Another person’s perceptual experience may not be the same as ours.
This is Fundamental to understanding the experience of #autistic folks. I always assumed everyone perceived the way I do & I’m just a sook who can’t cope. This is not true! I am sooo glad my partner now understands this.
Same applies to information processing & seeing patterns. I thought everyone can see what I do. They don’t. We’re ok.
It’s bleeding obvious once it’s put this way, innit. I struggled all my life to understand my differences w sensory &information processing, thinking of each bit as a different issue & me as sooky &broken. Framing as neurodivergence over the past 15yr (since my early 50s) has been a revelation. Reframing is slow work & there’s a lot to grieve for, but through it all the company of nd peers is THE BEST THING.
This Friday (tomorrow) at 4pm, AMASE Chair @ferrous will be talking with Pete Wharmby, autistic author, about #autism, #writing, #education, #monotropism and all that sort of thing.
Tickets are free and open to anyone. This event will be recorded.
@Teri_Kanefield it is not just books that are never finished. I write research papers frequently, and no matter how often its if "finished" it never is.
My one quibble with that piece about progressives moving to the right is that Glenn Greenwald was never on our side. I remember tangling with him over his reactionary views on immigration in the early aughts. He only got labeled a lefty when he opposed Bush’s surveillance and torture programs.
And right there is the problem; ideological purity and partisanship before justice. Divide and conquer works. The rulers can organize camps via proxies then pit the camps against each other. And the rubes are none the wiser as they tilt at windmills.
@TheConversationUS@blackmastodon There are sooo many white Dahl fans who are about to leap to Wonka's defense it's not even funny. (I say this from my perch as a Gene Wilder fan.)
P.S. to The Conversation: I tagged the actual #BlackMastodon group, and I hope that was your intent.
Default instance blocks should largely replace defederation
Since what content users might want to see is quite unlikely to match which servers the admins tolerate, choosing instance on the Fediverse can be quite complicated, which is inconvenient and off-putting for new users.
For this reason, and simply that the Fediverse is stronger united, I believe defederation should ideally be reserved for illegal content and extreme cases. If Fediverse platforms would allow instances to simply block the rest for users by default, the user experience would be the same, unless they decide otherwise.
It already is, you just have to convince the server owner whats ‘extreme’ or not. Some servers hate liberals, others hate the right, some are followers of the windmill party and others would get you on a watchlist.
And the more mundane stuff like having porn and gore posts not tagged as NSFW will get your instance defederated.
I would love to see more middle of the road, non-extremist content. It seems that every instance is all the way left, falling off the chart, and then like 3 instances are falling off the other side of the chart, and defederated everywhere.
#RomanceReviews 4: I'm going with a palate cleanser of an actual #romance this time: Act Your Age, Eve Brown by Talia Hibbert. I listened to the previous book in the series and it was sweet, hilarious, and British (they chose the narrator well).
I'm expecting this to be a straight, interracial romance with at least one neurodivergent character.
Re: not going down too fast: "And if you did it too quickly, you wound up with a woman who was more interested in what you could do with your tongue than your sudoku skills."
Alright, here is my #RomanceReviews roundup for Act Your Age, Eve Brown. Loved it.
As expected going in, it was sweet, hilarious, interracial and British. So British. The banter had me cackling repeatedly as I tried to do housekeeping. This was a little bit of an enemies-to-lovers plotline.
Both (straight) neurodivergents were really truly into each other. This was what I think of as a true romance, with deep emotional and sexual attraction.
Him: “Is it terrible that I’m going to fuck you on this desk?”
Also him: “He wanted inside her confetti-strewn head every chance he got. It was the only foreign country he could remember wanting to visit.”
*swoon
I love that Talia Hibbert writes neurodivergent people and fat people as genuinely desirable and competent.
Good consent, 5 stars, would totally fuck this guy.
Pointing out that @everylibrary has joined the fedi.
If you care about US public and school libraries -- if you want to see library censorship stop -- give 'em a follow, and some spare bucks if you have 'em.