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Shameless ,

It could be a number of things that people have mentioned in here.

Just allow yourself to do what you actually want to do. If you feel like you actually want to watch movies or TV shows then you need to consciously stop picking up your phone.

At the same time, if you only want to watch a movie or TV show because its what you “think” is expected of a “normal” person, stop. Just let yourself lay on the couch/bed and scroll.

We place too many expectations on ourselves these days to be doing certain things, instead of just doing the things we actually want.

LockheedTheDragon ,

I had that last night. I went to finally watch Pluto, which I read the manga and seen the first episode before so knew I was love it, but when I started it I was like “Can I speed this up?” Which wouldn’t have made it as good. " Do I have time for this? I could be doing something else?" When I had did some chores and didn’t have anything the next day just for this. Once I was into it, I had a hard time stopping, but had to because I was too tired to appreciate it.

I think I been consuming media that not very important to me and that I don’t have to pay close attention that I normalize that. When years ago I use to purposely consume a big chunk of media. So the opposite of what I do now. Making setting aside time and focusing hard to do.

KillingTimeItself ,

yeah there’s a pretty good hack for this.

Stop having social media, if you are unable to look at it, you simply won’t.

90% of your life is building an environment around you that incentivizes you to do the work that you need to do, not only to be productive, but also to be happy.

You’ll be really fucking bored, but also find that you have other things to be doing, and then go do those instead, because they’re more interesting.

hogmomma ,

It’s the level of commitment. You can start and stop online activities with almost no preparation or planning. When you watch a movie, you have to mentally prepare yourself to be in one spot and paying attention to one thing for an hour and a half. When you play video games, it takes effort to turn on the console or launch Steam / Epic / whatever.

gmtom ,

Because your brain is naturally “designed” to maximise things that trigger happy chemicals while minimising effort to get them.

So slowly frying your neurons from scrolling an endless supply of garbage where you don’t have to move or work or even use your brain to make a choice of what to watch or pay attention enough to follow a story is always going to be your brains preferred choice.

cabron_offsets ,

Kinda sounds like standard adult burnout.

Psythik ,

Because you have ADHD.

Zoot ,
@Zoot@reddthat.com avatar

How fix. If this is so much effort, imagine the effort for actually solving the problem

pineapplemarsexpress ,

It’s kind of a running joke that if you can get yourself through the diagnosis gauntlet

  • sorting it with insurance
  • finding a provider
  • waiting the months for the appointment
  • dealing with insurance
  • then doing it all over again for the psychiatrist to actually get the prescription
  • and then again for the therapist (to wrangle the realization that your entire life is ADHD lol)

is something only a non-ADHDer can manage. Get someone close to you on board who can help keep you accountable, and run the gauntlet mate. Check out !adhd.

Graphy ,

We’re just calling everything ADHD now

yboutros ,
@yboutros@infosec.pub avatar

We might as well change the baseline for ADHD since technology has hammered everyone’s dopamine receptors

TubularTittyFrog ,

pretty much.

people who have it seem to be convinced everyone else has it. it’s a cognitive bias. just like white folks think racism isn’t real because they don’t experience it.

Psythik ,

Just because a sizable part of the population has it, doesn’t make it any less legitimate. So sick and tired of the stigma around ADHD. I’m tired of defending it

cley_faye ,

(most) films and video games requires a bit of engagement from you.

TubularTittyFrog ,

bingo. they require attention and effort and you might get something out of them…

social media… is designed to require neither… just like reality tv or candy crush… which are junk.

and same with food. a good meal requires attention and effort to make… cup o noodles requires almost none, but has very little nutritional value beyond hitting your salt and fat receptors.

Sam_Bass ,

Your brain is a large energy eater. Slow oxygen transfer in the lungs would be my guess. Sitting around, your body downcycles to a lower energy requirement and the longer it remains in that statethe more effort it takes to get out of it

kemsat ,

Only hack fortis discipline. Decide what you’re going to do ahead of time, then stick to your plans.

Pulptastic ,

Fortis was either a typo or a very clever conjunction of “for it is”, either way I love it.

kemsat ,

Fortuitous mistake

ShareMySims ,

We have this thing called autistic inertia, which sounds similar, and since people already mentioned ADHD, maybe start here and see if anything rings a bell and go from there:

medium.com/…/adhd-autistic-inertia-and-pda-what-s…

HUMAN_TRASH ,

autistic inertia

I feel that, didn’t know there was a term for it

ShareMySims ,

I only recently learned the term, and I too felt it in my bones… So validating each time I discover another bit of my autism has a name and is known by others and isn’t just me being “useless”.

python ,

First time hearing about PDA. So being viscerally protective of one’s own autonomy, no matter how small or reasonable a demand is, is a problem? Damn dude

ShareMySims ,

Take it a step further - even defending your own autonomy from yourself. Even things you want to do or even thoroughly enjoy become impossible once a demand is introduced. Add that to executive dysfunction, and daily life (and dealing with a neurotypical world that has no idea about these issues) becomes a real challenge.

deafboy ,
@deafboy@lemmy.world avatar

This is basically my life.

The more I’m involved in a hobby, more I’m inclined to take on certain responsibilities, which turns the hobby into a chore, making it repulsive and hard to repeatedly engage in.

TLDR: I have to force myself to have fun.

ShareMySims ,

So frustrating isn’t it…

deafboy ,
@deafboy@lemmy.world avatar

We should start a support group. Just to never attend! :D

ShareMySims ,

Ahahaha perfect 😂

cmbabul ,

I swear I have all three of the ADHD/autistic ones, and all three have gotten more and more difficult to deal with as I’ve gotten older

ShareMySims ,

Unfortunately that’s pretty common. Personally I think that the accumulation of trauma (which is unavoidable being neurodiverse in a neurotypical world) makes the brain even more defensive, making it ever harder to break through the walls it creates in “self defence”. I wish I had something more encouraging or helpful to say, but I have the same struggles.

cmbabul ,

I appreciate it, I think I just wanted to put it out there that it can manifest in multiple ways. But it does feel good to not be alone

ShareMySims ,

Oh yeah, for sure, on both the varied manifestation, and not being alone in the struggle. ✊

Zoot ,
@Zoot@reddthat.com avatar

Well fuck. I share a lot of those autistic traits and only a few of the ADHD ones. Would focusing on a medical diagnosis for ADHD still help if thats the case

ShareMySims ,

There is a lot of overlap and comorbidity between autism and ADHD, having one definitely doesn’t rule out having the other, and if you think diagnosis and or medication will help, I say go for it, just mention your suspicions about potentially having both to the doctor.

SoleInvictus ,

ADHD and CPTSD here (how we love our initialisms!), the latter of which shares a lot of behavioral overlap with autism. From my experience and that of friends and family, yes. A proper evaluation from a knowledgeable practitioner should get you moving on both fronts. I highly recommend finding a psychiatrist versed in both.

brygphilomena ,

I can only speak to my experience.

Often I fall back to films or games I’ve already developed an emotional attachment to. Because the mental energy it takes to develop a new attachment is significant. I find I can trick it by putting something on while I do something else and then come back to watch or listen to it later where it’s already somewhat familiar.

My ADHD doesn’t really let me have long term (hour plus) focus easily. It wants the easy dopamine hit from something that it knows it already can drop into.

rozodru ,
@rozodru@lemmy.ca avatar

Think you hit the nail on the head with the dopamine hit thing. Online media today is essentially built around that and rewards it. Look at Youtube shorts or tiktok. I can spend hours just scrolling through youtube shorts because it’s quick and random dopamine hits. no long content, something different on each scroll, move on to the next. even sites like this contribute to it. each post is something different and also a quick vomit of information.

dedicate oneself to hours of the same consistent media like a tv show or movie or even a videogame I can see as being difficult for people who are now conditioned to quick 10sec hits of info.

MindTraveller ,

Tai Chi is an activation energy hack. It’s a somatopsychic effect that increases mental energy.

Blizzard ,

Try weed, it’ll get you immersed into a game/movie. It’s the best way to enjoy them.

brygphilomena ,

Or you’ll have anxiety about wanting to do something but be too high to actually do it.

For those that can enjoy it, cool. But not everyone can chill and get into something when high.

ProgrammingSocks ,

Weed made all my days disappear. No matter how harmless it might seem I’m not recommending mind-altering drugs to anybody.

bjoern_tantau ,
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Especially not to self medicate an undiagnosed psychological condition. Sure, could make it better. But it could also make it soooo much worse.

taiyang ,

I can’t speak for you, but I experience similar and I think there’s a few reasons. To me, movies are tough mostly because there so many options, I spend too much time just browsing.

Games, I think it’s either because starting a new game is a like intimidating, or because I feel I need at least a chunk of time and by the time I do it, it’s too late. And again, options.

Plus scrolling is just kind of fun sometimes. Iunno. Humans need other humans. P

Either way, I’m on Lemmy right now because I’ve got a 2 year old koalaing my left arm, though. Be glad you at least have the choice to scroll! Best of luck, hope you get a game inspiration soon.

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