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therealjcdenton ,

Yea it’s a cool app called meeting people IRL, kinda obscure tho

ImminentOrbit ,

I used Bumble to find my now fiance. I didn’t pay for it, but also was patient and treated it like an investment instead of expecting immediate results. Ymmv

BlackPenguins ,

Bumble is terrible for meeting people. Once you match someone they have 24 hours to respond. I’m fine with the woman needing to message first, but if you don’t respond in that 24 hours their match is removed. What if that woman has a life and didn’t open the app that day? Oh but you can spend money to extend that window. So if she’s on vacation yay you get to buy extensions for a week. It’s just a scam.

Voyajer ,
@Voyajer@lemmy.world avatar

Women don’t even have to message first anymore in bumble, they got rid of their main gimmick. They’re just yellow tinder now.

Migmog ,

Ref

BlackPenguins ,

Ah well that’s good. But is the 24 hour window still there?

viking ,
@viking@infosec.pub avatar

If you look good, they all work.

If you don’t, they don’t.

Seriously, the free tier in every app allows for enough opportunities to match with someone. Whether that happens is really a matter of your looks (or well, the photos you’re using).

It’s a shallow world out there.

Tehdastehdas ,
@Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world avatar

Getting lots of matches is useless when you’re looking for a handful of great matches. For that you need a great matching mechanism with thousands of parameters - what OkCupid used to have before Match Group destroyed it.

BlackPenguins ,

Unless you’re match.com where they charge you to like or even message people. Don’t ever use Match. OkCupid has been the most genuine one I’ve seen.

MrMcGasion ,

Just so you’re aware, Match owns OkCupid now, as well as Tinder, Hinge, Plenty of Fish and a bunch of other smaller dating sites. I don’t think they’ve all been ruined as much as Match yet, but it’s probably only a matter of time.

BlackPenguins ,

Well this is depressing to learn.

TenderfootGungi ,

And one of them (Match?) apparently hsd a decency algorithm that matched people on things like religion and politics, but was disabled after being bought out.

Mango ,

No.

Next question.

Mighty ,
@Mighty@lemmy.world avatar

I’m holding the torch for OkCupid. I’ve met my SOs there. Many queer folk, leftists, likes work reasonably well and you even get free “superlikes” once a week. Messages are free, likes are free.

morphballganon ,

and you even get free “superlikes” once a week

… are we using the same OkCupid?

Mighty ,
@Mighty@lemmy.world avatar

not sure? I got one superlike to use for free a week. is that a regional thing? i have never paid for OkC in my life.

hemko ,

Oldschool Runescape

Kolanaki ,
@Kolanaki@yiffit.net avatar

Grindr. It’s only partly shit.

RIP if you’re looking for women.

hemko ,

Didn’t grindr have recently some shit that they were selling the confidential user data forward?

ILikeBoobies ,

Fetlife can get you laid

D1G1T4l_B4TH OP ,

Can’t find an app with that name

ILikeBoobies ,

fetlife.com

homura1650 ,

Fetlife is not a dating app. They have actively not implemented features such as filter by age/gender in order to avoid becoming a dating app. If you are looking to get involved in your local kink community, Fetlife is the answer [0]. For anything else, it is garbage. If you try using it to get laid, you will just be pissing a bunch of people off.

[0] At least for my local kink community. Other areas might vary.

Riven ,

I used the Boo app to find my now fiancee. You can talk with people and it has a quasi social media aspect to it that you can also use to chat with more people, I live in a major city and managed to talk to a handful of people on the time I was there, some of those were started by them too. The chatting wasn’t limited iirc it’s a friends/dating app.

Granted I was rated 8/10 on the rate me subreddit so take that as you will.

D1G1T4l_B4TH OP ,

Tried, it sucks.

Alice ,
@Alice@hilariouschaos.com avatar

boo Try boo it’s a little more like dating social media

D1G1T4l_B4TH OP ,

Have you used it?

Alice ,
@Alice@hilariouschaos.com avatar

Yes. Seems decent it’s like mostly for dating but you have the option to just use it for friends. So that ‘pressure’ so to speak isn’t there.

There’s even a social feed and you can make posts and just talk to other people

D1G1T4l_B4TH OP ,

Just use it. Deleted. It’s completely useless and I can’t find a single person nearby. And now they got my info… Great.

meekah ,
@meekah@lemmy.world avatar

Idk, I didn’t like it. Might just be the people around here who use it tho. The way the 16 personalities test thingy is ingrained there also kinda rubbed me the wrong way.

souperk ,
@souperk@reddthat.com avatar

There is Alovoa, it’s open source, still has a small user base, but you don’t have anything to lose…

lord_ryvan ,

Do note that, much like for example Telegram or Snapcraft, only the client is FOSS, not the network all the data is stored on.

souperk ,
@souperk@reddthat.com avatar

That sounds a bit misleading, the server implementation is FOSS too, at any time someone could setup their own instance.

cecilkorik ,
@cecilkorik@lemmy.ca avatar

So it’s not really FOSS at all, it’s just a loss-leader to draw you into the network, trap your data, and then enshittify and monetize as per standard practice.

lord_ryvan ,

It might not be, more than enough people trust Snap and/or Telegram. I’m just putting it out there for the ones that don’t feel comfortable with it.

StarlightDust ,

Dating apps have never been my thing but I think this would be a good fediverse project, maybe linked with something like matrix.

SnotFlickerman ,
@SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

The hard to swallow answer here is this:

Dating apps, like all apps, are majorly funded by giant companies, because there’s no realistic path to scaling up from 100 users to millions of users without a bunch of investment money.

Say I want to create a new, decent app that takes us back to the days of stuff like early OkCupid which was smartly done and actually worked okay.

Well, if it gets any amount of quick adoption, I’ll be going from really low costs to astronomical hosting costs almost overnight. Often, the “checks haven’t cleared” as they say and while you’ve technically been paid, it’s all waiting in escrow or bank transfers or what fucking have you and you have giant bills falling due and no way to pay them

That’s why this happens to every single app under the sun. They’re left making tough decisions and selling out to unscrupulous people.

Because what no one wants to admit is that the funding model to how to make almost anything function on the internet at-scale where millions of people use it is fundamentally broken.

I mean fuck, isn’t that why we’re on the federated splinter-net where people can justify the costs of their small corner of federation, easing the overall load of financial demand?

Corporate internet is broken and they’re chasing ridiculously thin numbers to constantly be making more.

So, you’d probably need some kind of federated solution to not have it be destroyed by corporatized enshittification.

Lost_My_Mind ,

Say I want to create a new, decent app that takes us back to the days of stuff like early OkCupid which was smartly done and actually worked okay.

Ok, I WILL say that.

HEAR THAT GUYS??? THIS GUY OVER HERE IS GONNA GET US ALL LAID!!!

SnotFlickerman ,
@SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

Don’t deny me a GIF of my man Rodney!

https://i.giphy.com/ki1FvyBIf9JqECgLQr.gif

FeelzGoodMan420 ,

Say I want to create a new, decent app that takes us back to the days of stuff like early OkCupid which was smartly done and actually worked okay.

Can confirm - got laid on OkCupid back in the day.

Dark_Arc ,
@Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg avatar

The fediverse as designed is actually pretty inefficient. If it ever were to go to Reddit scale it would melt down.

That’s because there’s effectively no batching for federation currently … every single vote from an instance is forwarded back to the instance hosting the community and must be processed individually. So if you get 500k votes on something even if it’s from 200 servers, the servers hosting the community have to be able to withstand the flood of votes and store the associated data… And that’s just votes.

Worse yet, those votes then get replayed to every single one of those 200 servers one by one. So every server needs 500k vote entries and all the associated traffic … even if half of the servers are just 1 guy looking at cat videos once a month.

Federating actually is way more expensive than just adding another user as designed.

meekah ,
@meekah@lemmy.world avatar

I’m sure if we reach that point, someone will add a method for batching cross-server communication. That’s the beauty of FOSS

fubbernuckin ,

… Eventually…

Here’s a bug on Mastodon that’s existed since 2016 that makes small instances unusable. github.com/mastodon/mastodon/issues/34

meekah ,
@meekah@lemmy.world avatar

That’s kinda the exact opposite. Not many people want to use small instances, so not many people are interested in fixing something like that. However, let’s say lemmy.world becomes unusable because of too much cross-server communication. That would cause inconvenience to way more people, increasing the likelihood that someone will do the work to fix it.

K4mpfie ,
@K4mpfie@feddit.org avatar

There is Alovoa, it’s FOSS, it’s just that nobody seems to be using it. Closest next user is ~10k km away😂

cows_are_underrated ,

And its a gigantic sausage party.

K4mpfie ,
@K4mpfie@feddit.org avatar

Does that surprise you, given that it’s a project out of the FOSS Space?

cows_are_underrated ,

Absolutely not.

bionicjoey ,

No idea about Europe but Hinge is the one that I’ve known lots of people have successfully used, myself included, to find a relationship.

OddrunAsmundr ,

Fetlife if you’re kinky. You gotta use it to find local events with fellow kinky people, meet up, vet each other. Etc etc.

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