your comfort zone is pretty big and other days it's about as big as your bed. Asking yourself "how big is my comfort zone today" helps you give yourself some grace. If it's a bed day and you got out of bed, you already exited your comfort zone and should factor that in when you plan your day.

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

"Well if I were doing perfect I wouldn't be here"

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

I've never used it before but so far it seems slower than just typing with my fingers. Too used to using two hands to type I guess.

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

Because with porn you're watching it, alone or with a partner, for a specific purpose. When I'm watching a regular movie I don't want to sit next to my brother or my mom and watch that. Even if I'm alone I don't want to get all hot and bothered and then it's like, do I pause for a minute and go deal with it or sit and watch a car chase like this? Just imply it and cut to the next morning or something. Only time I'm cool with it is watching with the spouse.

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

Somewhat. I still have some of the visual images in my head, but the memory of how I felt at those times is gone or very faded. Often the memories feel, not exactly dreamlike, but like I am looking at a diorama or one of those paperweights that has a scene encased in resin, forever visible but inaccessible.

I've started to forget my dad's voice a bit and it scares me. I don't want to forget anything about him ever.

My therapist said that you don't really remember things, you just remember the last time you remembered them. Like a copy of a copy. And that's how memories get distorted over time. So it's like, am I ruining those memories by remembering them, like a tape you play over and over til you wear it out? Or should I play the tapes anyway in case I hit my head or have a stroke or something and lose a bunch of them?

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

Tell me about it. My brain shows up at 3am with my life's blooper reel full box set on Blu-ray and a bucket of popcorn but is nowhere to be seen when it's time to remember where my other pants went.

dumptruckdan , 11 months ago

And when you first get in, the water is noticeably warmer by the time it hits your feet because you're so warm. When your feet start getting the cool water, then and only then are you done.

dumptruckdan , 1 year ago

swimming upstream

I know you didn't mean it this way, but the context made me chuckle.

Also I commiserate with you OP, as I am part of a fashion community whose name we can't really change due to circumstances, but which attracts certain kinds of unwelcome attention online.

Edit: gahh I meant to reply to socialjusticewizard's comment