I guess, but wasn’t the point of bumble to turn that on it’s head? Like, traditionally, the guy on a dating site is supposed to come up with a semi-witty first text in order to not be buried. Bumble set itself apart by having the lady message first to avoid that, right? What happened?
Doomed business model. Women won’t initiate when it’s easier to not.
Would you initiate a conversation when you’ve got dozens of women, many of them very attractive, vying for your attention? You’d just pick the prettiest or wittiest and let them take the lead
I have such an easy time on dating sites. If they message me first I know it’s a bot. 100% of the time the next message is either a link or asking if I have some random off site messaging thing they’ll send me a link on.
I guess they see my profile and know think “he’s gotta be desperate, just look at that pathetic fuck.”
I actually forgot that was a thing! I liked the sites that let you actually have a decent bio like plenty of fish and okcupid since I really want to know about the person and not just how attractive they can look in a picture :/
Then okcupid became tinder 2.0 swipe only and pof is apparently trying to become a streaming service…
I don’t get it. You liked me to get to the point where we could talk, and then you don’t respond when I say what’s up. It’s not even just girls; guys do this shit too.
Social decorum was developed alongside our growing minds. In the absence of the triggers of sight, sound, smell, and touch, people are generally apathetic to the needs and wants of others. Anonymity was not something that our innately social brains were bred for and the monkey at the center of the human psyche is exposed through it.
I’m not on any of these sites but often I’ll sit down to play a game and stare at my game library. Fully knowing if I try any I’ll like them. But instead I sit and flick through the library and end up playing nothing, maybe even buy a new game and turn it off before the load screen. Then I go to bed. I wonder if it’s the same feeling