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hatnale , (edited )

I call my personal strategy the 3Ds: Distance, Distraction, and Description.

First, I distance myself from my crush. This includes exposure such as social media. I have, in the past, told my crush that I needed time to get over them before I can be in a place to interact with them again. The first time, I never really could and had to cut all contact. The second (and last) time it went well and we were able to continue our friendship for years until life distanced us. It’s all context-dependent, so you’ll have to decide for yourself if you still want to be friends. Otherwise, out of sight and out of mind.

Next, I distract myself. While I still spend time processing my emotions and disappointment, I make sure to do things I enjoy to take my mind off everything. I hang out with friends, play video games, read, watch movies, etc. If not, I will spend whatever idle time I have thinking about my crush, which can make it difficult to get over them.

Finally, description. This one sounds a little weird because I had to use a word to fit the 3D theme, but this one is all about processing. I write about my feelings or talk to my friends/a professional about it. Sometimes, I research other people’s experiences and reflect on how I relate. No matter the medium, I describe what I’m feeling or how I’m hurting. It releases some of that internal pressure I feel and sometimes gives me something I can analyze and understand about myself and my feelings.

Don’t know how much this helps you but everyone’s process is different. As long as you are exploring ways to move on and being mindful of what works and what doesn’t (for you), you’ll get there with time. Good luck and feel better soon my friend!

midimalist ,
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This is the most comprehensive strategy that I can vouch for.

Done all of them.

I would say, the last one is underrated but very much useful not just for getting over a crush but for personal growth in general, which is a lifetime skill.

You’d be surprised by how many adults don’t understand themselves or even avoid doing self-reflection. In consequences, stumble upon the same problem again and again without taking different/better approach to handle them.

Don_Dickle ,

I have known friends who have had a crush on someone. For me I never had. But they were not honest upfront. On my first date I told a date that I was a functional alcoholic and a traveling nurse. And I do not do sex on the first or the second date. I leave it up to them if they leave I know its not ment to be and never think about it again. Depends on how fine they are a couple of them I may have tickled my skittle to them but thats it. If you are having real problems or thoughts of harm please call 988 in the states or give me a pm and maybe just maybe we can talk.

Nomecks ,

Realize that the person who rejected you is the wrong person, since why would you want someone who doesn’t want you? Dodged a bullet there

tiny ,

Make sure your romantic life isn’t the only thing you are focused on. make sure you are doing things that you enjoy and spending time with people you care about. If you have a good social network any 1 part can have problems and they will suck but it’s not losing everything which makes it suck way less.

KyuubiNoKitsune ,

Accept that not everyone will like you back, in fact, most won’t. Mourne the loss, be sad, cry, then get up and carry on, because there will be another.

I also prefer to stay friends if I can, because if I loved them for some reason, them not feeling anything for me doesn’t change that, so I want them in my life.

Some of this was only possible due to the fact that I have had my heart broken too many times to count, so it’s also a thing of practicing radical acceptance.

z3rOR0ne ,

Let yourself feel whatever you feel and observe it. Think about how you would react if you saw a close friend or family member going through that. Most kind people would say something comforting or express some form of compassion.

The most important thing to remember is that there will be lots of good and bad things that happen in life, and holding on/ruminating over the past and obsessing over/fearing the future are probably best avoided.

A little reflection and self compassion is good and healthy, but long term rumination and self loathing is when things can get unhealthy quick. Discerning when one turns into the other is difficult, but do your best and try to be self aware of how you’re feeling as you navigate these truly difficult emotions.

Know that this experience, the emotions and the thoughts caught up in it, are part of what makes you human, and that ultimately, it’s one of many experiences that will add up to who you are and who you’ll eventually become. In every moment, you are, whether consciously or subconsciously, engaging with the world and the circumstances you find yourself in, and becoming who you want/need to be.

Be aware of that, and control what you are capable of controlling about who you want to become. It’s like navigating a river, you’re not completely in control nor out of control. Ultimately all you can do is try your best to get to where you want to go, knowing it won’t be perfect nor will it go exactly to plan, but nevertheless you carry on.

KazuchijouNo ,

Work on yourself :D Do things that you like, go out with friends, pickup a new hobby. You know, people come and go, you’ll have yourself until you die

MrScottyTay ,

Time.

Do other things and in time you will be over it.

friend_of_satan ,

There’s nothing wrong with rebounding, as long as you recognize that’s what you’re doing. Have a fling, just try not to break any hearts. Let them know you’re just having fun and aren’t ready for something serious.

But to your first question, distract yourself with as many interesting things as you can. People, games, movies, sports, work, hobbies. Find the next exciting thing. Basically, continue thriving after the adversity of rejection.

Altomes ,

I think that doing some soul searching and determining if the friendship you have with the person is something you can continue healthily is a big thing a lot of people don’t do. Then just taking time and distracting yourself with other positive interests that help you feel good about yourself so you don’t do the why aren’t I good enough spiral. Other than that just making sure you don’t continue to push the issue or guilt the person for not wanting a romantic relationship

DudeImMacGyver ,
@DudeImMacGyver@sh.itjust.works avatar

Throw yourself into a hobby, hang out with friends, or just date casually

Emperor ,
@Emperor@feddit.uk avatar

You can do something cathartic. After getting dumped, I once pushed a tree down in my back garden and carried it around to the front of the house for disposal. My muscles ached and I was cut and bruised but felt a lot better afterwards. Other times I’ve just gone out drinking with friends. There are sater more controlled ways of doing it - try exercising to exhaustion, get away for the weekend and GI hiking, drive a tank, go to one of those places where you can smash things up, organise a big paintballing session, etc. Something that breaks you out of your routine, preferably gets you out of your local area, needs all your focus and tires you out. It should take your mind off things, get you so focused and tired you aren’t brooding about it and provide a symbolic break so you can leave your baggage behind on the other side.

It’s not an instant cure, this will all take time but it’s a decisive first step.

iAmTheTot ,

Time. Try to focus on hobbies or other things you enjoy, try to surround yourself with positive influences, and let time do the work.

NONE_dc ,
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A good hobby does wonders to keep you distracted enough to have the time to heal and move forward. If it’s something creative (Painting, writing, dancing, singing, playing an instrument, creating a map for Doom) is better. Work on yourself, Eat what you like, listen to what you like, dress as you like, keep yourself clean, and keep in mind that is not your fault, there’s nothing wrong with you and things just happens, that’s all.

TheBigBrother , (edited )

Gym(exercise, walk), reading(knowledge) and meditation, and never ever have contact with he/she again(no friends or whatever).

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