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PopOfAfrica ,

I was bullied for off Lemmy.One by the hexbear mods who sent hexbear users my way to harass me…

All for (while I’m still a raging communist) not being a pro authoritarian communist.

Manifish_Destiny ,

That’s kind of just socialism then.

PopOfAfrica , (edited )

No, I find socialism and markets to be a capitalist compromise that still breeds wasteful middlemen. More regulated middlemen, but still. Communism is an economic framework, not a governmental one.

For sure socialism is a step up from cpaitalism, but I don’t think it’s enough.

Smokeless7048 ,

Thats… kind of the opposite of socialism. Socialism, at least the ideal form, is when the ‘workers hold the means of production’, with no figure heads. This is closer to authoritarianism, with a charismatic leader commanding people to do things.

PopOfAfrica , (edited )

See this just reads as a complete misunderstanding of what communism is. The word Communism is derived from the word Commune, in which there is traditionally no standard power structure. Too much red scare propaganda. To me of the most prevalent feelings of authoritarianism in my life has been the boss/underling dynamic in the workplace under capitalism.

I’m pro communist economics and pro democratic governance. There is a reason the movement here in the US is towards “democratic socialism”, because they are two separate facets of a country. The governance (democratic) and the economic (socialism).

I’m a democratic Communist

Smokeless7048 ,

I’m not sure if you are saying what i said (that someone in charge sending his minions to harass someone is closer to authoritarianism), or him is a misunderstanding of communism.

I definitely should have used the word “communism” in my sentence, but since he used socialism, I didn’t want to change the subject from socialism to communism.

Being from Canada, and a huge proponent of social services and crown corporations, I’m definitely a socialist myself.

PopOfAfrica ,

I think there was a misunderstanding based on the context of the post above? Sorry. I thought you were talking about my views as being authoritarian.

Edit: dumb voice to text software

alcoholicorn ,

Nothing you’ve said seems objectionable, I can’t imagine what set them off.

Do you consider the party apparatus of say, Cuba, where every position is elected and has instant recall, and their last constitutional referendum passed with 90%+ approval, to be democratic?

EABOD25 OP ,

That’s called harrasment and possibly borderline stalking

PopOfAfrica ,

Indeed

the_post_of_tom_joad , (edited )

I think anyone who’s even remotely curious about hexbear should go make an account and just… Iunno, check it out? That’s what i did and it ended up being my home away from home.

Their viewpoints are gonna be absolute whiplash for most people unaccustomed to speaking about world topics from a non-us-centric perspective, or who have only learned about what communism actually is from our (definitely not biased) general education.

Calling those viewpoints “crazy” is just a shortcut, a base dismissal of thought unworthy of critical thinkers.

If you take me up on this, go lurk a bit! They can’t hurt you. If after awhile of lurking, you have a question (you will have questions) ask them from a position of curiosity that you’re interested in their perspective instead of one there to “educate the commies” and you’ll be just fine. Hell you don’t ever have to engage in politics at all there, hexbear has as many shitposts as the other instances do

I recall i went to hexbear because sh.itjust.works was defedding and erryone was just so mad at them i had to see what the fuss was about. Im very glad i did

Kecessa ,

You can have a non-US centric point of view without defending Russia or Chinese genocides…

vritrahan ,

Difficult. The perception of Russia and China outside the western world is very different and very variable than what westerners think.

EABOD25 OP ,

If you’re saying I’m calling their viewpoints crazy, I’m not. I didn’t get a view point besides I’m pig slop, a piece of shit, brainwashed by the empire (whatever the hell that means), stupid, a basement dweller, and today, I think they called me a pervert

the_post_of_tom_joad ,

So this post is because you’re angry ya got dunked on? You can’t just post liberal political opinions (that would do well in liberal spaces) and expect them to fly in a commie space…

Wait, i recognize you! Ive argued with you myself! You definitely don’t approach hexbear with a perspective of learning something, and iirc you’re not the most respectful of other opinions haha! You been banned a couple times and still ain’t learned shit about shit. Should i pm you with those threads with explanations of what and where you went wrong? Id be ecstatic to teach you something today

EABOD25 OP ,

I’ve said it multiple times. If I get talked to respectfully, I talk respectfully. If someone is a smartass, I’m a smartass. OP of the post yesterday was respectful so I had a conversation with him while everyone was telling me how big of pile of shit I am. I know why I got banned. You don’t have to send me anything. And I guess I’m up to 3 communities now because I said the same exact thing this morning. Someone calls me pig shit and I’m supposed to just be like “Hey. I’m here to learn”. No. Sorry. Not how I operate

But I will say our arguments must have went well because you aren’t on my ban list lol. So I’ll keep up with the theme of talking to you respectfully

Edit: And I’m not angry at all. It started out as a legitimate question of if I’m the problem on HB, and then are started reading experiences from other people, but I blocked the instance so neither of us have to worry about it. If you choose not to respond, I hope you have a good weekend

the_post_of_tom_joad ,

I don’t block people permanently, only for a couple days and then only if they won’t stop barkin. We didn’t have any discussions per se but i have to admit to you it was i who reported one of your comments as “debate pervert”. I stand behind that decision too, in that particular case.

I hope you have a good weekend too. I hope you come back around one day, as a lurker, with curiosity. Even if it seems unlikely in the face of the other things I’ve said, i really mean that.

mathemachristian ,

again youre misrepresenting. you got several well articulated lengthy explanations and dismissed them or didn’t reply.

  1. hexbear.net/post/3384251/5347496
  2. hexbear.net/post/3384251/5347177
  3. hexbear.net/post/3384251/5347490
Sharkwellington ,

This is my exact same experience. I ask for someone to elaborate on their stance, get told (not accused, told) I’m trolling. Ask for explanation/definition of a concept, get called an idiot shitlib and told to read some theory. Ask for civility, get told I deserve abuse for “endorsing genocide”. (By the way, I absolutely oppose the genocide in Gaza. But I’m a genocide supporter I guess because I won’t flush my vote third party this November.)

Hexbear is a community that expects you to conform. Every time there is a post like this, someone comes out of the woodwork and says “They’re nice people if you talk like them and agree with them on everything.” It’s cool that you’re not getting abused, but abuse is coming from that space, whether or not it is happening to you.

It’s a shame because I would like to hear the nuances of their viewpoints, but I can never get them to tell me what they are. Always complaining that nobody tries to understand, but dogpiling on anyone that asks questions. Then they pull up your report history and tell you “It’s just a little dunking bro, stop being a snowflake” for not putting up with it.

Users of Hexbear, if you’re reading these words, do better. Nobody is going to sympathize with your cause if you antagonize outsiders that want to learn more.

EABOD25 OP ,

Well put. To be fair, there’s people that disagree with them that would ridicule them too. Everyone just expects people to be shitty. My opinion is we need to change the atmosphere altogether, but I can only control my own actions.

With that being said, I am guilty of a “gotcha” move to test the waters. I didn’t necessarily see it as disrespectful in the moment because the whole post was “Libs bad! Get the torches”.

I want to keep saying though that OP of the post was absolutely respectful, but our discussion just degraded because he kept refusing the sources I presented and it just went to shit after that. I even explained my comment to OP and apologized to them if I offended them with my comment.

But everyone else just proved that they’re garbage people that just want to treat everyone like shit and not try to educate or learn.

And now I guess people who often posts like that on HB are losing their mind because I’m criticizing them in a way lesser way they were criticizing me. I don’t get it lol

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

VERY well-stated, imho. I nominated your comment to !BestOfLemmy.

LarmyOfLone ,

Your mistake was posting in the dunk tank. That is literally a “vent” sub where they vent their frustrations against stupid US empire propaganda takes.

It’s the dunk tank.

This is where you come to post big-brained hot takes by chuds, libs, or even fellow leftists, and tear them to itty-bitty pieces with precision dunkstrikes.

If you go there expecting reasonable treatment for your opinions, you misunderstood the assignment. That is a shitpost sub where only one side is right.

How do I know this? Because I went there once and got dunked on too! But that does not represent the entirety of hexbear. I think.

EABOD25 OP ,

Then I think I made the same mistake that you did. However I took a shot and dunked on them, and they went insane. Like water in a fryer

LarmyOfLone ,

Yeah well lol, it’s sort of like a “roast me” sub for liberals.

tigeruppercut ,

Check out !meanwhileongrad

EABOD25 OP ,

Jesus Harold Christ. This is just propaganda. Plain and simple

Zipitydew ,

If you’ve heard of Chapo Trap House that’s them. If not, most of those kids/idiots/trolls are the type of terminally online fake leftists that give other leftist a bad image in general. They were so ridiculous Reddit got tired of their shit and banned them a couple years back.

fern ,

They were banned when reddit cracked down on any leftist thought, not because they were especially bad from what I saw.

Zipitydew ,

They were banned around the same time as The Donald because everyone was tired of the shit both groups were doing.

fern ,

I do remember that, and I remember them half-assing the Donald by just letting them make a new sub (or overrun conspiracy irrc)

Zipitydew ,

Yeah they immediately took over Conspiracy and consolidated the hold on Conservative. Made me really sad as conspiracy used to have some incredible rabbit hole posts. Then one day it was just TD all over again.

grue ,

IIRC, the fun conspiracists moved to r/high_strangeness or something like that.

alcoholicorn ,

The Donald had largely abandoned the sub well before it was banned though.

Zipitydew ,

Largely because they moved to different subs.

The Chapo crew didn’t want to calm down with all the threats of violence and other ridiculous antics. So they left completely.

alcoholicorn ,

Threats of violence against confederate slave owners.

Zipitydew ,

TIL Reddit admins were confederate slavers

alcoholicorn ,

When the sub was put on probation, the post Reddit cited was justifying violence against slave owners. As far as I can tell, you just made up that they threatened Reddit admins.

Zipitydew ,

There were other things that went down to get them on probation. I can tell you’re gladly defending them though. Which is ridiculous so have a nice day.

BakerBagel ,

Huffman has been a frequent attendee at Burning Man, the annual, clothing-optional festival in the Nevada desert, where artists mingle with moguls. He fell in love with one of its core principles, “radical self-reliance,” which he takes to mean “happy to help others, but not wanting to require others.” (Among survivalists, or “preppers,” as some call themselves, FEMA, the Federal Emergency Management Agency, stands for “Foolishly Expecting Meaningful Aid.”) Huffman has calculated that, in the event of a disaster, he would seek out some form of community: “Being around other people is a good thing. I also have this somewhat egotistical view that I’m a pretty good leader. I will probably be in charge, or at least not a slave, when push comes to shove.”

Spez pretty openly fantasizes about owwning slaves

BakerBagel ,

The_Donald was dead amd had migrated to a non-reddit forum a month before the ban. It was typical “both sides” bullshit from a dude who always uses the kiddy gloves with fascists while throwing the book at any leftists

SirDerpy , (edited )

Seeing the ban coming, they financed and suffered alpha and beta of the Lemmy platform we all enjoy. Then, they chose to become the most GLBTQ+ friendly destination on the internet.

As it’s always been, they cope with the horrible events with satirical, sarcastic humor. And, in the middle of that will be a well-reasoned, nuanced, and quite serious post.

But, perhaps the part I like most is the struggle sessions. The entire community will heavily focus on a current topic, then hash it out with good faith discussion.

Their shit isn’t convenient or comfortable. It’s not easy to understand. And, I fucking love them for it.

edit: Lazy coders need choose a randomized target value and timing or be a moderator to avoid detection by the user. Perceiving is easy when your code is trash. Ask for help from an industrial engineer.

mathemachristian ,

Yeah they kept being able to back the most ridiculous claims and then suddenly I was like “oh no they were right all along” and got radicalized 🤷

Zipitydew ,

Coming up with theory in an echo chamber isn’t hard.

mathemachristian ,

and how they kept being able to back it up?

Zipitydew ,

That’s the whole point of an echo chamber yes. You can say whatever you want without being challenged by other viewpoints and make anything seem plausible.

mathemachristian ,

but they are linking a lot of outside sources. That’s what I mean by “backing their claims up”, studies about covid, about the ukraine war, about Israel, it’s not just someone making a claim and then everyone is nodding along.

What I am saying is they were able to completely upend the way I see the world and you just can’t do that by claiming thengs and linking to some other claims you make.

Zipitydew ,

What you’re not accounting for is how they curate who is allowed to post in the first place.

alcoholicorn ,

Hexbear is not able to curate who is allowed to post in other instances

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

If you’ve heard of Chapo Trap House that’s them.

You seem to have lost the thread of this conversation, but this is how it started. Hexbear admins and mods definitely control who is allowed to post in Chapo Trap House, and related communities such as the_dunk_tank, even from instances other than Hexbear.net.

alcoholicorn ,

Mathemachristian is on lemm.ee, Hexbear cannot control most of the communities he sees.

mathemachristian ,

I was on lemm.ee when I got radicalized, all my life Ive been exposed to people claiming all sorts of things. I was a pro-NATO pro-Ukraine anti-ussr anti-china average reddit lib that they were able to convince otherwise.

AmidFuror ,

Wait until you hear about Scientology! Not the criticism from haters but the really mindbending stuff they have figured out.

Kaboom ,

It’s surprisingly easy to backup horrible ideas, but that shouldn’t be your only concern. You also need to think about the morals and what happened last time it was tried.

The ends do not justify the means. The means are the ends.

GBU_28 ,

Their supposed support of LGBTQ+ is all for naught when they openly fawn after Stalin

SirDerpy ,

There’s much to learn from Stalin. But, advocating his authoritarian means is a bannable offense there just as they are in any meritable leftist forum. They tolerate a minority of revolutionaries ideologically leading the lumpen as it’s a historically very well-supoorted position. But, that doesn’t extend to physical force as that’s also a historically very well supported position.

It’s much easier, convenient, and comfortable to demonized them than understand them. They even provided proactive assistance when many were deciding if they should defederate. They voted internally for defederation to defend their community from the medicrity of the masses.

GBU_28 ,

If not enjoying the image posts of young Stalin as some sort of brilliant maverick is mediocrity, well, so be it. They are clowns, and their beliefs structure is just like trump claiming he “loves the gays”

SirDerpy ,

Young Stalin is where the good stuff is. It’s his implementation of those idealistic principles that’s unethical.

The rest of what you’ve said is strawman. Most important is the implying that they’re all of one mind. Diversity of ideology is perhaps their greatest strength.

GBU_28 ,

🥱

Literally out here defending Stalin stans

SirDerpy ,

Ad hominem is literally the best you had when confronted with facts that didn’t fit the shallow narrative you chose.

GBU_28 ,

The “facts” are things we both agreed are posted there. That’s all I need. If they’re a stalin apologist / stan then the shows over.

SirDerpy ,

Probably also wrote off the Bible due to the implementation of the followers. That’s too bad.

GBU_28 ,

The medieval rewrite of an Abrahamic faith mythology? More junk.

14th_cylon ,

As it’s always been, they cope with the horrible events with satirical, sarcastic humor. And, in the middle of that will be a well-reasoned, nuanced, and quite serious post.

Oh yes, they are so funny, misunderstood, thoughtful and nuanced thinkers.

F them and f you for defending them.

https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FnaqzXc7.png

This ~1800 comment thread about whether lemm.ee should defederate with them is all you need for some eye opening, in case anyone needs that.

lemm.ee/post/4543536

Above screenshot is from said thread.

The comrade in it actually suggests that there is a time and place for such rhetoric, it is just not right here, right now. you have to think politically and wait for your moment!

SirDerpy ,

Yes, please read what the .ee admin says about where the bigoted users originate and the actions of the hexbear mods in response. It certainly speaks for itself.

would_be_appreciated ,

But, perhaps the part I like most is the struggle sessions. The entire community will heavily focus on a current topic, then hash it out with good faith discussion.

I’ve never seen this - not just from that instance, but literally anywhere on the internet, even back in the forum or bb days. But I’ve been looking for something like that for years, and I’d be interested. Do you know of any specific examples of this happening?

LarmyOfLone ,

I also haven’t seen this but it seems to make fun of the authoritarian excesses in Mao’s China (struggle session).

The Three Body Problem show features this, leading a character to go mad and wanting to destroy humanity.

The funny thing is that this post is sort of a struggle session, an attempt to build consensus against socialists.

lvxferre ,
@lvxferre@mander.xyz avatar

Childish? Kinda. Insane? No.

There are three relevant things to say about hexbear.

  1. It is not a serious instance. Or at least not completely serious; they’re mostly there for memes, funposting, “I know that feel” etc.

So they’re less like the meeting room of a communist party than like the bar where those communists hang out and drink beer, after the meeting is over.

I feel like this is often misinterpreted, as HB users say something that is mostly a taunt and others interpret as actual argumentation. And it also tends to attract younger users, who… well, behave like young people?

  1. Even if not a serious instance, they’re serious about their views. Your typical HB user is communist, antifa, vegan, anti-cop, and interprets things in a very specific way. They’re rather transparent about it.

And, because of #1, they aren’t really willing to spend their time entertaining anyone’s counterpoints. It’ll be interpreted as sealioning or similar.

  1. Hexbear was already its own thing before federation. As such it developed social norms that often conflict with the norms typically found in the rest of the Threadiverse (Lemmy, Mbin, Piefed etc.)

For example, even if Lemmy as a whole is prone to intrusive political discussions, HB users tend to do it far more. Because they’re used to an environment where this is typically taken as OK.


When it comes to dealing with HB users here, my advice is the exact same as dealing with other users:

  • if you don’t like what someone is saying (because it’s idiotic, obstrusive, or whatever), block the person for some peace of mind.
  • if you’re consistently uninterested on the content coming from an instance, block the instance.
marcos ,

antifa

Yeah, the famous antifa-tankers. Every single person I’ve ever seen that identifies as antifa was a tanker. Other people run away from that label.

BakerBagel ,

Maybe you’re telling on yourself by announcing your disdain for antifascists

lvxferre ,
@lvxferre@mander.xyz avatar

I really hate that I need to point this out, because I feel like it will derail the discussion from Hexbear to fascism:

“Antifa” boils down to “people who actively oppose fascism”, instead of either supporting it or sitting on their hands while doing jack shit.

marcos ,

Is there something in the name requiring people to support fascism if it wears the right color?

lvxferre ,
@lvxferre@mander.xyz avatar

Is there something in the name requiring people to support fascism if it wears the right color?

Do some people fighting fascism (aka antifa) go overboard? Yes, certainly; that’s bound to happen with any movement, group, or cohort.

For example, someone might miss the target due to witch hunting, or adopt an “ends always justify means” mindset, or even conflate “non-suporter = enemy”.

However. By implying that “antifa is fascism wearing a different colour”, like you are doing, you’re showing to not understand the obvious difference between

  • individuals following an ideology grounded on xenophobia, nationalism, racism, militarism, censorship, suppression of your individuality by force, more often than not sexism, homophobia and transphobia; and
  • individuals who don’t want the shit above to transform their lives into living hells, including some willing to use force to fight back.

This conflation between both groups is not just immoral. It’s worse - it stinks stupidity and similar filth from a distance. As such I’m not wasting my time further with you, go chew some grass.

Kecessa ,

But if you’re anti fascism but pro authoritarianism, you’re still wrong…

lvxferre ,
@lvxferre@mander.xyz avatar

Plenty HB users are authoritarian. I disagree with them in this; however I don’t think that both things cancel out, given the fascism is orders of magnitude worse than authoritarianism alone.

Kecessa ,

Aaaand you’re low-key defending authoritarianism…

lvxferre ,
@lvxferre@mander.xyz avatar

Yeah, because saying “cat shit is not as huge as elephant shit” is the same as saying “cat shit is not shit”. /s

HelixDab2 ,

Most antifa groups are anarchist collectives. So I’m not sure where you’re seeing this, unless it’s solely from people that are terminally online.

algorithmae ,
FundMECFSResearch ,

And increasingly lemmy.ml, sadly

SARGE ,
@SARGE@startrek.website avatar

They’re getting there, but so far it’s only a few users that I’ve noticed.

One guy seems to be following me around to attempt mockery.

They’re very much getting to “everyone who isn’t farther left than me is a right-wing nazi” mentality.

FundMECFSResearch ,

They aren’t even really left. They are super authoritarian.

I blocked them since they spew Russian and Chinese propaganda points and take revisionist stances on Tianman square and deny the Uyghur Genocide.

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

Many people playing “leftist” are this way, sadly. And <insert religion here>, and <insert country name here> as well, but my favorite example is “conservatives”… who despite both the name itself and the claim to want to return to “traditional” values, instead want to radically overthrow everything that has arisen for the past several hundreds of years.

It turns out that it is really, really, really hard to be truly honest with oneself, about whatever it is that we choose to believe.

skooma_king ,

How are you blocking full instances? I’ve been playing wack-a-mole blocking communities. I’m using Voyager on iOS, if that matters.

Summzashi ,

Settings > filters & blocks

skooma_king ,

Thanks!

Pilon23 ,
skooma_king ,

Thanks!

samus12345 ,
@samus12345@lemmy.world avatar

Th ability to do so was added a while back.

Steve ,
ContrarianTrail ,

Thank god for hexbear and lemmygrad though. Imagine the effort needed to block them all individually if spread over all the other instances.

samus12345 ,
@samus12345@lemmy.world avatar

Yeah, it’s actually helpful to have safe spaces for hateful assholes so they can be corralled away.

Steve ,

Its a safe space for them to be… away from me

FireTower ,
@FireTower@lemmy.world avatar

Last I checked there was an instance rule preventing the posting of pictures of cheese without a trigger warning.

samus12345 ,
@samus12345@lemmy.world avatar

Sheogorath does not approve.

https://i.redd.it/xem5s0wgvsja1.jpg

SassyRamen ,
@SassyRamen@lemmy.world avatar

The most well written character from any game yet. Change my mind.

Azzu ,

They’re not insane, they’re just victims of tribal thinking like the rest of us. Very narrow worldview reinforced by the others around them, bashing outsiders, thinking “they” are smarter than everyone else. Mostly, they see themselves as good and everyone else as bad, which isn’t very unique among humans either. I don’t think hexbear is worse than anywhere else.

You’re doing the same right now probably.

EABOD25 OP ,

I have to disagree with your last sentence. I do my best to treat people on the internet like I’m talking to them face-to-face. It’s the least that people deserve.

Azzu ,

You can do these things while talking face-to-face with somebody.

Calling a whole bunch of different people with different opinions than you, that you don’t all know, “insane”, seems to me like you feel you are smarter/better than them.

EABOD25 OP ,

Would you insult and belittle people in person? That’s what I’m referring to. You give them an opposing view and they go insane. I don’t care if they have a different opinion. Their opinion doesn’t impact my life. But if some of those people talked like that to people’s faces, they’d probably get punched

Azzu ,

The times I went there with differing opinions I never got insulted. They think their views are right and (sometimes) mine wrong. They also shared their reasons and tried in their way to educate me. They have their own culture over there that is more rude/direct than normal, but it’s certainly possible to speak normally to them.

EABOD25 OP ,

Don’t get me wrong. I’m spoke generally, but it’s impossible for everyone there to be crappy

PopOfAfrica ,

They have an entire sub called “thedunktank” that is about sending targeted harassment to specific users.

14th_cylon ,

Defending communist genocide wanabes with moral relativism makes me think you are neither smarter nor better than them.

Just because someone is in big group doesn’t mean he is good person and deserves any kind of respect.

Azzu ,

I think all people deserve respect by default. Only through someone’s actions may the respect for them be rescinded. Calling a whole bunch of people something is just almost never correct and only furthers any already existing divide.

14th_cylon ,

Yeah, no. For example once you join the Nazi party, you gave up your right to be given benefit of the doubt. I am not going to waste my time on a theory that maybe you are a good nazi.

Same goes for when you join hexbear.

snooggums ,
@snooggums@midwest.social avatar

Everyone does deserve to be treated with respect by default. Respect is earned, and is not the same thing.

Choosing to associate with certain groups is an action for which respect may be rescinded.

mathemachristian ,

Im going to link your conversation here, where people were giving you detailed responses and you just kept shrugging them off so others can judge for themselves:

lemm.ee/post/41483398/14572285

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

Genocide vs. harsh words are also similar in kind and differ “only” in degree… but that still makes them pretty different overall! Similarly, over-eating to become a little overweight, vs. being massively obese like 500+ lbs (226.8kg), is again a difference in degree though not in kind (perhaps? or arguably is there a threshold where…?). Another comparison could be Lemmy/Mbin(/Sublinks/Piefed/etc.) vs. Reddit: different in degree… but both are social networks so should we say not entirely in kind?

The average behavior of people experiencing hexbear from the outside - i.e. who did not choose it intentionally - is objectively much worse, compared to an instance such as lemm.ee. Again, in degree, even if not in kind. (you can literally measure the effect quantitatively, e.g. by counting the number of complaints lodged against it, such as this post; it may not be as hard a science as physics, but then again, other than physics, what is?)

Azzu ,

I agree. But is a statement like “everyone in hexbear is insane” helpful in any way at all in this situation? The only thing it serves is to further any divide and cause more hostility.

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

They’re not insane, they’re just victims of tribal thinking like the rest of us. Very narrow worldview reinforced by the others around them, bashing outsiders, thinking “they” are smarter than everyone else. Mostly, they see themselves as good and everyone else as bad, which isn’t very unique among humans either.

Absolutely yes. I should have clarified that I agree with your first several points:-). I only disagreed (somewhat strongly) with the last one. Definitely the “is everyone insane (except me ofc 🙃)?” is hyperbolic, and mostly venting, and I even treated it as being a silly / unserious wording, but also halfway serious in terms of seeking information and reassurance that the Fediverse is worth visiting, if someone is more careful where they tread.

Therefore, the OP is not doing the identical thing in reverse, imho, b/c OP is responding to the way that they were treated, which is necessarily not thought-out fully but rather a knee-jerk reaction. OP came to us for help in emotionally processing what(ever) happened to them, whereas people on hexbear.net continually act that way for years and years, plus actively resist any efforts to change (which OP hasn’t even had the opportunity to do yet, this post being mere hours old), which seems to me more than enough time for them to have settled and made a conscientious, intentional decision as to how they want to live their lives. So again, yes OP may have done something of a similar nature, at least similar in kind, but the fact that the degree differs makes all the difference in the world. Maybe?

As for creating division and causing hostility, definitely users of Chapotraphouse have been known to do similarly… but if you want to respond that we should hold ourselves to a higher standard, then I will preemptively agree.:-) Except that the Fediverse has in the past allowed no distinction between communities - TheDonald (if one existed here) would be presented to a (especially new) user in exactly the same manner as e.g. No Stupid Questions (technically I believe that 0.19.5 introduced the allowance for labelling a community by an instance owner, though I am aware of zero communities so far that have used this feature, and many instances have not even upgraded to it yet - at least mine has not yet, though I see that yours has and more are catching up as time passes, maybe even most of the major ones at this point? so maybe there are such labels all around and I am simply not seeing them, though reports such as OP’s and lack of discussion about such makes me strongly doubt that). Except the former would be much more likely to ban you outright for asking a “stupid” question (in their eyes), since as we agree, they feel themselves to be the sole arbiters and conveyors of truth, and moreover, unlike you and I who are discussing this topic so politely (and even pleasantly?) here, are not open to any dissenting POVs (+ are much more likely to enact a full-on ban rather than mere post removal).

Fwiw, I liken it to porn. If someone wants that… then they should be allowed to have it - why should I try to block someone’s access to a contentious conversation, or impinge upon freedom of speech in any way? On the other hand, when someone else’s freedom to speak impinges upon MY freedom to not have to listen to such crap, especially when it blows up my inbox (for WEEKS and WEEKS and WEEKS after I stopped responding!!!), that’s where I draw the line. That’s literally not what “freedom” means - except in their eyes, where they feel that they should be free to ban outsiders, but not for outsiders to block them in return. Put another way: we control ourselves rather than spew our thoughts uncontrollably onto someone, but so many people on certain instances do the opposite, since their culture has taken root to actively applaud that behavior. And yet, except on instances that have already banned hexbear.net (& lemmygrad.ml, and imho lemmy.ml as well, except no major instances do the latter afaik), new users are constantly exposed to that porn style of “contentious content”, which goes against Western standards of normal behavior, without any such warning messages. Thereby leading to posts such as OP’s, who was shocked to see it. As so many have been before, and so many will continue to be, unless something is done about it.

So what I am getting at is that in large measure, what causes division and hostility is coming across such a thing unawares. If it were labelled, it would be different - e.g. if you clicked upon a post with an interesting title and a warning popped up “Warning: this community have chosen to voluntarily label itself as containing NSFW/NSFL “potentially contentious content”, please read this [external statement] before replying to anyone in it.” (and then had an option to not show again, when the user feels that they understand and don’t need the warning anymore)

But when you are just scrolling your All feed, as a day- or week-1 Fedizen, and suddenly come upon such graphic/contentious content… it can be more than a little jarring. So it’s not merely their particular style that is the problem, but rather (like porn) it is the infringement of that style upon the unaware users on the rest of the worldwide Fediverse.

I hope this further explanation was of interest to you:-).

Asafum ,

Honestly my only issue with them is literally anyone who is not them is “an evil pro-genocide lib” (lib, liberal is like the biggest insult they can throw at you as it’s essentially the definition of their opposition.) Doesn’t exactly feel great to see an entire community see you as the absolute evil and everything that is wrong with the world just because you may not agree that an economy run by committee is the best way, or that an authoritarian “vanguard” is the right way to a better society.

If they’re all about workers solidarity and community then they should try to see us if anything as simply “ignorant” not stupid, not willingly aiding genocide, just lacking information that they could help share. Instead a lot of them are just vicious. There are some like Cowbee that seem like good people who want to help others understand their views.

OpenStars ,
@OpenStars@discuss.online avatar

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar indeed:-).

Asafum ,

That’s a phrase I live my life by to be honest lol

slazer2au ,

Yes, Everyone. the bots, the human user, me, and even you. You can’t escape it.

lord_ryvan ,

You and @EABOD25 aren’t on hexbear, though, are you?

EABOD25 OP ,

I normally search search by “all” when scrolling and I’ll see one or two posts from there. I haven’t really figured out all the technicals, but I see posts from all instances

Stovetop ,

It might vary from app to app, but there are usually options to toggle between Local and Everywhere for “All” content, if you want to see just what is on your own instance versus all other instances yours is federated with.

lord_ryvan ,

Sure, but I meant you asked if everyone in hexbear is insane, and they included you and themselves in the hexbear server, I think?

Anyway, you can block users/communities/servers, still. Maybe that can improve your experience?

EABOD25 OP ,

My experience is already great. There’s nothing anyone can say to me to ruin my day

EABOD25 OP ,

Yeah but my insane is cheeky and fun. Their insane is cruel and tragic

PlasticExistence ,

I’m going to pistol whip the next person who says shenanigans

snooggums ,
@snooggums@midwest.social avatar

Hey EABOD25, what’s the name of that restaurant you like with all the goofy shit on the walls and the mozzarella sticks?

burgersc12 ,

Obviously you can’t lump them all into one category, but the majority of them seem to be willing to cause chaos on other instances for a laugh. Doesn’t sit right with me, so i blocked them

mathemachristian ,

Lol you got banned from hexbear and now are crying about it on lemmy.world?

EABOD25 OP ,

Lol. I didn’t get banned from hexbear. Nice try though. Now run along with your bullshit

alcoholicorn ,

They linked the hexbear modlog

1 hour ago

Banned [email protected]

from the community the_dunk_tank

reason: Go back to Reddit, debate pervert.

And apparantly that’s like the 3rd time someone banned you from a community on hexbear for doing that shit

EABOD25 OP , (edited )

Haha. And you decided to waste your mental energy to try and call me out. Two questions

  1. Do you feel better about yourself?
  2. What were the circumstances of the ban?

Edit: no response, so I guess I’ll enlighten you (and anyone who is interested)

The first ban was because I said something along the line of “Can we stop trying to normalize the use of the word ‘tard’”

The second ban was because I said “Putin had no reason to invade Ukraine”

And the third was along the lines of “I like having civil conversations with people with opposing views because it might give me info I didn’t know about and I might do the same, and if you talk disrespectfully to me, I talk disrespectfully to them”

But I’m the asshole?

mathemachristian ,

Just revelling in the fact that the first thing you do after your ban is running to the most lib instance looking for reassurance that it’s the ebil tankies who are crazy

greenshirtdenimjeans ,
mathemachristian , (edited )

using the r slur or any variation thereof would already net you a ban so I doubt you were calling out someone elses use of it.

and i very much doubt the sincerity of your other characterizations, can you link the converations?

Omg you are the lib who thought Putin was a commie trying to revive the USSR!

DarkThoughts ,

Why does lemm.ee have so much Tankies?

mathemachristian ,

We are not some anti-communist echochamber and being exposed to differning viewpoints radicalizes some of us

DarkThoughts ,

Sorry if I gave that impression, but I I don't talk with ruscists.

JackbyDev ,

You were banned from multiple communities on it. The modlog doesn’t lie.

EABOD25 OP ,

Yeah. I wasn’t aware, but it’s all good

CodexArcanum ,

Well, banned for having mild opinions on US politics and then getting defensive when someone called them a genocide enabler. Sounds like hexbear did them a favor. If only the right-wing loonies were so quick to ban people who disagreed with them instead of setting up a big slide to draw them further in.

mathemachristian ,

You’re looking at the lemmygrad ban where they got banned for saying that the opinions about US politics held by a person whos country is being exploited by the US don’t matter.

14th_cylon ,

What crime did that asshole commit? Was he against communist genocide or something?

Also, why are you not proudly using your hexbear account in this thread, are you ashamed, comrade?

mathemachristian ,

Here is a sample of the enriching experience they brought to the site: lemm.ee/post/41483398/14572285

and I’ll leave it to you to figure out why I’m not posting with my hexbear alt on lemmy.world

14th_cylon ,

The fact that you think that thread full of putin propaganda speaks in defense of your side is hilarious.

mathemachristian ,

More the fact that they got detailed replies but their best counter in that whole thread where the two replies where they quickly google some shit and paste the first results and provided no thoughts of their own.

Objection ,

If you say something wrong about something they care about and you can’t back it up, they’re going to be rude to you.

EABOD25 OP ,

The one dude I spoke that was decent and respectful asked for proof of the Uygher genocide, gave him proof, the proof wasn’t good enough. Gave him more proof told me it still wasn’t good enough. Figured it wasn’t worth it anymore because he’s denying everything I give him. Told him he has a movable goal post and peace be with him. Blocked the community and just found out today they banned me. There probably are people that willing to have a dialog, but the few are giving all a bad rep

Objection ,

Do you have a link to that conversation? I’m interested in what your proof looked like.

EABOD25 OP ,
Objection ,

I found the thread and you had several people read your links and go through them in detail. Most of what they’re claiming is traced back to crackpot Adrian Zenz.

As I said, if you go there and say wrong things and then can’t back them up, they’re going to be rude to you. Citing Adrian Zenz is one form of not being able to back up your claims.

EABOD25 OP ,

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  • Objection ,

    genocidewatch.com/…/chinese-genocide-of-uyghurs-i…

    According to Adrian Zenz,

    thediplomat.com/…/erasing-memories-concealing-evi…

    provided to UHRP by scholar Adrian Zenz

    Whoopsie! That’s already two. It was easy to find those because they were already pointed out to you (along with several other of your sources) in the thread that you’re complaining about.

    Here’s a tip - when you post a source on this subject, press “Ctrl+F” then type “Zenz,” and if anything comes up, don’t post it. Obviously, I can’t expect anyone to actually read their sources before posting them, but is 6 keystrokes really too much to ask?

    mathemachristian ,
    Objection ,

    I have a rule that anytime anyone says something happened on the fediverse without providing a link, they are lying or mischaracterizing it literally 100% of the time, and that rule has proven itself yet again.

    TerkErJerbs ,

    idk, I’ve seen all the hype around hexbear users being obnoxious around Lemmy (including our own instance debating blocking the instance, followed by several of their members brigading the thread true to form)… but I’ve explored the communities on the instance itself and even subscribed to some of them like mutual aid, gaming etc, and those that I’m watching are actually just normal people doing normal things if more left than some other similar groups. In my experience it isn’t “all” hexbear users, because that would be a dumb generalization.

    There are some assholes on that instance to be sure. Show me one that this isn’t true of. I’m glad our instance didn’t block them because I now get to decide for myself. I block communities and/or users if they’re a problem for me. I think that’s a good way.

    ryathal ,

    The brigading was really annoying though, but I never noticed anything else bad about them. I don’t use ‘all’ very much and that is probably why.

    TerkErJerbs ,

    Yeah it was, but it was only a few individuals. It wasn’t the entire population of the instance. I do sort by All quite a bit and honestly I don’t see much of note from any one instance other than weird porn or niche meme communities that I block individually as needed. I just nuke communities and individuals that annoy me.

    zante ,

    Safe space for teens cos playing as communists, where they can be nasty to outsiders.

    I like the politics, but it’s filled with truly obnoxious children try to out-communist each other

    the philosopher Bertrand Russell warned of the dangers of communisms tendency to become a religious cult and he was right.

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