I got a vasectomy five years ago, there was a small pain during the procedure which wasn’t too bad but one of my testes has a granuloma that can painful even after these years.
I only posted this to say that despite a literal pain in my ball, I also love sterility. Having a kid would be much more of a pain.
I’m not going to pretend to understand any discomfort or suffering you went through. You and I do not share the same “parts,” so I have no basis for comparison. I will say that I’m sorry you experienced what you did, and I hope that you are either fully recovered or on the road to recovery.
I just wanted to reply to your statement that “when it comes down to it, sterilization is a procedure of bodily autonomy.” When I was in early adulthood, I didn’t want children, but it’s not something I thought much about. As I got older, the fact that I could potentially reproduce started to feel increasingly wrong and disturbing; it wasn’t the way that my body was supposed to be. It’s why I’ve always loved the fact that people use the term “fixed” as a replacement for “sterilized.” When I finally got my vasectomy, it was a relief. I was “fixed,” “repaired,” “corrected,” whatever you choose to call it. There were some complications, arguably minor ones, but it did require going under the knife again. I was happy to do so.
While I have no idea if your feelings align with my own, you decided to take your life into your own hands and get sterilized. When it’s all said and done, the end result will be that your body is closer to the way you want it than before. There might be setbacks, but eventually the end result will be what you want it to be. Just wanted to pass along a bit of hope from a random internet stranger.
alot of airlines also make deportations, but probably in a less obvious way…anyway blame france that wants to bomb niger, and then the rest of european countries will have to bear the consequences, Italy in particular
thats the case with any public transport: farts are unpredictable and the whole group have to bear with the emissions of a single passenger. one could make use of a 3M hepa mask if questionable odors are very bothering…
Interesting.Their website is a standard flight booking affair, and they definitely sell tickets for children. They literally have a photo of a happy family on holiday as the first image you see.
Its a european company, i will look up the article link one moment . Plane has a separate part of the cabin where it house seperate 93 seats where only adults beyond 16 of age are allowed access to, for the extra premium of 40€ per seat.
I'd gladly pay that price to not have to listen to a baby crying for 10 hours from Amsterdam back home. That was probably one of the worst flights I've been on.
I know this is a few months old but I wanted to share some of my past because we have a lot in common. I was married to a man who, besides being cruel, told me he wanted kids two years in. I got married way too young…
I desperately tried to get sterilized but the military gyno told me (at 24) that I was too young to make that decision and that my husband might want kids, so she wouldn’t do it. There’s a lot more drama/PTSD involved in the middle, but eventually we had a messy divorce. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
I got sterilized, no longer have periods, have an incredible sex life, have more friends, sleep in whenever I want to, and can travel. If I change my mind, I’ll foster so I can change a life that already exists. I had endometrial ablation and a bisalp, meaning I still have my uterus and ovaries, so no babies, but also no risk of organ collapse and my ovaries still produce hormones. Life is so much better. I’m really proud of you for sticking up for yourself. You’ve got this! I’m here if you need a shoulder or to vent.
Thanks for sharing your story, sounds like you’ve been through a lot. I’m lucky in that he was never cruel to me and the divorce was as smooth as I think it could have been. I have a gyno appointment coming up soon so I’m hoping to talk about my options for sterilization then.
That’s awesome! Yeah! I highly recommend Bilateral Salpingectomy with Endometrial Ablation. No periods, no cramps, no mood swings, and no babies! Don’t just get your tubes tied, get the bisalp to remove your fallopian tubes, because tied tubes can reconnect. One out of every 200 women who get their tubes tied instead of removed, end up pregnant. That is not a small number.
Hobbies mainly, we joined a running club (in our 50s). We go running with other couples, some are child free. The child free tend to gravitate towards each other. Perhaps because we have more free time, and tend to accept invitations, and are able to host, as a result.
The friends we still see/talk to were about half formed before I left school and half newly found through a post looking to form a D&D group in the new city we moved to. We aren't in to the bar scene at all. Most of my coworkers have kids - the younger ones who don't have similar interests but I just don't seem to hang out with them. The ones with kids never have time for anything, only the most well-off ones with stay-at-home partners even have hobbies to speak of. It's depressing.
Best option seems to sniff out the spaces dedicated to your area online. Subreddits, Facebook groups, and then see if you can find local events happening that are related to your interests, or other people looking to meet up, hang out, play games you like, etc. I'm not religious but I know a lot of people swear by meeting friends through church or church-related groups.
This makes sense. If you want kids and have the means to support them, then it’s fairly easy to just have kids. While it’s a ton of work, the entire process is very rewarding if that’s your thing.
If you want kids but can’t afford them, that’s a drop in life satisfaction.
If you don’t want kids and have aspirations outside of raising a family, you’re fighting an uphill battle since so much of our society is designed around men. It’ll be much harder for you to attain something satisfactory.
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