Lemmy is pretty great compared to reddit in that you’ll get a lot more moderate, reasonable, and nuanced takes. I notice that there’s a lot of times when I’m clearly joking and people either explain my joke back to me or, you know, not realize and try to bicker. Slight irony deficiency you might say, but even those are still good people. Just a little severe.
Other than that, it’s pretty great once you’ve blocked enough of the accounts with more intense agendas. They’re not hard to spot, and I like to leave a few unblocked just for kicks.
Lots of Linux and LGBTQ+ folks in the fediverse, so if that’s not your bag you might find the content slightly sparse. The solution there is just to post more. I like the mix of things around here for the most part, and browsing All is pretty good once you’ve blocked anything you can’t stand.
I have been on and off Reddit for several years now, and i feel it’s getting worse. I know everyone has there own opinion, and sometimes it’s nice to see things from someone else’s point of view, but more and more often, some people seem to go out of their way just to stamp on your parade!
I’m one of the API casualties who was shocked at how many people stayed. I haven’t been back to reddit very much since then, and I regret it each time.
Well, probably not what you’re looking for but I used to work yard maintenance for a property management company.
I was sent to rake and tidy up the back yard of some house. In the back, there was an entrance to a root cellar that was separate from the house and had crappy wooden doors covering it. I was told to open it up and sweep the steps leading down to the cellar.
I don’t have a problem with dark places, or bugs. But that was the first time I’d seen camel crickets. They were big, hump backed and striped. And there were dozens of them. I dutifully swept the steps, from the dead center of them, my eyes darting around constantly trying to gauge whether or not the weird ass bugs were about to launch themselves onto me. They didn’t. They were super chill.
I told my dad about it later and he laughed at me for not knowing what the crickets were because they were so common. I’ve only seen a few more since then, and they still kinda weird me out.
As a teenager, my parents would only let me have a PC if it was situated outside of my room, so naturally, I put my setup in my basement. I was excited to play games in the coolest (temp-wise) room in the house, up until the day a camel cricket decided to jump up my pants and continue to work its way up until I smashed it against myself.
I kept expecting one to jump from the walls above me as I went downstairs, get into the back of my shirt, and get squished as I try to get it out. It’s happened with house centipedes, and it’s not fun. Especially when their legs keep moving after their dead.
I've only ever seen camel crickets in one location, a house we moved into when I was around 12 or 13. None of us had ever seen one before. We called them spider crickets because at a glance they look very spidery.
You got lucky. Their mode of defense is actually to launch themselves directly at the threat. So we used to have to mentally prepare ourselves before walking into the basement because there would always be at least one spider cricket jumping right at us.
Mods are typically the people running - and paying for - the instance in most cases on Lemmy, and they tend to be active on the instances they run, so if you report a post it may well be to the person that made it.
Expect less active moderation and less content.
You’ll probably see a lot of reposts and batches of posts from the same communities if you sort by “New”.
Make liberal use of the “block” functions, for both users and communities.
Trolls, spam, DDOS attacks, etc etc, can be pretty common. Bugs seem to have smoothed out and are rarer than in the early days.
The Voyager client (on Android 14 at least) will reload if you switch away for more than a few seconds at a time. It’ll save your text if you have a comment in progress, but make sure you have a way to get back to what you were reading (save, upvote, etc) if you switch away to find a GIF or link or something so you can pick up where you left off.
Isopods like beer. When I had so many slugs I couldn't start lettuce without them eating the seed sprouts, I started an extended Oktoberfest in my back yard. My beer traps caught slugs and isopods. They can't resist. I can grow veggies again.
Not me but an HVAC associate I dealt with. We had a shared customer that was a Masonic Temple. HVAC guy had to tour the building checking steam traps. Caretaker of the place is visibly uncomfortable as he has to unlock a door. Inside is an altar with a skeleton on it
I used to do HVAC work. About twenty years ago, I had to fix something in an attic, and the only entrance to that attic was through a large, messy room that obviously belonged to a teenage boy. At first, it seemed normal. Eventually, though, I realized everything in that boy’s room was kinda outdated. The CDs and magazines lying around had all come out a few years before, for example.
After finishing the job, I asked my boss about it. He told me that the kid had died a few years before from autoerotic asphyxiation (he accidentally strangled himself to death while jerking off), and his mother had found his body. She insisted that his room remain just as it was. She maintained it as some kind of shrine, unmade bed, jeans on the floor and all.
I couldn’t even imagine the emotional toll that must have taken on the family. Every. Single. Day. She refused to let them heal and move on. I only met the mother briefly, before I knew the whole story. I never met the husband or sister. I’m glad. Even if I was bribed to go back in that house, you couldn’t pay me enough to go upstairs. That kid’s room was, without exaggeration, the creepiest thing I’ve ever seen.
It’s an awkward situation for sure. I’m trying to imagine what could be done with the room if they cleaned it out. All I can think is that they could never convert it into a room that they would want to spend time in, and the only alternative seems to be storage which almost seems disrespectful to the memory.
Yeah. I mostly just thought this was a sweet memorial. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re in denial or anything, they just want to keep a piece of him there like most grieving people do.
In this specific case, it actually seems fine to me. Like the other poster said, what are they supposed to do, turn their dead son’s room into a home theater? I’m sure that won’t put a damper on movie night. /s
As it is, it serves as a much more immersive version of a photograph. I don’t see the harm.
To me personally, it’s a difference in the function of a room versus photos. Photos were always intended to capture memories, whereas a room was meant to be used and lived in. The idea of keeping the room as it was, permanently, feels like stagnation to me. I worry once it stopped being a comforting space, I still couldn’t bring myself to do anything with it because it would reopen the wound, so I’d just ignore it and live around it, and the feeling of stagnation would grow heavier.
But also everyone grieves differently, and I’ve never lost a child, so I can only guess how I’d grieve based on how I’ve grieved other relationships. It’s possible no one in that family feels the way I described. That’s just my best answer for why it sounds creepy to a bunch of us.
Thank you. I’ve never lost a child either, and I’m not a therapist. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard of this happening, though, so I was surprised at the reaction.
Yeah. So sad that I didn’t like writing about it, but HAD to get it right, ya know?
The daughter’s room was way at the end of the hallway, so she had to walk past it every day. She was the younger of the two, but had become older than her brother was when he died. In fact, she was ready for college. I hope she got out of there and lived on campus.
I love that I was fortunate to get a home in an old urban neighborhood in a city that’s pretty good. The tree coverage in my hood is nuts. I see a few mature black walnuts and a ton of mature pines among all the other smaller trees. I can walk to the grocery store with 80% canopy coverage the entire way.
i used to really enjoy CasualUK on Reddit, but those mods, and actually some of the other Redditors, just felt like they were in some sort of ‘click’, and if they deemed you not cool enough, then you were made not to feel very welcome, you know?
First and foremost welcome to the threadiverse, the long-form version of the fediverse or simply, the Reddit alternative bka Lemmy.
Disclaimer, I’m very active in this community, so I’m not really the man to do your induction.
What I will tell you though, is that Lemmy is 100% what you make it. My advice to you is to stay away from ALL and also to stay away from Lemmy World. You will eventually find your way to both, but let it be on your terms and not your default interaction. Lemmy World is the biggest instance and so comes with the baggage of a lot of people dying to be heard and accepted by any means possible. ALL is the worst of that. If you stick to the communities you want, you’ll be fine. You’ll quickly notice some of the same names, but they’re all independent. You can be aligned with someone on something one minute and total against them in another topic and that’s healthy.
But as of right now, you’re the coolest person in this thread, so you’ve started well.
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