Being rude to service staff. Immediate indicator on who they are as a person. There is zero reason to ever be mad at someone making near minimum wage whose job it is to grab you a drink or check you out or something. It also shows that they’ve themselves never worked service, which is a rite of passage
“Why should I tip?! I’m already paying for the service!”
Immediately leave without even telling them to take a cab.
Edit: 1, I am in the US, yes.
2: the wording sounded like it implied a behavior of a date while out dining. I was answering based on how I’d respond if a prospective mate treated underpaid US staff shitty.
Not necessarily. I’m not in the US, but we’ve imported a lot of their less savoury customs, and tipping culture is one of them. It is costumary to tip 18% where I’m from.
I’m German. Foreign accents (I.e. some foreigner speaking German) are either funny or cute to me. If I feel neither, that’s probably because I need to concentrate to understand. In German accents, a Bavarian accent, a Saxon or a Frisian one turn me off.
In (to me) foreign languages, I don’t care, meaning that I’m just as fine with „Oi com frum Birmingham“ as with a posh Oxford accent. Also the southern French accent is fine with me, as well as the northwestern one. I’m also fine with Breton, but that’s a language, not an accent. And I don’t understand the latter very well anyway, let alone speak fluently.
Someone that takes abstract statements personally and responds in anger. It shows a lack of self awareness and depth. It also implies that they have a limited binary view of the world around them; a bipolar me versus others perspective outlook.
It depends. I run a bar and also frequent bars. I see a lot of behavior from wait staff I’d fire them for. Wait staff endlessly bitch about customers but its a two way street, staff develops a blind spot to their own behavior due to spending so much time in a bar.
Bro they are working in a high intensity environment. You are there to have fun. They are talking behind your back. (So how does that affect you?) Versus actively being a jerk to someone just doing their job (which is, unfortunately, to engage with you). It’s not the same.
Are you really trying to explain running a bar to me? Anyways your answer is horseshit. I work in that high intensity environment and see the blinders go on. Innocuous requests by customers turn into staff acting like it’s a massive imposition. They openly talk to me because they’ve been at my bar, served by me, and I know who’s I’d hire and I wouldn’t from the free talk.
being mean to animals, not washing hands habitually, littering, leaving the shopping cart out, buzz cut / crew cut and variations thereof (for dudes, some chicks can rock it), having no weird behaviors at all. refusal to be emotionally honest (oh no, its me i’m sorry)
I’m gonna find out soon enough, and I’m worried. I already know I have a couple small bumps on my head (they feel like pimples/ingrown hairs, but I’ve tried squeezing them to no avail), and I’m almost positive my head is shaped differently than normal.
To me, it looks more like social camoflauge. “I’m just a normal guy, i have normal opinions, trust me bro” is the vibe I get. I get putting it on for things like work, but if you decide to blend in as your preferred look, ehh, i dunno, maybe I’d rather hang out with the bear, you know?
i’m probably in the minority w this, but blending in is comfortable as hell, as someone who doesn’t really enjoy being social.
Long after the pandemic was under control I was still using a mask, partly due to health concerns back home, but mostly because with a mask, cap, and glasses, I could walk by people I know but would rather not strike up conversation.
I would use the same definition as you, but that’s the only definition I can think of that would leave one thinking many people engage in animal cruelty. Unless your entire circle of friends is an illegal dogfighting ring.
right? i mean, i’m balding and i find the alternative of growing the little hair i have left far more unpleasant than just having a buzz cut. but hey, that’s just preferences.
A stick up the ass isn’t the exact same thing as low intelligence or whatever this turnoff is, but then again I’m not good at let-loose stupid fun, so maybe I’m biased.
Either way, more left for me, as they say, as long as everyone’s having a good consensual time.
Sure, but “dumb and childish” to me conveys “dumb as in goofy” rather than “dumb as in a bag of rocks,” and that is why I responded with disagreement related to such. The operative word here is really “childish,” tbh. They go on to say that they are not good at letting loose, but also clarify that they meant “low intelligence.” It is unclear if they perceive goofy fun as a sign of low intelligence in and of itself.
In any case, arguing the semantics of the phrase “dumb and childish” doesn’t meet my definition of fun lol. Like I said “different strokes,” people can like different things and I think that is wonderful tbh.
OP here again. I don’t. I just don’t get at least some forms of it. I have been known to do some good pranks, but most other things people classify as “letting loose” aren’t my jam. I’m more of a books and tea person.
Originally I was thinking of people I’ve known that literally made me feel like I was talking to a child. I don’t know what that is, exactly, but low intelligence is a decent guess. Oh well, I’ll try different wording if it ever comes up again.
Ok, I get that you don’t like stupid people, but you shouldn’t judge people solely on how they act. You can act like a child and be a intelligent and a competent person.
I have a sister who I’m close with, who has all kinds of dinosaur-themed stuff and loves it. That’s not the issue. It was a poor choice of wording I guess to describe it that way. I had an exchange recently where I literally felt like I was talking to a kid after a while, though, and all thoughts of romance were immediately dead, so that was my first thought.
The way people act is the interface with which you interact with them. It makes little difference if what lurks behind is an intelligent person or a child if they both behave the same.
It just seems very broad since people use it many ways “get woke” vs “the woke mob.” At least in the US it is used by people in both good and bad ways.
All of those uses are red flags, or at least would be over here.
The word “woke” is just a right-wing dog whistle, hence why it’s a red flag when somebody uses it except for the context of talking about these people.
Dogwhistle for “I hate people tackling social issues and think we should go back to women being controlled and abused, and men being miserable all day at work, while we completely disregard queer and children’s mental health”.
Or at least, it gets used that way by people who don’t use it as a reclamation term in a positive sense.
Historically it is a term used positively, for example in the expression ‘stay woke’ (1930s). So it is not really a reclamation, but rather a recent relegation by right wing people to a negative connotation. I have however heard some people legitimately use it in a positive manner, and some further reading on the Wikipedia page seems to support that even recently there are political leaders using it in a pro-racial equity sense.
I am aware of the positive origins of the word “Woke”. However, in colloquial usage, it is always used in a derogatory way. And it is usage that dictates the norm, whether we like it or not.