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EVDHmn , to actuallyautistic
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Recently I got pulled over for a dead tag because the dmv said I had no insurance. I was in the process of doing a sobriety test and I had a meltdown I held it together and explained I was autistic. He arrested me none the less for dui.
He was polite about it. He seemed to believe me but couldn’t tell.
DMV made a mistake. I have never dropped insurance.
I spoke to my doctor and he said he would testify if needed.
That I am autistic however given my record They shouldnt have 🥹 @actuallyautistic

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@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

That's terrible and frightening - I'm so sorry it happened to you.

hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

  • Comfortable with ambiguity
  • Strong people skills
  • Good culture fit
  • Multitasking
  • A fast-paced dynamic environment
  • Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.


@actuallyautistic
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@hosford42 @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence

"Must be able to lift 65 lbs."

For a job that consisted of communicating with teammates and creating code. The company I worked for at the time also held periodic purges of those who cost the small business health plan too much.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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Apparently, rewatching television shows and movies a million times is an autism thing.

That's me. 🙋‍♂️

@actuallyautistic

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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic

How else are we supposed to learn every line of dialog?

Uair , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

ABA.

https://www.the74million.org/article/americas-most-popular-autism-therapy-may-not-work-and-may-seriously-harm-patients-mental-health/

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@Uair @actuallyautistic

What will happen when this actually sinks in, yet so many school districts pay for ABA specialists?

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@nddev @Uair @actuallyautistic

Yeah, it's not as though psych as a profession has a great track record of saying, "You know what? We were wrong. In fact, my entire career has been based on nothing more than some white academic guy making stuff up out of thin air and ego."

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TITLE:
Distinct brain systems are altered in depression for natural and monetary reward processing
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<p>In recent study published in <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/psychological-medicine/article/abs/distinct-neurofunctional-alterations-during-motivational-and-hedonic-processing-of-natural-and-monetary-rewards-in-depression-a-neuroimaging-metaanalysis/7B90AFED7BCE6D278E535990DD3AFC5F"><em>Psychological Medicine</em></a>, my colleagues and I have found distinct neural alterations during monetary and natural reward processing in patients with depression compared to healthy controls. From a neuroimaging meta-analysis of published fMRI studies in patients with depression and a total of 1,277 participants, the study provides the first evidence that reward alterations in depression differ depending on the type of reward.</p>
<p>For years, researchers have documented reward dysfunctions in depression to mainly occur in the striatum, a brain region strongly involved in reward and motivational processes. However, there are different types of rewards, including natural rewards (e.g. good food or your favorite song) and more abstract or learned rewards such as money. While alterations in reward and motivational processes are core symptoms of depression it has not been examined if the brain basis of natural and monetary rewards differ in the disorder.</p>
<p>Depression is a devastating mental disorder that is characterized by prolonged periods of sadness and anhedonia (loss of interest in almost all of daily life activities). We found interest in this topic because depression is a leading cause of disability affecting millions of people worldwide and there is need to establish determine the neurobiological underpinnings that can inform new treatments.</p>
<p>Our research team, including members from The University of Hong Kong and the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China, conducted a neuroimaging meta-analysis encompassing all suitable previous studies that used fMRI to examine the brain basis of reward alterations in depression. We found that patients with depression exhibited generally decreased activation in the subgenual anterior cingulate cortex and striatum during receipt of all reward types.</p>
<p>However, depression patients showed separable alterations during monetary and natural rewards in the right ventral striatum and the dorsal striatum, respectively. The striatum is a quite heterogeneous brain region and the ventral and dorsal part have distinct functions, such that the ventral striatum is primarily involved in reward and motivational processing while the dorsal striatum is involved in motor and cognitive control. Further network level analyses and behavioral decoding analyses confirmed these conclusions.</p>
<p>The present results indicate that distinguishable neurofunctional alterations may neurally mediate reward processing alterations in depression, in particular, with respect to monetary and natural rewards. Given that natural rewards prevail in everyday life, our findings suggest that reward-type specific interventions are warranted. Moreover, the results challenge whether findings from studies on reward alterations that have been observed in monetary tasks can accurately capture reward dysfunctions in everyday life.</p>
<p>Despite promising findings, the study has some limitations and points to open questions. For instance, the study also found that anti-depressive medication may affect the brain alterations in depression. Future studies are therefore required to better understand if treatment with anti-depressive medication affects brain processing of natural and monetary rewards different in depression.</p>
<p>The study, &;<a href="https://doi.org/10.1017/S0033291723003410">Distinct neurofunctional alterations during motivational and hedonic processing of natural and monetary rewards in depression – a neuroimaging meta-analysis</a>,&; was authored by Mercy Chepngetich Bore, Xiqin Liu, Xianyang Gan, Lan Wang, Ting Xu, Stefania Ferraro, Liyuan Li, Bo Zhou, Jie Zhang, Deniz Vatansever, Bharat Biswal, Benjamin Klugah-Brown and Benjamin Becker.</p>
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@psychbot @PsychResearchBot @psychotherapist @psychotherapists @psychology @socialpsych @socialwork @psychiatry

Well, that might help account for Depressive Realism (hypothesis that people with depression are more likely to accurately assess certain situations than those without depression).

bibliolater , to religion
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"In this paper, we show how religiosity contributes to mental health more generally, but especially in the particular case of its effect during the Covid-19 pandemic. We find that being religious significantly reduces the negative mental health outcomes associated with Covid-19 incidence in one’s social network. This beneficial effect of religiosity on mental health, in this context, is comparable to the effect of being employed."

Bahal, G. et al. (2023) 'Religion, Covid-19 and mental health,' European Economic Review, 160, p. 104621. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.euroecorev.2023.104621 @psychology @economics @religion

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@bibliolater @psychology @economics @religion

I mean, under the right conditions cognitive dissonance can contribute greatly to mental health. Even the DSM has its religious loophole, whereby traits that would normally qualify are exempted if they don't cause problems in the person's local subculture.

janetlogan , to actuallyautistic
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Domestic Violence

https://janetannelogan.wordpress.com/2024/01/23/domestic-violence/
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@spoonies @actuallyautistic

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@janetlogan @spoonies @actuallyautistic

That all looks so painful in all the ways. I'm thankful that GAPS opened a case, too.

magicalgrrrl , to random
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community!

How do I make friends as an adult? I'm new to my area and don't have any local friends or community. Have been struggling with loneliness a lot lately.

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@MickG59 @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic

https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/autistic-individuals-are-more-likely-to-be-lgbtq

Also,
"Among individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), an estimated 42–69% identify as same-sex attracted or a sexual minority (Byers et al., 2012; George & Stokes, 2018b). One study estimates that between 42-69% of individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder identify as same-sex attracted or as a sexual minority (LGBTQ+) (Byers et al., 2012; George & Stokes, 2018b).
15-35% of individuals with ASD who are labeled as “high-functioning” reported a sexual minority identity (Pecora et al., 2016).
Women with autism are more likely to be in a same-sex relationship than women with TD, and all participants with ASD reported more same-sex attraction, more varied sexual identities, and more asexuality (DeWinter et al., 2017)."

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@magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic

It's been my experience that I am mostly welcome in the corners of the queer world that are ND. The rest of it seems very NT oriented & centric. That's okay, it just mimics the straight world. But it's important to keep in mind when seeking out friendships.

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@madewokherd @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic

It does help, even if it's not always applicable! Something I've noticed is that LGBTQ spaces that are more ND are also more queer & less assimilationist. It could just be a tiny sample, but it's been my experience that the more nonbinary/agender/etc people there are, the more ND the group or space tends to be. I think perhaps that's just self selection by both NT and ND people?

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Autistic Burnout is an ADDITIONAL disability on top of being

@actuallyautistic

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

Unless we're talking within the context of Social Disability Theory, I cannot accept that being an autistic is any more a disability than being an allistic is a disability. And the 2020 lockdowns showed that allistic burnout also is a thing.

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

One might even say they are very nearly opposites, which makes it difficult for each to recognize when the other is experiencing their version of it. That's why I brought up the (to them) extreme isolation some allistics encountered for an extended time (perhaps two weeks or so if they were quarantined) in 2020. My very allistic, very social, high stimulous sibling was nearly raving like someone who'd been forgotten in a sensory deprivation chamber for weeks despite hours of zoom & phone calls each day + a full work schedule + deliveries and visitors to her window.

bike , to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic

Grumpy about the medical system, complainy

After an ongoing saga in which my medical records were deleted from the online database never to return, and in which I contacted my clinic to ask for these records multiple times per month in various ways, and in full violation of , I finally got a paper copy of my medical records in the mail.

So I'm reviewing this paper copy of my medical records that I finally got a little while back. And it is much more detailed than the information I had access to through the online portal.

It is riddled with errors. I say one thing. They expect to hear another. They write it down. It's now in my permanent record and I have to just live with records that are wrong or spend hours and lots of emotions trying to get it fixed.

Is angry the emotion I'm having? I don't know. I don't know what emotion it is, but every time I try to think about interfacing with the health clinic, it's just awful. I think I don't need a health clinic, I need like a personal professionally trained health nerd.

Most people: hi doc, I've got symptoms A, B, C.
Doctor: let's test your thyroid. (test) Great! Here, take this pill for the rest of your life.
Most people: ok, doc! Thanks! All better now!

Me: hey doc, can you test my thyroid?
doctor: whyyy?
me: I was reading about it and I think it might be off
doctor: sure ok (test) great! take this pill for the rest of your life!
me: wtf no don't you need to do more tests? make sure there isn't a root cause? I read a book for health professionals on nutrition and thyroid
doctor: (test). how about now? now will you take the pill for the rest of your life? we'll start you on a low dose, we promise.
me: how about I try to fix those nutrition results that were off
doctor: sure, we'll retest in a few months
doctor: crickets
me: hey you forgot about me
doctor: (test) ok look if you don't want to take the pill don't take the pill
me: i am fine with taking the pill if that's the thing that makes the most sense
also me: don't you need to make sure that pill isn't going to cause trouble for me per the instructions in its packaging?
doctor: this is not my expertise, go talk to the homeopathic doctor (test) (abandon patient)

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@bike @actuallyautistic

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I'd love to be able to say, "it's not all medical providers" but so far, apart from emergencies where something needed to be sewn up or removed (and then sewn up), that's been close to my experience, too. I don't know even what to call it. Sloppiness? Laziness? Maybe it's behaviors shaped by hospital policy that came from lawyers? It's just such horrible patient (customer) care.

Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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For many years I have been conscious of frequently swapping from normal glasses to prescription sunglasses & back again… much more than most people. Someone said something recently about their own sensitivity to light & the need to wear really dark glasses a lot of the time. I’m not so much really sensitive to light, as liking a very narrow range of light, not too bright, not too dark. But both, I’m guessing, are indications of light sensitivity experienced by autistic folk. Who knew? @actuallyautistic

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@neversosimple @Susan60 @actuallyautistic

It feels so odd to know that this really is a thing, but it's wonderful, too. I too have always been averse to sunny days and very much prefer overcast, fog, twilight, dawn, night and inside diffuse lighting. I used to just think that it was just hot sunlight on my skin being too overstimulating, but it's more.

Dr_Obvious , to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
Is it a common trait to have the urge to share experiences?

Like as a kid coming from camping, I would give my mom a daylong report about all the things that happened in details.

Or know when I read something interesting I have to show it to my wife. Or when we meet after work I have to let out all the stuff that happened at that very second.

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@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic

We bond via storytelling. Cultures have done that since forever. I find it very odd that modern NT-centric culture does not.

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@Dr_Obvious @odo2063 @actuallyautistic

Listening for us can be both a soothing stim and a way for us to connect to each other.

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades find themselves masking even with their therapists, coaches, or counselors?

If so, more than usual? Less? Why do you think that is?

If not, why do you think that you don’t?

@actuallyautistic

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

Therapy to me has always felt like such a contrived situation-environment. Plus, therapists tend to be very high-social-needs people & thus very NT. So in response, I'd mask for better results. They've always seemed to prefer it.

kkffoo , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
Baking can be really good for me in terms of re-regulating myself, so long as I have enough energy. Mince pies I made this morning, photographed by my lovely daughter.

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@kkffoo @actuallyautistic

They look so delicious - and pretty! I'm glad you found something that works good for regulating. 🙂

PurpleStephyr , to actuallyautistic
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I've always hated interview questions like "What's your biggest weakness?" I think I understand now. All my answers to this question are autistic traits, and I don't actually consider any of them to be weaknesses. I'm blunt, I take things literally, or I don't like misrepresenting data. None of these are weaknesses, they're just part of who I am! Maybe the next time I get that question in an interview, I'll just tell them that it's an ableist question because they're expecting me to belittle myself.

@actuallyautistic

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@estellechauvelin @PurpleStephyr @actuallyautistic

This is the correct answer, at least in part and if it can be condensed into a single sentence.

Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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Question. Some dogs can tell if a person has cancer, presumably by their smell. Does anyone think that some autistic people might be more sensitive to such changes in body chemistry? Not as much as a dog, but more than most other people? @actuallyautistic

Frances_Larina ,
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@Susan60 @actuallyautistic

The theory that I subscribe to is that we don't necessarily have super noses, but rather we have much lower sensory thresholds for perception. So it comes down to whether dogs have olfactory receptors that humans do not. Anecdotally, when my estrogen is high my sense of scent is like the difference between a black & white photo and a full color hologram.

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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How did my comrades come to know that they’re autistic?

@actuallyautistic

Frances_Larina ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

We took my daughter in when she was 5-ish, but the head assessor would only focus on her gender. That led us into delaying getting her younger sibling Dx'd but eventually we did so. We thought it would be useful for school. That turned out to not be true, as IEP meetings are a lot like meeting with corporate HR. Anywho, we went back with our daughter at that point and she was easily Dx'd as the head assessor had retired and then my spouse & I both said, "wait; could we also be?".

spika , to actuallyautistic
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I saw a post on another social network that felt a little aggressive about people needing to learn to use tone tags (to which most of the replies were people who had never encountered a tone tag), and I found myself wondering... Do folks find this useful?

Honestly, I have a hard time remembering what they all mean much less use them as an indicator of what tone I should be applying to what I'm reading or writing.

@actuallyautistic

Frances_Larina , (edited )
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@spika @nddev @IPmonger @actuallyautistic

To me it looks like the expansion of a handful that popped up on Xitter & Tumblr first as a short list (see below) in Oct of 2020.

By December, the NYT ran with a ridiculously expanded list, pushing hard that they were "originally for neurodiverse people but anyone can use them".

October 2020 list:
/j (joke)
/hj (half joking)
/lh (lighthearted)
/s (sarcasm)
/g or /gen (genuine)
/p (platonic)
/srs (serious)
/lyr (lyrics)
/c (copypasta)
/q (quote)

The small, basic list of maybe five or six entries has been around as long as emoji, as in "ever since email headers had to be typed in by hand on a green screen mainframe terminal".

The big aggressive push came after the NYT article and I'm not convinced it was ever requested by actual ND's.

russellmcormond , to actuallyautistic
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Asking @actuallyautistic

We have all heard the phrase: "You are either with us, or against us".

I've observed for many people, given that choice, they will not want to be perceived as against anyone so will claim they are "with".

I don't believe very many real-world scenarios are binary, so I see this as a logical fallacy https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/black-or-white .

If forced into that binary, I will always say "against" given I reject the question itself.

Is that an thing, or is that just me?

Frances_Larina ,
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@russellmcormond @actuallyautistic

It's been my observation that NT social interactions and therefore NT culture are very much based on whether or not a person is considered - however transitory - to be a member of the in-group rather than, "other".

PossiblyAutistic , to actuallyautistic

Let's try the AQ, at https://embrace-autism.com/autism-spectrum-quotient/#test

@actuallyautistic

Frances_Larina ,
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@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

I love to do things with others if it's more like body doubling or parallel play. If we're all working toward a common goal there's already a social structure in place.

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@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

I mean, reusable code is doing the same thing over and over again only in that case it's seen as a good thing. It all depends on the perspective of the person doing the judging. Maybe they mean, "actions that serve no other purpose other than to be an enjoyable stim"?

Frances_Larina ,
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@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

I've met autistics who are amazing at it, and I've met those for whom it's impossible. That question always feels like a relic from an ignorant psychology past?

Frances_Larina ,
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@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

I've always wanted a follow up question of, "diagnostic statements with absolutes that are not actually intended to be absolute bother me"

Frances_Larina ,
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@independentpen @PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

Right? Museums are amazing and wonderful on a day when they are nearly deserted. On days when a new exhibit has just opened and it's all over the local media? Forget it, that's like going to a theme park. The question becomes invalid when it's compared to reality, but that's because NT's think more in tokens.

Susan60 , to actuallyautistic
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Okay late diagnosed & older autists. What do we do when we retire? I’m reasonably social, in a purpose driven way if that makes sense. My “special interests” have usually revolved around my current stage &/or work - parenting, studies, teaching etc. Retirement as a special interest? @actuallyautistic

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@Susan60 @actuallyautistic

The cliché is birdwatching. And gardening, can't forget that one. Sewing. Taking classes. Some travel, but it's a bad fit for many of my NT traits. Still, to do so in a way that fits me would be fun.

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Many autistic people struggle with “multiple choice” and “select the right answer” exam questions. A key reason for this is that the options available can feel - to our brains - like such vague simplifications or awkwardly worded answers that they all feel somewhat incorrect. 1/2

@actuallyautistic

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@servelan @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Exactly. I would note that they never actually performed the statistical analysis of traits promised before the DSM-5 working groups were chosen.

Frances_Larina ,
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@servelan @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

I'd believe that, except the APA went in the exact opposite direction with gender dysphoria (declassified it as a disorder but kept in so that trans people could still get needed medical care and accommodations).

Then again, IIR the APA has been a little chaotic internally for the last decade or so; perhaps inconsistencies should not be surprising.

Dremmwel , to actuallyautistic French
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@actuallyautistic
Autistic members, how do you do the difference between a question you can answer yes or no and an order disguised in a question?
If you ask me "do you want to do X?" or "do you think you can do X?" I always understand it as if I have the equal possibility to answer yes or no. But I often have trouble at work with colleagues or superiors finding disrespectful I answered no. Bc their question is a polite form of "do X!". But to me a question is a question, not an order 🤔

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@Dremmwel @actuallyautistic

I usually answer their question honestly then follow up with a question to confirm what they want from me. Sorta like this:

Them: "Do you think you can do X?"

Me: "I can, although I'm also working on Y. Do you need me to do X first?"

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix , to actuallyautistic
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It's a tough truth to face up to, but not every Autstic/neurodivergent person is a good person. Many of us find out the hard way that there are members of our own community who will do harm to us collectively and individually.

It's important that we acknowledge the truth that we can always do better as a community. We don't have to be perfect. We just have to do a little better each day.

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd

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@Susan60 @omegahaxors @Dr_Obvious @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd

I get the feeling it's all a scattershot of traits with groups of people that clump together statistically and the clumps overlap significantly. The problem is, for 100+ years psych decided that traits NT's usually don't have together means someone is X, another set of traits mean someone is Y and so on, with the labels designated as pathologies because the individuals they were studying didn't conform to norms. During the historical period that psych was becoming what it is today, enforcement of norms was paramount. During that same period, the theory was pushed and happily accepted that all deviances from the norm are learned behaviors that can be unlearned - Skinner, Blank Slate theory, etc.. Psych sold the promise to "help" people unlearn their differences and agree to conform. The Cold War magnified the pressure for social conformity. It ended, the Internet came about, and ND's could compare notes.

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@26pglt @Susan60 @omegahaxors @Dr_Obvious @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd

The reduction in shame in our community has been amazing!

Frances_Larina ,
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@omegahaxors @26pglt @Susan60 @Dr_Obvious @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd

Pride is good!

f1337 , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic @allautistics
I feel vulnerable and anxious to even share this, but it’s nagging at me so here goes…

Topic: The ND tendency to share a similar experience.

It was ~15 years ago. I was having a beer with an old friend, sharing the story of the stillbirth of my second child. His response to the news was “I guess that’s a lot like divorce,” and proceeded to tell me how he imagined his divorce was similar.

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Frances_Larina ,
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@f1337 @actuallyautistic @allautistics

First, my condolences, and yes I know it's been years. But it still hurts even after being dulled by time.

My take on sharing experiences is that as long as someone is not actively trying to one-up the original speaker, they are attempting to provide support however clumsily. That does not negate your feelings, at all; they are valid. And you don't have to let them go. But also, your friend may not understand what happened, and perhaps he's gained some wisdom over the years?

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Sorry I can’t come to the phone right now. I’m autistic and simply not good at calls. Please call back literally never. Texts and emails exist for a reason.

Thank you.

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Frances_Larina , (edited )
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@kcarruthers @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic @simonlbn

Just this morning

Me, to a certain coworker: "That's correct, just email me the server name and IP"

That coworker: "Great, I'll call you!"

StevenSaus , to actuallyautistic

Four Different Autism Subtypes Identified by Brain Activity (from April 2023)

Using a combination of machine learning and neuroimaging data, researchers report people on the autism spectrum can be classified into four different subtype groups based on brain activity and behavior.

https://neurosciencenews.com/asd-subtypes-machine-learning-22968/

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Frances_Larina ,
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@StevenSaus @actuallyautistic

In a perfect world, this and all similar neurological study results should put the nail in the coffin of behavior based "interventions".

Psych of course, would be out of a job so that's not going to happen.

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