My husband and I were both still practicing Catholics when we met, even went to church together. Then he stopped going but I still did.
We moved to a different state and both started working from home. I stopped going to church because it was a small rural Midwest town and I stuck out too much (am brown).
Working from home meant a lot of computer time and YouTube rabbit holes. Between Sam Harris and Dan Barker, I found myself no longer believing.
My husband also ended up an atheist on his own, though we never discussed any of it with each other. I don’t even think he watched any of the same videos. Just one day I guess we talked about it and discovered we were both no longer Catholic.
Used to be. Just kinda stayed on my ground I don’t believe any of that crap, then all the weird religious anti trans gay etc stuff basically solidified it for my SO as time went on. That plus other things just really were the nail in the coffin and that was that. I think that means we are both atheists now.
We are both atheist however I have to appear pious at times, I hope that it doesn’t get me into trouble with her parents who are rather anti-religious and who don’t believe that I am atheist
I am religious and my partner is confidently atheistic. Our moral and ethical precepts are well-matched enough to get along with, even though they stem from different sources.
My wife’s Catholic, but apparently that means something different in the Philippines. More vague than dogmatic, I guess? In any case, her religion is nothing like the religion I know from America.
For example, she doesn’t know the first thing about the Bible, not even the standard Sunday school stuff. Nothing. Yes, I’m sure I’ll get comments that Christians don’t read the Bible, but her ignorance is astonishing. A comedian told a Bible joke and she clearly didn’t get it. "You know! It’s the story of ‘I forget’. Blank stare.
She doesn’t let it rule her life in any way. No church, rituals or confession either. We got married in a church, but that wasn’t important to her in the slightest. I wanted to marry there because it’s a quaint little place from the 1920s that was moved to my favorite outfitters (camping, kayaking, cabins, hiking, etc.) land.
She’s definitely prone to magical thinking, but not the “Jesus will make it all good.” sort. More like, “Your car’s AC is clearly failing.” “It’s OK. It was cold a few minutes ago.” Call it positivity in the extreme.
She has a rosary on the rear view window. Often grabs it and does the stations of the cross when nervous. (Which is kinda hilarious, but I don’t laugh.) Found a fairly nice crucifix in the trash and gave it to her. She was thrilled and hung it by her side of the bed. Whatever.
Now that I think on it, I should get her a really nice rosary from Christmas.
Idk if I can technically answer this question, I’m quite religious, I believe in a few. Namely The Church of the SubGenius, the worlds only true fake religion, and The First Church of the Last Laugh, the world’s fastest growing snack religion. Praise both “Bob” and St. Stupid.
But as someone of a few different religions that themselves are different from those I’ve dated (both athiest and multiple sects of christian), it wasn’t much of an issue. They push theirs I push mine, they don’t I don’t, eye for an eye makes the whole world full of eyes!
I find it so cool that you’ve been vegan for 24 years, as a younger vegan (7 years) I thank you for suffering through groceries with one brand of soy milk and maybe some tofu (if you’re lucky) so that we can live in this world were I have access to vegan fudgesicles at the local grocery store.
I’m curious though, because veganism has definitely been a point of contention in my past few relationships; how do you and your wife manage meals? Do you do separate meals, or is it more of a “she’s vegan at home” type situation?
For sure being vegan has gotten a lot easier since I started. At home, I’m very lucky that she does most of the cooking. Sometimes she eats what she makes for me, other times she makes herself something separate. I wash the dishes to my own standards, so I don’t worry about “contamination” except for a few things: cutting board, frying pan.
Being (or being with) a vegan can be super inconvenient at times. After all these years (married for 21), we are super well-adjusted to it.
My partner still believes but sees the BS in religion. I feel she just can’t say she is atheist. We met after our kids were adults and out of the house. My kids are atheists though I never discussed religion with them. Her son is atheist and her daughter probably doesn’t believe (from our conversations) but is raising her kids Catholic because it is important to her husband who was raised in a very religious household.
My wife was a Christian when we started dating, but her opinions on LGBTQ+ issues made her start questioning her faith which led her to leave the faith altogether by the time we were married.