is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?
And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.
That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you’re the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?
I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.
How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don’t do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn’t that the opposite of slowing you down, they’re actually getting out of your way?
I’m not OP, but I’ll go ahead and reply with some possible answers.
I’ll also just use she/her pronouns (guessing op is a woman), as writing him/her may make my comment more tiring to read, and “they” may make it unclear whether or not i’m referring to OP or OP’s colleagues.
is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?
Shes not literally forced to socialise, but are likely dragged into situations where the consequences of not socialising are worse then just doing it against their will. E.g people getting in a bad mood or being snarky because OP doesnt put on a fake smile and unwillingly exchange pleasantries.
That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you’re the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?
OP didnt exactly say that she has a low workload, and have an easy time completing all those tasks for others. OP is probably doing way more than is expected from one nurse, and may be headed for burnout.
How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don’t do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn’t that the opposite of slowing you down, they’re actually getting out of your way?
They’re slowing her down because she has to do everyone elses work, thus leaving less time for completing her own tasks. This may also impact the quality of the work she’s originally supposed to do.
Liberalism is a right wing ideology, which because America is so right shifted is seen as left in their country or at least a counterpoint to conservatism when they’re basically the same thing - deregulate, don’t tax, “free market” capitalist nonsense that’s destroying the planet.
So from a left wing perspective it’s a derogatory term. Most leftists take on a more worldly understanding, so even American leftists will use it this way.
As for American right wingers, they’re just using it for hate. I doubt they could even explain who they mean.
Unfortunately, in a lot of these cases, they’re treating people poorly because they either expect to be or think they deserve to be treated like that too. They justify their self-hatred by projecting it onto other people.
The answer you’ll hear is, “Well, no, but SOMEONE has to tell them the truth.”
Well my dad was chill until he would see a nazi because he is a ww2 vet or know a person beating their wives or anything similar. He always felt since he fought for the world that it was his so called destiny to make society better. Don’t know if that is chill or not but I can say that while he may yell and stuff he would never do anything. It was always mom who spanked us with a belt when we fucked up.
My folks are chill. My mom and her friends are passionately cool. My dad DGAF. He’s cool, but he’s also a charter boat captain which means lots of sportsmen so he has to be able to ignore/get along with anyone. He just gives a noncommittal grunt and steers the conversation back to fishing.
My father in law is okay. Ex cop so opposite of ACAB. Spouts Fox News bullshit, but he sat out the last election because he has like 8 granddaughters and at least one gay grandson. He’s a good guy as long as you don’t talk about anything political. He accepted my kid when they identified as trans for a bit. (Jury’s still out. Don’t care, they just don’t seem committed to anything right now.)
His brothers, though, what fucking assholes. I have to tolerate them for my wife’s sake because she can’t deal with family strife but I actually had to sit in a public restaurant with one of them making buck teeth and shouting “Ching Chang Chong” when saying something insulting about Asians, then “oh but now I’m racist.” Right you are, motherfucker. Disgusting. Humiliating.
My ability to even mildly rebuke them is limited by my need to keep the peace for my wife. But if I could I’d just tell them to let me know when they are done acting that way, and I’d get a drink at the bar.
If you want a challenge that may or may not be worth it, try configuring NixOS. And I mean really get into it, try to configure everything using Nix. It’s very time consuming but not boring, each configuration varies person to person (i.e the way you organize it) so it can be quite fun if you have the time.
Also nixpkgs (what Nix and NixOS use) has like, all the packages
I think we all have some things that we either don’t talk about to maintain relationships. Of course usually thats respected by both sides.
Do they care that you call them out? Do you dislike doing it? If neither happens it can be useful for people to realize they’re not necessarily holding a position that “everyone does”. It’s useful to be taken out of your bubble I think, and to see “regular people” can have different positions, and maybe try and understand why they do. It might change someone’s mind.
If course if they or you get worked up by the discussion and no one is getting anything out of it, no one is even ‘agree to disagree’ and it’s just causing everyone stress… Then you need to clearly lay out that you don’t like those sorts of comments.
If they ignore you, then you need to decide how much you want the relationship. You could say “I’m serious about these comments. If you don’t want to stop then you need to decide how much you want to see or interact with me. Because I am willing to just avoid these discussions, but I will not keep hearing these comments, and will stop coming.”
Mother: Had a very old timey demeanor, perhaps due to her age when it all happened. Was nice but also had that obligatory TV Land level of strictness/sternness. Surprisingly understanding of issues of race, religion, disability, etc. but I had to come out of the closet several times since she didn’t really understand asexuality, which I guess based on her upbringing in the world’s most interesting place is understandable. She also remarked some of thetraditions I picked up pieces of later in life seemed convoluted, though did not elaborate on this commentary.
Father: Very different from my mum aside from being from a different part of the same area. He was carefree and I guess nice, but, for technical reasons, also distant from me. It was a very “implied love” type of dynamic. He was tolerant of almost everyone, but if someone were to call our family “all that and a bag of chips”, he consistently considered me the bag of chips, and the weird salt and vinegar kind, to use an analogy. He also showed signs of being annoyed with my special needs.
Grandfather: Most considerate person ever. He gets a perfect score in love and tolerance, even if he seemed quietly upset at my less-than-worldly habits.
Other grandparents: Never knew them that well, if at all.
The thrilling thing about arch is you get to put together your own user land applications, especially things that could form your desktop environment, audio stuff, etc.
I agree it is not that complicated. If you want more thrill, here is what I recommend:
gentoo Linux
has the option to compile everything from source. This isn’t just for bragging rights. This resolves a whole class of software breakages that can happen on other distros (especially when using old or less common applications).
It gives you the option (emphasis on optional) to use openRC, an alternative to systemd.
patch any software super easily, working nicely with the system
customize compile flags on a global level
have package manager manage software that isn’t available in repos, or easily write a package script for it (technically AUR can do this, but gentoo more powerful)
works like a charm with heavily customized setups, such as musl, or less common architectures like arm or risc-V
NixOS
Takes it a step beyond gentoo and uses a functional, lazy approach in package management. Every package is fully reproducible, has a kind of isolated environment. Your entire setup is reproducible and declared with a single file.
---- below this line is torture. Not recommended
slackware
Idk how it works exactly, but package management looks like a manual pain
Linux from scratch
A book where you create your Linux installation from scratch, compiling every single component until you reach a working system
Notable mentions
Alpine Linux: uses musl and busybox by default. Extremely lightweight. Some things will not work, but you get the thrill of running a couple MB distro
void Linux: ok I’m tired of writing so I will not explain that one
It has a lot more support than you think. As a gentoo user, I am jealous of nixos often seeing more support than gentoo, when gentoo is older and seemingly easier to support. But nix seems to have a bigger hype nowadays.
Gentoo, while source-based and having an interesting approach with USE flags, does not come with NixOS’ strengths.
I’d even say that Gentoo’s packaging might be better in some aspects than that of nixpkgs, which does feature options that you can change via overrides but generally isn’t as modular as Gentoo’s system. But the mistake a lot of people – and I’d say you as well – make is that they look at the wrong parts for comparison, and don’t understand what makes NixOS so powerful. It’s not the sheer amount of packages or how they’re built, but rather the module system, the declarative nature and the option for rollbacks at the “package manager” level. Yes, these features come with increased complexity. However, I recommend not to look into what people have published in GitHub as their configurations, as these are rather general and as such more complicated than one needs for casual use.
My setup was really weird. I was running it under a network namespace. Maybe that’s why? The app would run like normal, but it would not successfully create any connections. I replicated the same setup on glibc and it worked.
I agree, I organized the post wrong. Void should’ve been up, but it’s also a notable mention that I can’t write a lot about since I did not do too much with it.
Slackware avoids the issue of package management completely.
You just install the entire repository up front, which resolves all dependencies.
If you need software that isn’t in the repo, you can install it any way you like from wherever you like, there’s no real package manager that gets in the way. Usually you compile it with Sbopkg, a helper script very similar to Arch’s AUR helpers. It comes with rudimentary dependency resolution in the form of queue files, which just list what needs to be installed in the correct order for any given source package, and then does it for you.
A more modern approach I follow is to use Flatpaks.
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