I have family and friends with kids. I would never go through that anguish day by day. I love peace of mind and naps, and will probably save millions. It is selfish to create wage slaves for rich capitalist
i want tl have kids i just cant raise them with a gpod heart under these conditions.
in the past week ive ate two apples a slice of bred and a orange oh and two 2 liters of soda that i got for free. that is all i was able to afford afted working and paying bills
i barely can afford to exist. the capitalist mindet ground in my head just tells me to work more
Late stage capitalism, savage capitalism, an overcapitalized society, whatever you want to call it… It’s a bunch of different factors that all eat away at the social fabric that make raising kids easier
Housing is expensive, and people frequently move for a job. It’s pretty unusual to live next door to family, who would often give free childcare. You also don’t get neighborhoods full of young parents anymore - everyone is just living wherever they can afford to
For-profit media - thanks to decades of horror stories (of crimes that peaked in the 80s, but are great for viewership), leaving a child not in the hands of a specific, designated adult is grounds for a CPS visit in a lot of places. You can’t drop them off at the park (even if there are many adults present) or leave them at home anymore, regardless of if they actually need the supervision. It’s one thing if they’re 3, but a 7 year old can generally keep themselves alive pretty well, especially if you prepare them for it
Monetization and over scheduling - activities for them are paid and have specific time slots. Tae Kwon do is an hour at 6, soccer is 5-7… If you’re late you need to find someone to watch them. And most of that requires money and a big time investment because of car culture
Babysitters are the exception, but they’re either rare or expensive. Minimum wage isn’t near enough for teens to want to do such a crap job (parents often treat them like crap and expect a lot more from them now), and teens are less trusted. They even have certifications for teens that are a few hundred bucks to teach them what to do in an emergency - basically the heimlich maneuver, how to change a diaper, and when to call 911. Adult professionals have regulations to meet, and are a significant cost
Finally, we’re pushed hard to be individuals that can be interchangeable and portable labor. Outside of family, we don’t have the same tight bonds of friendship our parents or grandparents did… And even family doesn’t mean what it used to
People normally adapt to their environment. Having goals of a close social network and a tight family isn’t important to the environment of the USA (probably most of the world). This environment is to use you up and make as much money off your labor as possible with giving you as little as possible.
That doesn’t leave much left over for you to focus your energy and time to your family, friends, and social gatherings.
I mean, yeah? I just listed a bunch of circumstances
Humans are the most trainable animals we know of. The differences are due to the systems we’ve built - humans aren’t much different, but the way we organize has changed rapidly
With spare money/disposable income. Want to go on holiday? we do. Want a lie in at the weekend? we can. Peace and quiet? lots. None of this possible with kids as they take over your whole life.
This is what I enjoy most about being CF, everything in life is much more flexible. Both my partner and myself are working shifts and our planning doesn’t depend on weekend and school holidays. Going out for a nice dinner on a Tuesday is much more enjoyable when the restaurants aren’t full. Also, traveling after the summer rush is what we prefer. Things are somewhat cheaper, popular areas are emptier, and the weather is cooler.
Is this a place to hate children, or talk about a child free lifestyle for yourself?
Talking about how the world expects you to have kids, and the pressure to have kids is a lot different than just talking about how annoying kids are to be around.
They’re your friends, go hang out, spoil the kids, teach them bad words and send them home with their parents, then chill in silence at home.
Is this a place to hate children, or talk about a child free lifestyle for yourself?
I can’t find an outline of what the community is here. There’s not a laid out prescription of what this group is and isn’t. But the most popular post by a county mile is a similar sort of complain about how there’s no adult places anymore.
For me, the joke isn’t about hating kids, it’s the fact that as a childfree adult with many friends, life increasingly becomes about dealing with their kids at things. For the parents, they sort of get a break as the kids run around with each other. But the rest of us, trying to catch up with those friends whom we haven’t seen in ages have it all punctuated by loud screaming. I still go because yes, they are my friends. It’s just like many things, less great than it was.
I have two kids- 7 and 8. Sometimes I want to get away from them (and everyone else’s kids too). If I had a spot like you described and it got co-opted I’d be pissed.
Ultimately it’s up to whoever owns the business though. I’m guessing the two hour waits mean more money for the business owner and barbers that work there.
thats the case with any public transport: farts are unpredictable and the whole group have to bear with the emissions of a single passenger. one could make use of a 3M hepa mask if questionable odors are very bothering…
Congrats! I got mine about 24 years ago. It was a great decision and a good experience. I love my kids, but knew I was done having more. It’s so nice to not even have to worry about “mistakes” ever again.
For people considering it, the method I got was absolutely NOT painful or a big deal. The worse part is the awkwardness of having someone mess with your penis when they prep the area (shave and get it ready for the doc). They numb the area, make a tiny incision, and block the tubes from sending mini-yous up and out.
In the old days, they would just straight up cut the tubes which would be painful, but when I got it done, what they did was only partially cut the tubes to leave some nerves intact then put little titanium clips on the tubes to “keep the drawbridge up” and prevent spermies to passing through. They close ya up and you wear a jockstrap for a few days. Procedure took less than an hour.
I was nervous it would hurt after and on the way home, I had to pee and I was scared as the pressure was building - but then as I finally peed, I realize it was just the pressure from peeing (dumbass) and I felt great. Went to the company picnic the next day! ha!
Then a week or 2 later, had to ejaculate in a cup and let them make sure nothing was getting through.
Easy peasy!
FYI - orgasms & sex feel and act the same (in fact better without worries of accidental babies), same erections, same cum, same everything, except just shooting blanks.
My comment isn’t to dissuade anyone. I got mine done and if I needed to repeated the procedure once a year with what i experienced I would still do it.
But I do want to point out that everyone will have different experiences. My vas deferens are/were short so they had a heck of a time getting them into a position where they could cut and put the clips on them. It resulted on what felt like them yanking on them.
It was uncomfortable to put it mildly. Recovery was super easy.
I am in my 40s and had all the kids I wanted. I have seem multiple of my friends delay getting one and end up with an oops kid in their 40s. No fucking way would I want to have an infant at that age. It was hard enough when I was 30 years old when my first was born.
I’m 41 years old. I had my first daughter 3 years ago, and kid number 2 is arriving in February. (It took me a while to get my life together enough, that I was ready for kids)
I fully understand, why you wouldn’t want an infant at that age. 🤣
On average, non-parents tend to be less stressed and either happier or just as happy as parents. You asked for an article, this one mostly focuses on the facts except the opinionated bit at the end.
I got a vasectomy five years ago, there was a small pain during the procedure which wasn’t too bad but one of my testes has a granuloma that can painful even after these years.
I only posted this to say that despite a literal pain in my ball, I also love sterility. Having a kid would be much more of a pain.
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