For some people, it’s not really an solvable issue and no amount of talking about it will make them like you. Some people are just assholes for various reasons, and it’s best to just minimally interact with them as opposed to trying to understand them. Courage doesn’t necessarily play a factor. Idk, just my 2 cents.
Obviously not the case for everyone, but I’ve been there before in the trying to reach an understanding route, and it doesn’t necessarily work. Some people are just a bit unhinged and it’s best to minimally interact.
Yeah I don’t think what I said applies to 100% of the working population. :) I have one guy at work that I’m also avoiding contact with. He is a sociopath according to all the classic signs. So some common sense is always needed.
If you have to interact with them, make it as minimal as possible. Otherwise just blank them out; ignore them, don’t look at them, don’t talk to them, don’t notice them.
Kill them with kindness. Be direct and to the point, but make them hate you more because you’re too nice. That way, if they want to talk shit about you, all they can say is that you’re too nice.
As someone else mentioned, if you screwed up, make amends, then the kindness thing.