When invited to a parent's event where there'll be many small children

scrubbles , 11 months ago

Gotta agree with the other person. I’m not a fan of kids, even posted yesterday about having kids in places I don’t like there being kids, but you’re going to their party and they have kids.

In this case if you don’t want to be around kids you can not go to the party, otherwise it’s one of those things you do for your friends.

Lauchs OP , 11 months ago

Oh absolutely. I’m not saying I wouldn’t go. It’s just the general, pretty much as the gif says, “I hope it’s worth the noise.” Like, if visiting my buddy also meant getting kicked in the balls, I’d hope our friendship and the visit were worth it.

But also, the older I get and the more of my friends have kids, the more of those social events to see those old friends involve loud, sticky children. (And heck, I’m pretty good at playing with them as not having children, I mysteriously have more energy than most.) They’re my friends, so I go. It’s just seeing those friends is less great than it once was, which is saddening.

darganon , 11 months ago

Is this a place to hate children, or talk about a child free lifestyle for yourself?

Talking about how the world expects you to have kids, and the pressure to have kids is a lot different than just talking about how annoying kids are to be around.

They’re your friends, go hang out, spoil the kids, teach them bad words and send them home with their parents, then chill in silence at home.

Lauchs OP , 11 months ago

Is this a place to hate children, or talk about a child free lifestyle for yourself?

I can’t find an outline of what the community is here. There’s not a laid out prescription of what this group is and isn’t. But the most popular post by a county mile is a similar sort of complain about how there’s no adult places anymore.

For me, the joke isn’t about hating kids, it’s the fact that as a childfree adult with many friends, life increasingly becomes about dealing with their kids at things. For the parents, they sort of get a break as the kids run around with each other. But the rest of us, trying to catch up with those friends whom we haven’t seen in ages have it all punctuated by loud screaming. I still go because yes, they are my friends. It’s just like many things, less great than it was.