Some lessons I learned after being in a bunch of weddings:
• Hydrate the newlyweds
• Feed the newlyweds
• Have sticky tape with you
• Tape the card to the present
• Do not leave the newlywed’s side and have the wedding party help
• Before the ceremony, your job is to keep the groom calm and hydrated
• Before the ceremony, your job is to keep any of the groom’s friends from putting ideas in his head
• Professional photographer, the most expensive you can afford.
@GayDeceiver As the weird neurodivergent people who are hard to slot in to a table plan, be prepared to be sat next to the most boring man on earth, their princess 10 year old daughter and the wife who lives vicariously through the daughter. Sheesh. I've been to some great weddings (one at a fabulous Greek church in London and reception at the Hotel Cafe Royal sticks in my mind) but that one was dull til the thunder and lightning started and we all had a good excuse to move 😆 @actuallyautistic
it is a puzzle as old as time... you buy one breakfast burrito on hopes that it will suffice, when even as you do it, you know you should get yourself two.
We humans and how we love to manufacture our suffering
we need some struggle with our joy to add some depth to the distinction to happiness -- to accentuate our sensory experience of it. I think that's true of everyone, but maybe useful/profound to wrestle or grok that for the @actuallyautistic.
Pema Chodron, among other buddhists, teaches us that to be human is to suffer. But that doesn't mean it's all suffering. Just that it's definitely a piece of the puzzle.
That's why on an otherwise perfect morning, I pine for more breakfast burritos.
Liebe Community,
ich steuere gerade nicht auf eine Katastrophe zu, sie ist schon da!
Ich habe ab übermorgen keine Krankenversicherung mehr und suche deshalb dringend einen anderen Job. Leider, nach wirklich vielen Bewerbungen, Gesprächen, Probearbeitstages usw. hat mich niemand eingestellt.
Here's another example of masking sensory preferences because they're considered "childish":
One of my comfort foods is PB or Nutella sandwiches. While in Italy, I found a loaf of sliced white bread that has no crust, and I was shocked at the difference in my experience between this and normal bread with crust. It's so much more enjoyable and less stressful to eat a sandwich without crust.
It made me recall, as a kid, forcing myself to eat the crust because I would be mocked and shamed for cutting it off.
Even now, writing this, I feel a little self conscious. Like someone is going to say, c'mon, is the crust really so bad? How can eating crust possibly be stressful? You're being a wimp/making a big deal out of nothing.
In reality, it's a small thing. Yes, I can force myself to eat it. I've been doing that for 30 years. But all of those little small instances of masking add up.
Now that I'm thinking about it, I actually have a very specific way of eating a sandwich to minimize the discomfort of eating the crust.
Well... lesson learned here: find bread without crust back home, or don't feel shamed for cutting off the crust.
@bookstadon@bookhistodons
Although @wikihow (How To Do Anything) is an automated, humorous account, pairing random images with random how-to instructions, there are some serendipitous results on an occasion. Truth in this example for the book lovers.
The State Archives of North Carolina have a "Research Guide" available for download (last updated 16 May 2024) called "General Assembly Session Records, 1777-1789: A Guide to the Records of Marginalized Communities" which they defined as "women, enslaved and free people of color, American Indians, and religious minorities."
Many of the records mentioned are available online in the NC Digital Collections.
The recording of the State Archives of North Carolina's presentation "Assembling History : Research in the General Assembly Session Records" is now available on their YouTube. Includes handout!
Covers what to expect from these records & how best to navigate them using available resources in the NC Digital Collections; focuses on records from the late 18th to early 20th century.
@being There's a chapter on Burkina Faso cinema in this book.
Often referred to as Africa’s Hollywood–Burkina Faso, ranked by the UN as the third poorest country in the world (2005), is considered a kind of role model for sub-Saharan African cinema.