I don’t mean to be flippant, but do do you know they don’t like you, or do they just not care about you. It’s both a liberating and disheartening day when you discover no one gives a shit about you.
That would be my plan B. Plan A would be turn up my politeness and niceness knobs up for a little while. Maybe they’re going through a rough time and it’s temporary. After a sufficient amount of time to ensure it’s not an anomaly, then go for the direct conversation. It usually pays off to give the other person the benefit of the doubt for a little bit, but not forever. It stopped me from being so reactive.
You might want to scale that down a little bit. I never borrowed somebody’s tape gun for a minute at work and thought, what a nice coworker I should send him flowers.
Indeed. I should have said “borrow something important”. It needs to be something they care about, or something they know you care a lot about. How you say thanks are examples.
Haters gonna hate. It probably comes from a sense of jealousy or low self-esteem. Don’t let those people get to you. Don’t give them a single moment of your brain power. If you do, they win.