Yes and it can be a challenge. We married before I had really solidified my views on it. Ironically my views became solid AF because I started reading the Bible. Fixed me up right away.
We get by because she does not push it on me and I don’t really talk to her about it. I get along with her and her family because they are really good people who choose to follow the best parts of the Bible. They are relatively progressive, meaning they are tolerant of other religions, accept abortion more or less along the lines of Roe v. Wade, etc. I do wish she was an atheist because I liken religion to a cult and sometimes when she makes negative comments about MAGA people I have to hold my tongue. But otherwise she’s great. She takes care of me and I her. Been married 20 years.
If anything happened to her I think I would actively seek a new mate who was atheist.
Honestly we balance each other really well and have some really interesting discussions but I should be clear that it looks like this more than anything else:
Back when we met she looked me up on Facebook, where I had listed my faith. She thought it would be a deal-breaker for a minute or two until she read up on pastafarianism.
She has come to accept my faith and has even read the good book cover to cover.
She’s semi-Buddhist, from a country where that’s prevalent. She would probably visit a temple or something if we weren’t always together, but it’s not like I stop her from going.
We are lifetime atheists with completely different backgrounds, me a baptiized catholic (as a baby) and my wife sefardic Jewish, her family migrated from Portugal to Amsterdam in 1497 and they have a very interesting and well recorded family history.
My huge family comes mostly from the Aachen region in Germany, Belgium and the South Netherlands. Mine workers.
My grandma had 14 kids, you know catholic and all.
We never felt uncomfortable with each other but our families didn't get along well, they are not on speaking terms.
My husband and I were both still practicing Catholics when we met, even went to church together. Then he stopped going but I still did.
We moved to a different state and both started working from home. I stopped going to church because it was a small rural Midwest town and I stuck out too much (am brown).
Working from home meant a lot of computer time and YouTube rabbit holes. Between Sam Harris and Dan Barker, I found myself no longer believing.
My husband also ended up an atheist on his own, though we never discussed any of it with each other. I don’t even think he watched any of the same videos. Just one day I guess we talked about it and discovered we were both no longer Catholic.
Used to be. Just kinda stayed on my ground I don’t believe any of that crap, then all the weird religious anti trans gay etc stuff basically solidified it for my SO as time went on. That plus other things just really were the nail in the coffin and that was that. I think that means we are both atheists now.